Does Internet dating really work?

[shingie]

Are there any couples on TJ who met through this Forum and got married.I really love to hear your testmony. I can`t wait to hear from you.

I think Iam not the only one here who has a question like this. "Does Internet dating really work?"And how do you deal with the geographical location?

Stay blessed all

 

[Giggles4God]

My husband and I met online, but not here at TalkJesus. It was in another chat room.

 

[shingie]

that is so amazing.Was it in a Christian forum where you met and how long did it take you to realise that he was the man you were waiting and praying for.

 

[DancingFeather]

Internet Dating Does It Really work?

:rose-animated: With the internet, reaching people is way beyond anyone expected. People have all one common factor..wanting to find love. When I started 15 yrs ago to be online, I fell in love but the geographics prevented us to meet as it takes alot of finances when the person lives across the world.
I tried meeting a couple of people in my area but I don't like it. I prefer meeting someone through friends or by chance.

Since I am abstinent, it sure eliminates the ones looking just for non-serious relationship. It is truly a protection when you say, no sex before marriage. Since it isn't a normal thing to do anymore, it surprises, it pleases at first..but once they see I'm serious, they disappear.

:angel-animated: So following God's way is a true protection from Satan's disciples.

:couplefly:On the positive side, Internet Dating is fabulous for getting to know the person much more than if you were dating in person. Why? Because we are less shy to talk about things than face to face. Also, when you are dating in person, you are mostly too busy doing other things and we talk less about ourselves. It doesn't take long to find out if the person is really for you or not. It doesn't take long for the *true* personality of the person to show up. It is also easier to find out if that person is faithful to you or not.

Every man I met who said they were in love etc etc..I had him checked out by my girlfriend who..*accidently * fell on him and sure enough the guy was not faithful. The internet has many advantages that you don't get dating in person.

The only disadvantage I find is the distance, especially if the person lives across the world.

Be careful, test the person, woman or man because there are alot of people out there only after your money. Don't let your lonliness or wanting so bad to be in love *blind* you as being deceived on the internet hurts just as bad as in person.

Another thing I love about the internet, you can get rid of people by blocking them so not to be hounded or stalked.

Never give your home phone, cell is untraceable.
Never give your home address, get a P.O. Box.
Never send money to anyone.
Never give any personal information.
Think with your logic instead of your heart.

Some pretend to be Christians, Satan is a angel of light who is blinding the world to the Truth, so are humans who follow him can blind you by pretending to be a true Christian.

Once I have someone interested, the first thing I do is pray to God and ask Him.."Is he the one I have been praying for? If he isn't get then let him be on his way." It works all the time.

Many have met and have married, are happy. But many have met and had bad experiences.

So the first thing is to pray to God when you meet someone, think with your head before your heart as our hearts don't know any better, check the person out to see if he or she is what they say they are before investing your time and your heart.

 

[shingie]

That`s a powerful post really. Yes, it`s something that I actually have been thinking about, considering all the internet scams going on and people who pretend to be who they are not.
One thing that I believe is, in as much as there are those who pretends to be the angels of light while they are wolves in sheep`s skin, God can let you meet your partner through a Christian Forum but you will have to follow the guidance of the Holy Spirit not what the fleshly desires tells you.
It seems a bit hard but all things are possible with God to those who believe. Some people have been victims of the online scam dating agents because in most times people leave God aside when choosing a partner ,and most of the owners of these dating sites are not even Christians, which does not make sense for a Christian to be involved with them. If you let God lead you , he will never fail you. His word say in Psalms32:8, I will instruct you and teach you in the way that you should go . And I will guide you with my eye.. Isn`t it the best thing to always walk in spirit and make choices in spirit, Never end up walking in flesh because this will hurt you.
Remember the Kingdom of God is of patience. Be faithful, pray and watch. Keep your spiritual eyes open because in due season God will reward you.

The internet has globally connected us and it is also a tool that God can use to unite two people to be one, to globally spread the word and have an impact in their sphere of contact.
I always get excited in my spirit when I study in the book of Genesis how Isaac married Rebecca She did not even know him neither Isaac did, but because everything was pre-ordained .It worked together for good for them. When his servant met her at the well he never doubted because he knew that was exactly what he had been praying for before she appeared in the picture. Gen24.
And the word of God says
Luke11: 9And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you. 10For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened. 11If a son shall ask bread of any of you that is a father, will he give him a stone? or if he ask a fish, will he for a fish give him a serpent? 12Or if he shall ask an egg, will he offer him a scorpion? 13If ye then, being evil, know how to give good gifts unto your children: how much more shall your heavenly Father give the Holy Spirit to them that ask him?
When Rebecca also heard the message from Isaac`s servant, Iam sure she knew in her spirit that was divine appointment. And she didn`t have to think twice about that.
When God decide to let you meet your future husband/wife, he will also give you the spirit of understanding and revelation knowledge beyond your human understanding.
If you walk by faith and trust him, definitely God would want that to be a testimony that will answer questions that other Christians have about this .He wants your marriage to be a reflection of Christ and the church. A blessed marriage, not only to you but to everybody around you.
My brothers and sisters keep yourself Holy and blameless and don`t grieve the Holy spirit in you

 

[DancingFeather]

Thank you for your response

:sure: I appreciate your comment on my post. I'm happy to see that I got such a positive reply. It is so true, when you trust God to give you the one that is intended for you, you can't go wrong as we are humans, we cannot see as God can see in a person's heart. Only God can read in a heart.

So far, none whom I have met *is* the one God intended for me. I'm still waiting since many years.

Being abstinent also is a huge protection. 3 weeks ago coming out of a café, I saw a very handsome man, standing in front of the café window reading the menu. Being a very sociable person and knowing that the café just started and isn't making much money yet, I said to the man that it was a great place to eat if he was hungry.

He smiled and thanked me saying he was new in town, on a new job and was looking for an apartement. I told him that where I lived there was one that was available and if he was interested I could bring him to visit. Which I did. Then we went to the my friends Bistro ( not the café we met) we talked about his life, he was a widow, his wife died of cancer last year, after the coffee we went to where his truck was parked with his rv hitched on it as he is living in there until he finds an appartement.

Outside was really beautiful..new truck, great rv..but when I entered..it was a mess! He invited me to supper and asked if I minded that we would cook the corn at my place, I said yes of course as the place was not big and cluttered.

We had supper, watched t.v. and talked. He told me that he wanted someone in his life and that I was truly a woman that suited him. I said he suited me also but there was something he needed to know.

I dropped the bomb! I told him I was a true Christian, that I was abstinent and I would only date him if he was looking for a serious relationship that would lead to marriage and there would be no sex either before a ring was on my finger.

Of course I had prayed before hand to God that if he was the one that he accept and if he wasn't that he didn't accept and I would know he wasn't sent to me by God.

He was surprised that I was abstinent, he said sure he would wait for sex ..at least 3 days! But when I said that there would be no sex period, unless I was married. That I wasn't looking for an adventure and that I didn't fornicate.

Well, he said he wasn't interested in marriage and not marrying me. I said that of course he doesn' t know me and I him and he would have to be a church goer.

Well, that was it! Like Michael Jackson's last words. This is it!

He left and was very disappointed. Not me, I thanked God for protecting me ..once again and I also smiled thinking he was going to bed disappointed and me I slept like a baby.

Not easy not satisfying one's needs and sex is one of the most beautiful thing God gave to us, but it can also be a bad thing and end up with diseases and even death.

I did see him again as he cae to re-visit the apartement, we had coffee together and he said I was truly a wonderful woman and he wished I would reconsider going out with him. I said " Sorry, I already have a true love and I can't be unfaithful to him." He said, " Oh, I thought you said you were single and abstinent." I said, " I am, my true love is God, He comes first, man after."

He left saying that he was happy to have me at least as a friend and asked if I would accompany him to supper in a restaurant next week. I said sure, knowing he wouldn't call.

He hasn't..

:sure:And am fine with that..Thank God!

:magnify: like his shiny new truck and rv..all was shiny on the outside but like the inside of his rv... messy.

 

[Giggles4God]

Actually, my husband and I called our relationship before marriage courting.

My husband was in KY and I was in PA at the time. I was still in college. My mom had said my brother and I had to wait until we were finished college to get married. I did wait, but my brother didn't wait until his wife was finished...oh well.

Our courtship is pretty long...lol it was over a 2 year period. I can still remember praying and talking with Ben (my husband). We prayed that if we were each others one and only that God would make a way.

I had had one bad internet relationship that I won't go into. It is gone now. Ben had bad relationships, too. (Ben had been married before! :-S She was unfaithful!)

to know who God wants for you is amazing. I mean I didn't really do anything but show up in the Christian chat room for the PlusOne group and talk. Ben happened to be there too (a younger girl kinda told him to get in there! lol). We talked...laughed. We had a good amount of things in common.

The rest is pretty much history!

 

[SmileBig]

encouragement

I met my fiancee on a Christian website too (not here). The thing is that it was a casual meeting at first and we both happened to be on the chat site at the same time but with God nothing is casual or by chance.

Yes internet dating can work but I know from personal experience that there are traps and pitfalls and God expects us to be careful and shrewd. The key I would say is to stick to your values and not be tempted into compromise as the person God has made for you is waiting...I know that for truth and got engaged in July his year....Finally, from my experience you can only know for sure that it can go further when you meet face to face.

The thing is it may not be the first person you meet online who you commit to long term. I chatted to someone on this website and we made plans but circumstances happened.

Seek first God's Kingdom and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you (Matt 6 v 33). I am testimony that it can work and met my current fiancee when I was 37 so be encouraged if you have been waiting a long time and disappointed because God hasn't forgotten

 

[DancingFeather]

Good answer Smilebig

:groupwave: true what you say..one must trust God as our feelings can trick us and we know that the heart is a traitor..:heartbroken: and can cause us heart aches.

 

[DancingFeather]

Excellent to trust God

Actually, my husband and I called our relationship before marriage courting.

My husband was in KY and I was in PA at the time. I was still in college. My mom had said my brother and I had to wait until we were finished college to get married. I did wait, but my brother didn't wait until his wife was finished...oh well.

Our courtship is pretty long...lol it was over a 2 year period. I can still remember praying and talking with Ben (my husband). We prayed that if we were each others one and only that God would make a way.

I had had one bad internet relationship that I won't go into. It is gone now. Ben had bad relationships, too. (Ben had been married before! :-S She was unfaithful!)

to know who God wants for you is amazing. I mean I didn't really do anything but show up in the Christian chat room for the PlusOne group and talk. Ben happened to be there too (a younger girl kinda told him to get in there! lol). We talked...laughed. We had a good amount of things in common.

The rest is pretty much history!

:shade: The main thing is to trust God and the best happens..we can't trust ourselves as we cannot see in the heart of the other.

 

[shingie]

wow
.... “we both happened to be on the chat site at the same time but with God nothing is casual or by chance”. That is very true, because everything that happens with God has been preordained and it happens at the time he chooses. There is nothing like lucky or coincidence in the Kingdom of God. That time you met in the chat room at the same time, happened at the time that God had chosen. ...His gracious Spirit lead us in a firm footing(Psalms143)
It is the best thing to listen to the voice of God, and be obedient to his instructions. His word says
... understand what the Lord wants you to do(Eph5:7)
That is really a big testimony Smilebig.
I love it when you said there are also traps and pitfalls, that`s also very true. You go through those tests, considering that not all who come to chat with us in the Christian Chat are true children of God. Remember the thief comes only to steal and destroy. Yes through those test, you come out a victor with a testimony of victory of the hand of the ;Lord upon you.
He`s a faithful God who always wants the best for his children. Yes when you meet him/her you will know it because everything is spirit led. Remember Christ dwelling in us is the hope of glory and greater is he who is inside us than he who is in the world

 

[shingie]

I appreciate you contributions may God keep richly blessing you in the mighty name of Jesus

 

[shingie]

Trusting God

We need to trust God not on our feelings and emotions when it comes to choices.Man is a spirit being and ought to rely on the voice of the spirit. We need to educate and develop our spirit, because that`s how we can get to understand and hear the Holy Spirit when talking to us.T

When you let the Holy Spirit guides you and be obedient to God`s voice definitely you will not struggle to figure out If the person that you have just met is the one God has send for you because when you see him/her or talk, you will know that your prayer has been answered not by mighty neither by power but by the spirit.

 

[DancingFeather]

So true

We need to trust God not on our feelings and emotions when it comes to choices.Man is a spirit being and ought to rely on the voice of the spirit. We need to educate and develop our spirit, because that`s how we can get to understand and hear the Holy Spirit when talking to us.T

When you let the Holy Spirit guides you and be obedient to God`s voice definitely you will not struggle to figure out If the person that you have just met is the one God has send for you because when you see him/her or talk, you will know that your prayer has been answered not by mighty neither by power but by the spirit.

:love-animated::cupidfly:SO TRUE...our emotions can mislead us and it is written that our heart is a traitor. It can lead us into doing things we regret later. When we let our emotions take over our heart and mind, we will falter for sure.

It isn't easy! Trust me I know! That is why I stay away from any contacts with men in the world other than for business as a it has happened to me to have a COUP DE FOUDRE and couldn't control my feelings and regretted it after. Not easy to control as when that kind of feeling hits you it is like a bolt :lightningof ligtning..and you get burned.