Give me your thoughts please

[TallTexan]

(i'm going to keep this as short as possible) I have been having a long distace relationship with a woman for 10 months now. We met through a singles site and we hit it off very well. She lives 400 miles away in Houston. For both of us our life situations are less than desireable aside from that our communication has been nothing short of beautiful and we both confessed to being in love with each other.

I have gone to visit her on 3 occasions that were absolutly wonderful. This past weeked July 10th and 11th I was supposed to go there again.

Usually before I go for a visit she is really excited as am I and she was this time but on thursday things chsnged. I sent her a text at 9:30 am . I didnt hear from her until 11:45 am . She told me in that text that she was going to lunch with a prospective customer and that she Loved me. I knew that something was wrong right then but didnt question it. She usually gives me every detal but didnt this time.

It wound up being that she was with another man for twelve hours and wound up at least letting him touch her knowing that I would be there the next day. (sorry I will have to continue this later) more to come

 

[stephen]

Hello TallTexan

In your profile you do not give your age, and you inform of divorce. Which brings a sadness to me, knowing the trauma such can bring.

Reading your post here I want you to know that I reach out to you in faith and prayer. That your desire may be realised.

I would suggest that you find and visit a lively church, by that I mean a place where the folks are friendly, outgoing and welcome you.

I wish you well.

Regards

 

[tirapet]

Is this girl Christian?
She doesn't sound worth it. She may seem perfect, but if she lets other guys do things like that to her, then she may not be faithful.
You two had an online relationship. There's no telling if she really was telling the truth or not. And you don't hear tones and see faces. If you started a real face-to-face relationship, it'd be difficult because you both are used to online. One can feel more freedom online and say things he or she wouldn't normally say to people.
When you knew something was wrong and discovered what, it was prolly for a reason. Prolly God's way of saying that this isn't the girl for you.
Well wishes!

 

[peteDXN]

Tall Texan
Come down out of the clouds

 

[Shiloh]

Hello Tall Texan

I read your post and I can understand your feelings and worry. We all have hearts which yearn for love and communication as you found in this other person. The one problem I can see, is that it is very hard to have a long distant relationship with a person, especially online. I am not saying that no one is able to have them. I am just saying they are hard, beause the face-to-face factor is not present. We are social animals, and most of us need that "face" time to see emotions, gestures and other body language that tells us things.

I have long watched others become thralled in the internet dating and other types of long distant relationships along with tons of unknowns like what you are going through. I know it is hard for you, but please see it must be hard for her as it is with you to be honest with the distance of 400 miles between you. There are so many unknowns about her, you might not know because of that distance. Only face-to-face time with her such as living only 15 minutes apart would allow you to tell what kind of person she is. That is why long distance is harder when you are learning about a person and/or meeting them. It is hard to learn things about a person that is so far away. Things that are important to know, and can't be seen unless you are with that person.

One think I have to ask is: Is she a Christian? If she is, that is good, but it makes me wonder other things.

I only hope you prayer about this matter, and spend alot of time with the Lord regarding it. Allow Him to guide you, comfort you and be the love of your life. Then regardless what happens to this woman that you love, the Lord will provide you with what you need in your life.

I do know it is easier said then done, so I say this all with a very tender heart, knowing that whatever happens, you heart is troubled and maybe hurting.

You will be in my prayers.

Shiloh

 

[jadore]

She is not worth it brother. I doubt this is the woman that you want to spent the rest of your life with if she is letting a guy do this to her knowing fully well that she is in a relatiosnhip with you .

 

[peteDXN]

You tell me I must reply---Dont know why I sent previous message-----the situation is so bizarre----my first reaction was---I need to tell you this speedily===then I need to end this quickly----My thoughts ---Did his wife or kid come into the room----Was it a teenager having a prank,---young folks having a giggle----surely it wasnt a grownup-----IF IT IS A REAL THING___GOD BLESS YOU COS YOUR PROBLEMS ARE NOT RARE BUT TO CONTINUE THEY BECOME SELF INFLICTED Selah (think of that)

 

[TallTexan]

thanks for the replies even though there is not much elese to tell. It is what it is. I know that sometime God saves us this way. Belive it or not , I did thank Him when this happened I have moved on. She is ok I sure. Thank you all so much:shade: