Christian Domestic Disipline

[saved_ricky]

Hi, I'm a 25 year old guy who is engaged to a wonderful woman, however I have problems with assertiveness or my lack there off, however my intended believes (as I do) that the husband should be the head of the wife and has suggested after we are married we try Christian Domestic Discipline, however this poses a lot of questions for me which I have discussed with her. CDD included punishment for disobedience ect. such as spanking along with other punishments. I feel that violence against a woman is wrong, I also feel that spanking is treating her like a kid and there is a humiliation factor involved. She has joined a forum about the subject which has several biblical refrances, she also knew a couple that practised this and it seemed to work, she also said that being spanked as a kid and that it worked. christiandomesticdiscipline dot com is the web site she's been looking at.

I would like your thoughts on the matter .

 

[Boanerges]

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;


We are to love our wives as Christ loves us- sacrificially and without reservation. The Word of God never tells us to spank our wives but to love them by laying down our own life for them in every possible way. Something is really wrong with that course you took because it in no way reflects the heart of Jesus.

 

[supermedic]

I think it can be a very effective means, and if it is between two CONSENTING ADULTS........ What is the harm??

 

[saved_ricky]

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;


We are to love our wives as Christ loves us- sacrificially and without reservation. The Word of God never tells us to spank our wives but to love them by laying down our own life for them in every possible way. Something is really wrong with that course you took because it in no way reflects the heart of Jesus.

I never took the course, I don't think it is a course as such. I have reservations about it that's why I posted.

 

[kyval82]

The only thing that I have read in the bible about spanking is with your children, spare the rod spoil the child, but how couls spanking your wife be a punishment? I hardly think it would resolve anything, and I think it could do much more harm than good. Your wife is a part of you, you become one, she isn't suppose to be punished for mistakes, you are suppose to work things out, talk, communicate.
I agree that the man should be the head of the household, and that in the end the household duties should be left to his say, however, that is where the submission should stop. The relationship is based upon love, you are to love her, not to punish her when she does something you do not approve of.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

The relationship is based upon love, you are to love her, not to punish her when she does something you do not approve of.

My mother was a wonderful, loving woman. When my dad passed away they had been married 54 years. Mom was of German ancestry, however, which means she had a temper. If my dad had ever tried to spank her, his funeral may have occurred a lot sooner than it did. No way would she have put up with that sort of behavior.

SLE

 

[Dreamer]

That's wrong..spanking a wife. It's why I no longer watch "I Love Lucy" re-runs.

I had a couples Sunday School teacher once say, "Did you know as husbands we are to train our wives?" He went on to start relaying how husbands should train their wives.

I spoke up and reminded him that husbands are commanded to love their wives, and that the bible speaks of training up your children in the way they should go, not training our spouses, whether it be husband or wife.

Spanking a spouse could lead to abuse. It could get out of hand.

I hope and pray that your fiance sees that these teachings she is pursuing will lead to problems. Submission does not equal humiliation.