Can't handle Rejection

[mariah_wmfc]

Here's my story: I only dated once and then I later realized that he's not the one for me. That was a long time though. I tried to stay away from guys and I tried to convince myself that there is no such thing as love between a man and a woman (which is what my mother also believes by the way) and that competibility is what counts. Then I get so much wait because of depression and I became sort of invisible when I was an undergraduate. I'm now a graduate student and in a much better shape of course but I'm sort of invisible wherever church I go to ... seems like I can't find where I truly belong. That's not the issue though... Anyway, I have this huge crush on this guy in church and he's a true gentleman! I just am not sure if he likes me as I like him or just considers me as a friend. I also know that I cannot go and tell him that I like him for two reasons: 1) I'm so afraid he would reject me and I just can't handle rejection. 2) Most guys in my country lose their respect for a woman if she goes and tells him that she likes him.
I've been praying a lot for this and I'm on my way to overcoming that feeling I have for him. Someone once told me that I'll meet the guy for me when I least expect, so I'm counting on that

 

[melisha]

I used to be the same way, girl! But you know what I told myself? You have to try, the worst he can do is say he's not interested and then you'd just be back to where you are now. What have you got to lose?? You may just be surprised

 

[davidengesser]

i was there.

Matthew 6:33 states,"But seek ye first the kingdom of God,and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." ...
i spent most of my life in failed relationship after failed relationship. i knew that God had somebody just for me. So i prayed day after day and night after night that God would bring us together. Honestly? i began to obsess about it. Then the Lord spoke to me. You see i was focusing on the wrong things. My priorities were not where they should have been.
i began to focus on God. i turned my eyes toward heaven instead of pacing them from left to right so i would not miss her. i focused on His will for me in my life. i prayed on this one last time thanking God for His goodness and trusting Him that in His perfect time He would bring me the perfect women. Four months later i met my wife and today we celebrated our 1 year anniversary.
Turn your eyes upon Jesus, exercise your faith, be still and know that He is God. You never know, he may be "the one"
"Grace and Peace be multiplied unto to you through the knowledge of God and of our Lord Jesus Christ." II Peter 1:2

 

[spirit1st]

Here is what i would do!

I would ask the Spirit of truth if this person is for me ! And if he is that the Holy Ghost cause him to tell me one way or the other !
The spirit of truth is our helper and waits 24/7 to help GODS Holy child!

Now if your not born of God ?then I cannot give you any advice, except to accept JESUS CHRIST as your LORD !


Of course we will or might have to wait a short time for this answer from the person to come about?
Hard to say about that?

God does things when its best, not when we feel He should !

We sometimes do not like waiting. The wise person will WAIT on the LORD!

I have lost a lot by not waiting

 

[mariah_wmfc]

You guys are absolutely right. I'm sure it's all worth the wait, and in the end, I believe that whatever God wills for me is for the greater good. I'm a firm believer in the greater good. These days I pray, "God, help me see things as You see them. Help me see beyond what we see with our naked eyes and understand beyond the obvious!" I try to think less of myself these days and more of others... I try to dedicate my heart entirely to Jesus so that I wouldn't feel any emptiness or need for anyone! It's kind of working these days.

 

[Amol_desai]

Matthew 6:33 states,"But seek ye first the kingdom of God,and His righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you." ...
i spent most of my life in failed relationship after failed relationship. i knew that God had somebody just for me. So i prayed day after day and night after night that God would bring us together. Honestly? i began to obsess about it. Then the Lord spoke to me. You see i was focusing on the wrong things. My priorities were not where they should have been.
i began to focus on God. i turned my eyes toward heaven instead of pacing them from left to right so i would not miss her. i focused on His will for me in my life. i prayed on this one last time thanking God for His goodness and trusting Him that in His perfect time He would bring me the perfect women. Four months later i met my wife and today we celebrated our 1 year.
Turn your eyes upon Jesus, exercise your faith, be still and know that He is God. You never know, he may be "the one"
"Grace and Peace be multiplied unto to you through the knowledge of God and of our Lord Jesus Christ." II Peter 1:2

Congrats, for your anniversary. your story was realy inspring........... we need to learn that we should have our faith in almighty and wait upon him....