Emotional Support...

[Knight1]

I could really use some emotional support concerning my ex-husband.
I have been praying for his salvation for 20 years. He is rude, abusive to me and my children, hateful, an abusive alcoholic and the list goes on.
I have been praying for years that the Lord would remove his influence and abusive behavior from me and my children. Year after year it only gets worse and worse. He is taking my son this weekend to some drunk fest in Austin and there in nothing I can do about it. I keep praying for the safety of my son but he continues to get behind the wheel drunk and it is the mercy of God that keeps my son alive until the next weekend that he has him.
I am weary of his hateful and abusive ways. My sister is in the hospital fighting for her life and he does not care one bit. He just told me to have Joshua at our meeting place at the required time. My spirit is screaming out to the Lord!! How long Lord, how long???
I am at my wits end with this unsaved, abusive, hateful man. Every two weeks I have to give my son a pep talk just to get him prepared to go to his dads, and then I spend the rest of the time giving one to myself.
I know that God is soverign, however I wonder at times, why God does not remove him. He removed David's enemies, why not mine??? This man plays russian roulett with my son every two weeks!!! Everthing our family stands for he is against!! He hates the things of God. He hates me and my children and I suffer with what seems like never ending deeds of evil.
I'm tired, angry and holding on by a thread where he is concerned.
Jesus help me to not only pray for him, but to, for mercy's sake, see an end to a relationship that can only lead to destruction, despare and maybe even death because when he drinks, no one is safe!!! God help me and my children, it has been 20 years. I'm loosing my grip!!
Knight1

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Knight 1,

I know what it is like to wait on the Lord for years. I have been praying for healing for my son for ten years. I'm seeing some results, but things are going slowly. I've got other issues I've been praying about for years and I'm still waiting.

I know, however, that God is the Ultimate Wisdom and that He answers prayers according to His wisdom and that whatever the answer is, it is the best possible answer.

Faith does not attempt to impose time restraints on God. I have no authority whatsoever to place expectations on Him, and if I'm allowing impatience and frustration to mar my prayers about the situation, its a sign that I am trying to force my will upon Him.

I depend a lot on The Serenity Prayer:

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

And on these words from Isaiah:

"Why do you say, O Jacob, and complain, O Israel, 'My way is hidden from the Lord, my cause is disregarded by my God'? Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He will not grow tired or weary, and His undersanding no one can fathom. He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; But those who wait on the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; They will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint," (Is 40:27-31)

As far as your ex's drinking and driving while your son is with him, why don't you give the license number and a description of his car to the police department where he lives and ask them to watch for him and check him out?Ask them not to tell who tipped them off. Its hard to drive drunk when you're in jail or when your license has been suspended.


SLE

 

[Fellowservant]

Love is a powerfull thing...so is prayer, we are not told to ask God to take out our enemies... we are told to love them and pray for them:star: Sometimes we need to change our hearts no matter how long we are under stress. Pray for more love and patients and see.. not just try, do what Christ said then you will see. But i understand the mind of people, we are human but the human must leave and Christ must come... in order for us to have some peace. Will be praying for you all.

God bless

 

[Fellowservant]

I was saved in a town of about 1400 people who were not Christians, i was in the first love state that Christ gives us, and doing the first works of his spirit. I was mocked rediculed and hated by most, they would wait for me and look to mock me and Christ... and some just got plain evil. A small group of former drinking friends, or i thought they were my friends, actually wanted to even poison me...but i showed them the love of Christ, without question.

Not long after the whole town was talking and couldn't believe i was real, and a spirit of peace filled my heart, and most of this town. They could see the tranformation in me... by Christ. As a result i believe God let them become more interested in Christ also. Some would even smile and brag about my transformation. When we show the love of Christ in us.. as it should be shown, God changes things around us, even our enemies will be at peace with us.

And yes, now i fail more, but i remain in prayer and that is key for a saint. When we fall short of his love and patients, prayer can bring it back.. pray for it and use faithful prayer, the fervent prayer of a righteous man/woman brings great rewards.



I love you Sister: and will put you on my prayer list, and the rest of your family as well....

Love is a powerful thing in Christ...

God bless

 

[andrewnicholas]

God be with you sister - we will join in your prayer that this wayward soul will see the light and your son will be strong enough to keep the values you have instilled in him.Its a dreadful situation but keep your trust in Jesus.He will never let you down.

Nicholas.

 

[Knight1]

I did not ask God to "Take Him Out"!!! I asked God to remove his violent influences from the life of my child!
There is nothing wrong with my heart! Perhaps you did not read what I wrote well enough,
If you recall, I said, "Jesus help me not only to pray for him
but for mercies sake see and end to this relationship that is destructive!!!!! I have been the only one praying for this mans salvation for over 20 years!! But that does not mean I have to sit by and let him beat my child and drive drunk with him and not take steps in prayer to protect my child.
With all due respect, I did not need undo critisism, because it seems you did not read all of my message the way I had written it, but I asked God to remove him and his influences so they do not kill my child. Only God knows how he wants to do that, I did not ask him to kill him!!
We have the right as believers to pray for our enemies but we also have the right to ask to be delivered from deadly influences that could cause harm to our family.
I needed prayer not critism. I expected to hear something like, the Lord is a firewall of protection for his people, and that he will protect his little one's, not what I have received in my responses.
Knight1

 

[Chad]

Calm down sister. I will explain to you why you may have received criticism. Please read carefully the simple reasons below on my mind

1. People (as you mentioned) scan/skip or do not fully read a post before they reply. Its sad and ignorant, but sometimes people do this. Don't let flesh (others) ruin your day. Instead let the Son be your sun

2. To quote what you said that may have caused misunderstanding (even though your last line requesting Jesus to help you pray...)

He removed David's enemies, why not mine???

David's enemies were killed (mostly) if I'm not mistaken. This is what may have caused a little misunderstanding. You naturally had a tone of frustration and anger, hurt which no one can argue you because of your position. This is understandble, but mix the two and you'll see the reason why the misunderstanding is there.

Hope that clears it up. God bless you.

Your in my prayers

 

[stephen]

Knight1....Dear Sister, I pray for you now, I lift you up before the LOrd, I ask Jesus to move in and give you peace. You say that it has been a long time.......Jesus knows all about it. Continue to look to Him.......rest in the Lord......there are times when this is all we can do......this is such a time for you....just commit the whole thing to the Lord.....as you have been doing.


Don't give up hope.....God has a 1000 ways to answer every prayer.

Praying for you as I write.......

His Love and Peace be Yours

 

[SpiritLedEd]

I did not ask God to "Take Him Out"!!! I asked God to remove his violent influences from the life of my child!
There is nothing wrong with my heart! Perhaps you did not read what I wrote well enough,
If you recall, I said, "Jesus help me not only to pray for him
but for mercies sake see and end to this relationship that is destructive!!!!! I have been the only one praying for this mans salvation for over 20 years!! But that does not mean I have to sit by and let him beat my child and drive drunk with him and not take steps in prayer to protect my child.
With all due respect, I did not need undo critisism, because it seems you did not read all of my message the way I had written it, but I asked God to remove him and his influences so they do not kill my child. Only God knows how he wants to do that, I did not ask him to kill him!!
We have the right as believers to pray for our enemies but we also have the right to ask to be delivered from deadly influences that could cause harm to our family.
I needed prayer not critism. I expected to hear something like, the Lord is a firewall of protection for his people, and that he will protect his little one's, not what I have received in my responses.
Knight1

Knight 1: One of the chief definitions of "criticism" in the dictionary is that it is the art of evaluating and analyzing with the intent of helping a person to deal with a matter more effectively. We are on your side. Our intent is to help you, not to defame you.
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"As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." (Prv 27:17)

SLE

 

[andrewnicholas]

Dear Sister - I sincerely hope you did not perceive my prayer for you and your son as criticism.I would never intend for that to happen and if I offended you then I apologise. May God be with you and may His peace prevail within your family.Amen.

Nicholas.

 

[calluna]

He is rude, abusive to me and my children, hateful, an abusive alcoholic and the list goes on.
He is taking my son this weekend to some drunk fest in Austin and there in nothing I can do about it. I keep praying for the safety of my son but he continues to get behind the wheel drunk and it is the mercy of God that keeps my son alive until the next weekend that he has him.
This man plays russian roulett with my son every two weeks!!! .....a relationship that can only lead to destruction, despare and maybe even death because when he drinks, no one is safe!!!
Knight1

'abusive alcoholic', 'gets behind the wheel drunk', 'plays russian roulette with my son' 'even death because when he drinks, no one is safe'

Why does your husband have visitation rights to your son, when he is clearly incapable of keeping your child safe? where is the law and courts ruling in this situation? Surely something legally can be done here?

I'll keep you and children in my prayers.

Calluna

 

[Dreamer]

I just saw your thread for the 1st time today, Knight1.

You may not believe me, but I understand your frustration. I have struggled with a similar situation. It is not easy and it is hard to understand what God is doing when you are praying so hard.

God really is in control. God loves you. I can't explain to you why God allows this kind of behavior (your ex's). I do know one thing: Don't stop praying. It's keeping you close to the Lord and teaching your son to follow the Lord also. God bless you, Knight1.