Does "love at first sight" really happen

[sunilgill_87]

Many people today believe that love is something that simply happens and that one has no control over this emotion. Those who accept this perspective believe "love at first sight" is proof of their understanding.

The Bible, however, gives a different description of love. In passages such as 1 Corinthians 13, we find that love is a choice and a commitment. Godly love grows and endures through adversity. Godly love focuses on what is good for the other person as opposed to just one's self. Godly love develops over time.

In light of the Bible's teaching, we have to conclude that "love at first sight" is more often attraction (and sometimes lust) with a focus on oneself as opposed to godly love.

Today, if a guy and girl meet and are attracted to each other, that meeting is simply the starting point for developing a relationship that may lead to an enduring, biblical type of love.

 

[peeps]

Today, if a guy and girl meet and are attracted to each other, that meeting is simply the starting point for developing a relationship that may lead to an enduring, biblical type of love.

your right . . .thats how my hubby and I started . . .I fell in love first time I saw him . . .few weeks later we promised each other to get married "some day", four month later we married in the courthouse and later 3 month later in church with the family cause its pretty and tradition . .

We said "YES" with the help of God . . .but we didnt believe in God at that point . . .

Later on God led our marrige down the path to get to know Him personally . . .after accepting Jesus in our lives, we had to bring our marrige to God one more time to get blessed and pray for His guidance from that moment forth. . .

Today we are married over 16 years . . .

We are thankful to have and to hold till death seperates us . . .physically . . .not spiritually . . .

God is good. . .ALL the time!

Amen

 

[Daizy]

Godly love focuses on what is good for the other person as opposed to just one's self. Godly love develops over time.

I love this thread..and what you wrote!!God has his own timing for everything...

 

[sunilgill_87]

QUOTE=peeps;121932]We are thankful to have and to hold till death seperates us . . .physically . . .not spiritually . . .

God is good. . .ALL the time!

Amen [/QUOTE]

realy peeps this is very good thing of you.nice to hear may God bless you and your hubby and make your love more stronger

 

[sunilgill_87]

Love is patient,Love is kind.It does not envy,it does not boast,it is not proud. -1 Cor.13:4

And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.1 Corinthians 13:13

 

[sunilgill_87]

The gift of God


The gift of love
is not unique--

It's giving bread to the hungry
It's giving comfort to the sick
It's giving presence to the prisoned
It's giving clothes to the naked

abundance of love--
The gift of God

 

[sunilgill_87]

Love


The light of compassion...
It reaches out
It considers others
It engages "passion"...

The renewal of life...
It touches the heart
It opens the mind
It provokes "belief"...

The promoter of peace...
It strengthens ties
It diverts anger
It argues "cease"...

The mover of things...
It delivers justice
It dances for joy
It gloriously "sings"...

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

"love at first sight" is more often attraction

hehe.. love at first sight? I'm a victim!!! hehehehe... I saw him very neat and simple.. :shade:

That was when am still an unbeliever though.. hehe:shade:


God bless you Sun...


May the Lord really bless us with His Love..

"But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us." Romans 5:8


Praise the Lord!!!

 

[Daizy]

And now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.1 Corinthians 13:13

Amen and God Bless

 

[sunilgill_87]

thanks for replies. rey and daizy do you think ." i fall in love". is right statement .

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

thanks for replies. rey and daizy do you think . i fall in love . is right statement .

"in love? or fall in love?"

there's a thread started by rizen1 sun regarding it.. hehe :shade:
It's also in this section..

 

[bruren777]

Love!

I have not found any Scripture which speaks to "Love At First Sight", usually when the Bible is silent, that means God leaves it to the Christian to decide.

It's possible, that there can be love at first sight. However, love must mature to be strong! Strong love will sustain through life's bumpy roads!

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

I have not found any Scripture which speaks to "Love At First Sight",

Can we talk about Isaac and Rebekah.? But oh no.. I'm not sure about it.. hehe :shade:..
Perhaps somebody here is more knowledgeable about them.:shade:

I just heard/read? a story about them though.. cannot remember when and where..

 

[sunilgill_87]

One Bible chapter—1 Corinthians 13—is aptly known as the love chapter since it gives us a beautiful description of what godly love is like!

The rest of this letter from the apostle Paul shows that some Corinthian church members sought certain spiritual gifts with a wrong motive—to gain superior status. In 1 Corinthians 12:31 (NIV), Paul said, "And now I will show you the most excellent way"—the right motive and approach for exercising all spiritual gifts—the way of love.

In 1 Corinthians 13:1-3, Paul mentions several impressive gifts. No matter which gift we have, if we are lacking love, then in God's sight we are nothing! Without love, the gift is tarnished, the results are ineffectual and God is displeased. Verse 3 shows that even self-sacrificing, charitable works can be done with motives other than true love.

Verses 4 through 7 tell us some of the characteristics of true love: Love is not selfish or self-centered. It is kind, humble, forgiving, courteous, not easily angered, respectful, trusting, positive and hopeful. It also gives us spiritual resilience and patience so that it willingly "endures all things" to obey and serve God.

Envy and competition create division, as was the case in the Corinthian church. Love is the great unifier.

Verse 11 points out that emotional and spiritual maturity is best summed up by love.

We may tend to rank faith and hope alongside love, "but the greatest of these is love" (verse 13).

As the New Living Translation says in 1 Corinthians 14:1, "Let love be your highest goal"!

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Love at First Sight

I think the kind of love that produces solid marriages begins with a strong attraction (what some call "Love at First Sight). But, through a maturing process, it develops into a decision with a powerful emotional component. What Paul describes in 1 Cor 13 is true love as it plays out in human relationships; when love, the emotion, evolves into love, the way of life. He's writing about human love in general terms, not just in the context of romance and marriage.

SLE

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

I think the kind of love that produces solid marriages begins with a strong attraction (what some call "Love at First Sight). But, through a maturing process, it develops into a decision with a powerful emotional component. What Paul describes in 1 Cor 13 is true love as it plays out in human relationships; when love, the emotion, evolves into love, the way of llife. He's writing about human love in general terms, not just in the context of romance and marriage.

SLE

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[sunilgill_87]

The Different Kinds of Love Mentioned in the Bible
The Greek language in which the New Testament was written uses several words translated "love." The first two listed below are found in the New Testament. Understanding their meanings helps us better comprehend God's expectations of us.

Agapao (verb) is a special word representing the divine love of God toward His Son, human beings in general and believers. It is also used to depict the outwardly focused love God expects believers to have for one another. Agapao (including its noun form, agape) is "the characteristic word of Christianity, and since the Spirit of revelation has used it to express ideas previously unknown, inquiry into its use, whether in Greek literature or in the Septuagint, throws but little light upon its distinctive meaning in the N[ew] T[estament] . . ."

This special type of Christian love, "whether exercised toward the brethren, or toward men generally, is not an impulse from the feelings, it does not always run with the natural inclinations, nor does it spend itself only upon those for whom some affinity is discovered" (Vine's Complete Expository Dictionary of Old and New Testament Words, "Love").

Reflecting the fact that human marriage is modeled after the divine relationship between Christ and the Church, husbands are told to love their wives with this kind of outgoing, selfless love (Ephesians 5:25, 31-32).

This kind of love is perhaps best expressed in Jesus Christ's statement in John 15:13, "Greater love [agape] has no one than this, than to lay down one's life for his friends." Jesus Himself perfectly exemplified this kind of love throughout His lifetime, continually giving of Himself and His time and energies to serve others and ultimately offering up His life as a sacrifice for all of humanity. This is the kind of love God wants each of us to exemplify in our lives and particularly in our marriages.

Phileo (verb) means "'to have ardent affection and feeling'—a type of impulsive love" (Nelson's New Illustrated Bible Dictionary, 1995, "Love"). This is the natural, human type of love and affection that we have for a friend and is often defined as "brotherly love."

In John 21:15-16, Jesus asked Peter if he loved Him with the agapao type of love and Peter responded that he had the normal human phileo type of love for Him. Later, after receiving the Holy Spirit, Peter would be able to genuinely demonstrate agapao-type godly love, serving others throughout his lifetime and making the ultimate sacrifice in martyrdom.

Eros (noun) refers to sexual, erotic love or desire.

True love, as explained in the Bible, isn't focused on oneself and one's feelings or emotions, but is instead outwardly focused on others—wanting to best serve and care for them. True love is beautifully described in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8: "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails" (NIV).

 

[loveyoubones]

Well I do not think anyone really falls in love at first sight. Being attracted to one another is a very important part of relationships. If you fall in love you fall in love. I am not sure how one could make up guidelines of how it is going to happen or when. If you feel love, thank God and roll with it. If it is not right for you than trust God to let you know. When someone mentions Love at first sight that is normally a term they use after they have been in a relationship with someone for a while. When they are telling the story how they met they say, it was love at first sight. Just because they feel that way dose not mean their love is false. Sometimes when people meet there is a strong chemistry between them it is not just attraction.

 

[jadore]

I believe Love at first sight .The Bible talked about the love story Between Rachel and Jacob. He love her at first sight.