The Bible does not indicate that there is a specific age at which it suddenly becomes appropriate for us to marry. Just as everyone matures at a different rate, determining the best time for marriage will vary according to each individual.
Some important things to consider before marriage include whether one's education is complete and whether one has job skills or a career to support a family, and whether one is sufficiently mature to handle the responsibilities that come with marriage.
Factors including one's overall maturity, culture, education and employment must all be considered. Young people today are generally in their mid-20s before they are ready for marriage.
sunilgill: Now That I am must older and hopefully wiser, as I look back on my nearly 70 years of life, I have different views than I did in my twenties about marriage. So many things enter into what's the best time to get married, are you and the bride both christians is number one in my list. Unless your marriage is based on Jesus Christ, it's not much of a marriage as far as the LORD is concerned. I believe Christ is everything! On everything we build Jesus Christ must be the foundation or underpinnings, for anything of value be it marriage, education, family, your livelihood, just to name a few.
Surely the culture you live in has a huge impact not only when, but who you marry. In some countries the parents arrange marriages shortly after birth. There are so many other factors involved in getting married, like the parents of both parties, their family traditions, the unspoken expectations of each family of orgin and the churches the couple comes from. Then there are the unspoken presumptions each of the couple come into marriage with about each other. Take for instance she may think her husband will help with cooking and doing dishes and housework. He may think because he is the man he drives the car all the time when she is in the car. Thise are little things that make a huge difference.
Perhaps one universal problem that causes many divorces is.....finances. How one's family or orgin handled money is so very important. Many couples foolishly don't budget together and pool their money. What she makes is her's and what he makes is his. They each split the rent, and so on and so forth. Often he expects her to work, even if they have children, and she expects him to let her raise the children whild he supports the family.
These are just a few issues that can work against a lasting a marriage, and as I look back it is only by the LORD
S grace that our marraige has lasted 44 years.
Near where we live there are Amish who live a very dedicated lives to Jesus Christ and to their families and each other. They still use horse and buggies. some have no electricity, no TV or radio. They are quiet, and realy stick together and work to help their famlies and each other. Often young men and young women are married in their late teens. Divorce is seldom heard of, they stay close to famlies and inturn their parents help in getting work finding homes, even building a house for them. When any young couple gets married they must have the support of both sets of parents. This is sadly lacking in most americian young couples marraiage, abd failure is not uncommon.
I honestly believe the "ideal" marriage age is probably about 18, if everything is perfectly right. In our culture it's no longer a right age. Now most men and women are still living at home at 25. All to often parents do not incourage their adult children to become independant and on their own by 21 or 22 so they can become mature and have the ability to find a mare and support a wife.
Sad but true a new car, and lots of electronic toys while still at home is the norm for many aduly males in the United States. In our culture often men who reside at home often have casual sex with whomb ever is willing to sleep with them. Even sadder is the women who have joined in this distructivelifestyle. Thuss living together has become more common, couples who grow in love and get married, with both being virgin's is very seldom indeed. However the Bible tells that men and women are expected to be sexually innocent. Our world has indeed accepted the playboy lifestyle, and are suffering the effects for it.
Now in case someone who reads this and says I have messed my life so bad, now what. To christians who have messed up too, Jesus can change us, cleanse us, and forgive us, we can have a fresh clean start. My I encourage you to read John 3;16 and 1J ohn 1:9.
You who read this,now it's your turn, what do you think?
