Getting divorce

[Mara]

Hi! My husband of 13 years left me last year for another woman. I never imagined this could happen to me! I thought I would be marry until death due as apart. We both were believers when we married. It has been a hard journey to accept this in my life. Most days I am fine, but sometime I feel very lonely, specially at night. I would ask to for God to give me acceptance and peace. I am in a desert in my life and would love some goodly advice. Thank you!

 

[Brad Huber]

Hi Mara! May the Lord bless you with an inner peace, and the hurt lessen with time. When in a desert, find an oasis. Begin listening to some good christian music more, it can put you in a good spiritual mood. I also recommend you read a chapter of scripture everyday starting in the Psalms, and reflect and think on what it might mean to you in this day and age. And dont forget to pray to your Daddy, the Lord, for He covets your Love, and He will never back away His love for you.

 

[Mara]

Hi Mara! May the Lord bless you with an inner peace, and the hurt lessen with time. When in a desert, find an oasis. Begin listening to some good christian music more, it can put you in a good spiritual mood. I also recommend you read a chapter of scripture everyday starting in the Psalms, and reflect and think on what it might mean to you in this day and age. And dont forget to pray to your Daddy, the Lord, for He covets your Love, and He will never back away His love for you.

Thank you! I do read my Bible everyday. I do need to pray more! Thank you for your kind words.

 

[Andyindauk]

Hi! My husband of 13 years left me last year for another woman. I never imagined this could happen to me! I thought I would be marry until death due as apart. We both were believers when we married. It has been a hard journey to accept this in my life. Most days I am fine, but sometime I feel very lonely, specially at night. I would ask to for God to give me acceptance and peace. I am in a desert in my life and would love some goodly advice. Thank you!

Hi Mara,

Yeah I got that T-shirt to Just re-focus your life on that other love in your life; lots of praise, thanks and adoration. God wants to know you love Him during the good times and the bad. King David was homeless, sleeping rough and on the run and he wrote some really special psalms thanking God for His protection and forgiveness.

So - thank you God for .... I love you because ...... What I love about you God is ...... There's plenty of material even without racking your brains.

Do that and God'll give you extra dollops of His Holy Spirit to get you through, and wisdom to guide you through the oncoming divorce.

May God bless you little sister xxx

 

[PloughBoy]

Hi! My husband of 13 years left me last year for another woman. I never imagined this could happen to me! I thought I would be marry until death due as apart. We both were believers when we married. It has been a hard journey to accept this in my life. Most days I am fine, but sometime I feel very lonely, specially at night. I would ask to for God to give me acceptance and peace. I am in a desert in my life and would love some goodly advice. Thank you!

Did you decide one day you was going to become a christian, So you became one. Then one day you got married. Or did one day you became a "Child of GOD" A NEW CREATURE, for your whole being belong to GOD and Whatsoever God wanted to do with your life He had the permission to do whatsoever he Wanted to do. In health, sickness, brokenness, suffering, worldly failures, Or ,you really didn't not give your heart to GOD, but you did give your Heart to someone else in Marriage. In which our Hearts as believers is suppose to belong to GOD alone. And no one else, even in marriage. We are to please GOD even in marriage and not to please ourselves. And GOD will not allowed us as HIs children to have something to take that place that only belongs to HIM. For it is "Christ Alone"!

For now It is like you have been place on the "Sacrificing Altar" and your heart has been pierce with a double edge sword and separated into and it seems it cannot be healed.
(Jeremiah30).KJV
"For thus saith the LORD, Thy bruise is incurable, and thy wound is grievous.
There is none to plead thy cause, that thou mayest be bound up: thou hast no healing medicines.
All thy lovers have forgotten thee; they seek thee not; for I have wounded thee with the wound of an enemy, with the chastisement of a cruel one, for the multitude of thine iniquity; because thy sins were increased.

Why criest thou for thine affliction? thy sorrow is incurable for the multitude of thine iniquity: because thy sins were increased, I have done these things unto thee.

Therefore all they that devour thee shall be devoured; and all thine adversaries, every one of them, shall go into captivity; and they that spoil thee shall be a spoil, and all that prey upon thee will I give for a prey.
For I will restore health unto thee, and I will heal thee of thy wounds, saith the LORD; because they called thee an Outcast, saying, This is Zion, whom no man seeketh after."

If you are truly a "Child of the Living GOD". Then: It has not happen unto you for a license or a escape clause for you to sin! But to grow in Christ!

New American Standard Bible
"And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose."

So my advice: as a "true Child of GOD" Grow closer to GOD in Christ, through HIs unadulterated "Word" and seek not the counsel of Man or Bias women. But become Holy in your way of living and Trust GOD Alone. Even if you have to stand by yourself. And seek not the arms of another man!

PS I did not say grow closer to a church I said grow closer to GOD in Christ, through His unadulterated "WORD"! Mediate on His WORD day and Night! and give no place for the devil! Let it become your "Chiefest of all joy"!

 

[twcstp111]

"For thus saith the LORD, Thy bruise is incurable, and thy wound is grievous.
There is none to plead thy cause, that thou mayest be bound up: thou hast no healing medicines.
All thy lovers have forgotten thee; they seek thee not; for I have wounded thee with the wound of an enemy, with the chastisement of a cruel one, for the multitude of thine iniquity; because thy sins were increased.

Why criest thou for thine affliction? thy sorrow is incurable for the multitude of thine iniquity: because thy sins were increased, I have done these things unto thee.

Therefore all they that devour thee shall be devoured; and all thine adversaries, every one of them, shall go into captivity; and they that spoil thee shall be a spoil, and all that prey upon thee will I give for a prey.
For I will restore health unto thee, and I will heal thee of thy wounds, saith the LORD; because they called thee an Outcast, saying, This is Zion, whom no man seeketh after."

friend,

these scriptures are intended as hot coals for the wicked, not for newly widowed women

come on man

 

[Mara]

Hi Mara,

Yeah I got that T-shirt to Just re-focus your life on that other love in your life; lots of praise, thanks and adoration. God wants to know you love Him during the good times and the bad. King David was homeless, sleeping rough and on the run and he wrote some really special psalms thanking God for His protection and forgiveness.

So - thank you God for .... I love you because ...... What I love about you God is ...... There's plenty of material even without racking your brains.

Do that and God'll give you extra dollops of His Holy Spirit to get you through, and wisdom to guide you through the oncoming divorce.

May God bless you little sister xxx

Thank you. I am trying to accept the will of God in my live and don't be bitter about it. It's just very difficult to imagine a different future, I am trying to rely in Jesus.

 

[Mara]

Did you decide one day you was going to become a christian, So you became one. Then one day you got married. Or did one day you became a "Child of GOD" A NEW CREATURE, for your whole being belong to GOD and Whatsoever God wanted to do with your life He had the permission to do whatsoever he Wanted to do. In health, sickness, brokenness, suffering, worldly failures, Or ,you really didn't not give your heart to GOD, but you did give your Heart to someone else in Marriage. In which our Hearts as believers is suppose to belong to GOD alone. And no one else, even in marriage. We are to please GOD even in marriage and not to please ourselves. And GOD will not allowed us as HIs children to have something to take that place that only belongs to HIM. For it is "Christ Alone"!

For now It is like you have been place on the "Sacrificing Altar" and your heart has been pierce with a double edge sword and separated into and it seems it cannot be healed.
(Jeremiah30).KJV
"For thus saith the LORD, Thy bruise is incurable, and thy wound is grievous.
There is none to plead thy cause, that thou mayest be bound up: thou hast no healing medicines.
All thy lovers have forgotten thee; they seek thee not; for I have wounded thee with the wound of an enemy, with the chastisement of a cruel one, for the multitude of thine iniquity; because thy sins were increased.

Why criest thou for thine affliction? thy sorrow is incurable for the multitude of thine iniquity: because thy sins were increased, I have done these things unto thee.

Therefore all they that devour thee shall be devoured; and all thine adversaries, every one of them, shall go into captivity; and they that spoil thee shall be a spoil, and all that prey upon thee will I give for a prey.
For I will restore health unto thee, and I will heal thee of thy wounds, saith the LORD; because they called thee an Outcast, saying, This is Zion, whom no man seeketh after."

If you are truly a "Child of the Living GOD". Then: It has not happen unto you for a license or a escape clause for you to sin! But to grow in Christ!

New American Standard Bible
"And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose."

So my advice: as a "true Child of GOD" Grow closer to GOD in Christ, through HIs unadulterated "Word" and seek not the counsel of Man or Bias women. But become Holy in your way of living and Trust GOD Alone. Even if you have to stand by yourself. And seek not the arms of another man!

PS I did not say grow closer to a church I said grow closer to GOD in Christ, through His unadulterated "WORD"! Mediate on His WORD day and Night! and give no place for the devil! Let it become your "Chiefest of all joy"!

I am not sure I understand fully what you telling me. English is my second language so there is that. I am a believer, saved by the grace of God, one who honestly did not deserved such a gift. I feel humbled and grateful that God ever did save me! But I am struggling too, it was not the ultimate plan of God for people to divorce. But we live in a broken world in which sin affect us all. But divorce is something I would have never chosen for myself. To be betrayed by your spouse is hard thing. I know that I shall overcome this eventually, with the guidance of God. God is merciful. But right now I was looking for some encouragement and maybe words of wisdom from people who experience this as well. I don't think I did wrong in seeking advice from fellow believers. But maybe I misunderstand you. Thank you.

 

[B-A-C]

I am not sure I understand fully what you telling me. English is my second language so there is that. I am a believer, saved by the grace of God, one who honestly did not deserved such a gift. I feel humbled and grateful that God ever did save me! But I am struggling too, it was not the ultimate plan of God for people to divorce. But we live in a broken world in which sin affect us all. But divorce is something I would have never chosen for myself. To be betrayed by your spouse is hard thing. I know that I shall overcome this eventually, with the guidance of God. God is merciful. But right now I was looking for some encouragement and maybe words of wisdom from people who experience this as well. I don't think I did wrong in seeking advice from fellow believers. But maybe I misunderstand you. Thank you.

If you were betrayed by your husband, the Bible does make allowances for this.

Matt 5:31; "Furthermore it has been said, 'Whoever divorces his wife, let him give her a certificate of divorce.'
Matt 5:32; but I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except for the reason of unchastity, makes her commit adultery; and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

It doesn't say you have to leave him, but it says you can.
As someone who has been divorced, I can tell you it doesn't fix everything, in some ways it makes things harder. Are there children involved? How long have you been married?
Are you able to financially take care of yourself? Are you in a church? Do you have Christian friends? (You don't have to answer, just ask yourself these questions).
Because of the hurt, you may think you will never regret being divorced... but trust me, one day maybe years from now... you will think about it.

This is a difficult situation to be involved in over the internet. Because we don't know you or your husband, it is difficult to know all the circumstances around this.
I for one will pray for you. But I feel too far removed from this to offer any advice. I would also say, if possible get around some Godly women there locally.
I am not trying to put you off. But there are some things women handle emotionally better than men.

 

[PloughBoy]

I am not sure I understand fully what you telling me. English is my second language so there is that. I am a believer, saved by the grace of God, one who honestly did not deserved such a gift. I feel humbled and grateful that God ever did save me! But I am struggling too, it was not the ultimate plan of God for people to divorce. But we live in a broken world in which sin affect us all. But divorce is something I would have never chosen for myself. To be betrayed by your spouse is hard thing. I know that I shall overcome this eventually, with the guidance of God. God is merciful. But right now I was looking for some encouragement and maybe words of wisdom from people who experience this as well. I don't think I did wrong in seeking advice from fellow believers. But maybe I misunderstand you. Thank you.

Ok, I understand you now, For my statement had, as you would say a full house of information. There are many in all faiths in this world to encourage us in all things under the Sun. I approach your Thread in "content" of The Complete "Original Copied Manuscript" of the Word of GOD. From Genesis to Revelation. in a "Snapshot". "Non- Christians and Nominal Christians" cannot except this type of Truth. For they cannot or have the Ability to contain the Whole Bible neither to they Have The Indwelling "Holy Spirit" to guide them into all Truths. So that is why my approach is so different. and I cannot give advice to any but try to be a guide into the contents of a Good Translation of "The Bible". as a whole. And not in "Prescription type verses" to ease a illness of any kind. But Christians should be familiar with the Character of GOD. as describe In The Book. And most likely you are familiar with the Book of Jeremiah since you are a Christian. and you know what the Book is about and the different events that took place in that book. And the "prothetic" messages given to "Judah" in the fall of Jerusalem and the Remnant that God always have. For we that are chosen in this Generation are also a "remnant according to grace. And our help, health, and strength is made perfect in weakness. For we look to the "Whole Contents" of the "Word of GOD" for Jesus comes in the "Volume of The Book".

In saying all of this and my related posts. I am simply saying, fill your self with the WORD of GOD and not the Words of Men. But if you seek "carnal information to tickle your ears, the world of Christianity is filled with ; "Pelagian, semi-Pelagians, Armenian, semi- Armenian, and Calvinistic type Christians and Thousands of more type christians throughout the world, even the classes, of Nominal christians that truly has invaded the "Americas" with a great force upon a wipe path.

But there are only a few travelers on this Narrow and hard path, and a lot of people cannot find it.

So you must read the book of Jeremiah to have a good understanding of what i was referring to in my post #5. And Jesus did not come down here to die and save you, so you could live a better life in this world. He came down here to delivery you from this world. And he does not want you to love this world and be comfortable here. Neither does he want you to yearn for the things the people of this world yearns for. But He came to deliver you from this place and prepare for you another place beyond your imagination, that is not of this world. And to Give you the power of the Spirit of The Living GOD to endure the pains of this world until He returns and take you where He is. The more pain you go through the stronger you get, a strength the world knows nothing of. The disappointments in "a child of GODs" life is the Loving hand of a Precious Father that loves them.

So there are many that will encourage you will with a type of faith that is called "vain hope". But the real Faith is trusting in the Whole contents of the Word of GOD.

And if you do not have a good "Bible translation" in your language. I will send you a clip, where you can get one free. No cost a good and Excellent "Study Bible" in your Language. And a few helps to boost your personal study of The :Holy Scriptures". and you will be able to translate the Original as those who translate the Translated Bibles that you read. With ease with no deception. depends on how bad you want the Truth in Gods WORD. or How bad you want something else. The Word of God says:

New Living Translation
“If you want to be my disciple, you must, by comparison, hate everyone else—your father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even your own life. Otherwise, you cannot be my disciple."

PS GOD most Likely is trying to get you more closer to HIM. By using such means. I do not believe Divorce is the will of GOD in any case. And If one separates they must not remarried in any case, unless physical death has happen.

There will be many to encourage you to remarry. It will only lead you into more confusion. But if you remain unmarried and keep studying GODS Word and continue to get closer to GOD you will not run into a state of Confusion and wonder if you have done the wrong thing, day after day night after night, but you will be free from that type of Guilt and never struggle with such a thing and your sleep with be sweet. "and God is the One who "Controls hearts and minds"

No matter who left you!

God's Sovereign Choice(Romans 9).
…15For He says to Moses: “I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion.” 16So then, it does not depend on man’s desire or effort, but on God’s mercy. 17 For the Scripture says to Pharaoh: “I raised you up for this very purpose, that I might display My power in you, and that My name might be proclaimed in all the earth.”…
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[JerryfromMass]

Hi! My husband of 13 years left me last year for another woman. I never imagined this could happen to me! I thought I would be marry until death due as apart. We both were believers when we married. It has been a hard journey to accept this in my life. Most days I am fine, but sometime I feel very lonely, specially at night. I would ask to for God to give me acceptance and peace. I am in a desert in my life and would love some goodly advice. Thank you!

Mara sister,

You are never alone, no matter how lonely it may feel, Lord Jesus is near you. Turn a bit and speak to him as if you were speaking to your most trusted friend. Just talk with HIM, HE is listening to every word you utter. HE will never get tired of listening to you. And if you happen to fall asleep while you are talking to HIM, imagine what it feels like when a child falls asleep in her Father's loving arms. You are HIS child; HE loves when you fall asleep in loving HIS arms. Amen.

 

[KittyLinda]

Hi! My husband of 13 years left me last year for another woman. I never imagined this could happen to me! I thought I would be marry until death due as apart. We both were believers when we married. It has been a hard journey to accept this in my life. Most days I am fine, but sometime I feel very lonely, specially at night. I would ask to for God to give me acceptance and peace. I am in a desert in my life and would love some goodly advice. Thank you!

Hello. I know that feeling. Sorry to hear this. You do not mention it. Do you attend any church? They can give you so much support. I broke up with my ex last year. He was not a Christian, but it was difficult, because we have a child. My current bf also faced your situation. His ex wife claims to be a Christian too but she left him for another man who was not even a believer, and then he did not marry her, so she destroyed her marriage for nothing, and now she is single.

It is depressing when I hear Christian men and women are destroying their marriages left and right for no reason.

Praying for you. God loves you, and he can send a person who will make you happier. Do not give up. You're a daughter of the most high!

 

[Mayflower]

Hope you are doing okay, @Mara So sorry for your divorce.