26 and single... no big deal!

[sandygloria]

I am…
September 25, 2012


Getting married is the status ladies want when they reach 20 something and above… it is dreaded when you are younger but hoped when things around you changed suddenly. When all the girls in your neighborhood were out in a date on weekends and special holidays, when all your girl friends stop texting you because they are busy snuggling with their man, when all your female relatives near your age are busy choosing white dresses for their wedding and you are their standing behind them wearing your ultimate bridesmaid gown, when you start to hear wedding bells every June and you are there in your bedroom wondering when would be your time… when your brothers and sisters were all cuddling cute little babies of their own while you are there caring for nothing but little kitty and doggie and your little garden… when you feel that nothing around you is fair, when you feel like crying even though you are absolutely “okay”. When you feel like every day is a gloomy day because you always woke up alone. When the time seems so slow and your world doesn’t know other color but “blue”…

Getting into something really serious like marriage is not a joke, it require courage and obedience to work things out. Cleaving doesn’t only happen physically, everything about you, present, past and the future is to be tested. Your life may turn upside down when you are emotionally, financially and spiritually unprepared. Sometimes, it asks for more than what you can offer, more than what you are… more than who you are. Marriage could be a happy thought, but its more than that, marriage, is not just a union of two lives to become one, marriage is a life to work for… marriage is getting yourself a hammer to drive out imperfection of both husband and wife, marriage is becoming someone you totally know, but never expected you will come out to be. Marriage is a sweet word that carries fear, doubt and tribulation… but when overcomes will blossom courage, happiness and completeness… that is why, despite the responsibilities and the things marriage asks, women still want to be in it, because, life could never be complete when you live all by yourself drifting along with time… I am.

Getting old alone is not a big deal to me; I even trained myself to be independent and to stay focused on what is the present than trying to kill myself by worrying about being spinster all my life. I don’t mind staying as I am, as long as I don’t hurt someone nor do someone bad. I just want to live harmonious and happy for the rest of my life. I am now 26 and turning 27 on the couple of months. People I love are so concerned about me. They are a bit worried that I haven’t had boyfriend and that it seems that I am totally okay with it. Well, I am… 5 days ago… that week when I haven’t felt so alone in my life. I am not in a hurry; I don’t want to ruin what are the things in store for me… I don’t want to make things hard for me, I don’t want to make my life complicated, I don’t want to make mistakes about choosing someone, I don’t want to make decision that will haunt me all my life… I am afraid, I don’t have the courage to admit it to myself that I am in need of “someone” who will care and love me as I am. Someone who will treasure me that I am… someone that will complete the missing piece of my puzzle. That someone sent from above to be my friend, my lover, my man… =)


I am not a lesbian or something like that; I do know how to love someone of my opposite sex. I do also dream of wearing my own wedding dress and to walk in the aisle while “my” man is there waiting for me to exchange vows with me and everyone we love celebrates with us. I do have my own dream wedding… I do have dream to raise a family of my own, but things where not easy as it is, I can’t have everything I want in a glimpse. There are consideration to think about and decisions to make. And waiting is the only way to make things easy. It some kind of dreadful but waiting keeps my heart safe. Waiting is the best way to grasp the future God has planned for me. It may hurt a while but, I know, it will worth it… as of now, I will just be content with what I have and be satisfied with what life has to offer for me. I could not say that I don’t worry about it, because the truth is, I am afraid myself to let time pass me by. But despite of my fear, I know, God is a God of promise… He will keep His word and is a God who makes a real romantic love stories.

I am single, and will remain as it is until time will allow me to be the other way around. I will not fret with what others had, and will just wait for my own perfect moment. I know it will take a little bit longer than what I have expected, it will be harder than what I thought it would be but I will stick to my journey, I will stick to the path set before me until “our” path will cross in a distance. I haven’t meet him yet, I might had but hasn’t recognized it, but I know no matter how things unfolds, everything will come into its perfect place in the right time, the right place, with the right person. Until then… I will wait and will wait a little more until both of us will have a chance to start a life as one. As who is he… that I don’t know… the only thing I know is; the moment our eyes will meet, we will both smile and will know deep in our hearts that we are meant for each other. That both of us belongs to one another… that God was thinking about us the moment He created us… that we are two individuals that ought to be one by the grace of God… that would be the mystery and the beauty of how God will work in our behalf.


Sandy =) :romantic:

 

[Brad Huber]

I didnt even kiss a girl (other than my mom or grandma) until I was 25. Of course a lot happened within a week after that, like a burst of emotional stuff. I didnt marry my soulmate until I was 45. So you arent alone in age versus possible romantic matchups.

 

[Cless]

I'm 28 and still single; I'll be 29 in just a few months. Most of the young women I meet (between 20 and 30) seem to only think about getting drunk and going to night clubs. It can be hard to socialize since I'm not into that stuff.

 

[sandygloria]

helu cless, it is good to know that i am not alone feeling left out by every man and woman my age. LOL! don't you worry if you find it hard to socialize with them its just a matter of getting used to it and finding something to spend your time with... i did it myself and it is effective...I AM NOT INTO THOSE STUFF EITHER.

 

[sandygloria]

WOW... thats heart warming.. true love really does exists.... i will wait for mine... LOL true love waits isn't it? =)

 

[justjoe]

Good stuff...I'm single and 27. Its really a gift. Or that's how I've learned to look at it...if u do get married your going to be married for a long time and you'll never be single again so why not use the time to work on yourself. The whole idea of testing the waters and seeing what's out there is a lie. It just leaves you with more baggage and ingratitude that you have to put on the next one. I wish I stayed single instead of settling for the girl that was most convenient everytime, even though it was wrong and came crashing down everytime. The time you have while your single is precious even though it doesn't seem like it.

 

[sandygloria]

i agree with you sir... TRUE LOVES waits right...
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[esthy09]

I know exactly how you feel, I just turned 28 this year and still single. I've kept myself all these years from sexual immorality(never had sex) and ive been praying and believing God for a godly man, but i dont attract the right people. I try to look at the positive and encourage myself every now and again that God is working in me and when he has finished his work, the right man will survive, but its not easy when you have that feeling of 'when is it going to be my time?'. I think christian single women need to all come together all over the world to seek the face of God concerning this issue and pray, because it is something which affects us in every continent.

 

[sandygloria]

you are right... i do have same question most of the time with regards to courting and dating... i even wonder why i haven't had any suitors... maybe, God wants me to be different and unique...heheheh

 

[anya]

My great uncle told me (he is 86 and been married 59 years) that it is better to be single and wish that you were married, than be married and wish that you were single. I think that I agree.
I guess that we women need to pray that God would be working in the men of our nations, and save ourselves, seeking to be like Jesus. There is alot, I think, that we can do in the meanwhile.

 

[sintheticg]

you are the female version of me 26, pets and a garden, i literally lol'd as i just planted a garden a few weeks ago, with my dog of course.

May God lead you in all things sister.

 

[Eric E Stahl]

My son is 43 and has a boy and a girl and a girl on the way. When he turned 1 year old I began praying for a christian wife for him. My wife and I prayed year after year after year. When our friends would ask us when he was going to get married we would tell them about praying for his wife. They said it looks like God isn't answering your prayer. I said God is answering our prayers, he didn't marry the wrong one. At 34 he met the girl we had been praying for and a year later they where married.

 

[christianjean]

I am 39 years old and I have anxiety disorder and agoraphobic... My case is much worst as I can't even go out for long distances because of agoraphobia. So see, sigh. I am, in fact hopeless finding the right one.

 

[steflou64]

Sandy Gloria-you are definitely not alone! I am a 50 year old never married virgin and wonder if I will ever be married! Thank God I don't want my own kids or I would be really upset! I am attractive-tall platinum blonde with a few pounds to lose but carry it well. I have tried internet dating with no luck. I have to watch my money but am on a free secular internet site (still no luck!). I am continuing to pray and work on myself. I am switching churches as the one I am a member is very small and it is where the guy I "dated" or had a 2 month relationship with is. They say doing volunteer or christian charity work is a good way to meet the opposite sex. The only last resort is to pray-also tell your friends you are looking for a mate. I get so depressed I cry sometimes. My finances are awful-am in bankruptcy now, have old car, etc. I know you should not marry for finances alone but it is cheaper for two to live than one. Best of luck in your search.

 

[Haylz06]

I am 39 years old and I have anxiety disorder and agoraphobic... My case is much worst as I can't even go out for long distances because of agoraphobia. So see, sigh. I am, in fact hopeless finding the right one.

Perfect love drives out fear