For my Brother

[NYQueens977]

My brother is 5 years old, but mentally he's 2. He should be talking in full sentences, but he still babbles like a baby. He isn't potty trained, and sometimes he takes his diaper off and smears his poop on the floor and walls.
When we take him outside, he has a habit of spitting at people; men, women, and children alike. Not even babies in carriages are safe from his spitting.
He also hits us, bites us, spits at our faces and in our food, throws things at us (not even 5 minutes ago, he threw a car at my nose, and it still hurts), and grabs us. Some people may think "he's 5, how much harm can he do?" But it hurts when he pinches us, especially in the fatty part of our arms, as if he knows just how to hurt us, and it hurts immensely when he bites, sometimes close to drawing blood.
He was supposed to see a specialist when he was 3, but there was an issue with the system, and was eventually dropped from the waiting list. Instead of starting school at 3, he started school at 5. He was officially diagnosed with autism, and he has his own paraprofessional, as well as 6 other teachers to help his development.
But then the coronavirus hit New York, and schools where forced to shut down. The job of 7 teachers was passed down to my mom, who has three other kids including myself. He's bored around the house, locked in quarantine, and he's taking out his boredom and frustration on all of us.
My parents try to hit him to discipline him, but it's like he doesn't feel pain. He actually laughs when my dad brings out the belt, and he doesn't learn either.
My parents would hit him, tell him, "no spitting," and he may stop for a few minutes, but then would go back to what he was doing. It's painfully frustrating. Our first reaction when someone hurts us is to push the person away and hit them back, but we can't do that, he's 5 for godssakes. Hitting him doesn't work, talking to him doesn't work. We've been praying for him forever, but there has been no change. He's still the same as he was when he was 2. We can't take him outside due to quarantine, and we're honestly all just tired.
Please, pray for a miracle. Pray that my brother could wake up one of these days and communicate like how he wants to, like how we all want him to. Pray that he can just stop abusing us, and please, we're tired, pray for the Lord that He may give us the strength and patience to push past these trying times. Please, I'm begging you, God, just please. My heart aches for my brother, his condition, more than my nose at the moment, and I don't know how much longer I can handle this.
I won't accept that he's autistic. He's incredibly smart, and he knows exactly what he's doing. He just needs the words to tell us that he knows.

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings,

five years old is young.
As difficult as it may be to hear, often it is what we older folk 'plant' into the lives of younger ones that we then find to be troublesome. Each has to examine, in honestly, their own examples set, and this takes a little stirring of the memory, and in your case, five years of it.
This also includes all that we allow youngsters to experience and in this day of internet and dvd's and all that sort of stuff, a little mind gets 'fed' a lot of very harmful stuff.
I DO NOT know your family nor what you have allowed to transpire, even in words to one another, so please understand i DO NOT judge you [you and your family]

If a person, and perhaps even more so a youngster, is in need, it helps to try to put ourselves into their shoes and ask what and how we want to be treated and if our way of dealing with matters is how we would want someone bigger and older and capable of punishing us, etc to deal with us every time we mess up [or have previously messed up].

May i encourage you and your family to really try hard to be ministers of God in this situation?
I personally am a very slow learner and have got it wrong far too often but i also know that there is a better way to deal with situations and for me, i must be honest about my failings gone and determine to do what is right in future, so i say this with a caring heart to you all.

Your young brother needs the love and fun turned up a lot. Ignore the bad behaviour as much as possible and instead of dealing with it at the moment, do as the Lord does with you and gently reveal the matter that needs to be dealt with at the time that the heart is receptive.
A good way to help is to distract from that bad behaviour. Children are easily distracted and so as you are all older, you can take control of the things going on and include your brother in something that he will enjoy. Start with tender and kind words and build on them, with similar actions.

Leaving a little chap to find his own way and telling him he is wrong or bad for what he does will not give him any real foundation of kindness to establish himself on. He NEEDs good and wholesome interaction.

At first he may refuse and continue but be patient and persist with an activity he might want to join in on. He NEEDs your time and energy and you NEED him to be a nice brother to have around and you WANT him to be free from all that is so upsetting.

It may be that you [all] need to change to see the change in your brother. He is, after all, only five and you can not expect him to be overly responsible for his own actions if they display any hint of your own shortcomings as family examples of Christ.

can you please let me know his name so i can pray for him?


Bless you ....><>

 

[NYQueens977]

Greetings,

five years old is young.
As difficult as it may be to hear, often it is what we older folk 'plant' into the lives of younger ones that we then find to be troublesome. Each has to examine, in honestly, their own examples set, and this takes a little stirring of the memory, and in your case, five years of it.
This also includes all that we allow youngsters to experience and in this day of internet and dvd's and all that sort of stuff, a little mind gets 'fed' a lot of very harmful stuff.
I DO NOT know your family nor what you have allowed to transpire, even in words to one another, so please understand i DO NOT judge you [you and your family]

If a person, and perhaps even more so a youngster, is in need, it helps to try to put ourselves into their shoes and ask what and how we want to be treated and if our way of dealing with matters is how we would want someone bigger and older and capable of punishing us, etc to deal with us every time we mess up [or have previously messed up].

May i encourage you and your family to really try hard to be ministers of God in this situation?
I personally am a very slow learner and have got it wrong far too often but i also know that there is a better way to deal with situations and for me, i must be honest about my failings gone and determine to do what is right in future, so i say this with a caring heart to you all.

Your young brother needs the love and fun turned up a lot. Ignore the bad behaviour as much as possible and instead of dealing with it at the moment, do as the Lord does with you and gently reveal the matter that needs to be dealt with at the time that the heart is receptive.
A good way to help is to distract from that bad behaviour. Children are easily distracted and so as you are all older, you can take control of the things going on and include your brother in something that he will enjoy. Start with tender and kind words and build on them, with similar actions.

Leaving a little chap to find his own way and telling him he is wrong or bad for what he does will not give him any real foundation of kindness to establish himself on. He NEEDs good and wholesome interaction.

At first he may refuse and continue but be patient and persist with an activity he might want to join in on. He NEEDs your time and energy and you NEED him to be a nice brother to have around and you WANT him to be free from all that is so upsetting.

It may be that you [all] need to change to see the change in your brother. He is, after all, only five and you can not expect him to be overly responsible for his own actions if they display any hint of your own shortcomings as family examples of Christ.

can you please let me know his name so i can pray for him?


Bless you ....><>

Thank you so much for your reply. My brother's name is Marco, and, yes, I agree 100% with you. Truthfully speaking, my mother is the one who works with my brother the most, and I could see that he is most receptive with her. My father is just now realizing that the things he does, biting, spitting, etc, is his way of communicating, so he's just now starting to be gentler with him as well.
As for myself, I have a pretty high pain tolerance, and I try to use that to try and talk to him and gently tell him 'no', but it still hurts my heart whenever he attacks me, and I don't know how much longer I could hold up. I find myself physically fighting back the tears every time he throws things at me or spits at me, and it hurts even more when my younger sisters react harshly towards his actions, like yelling at him, rightfully frustrated at the situation. I just need strength, me and the rest of my family.

 

[Br. Bear]

Bless you and thank you for sharing his name ....><>

 

[Brother-Paul]

Greetings @NYQueens977

Having read your post, and the replies above, I join you all in prayer, others who have read this and not replied will also be praying for you.

Proverbs 3:5-8 (NKJV)
rust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

Let the Love God gives, shine through you at all times and let the Light of Christ shine upon you and all your household

Philippians 4:7 (NKJV)
and let the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Bless you.

 

[NYQueens977]

Greetings @NYQueens977

Having read your post, and the replies above, I join you all in prayer, others who have read this and not replied will also be praying for you.

Proverbs 3:5-8 (NKJV)
rust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding;
In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

Let the Love God gives, shine through you at all times and let the Light of Christ shine upon you and all your household

Philippians 4:7 (NKJV)
and let the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Bless you.

Thank you for your response and your prayers

 

[Brother-Paul]

Thank you for your response and your prayers

It is always a pleasure to pray for our brothers and sisters in Christ and their loved ones.

Bless you.

 

[Br. Bear]

@NYQueens977

Greetings,

how is Marco?


Bless you ....><>

 

[NYQueens977]

@NYQueens977

Greetings,

how is Marco?


Bless you ....><>

He is still the same, although his behavior is a bit better now. I've been trying to play with him more in an attempt to build a relationship, and I would say that it's working. Just yesterday, he gave me a kiss. Thank you for asking, and thank you for your prayers.

 

[Bill]

My brother is 5 years old, but mentally he's 2. He should be talking in full sentences, but he still babbles like a baby. He isn't potty trained, and sometimes he takes his diaper off and smears his poop on the floor and walls.
When we take him outside, he has a habit of spitting at people; men, women, and children alike. Not even babies in carriages are safe from his spitting.
He also hits us, bites us, spits at our faces and in our food, throws things at us (not even 5 minutes ago, he threw a car at my nose, and it still hurts), and grabs us. Some people may think "he's 5, how much harm can he do?" But it hurts when he pinches us, especially in the fatty part of our arms, as if he knows just how to hurt us, and it hurts immensely when he bites, sometimes close to drawing blood.
He was supposed to see a specialist when he was 3, but there was an issue with the system, and was eventually dropped from the waiting list. Instead of starting school at 3, he started school at 5. He was officially diagnosed with autism, and he has his own paraprofessional, as well as 6 other teachers to help his development.
But then the coronavirus hit New York, and schools where forced to shut down. The job of 7 teachers was passed down to my mom, who has three other kids including myself. He's bored around the house, locked in quarantine, and he's taking out his boredom and frustration on all of us.
My parents try to hit him to discipline him, but it's like he doesn't feel pain. He actually laughs when my dad brings out the belt, and he doesn't learn either.
My parents would hit him, tell him, "no spitting," and he may stop for a few minutes, but then would go back to what he was doing. It's painfully frustrating. Our first reaction when someone hurts us is to push the person away and hit them back, but we can't do that, he's 5 for godssakes. Hitting him doesn't work, talking to him doesn't work. We've been praying for him forever, but there has been no change. He's still the same as he was when he was 2. We can't take him outside due to quarantine, and we're honestly all just tired.
Please, pray for a miracle. Pray that my brother could wake up one of these days and communicate like how he wants to, like how we all want him to. Pray that he can just stop abusing us, and please, we're tired, pray for the Lord that He may give us the strength and patience to push past these trying times. Please, I'm begging you, God, just please. My heart aches for my brother, his condition, more than my nose at the moment, and I don't know how much longer I can handle this.
I won't accept that he's autistic. He's incredibly smart, and he knows exactly what he's doing. He just needs the words to tell us that he knows.

In my mind im thinking a form of autism. My olderst son did very similar when he was a youngster . He had what they call emotional autism .

But i will keep you in my prayers

 

[Brother-Paul]

Greetings sister,

Life can be really hard, at times we may question why a person or a child may experience what appear to be unfair issues, disabilities, learning difficulties and more, but God knows best, in all things He works for good.

What is so often clear to see is the incredible love from parents and siblings, to what the world considers, shall I just say different.

God knew when your brother was born, the immense love your family would have for him. May the good Lord Bless you all, Trust in Him always.

Jesus loves you we do too.

In His love

Shalom

 

[Trevor]

My brother is 5 years old, but mentally he's 2. He should be talking in full sentences, but he still babbles like a baby. He isn't potty trained, and sometimes he takes his diaper off and smears his poop on the floor and walls.
When we take him outside, he has a habit of spitting at people; men, women, and children alike. Not even babies in carriages are safe from his spitting.
He also hits us, bites us, spits at our faces and in our food, throws things at us (not even 5 minutes ago, he threw a car at my nose, and it still hurts), and grabs us. Some people may think "he's 5, how much harm can he do?" But it hurts when he pinches us, especially in the fatty part of our arms, as if he knows just how to hurt us, and it hurts immensely when he bites, sometimes close to drawing blood.
He was supposed to see a specialist when he was 3, but there was an issue with the system, and was eventually dropped from the waiting list. Instead of starting school at 3, he started school at 5. He was officially diagnosed with autism, and he has his own paraprofessional, as well as 6 other teachers to help his development.
But then the coronavirus hit New York, and schools where forced to shut down. The job of 7 teachers was passed down to my mom, who has three other kids including myself. He's bored around the house, locked in quarantine, and he's taking out his boredom and frustration on all of us.
My parents try to hit him to discipline him, but it's like he doesn't feel pain. He actually laughs when my dad brings out the belt, and he doesn't learn either.
My parents would hit him, tell him, "no spitting," and he may stop for a few minutes, but then would go back to what he was doing. It's painfully frustrating. Our first reaction when someone hurts us is to push the person away and hit them back, but we can't do that, he's 5 for godssakes. Hitting him doesn't work, talking to him doesn't work. We've been praying for him forever, but there has been no change. He's still the same as he was when he was 2. We can't take him outside due to quarantine, and we're honestly all just tired.
Please, pray for a miracle. Pray that my brother could wake up one of these days and communicate like how he wants to, like how we all want him to. Pray that he can just stop abusing us, and please, we're tired, pray for the Lord that He may give us the strength and patience to push past these trying times. Please, I'm begging you, God, just please. My heart aches for my brother, his condition, more than my nose at the moment, and I don't know how much longer I can handle this.
I won't accept that he's autistic. He's incredibly smart, and he knows exactly what he's doing. He just needs the words to tell us that he knows.

Hi NYQueens, It sounds as though there could be a spiritual element involved here. scripture speaks, regarding this kind of situation, of prayer and fasting. It may be an idea to set yourself a partial fast, like missing breakfast for a while, and pray for wisdom on how to deal with this specific situation. Firstly I'd Thank God for the situation. John 9:1-3 bless you.