Help with maybe a 3ed trimester symptom

[RPAB]

I'm not really sure how to explain it, and anything I do explain it with, might actully sound, psycotic... But I am not, so please help me.

I think it is when the baby moves back (so the baby bump goes way down), I feel, this empty space inside... Like, it's not apart of my body... I don't know... Just this strange sensation, like... a cavity is in there... I've never felt it before, only since about 2 days ago, and yesterday it got to me so much, that I could sit or lay down (it was like 1 AM but lucky I wasn't tired), and the only comphable thing to do was stand and walk around the room... It helps when I sit up straight, if that helps give a clue... I know every pregnecy is diffrent... Anyone find anything in that description that sounds remotely formilire???

 

[sunshineaaks]

I'm not really sure how to explain it, and anything I do explain it with, might actully sound, psycotic... But I am not, so please help me.

I think it is when the baby moves back (so the baby bump goes way down), I feel, this empty space inside... Like, it's not apart of my body... I don't know... Just this strange sensation, like... a cavity is in there... I've never felt it before, only since about 2 days ago, and yesterday it got to me so much, that I could sit or lay down (it was like 1 AM but lucky I wasn't tired), and the only comphable thing to do was stand and walk around the room... It helps when I sit up straight, if that helps give a clue... I know every pregnecy is diffrent... Anyone find anything in that description that sounds remotely formilire???

First, are you going in for regular prenatal check ups to find if you and the baby are in good health? I take it this little one is your first? Is the baby still showing signs of movement?

There are many thoughts and worries that go through your head when you are pregnant. Are you alone in this pregnancy or do you have those around able to ease some of the worry?

Unfortunately, our kids are bombarded from all sides about 'safe sex' and abortion to 'take care of the problem'. That was my first thought with your comment of you feeling like 'a cavity is in there'. The very same words I've heard from those who advocate abortion to ease the conscience of the woman fearful of an abortion and the result of ending a little life.

Just as unfortunate these same words of 'comfort' inundate the lives of those who really do want to keep their child and cause unwarranted fears and worry of what is normal and what is not.

Not feeling a 'connection' I am thinking is normal also that is until you hold that wiggling little bundle in your arms. At least in my case this is what happened with the first one. Some women don't ever feel a connection, but with the few I've talked with, that comes with understanding some of the past that they had to deal with and then facing that so they can have a better relationship with their own child. Just some things to think about.

And don't worry, myself and almost every woman I've talked with, that last few months (especially the last one) seems to drag on forever BUT the good news, you tend to forget it all once the little one is here :wink:

 

[RPAB]

Ya, I am very alone... If it wasn't for God, I would have ended my life because I am so alone in this... Got put in teh psych ward, forced to say I wasn't pregnent... I have the Hook Effect... If you type in 'Pregnecy: Hook Effect' you'll find alot of message boards. That's where I leared everything I know about it, I jut read wat others wrote.
The only thing I have as for prenatal stuff are my vitamons. I felt her kick a few times yesterday, whic hwas good. I've leared that she's probably in a position that I can't feel the kicks very much right now. (The internet is my other life line.)
Sorry. No, abortion never crossed my mind, and I am glad of that. (I was assulted by a guy I knew in September...) I've only been in Aus a year...
Oh... Well, that's what it felt like...
(There is no such thing as 'safe sex' because a virus is smaller, and can get though the condom. Lucky, I don't have any STDs. .
Ya, I know when I go to the store, and uni, people WILL judge me, cuz I am pregnent. I am going to write on teh back of my jacket (with mascing take and a marker) "Are you jueging me cuz I get assulted, or because I want to keep this child?"
For me, I never felt like I never like I didn't have a connection with this child. I guess part of it is 1. I have gotten taught, that abortion is wrong, and that she is a life, (I remember my dad driving to an actule abortion clinic in teh evening, and the family just sat in the car and talked about why abortion was wrong.
2. I think I also have a strong desire, to bond with this child, and teach her, in a way my mom never could bond or teach me...
Thanks.

First, are you going in for regular prenatal check ups to find if you and the baby are in good health? I take it this little one is your first? Is the baby still showing signs of movement?

There are many thoughts and worries that go through your head when you are pregnant. Are you alone in this pregnancy or do you have those around able to ease some of the worry?

Unfortunately, our kids are bombarded from all sides about 'safe sex' and abortion to 'take care of the problem'. That was my first thought with your comment of you feeling like 'a cavity is in there'. The very same words I've heard from those who advocate abortion to ease the conscience of the woman fearful of an abortion and the result of ending a little life.

Just as unfortunate these same words of 'comfort' inundate the lives of those who really do want to keep their child and cause unwarranted fears and worry of what is normal and what is not.

Not feeling a 'connection' I am thinking is normal also that is until you hold that wiggling little bundle in your arms. At least in my case this is what happened with the first one. Some women don't ever feel a connection, but with the few I've talked with, that comes with understanding some of the past that they had to deal with and then facing that so they can have a better relationship with their own child. Just some things to think about.

And don't worry, myself and almost every woman I've talked with, that last few months (especially the last one) seems to drag on forever BUT the good news, you tend to forget it all once the little one is here :wink:

 

[sunshineaaks]

Ya, I am very alone... If it wasn't for God, I would have ended my life because I am so alone in this... Got put in teh psych ward, forced to say I wasn't pregnent... I have the Hook Effect... If you type in 'Pregnecy: Hook Effect' you'll find alot of message boards. That's where I leared everything I know about it, I jut read wat others wrote.
The only thing I have as for prenatal stuff are my vitamons. I felt her kick a few times yesterday, whic hwas good. I've leared that she's probably in a position that I can't feel the kicks very much right now. (The internet is my other life line.)
Sorry. No, abortion never crossed my mind, and I am glad of that. (I was assulted by a guy I knew in September...) I've only been in Aus a year...
Oh... Well, that's what it felt like...
(There is no such thing as 'safe sex' because a virus is smaller, and can get though the condom. Lucky, I don't have any STDs. .
Ya, I know when I go to the store, and uni, people WILL judge me, cuz I am pregnent. I am going to write on teh back of my jacket (with mascing take and a marker) "Are you jueging me cuz I get assulted, or because I want to keep this child?"
For me, I never felt like I never like I didn't have a connection with this child. I guess part of it is 1. I have gotten taught, that abortion is wrong, and that she is a life, (I remember my dad driving to an actule abortion clinic in teh evening, and the family just sat in the car and talked about why abortion was wrong.
2. I think I also have a strong desire, to bond with this child, and teach her, in a way my mom never could bond or teach me...
Thanks.

I’m so sorry to hear you were assaulted and raped by that man. I also praise God He is by your side! And proud of you for keeping your baby despite what other may say. This little one can not help what his/her father did to their mother.

Do you have any places where you are who help women through their pregnancy? Here in Iowa we have a place called Birthright and they help not only with clothing but getting good medical help as well as housing if needed. Some places like this go with the woman to the doctor as support in getting the ultra sound which would prove to the doctors fact not to mention the first ‘picture’ of the little one growing.

You mention your dad taking you to an abortion clinic and explaining why abortion is wrong, is he still around so that you can count on him through the last part of your pregnancy and first few years of the little one’s life?

Don’t worry about what people will say, that doesn’t really matter anyway. Many times, those who had an abortion will condemn someone else for keeping theirs but you can forgive them and pray for them along the way. More often than not, these are in the greatest need of compassion.

 

[RPAB]

Ya, a baby is never to blame for anything bad.
There is a place. It's called SAS, but as for providing stuff, I'm not sure there is a place where I am... SAS is the sexual assult service, and I think (not sur), they help people though, there pregencies, but I know they offer support to talk about the assult, healing. I tend to not talk to anyone about anything that happened, thta;s how I grew up... Feel I have to though. thanks for brining the topic up.
Ya, he's still around, but with out an U/S, and another blood test and they dilute the blood, I have not even support from my family. I mean, I'd think I was crazy, I almost did in the psych ward... heard it for 22 days... But the memories I had and feelings, kept/keep me going because I couldn't have made them up.
Ya, taht;s why my website has a place were there are links where people who have had abortions can get support. (Didn't get taught about what people go though after an abortion, or even the things they have to do in the short term! Intrest, yet horrifying.

I’m so sorry to hear you were assaulted and raped by that man. I also praise God He is by your side! And proud of you for keeping your baby despite what other may say. This little one can not help what his/her father did to their mother.

Do you have any places where you are who help women through their pregnancy? Here in Iowa we have a place called Birthright and they help not only with clothing but getting good medical help as well as housing if needed. Some places like this go with the woman to the doctor as support in getting the ultra sound which would prove to the doctors fact not to mention the first ‘picture’ of the little one growing.

You mention your dad taking you to an abortion clinic and explaining why abortion is wrong, is he still around so that you can count on him through the last part of your pregnancy and first few years of the little one’s life?

Don’t worry about what people will say, that doesn’t really matter anyway. Many times, those who had an abortion will condemn someone else for keeping theirs but you can forgive them and pray for them along the way. More often than not, these are in the greatest need of compassion.

 

[sunshineaaks]

Ya, a baby is never to blame for anything bad.
There is a place. It's called SAS, but as for providing stuff, I'm not sure there is a place where I am... SAS is the sexual assult service, and I think (not sur), they help people though, there pregencies, but I know they offer support to talk about the assult, healing. I tend to not talk to anyone about anything that happened, thta;s how I grew up... Feel I have to though. thanks for brining the topic up.
Ya, he's still around, but with out an U/S, and another blood test and they dilute the blood, I have not even support from my family. I mean, I'd think I was crazy, I almost did in the psych ward... heard it for 22 days... But the memories I had and feelings, kept/keep me going because I couldn't have made them up.
Ya, taht;s why my website has a place were there are links where people who have had abortions can get support. (Didn't get taught about what people go though after an abortion, or even the things they have to do in the short term! Intrest, yet horrifying.

Do you have a good church home? Maybe the pastor or his wife would know of some place willing to help?

I do understand about the psych ward, my sister, unfortunately, was a drug abuser (prescription drugs) and ended up in the psych ward after a fall from a tree. It took my brother and I a week of demanding an X-ray of her back before they finally did and found she had indeed broken her back. THEN she was sent to intensive care for a while.

 

[RPAB]

ya, but the paster (Whos' a female), I think it's cuz of her culture (Chinese) alitle bit, that she tends to see stuff in black and white. No gray areas... I'm going to call her on that next Sunday though. (I have another issue with a person in the church to settle before I let her in on the hook effect.), which the paster is helping with. And her B/F as well, which is the guys shepard.)
Ya, they said that "You have to test possitive before we give you an U/S, because it costs alot of money." So, i was trapped...
Sorry about your sister. Sorry too, that she was in alot of physical pain, and no one cared... (i can also relate.)

 

[sunshineaaks]

ya, but the paster (Whos' a female), I think it's cuz of her culture (Chinese) alitle bit, that she tends to see stuff in black and white. No gray areas... I'm going to call her on that next Sunday though. (I have another issue with a person in the church to settle before I let her in on the hook effect.), which the paster is helping with. And her B/F as well, which is the guys shepard.)
Ya, they said that "You have to test possitive before we give you an U/S, because it costs alot of money." So, i was trapped...
Sorry about your sister. Sorry too, that she was in alot of physical pain, and no one cared... (i can also relate.)

By now, 3rd trimester, a physical exam would show that there is a baby growing or at least the doctor could assume that there was a 'tumor' and would order an ultra sound. Even a physician's assistant could come up with that analysis not to mention even the nurse. Shoot, I'm willing to bet even the receptionist could come up with that much....... lol. Won't they do a physical either?

 

[RPAB]

They won't do anything... They just like to think I am dellusonal, and they didn't ever want to give me a biological answer... ya, Aus psychis don't treat people with any respect... Or maybe all phycis for that matter. .
But I can now show the Hook Effect paper to a doctor, and (either get thrown back in the psych ward), or have another blood test. (Throwen back in the psych ward is what I'd be afraid of... It's uni now, 2ed day.

 

[natters]

I looked up hook effect and it said that it was when you were pregnant but testing negatively. But you say you are in your 3rd trimester, so I would assume that you and the doctors are 100% sure you're pregnant, simply by the change of shape in your body?

If you are pregnant, you should be able to go to any hospital and tell them you're feeling something strange and want an ultrasound. Not sure if you have to pay in Australia but here in Canada they'll hook you up asap if you go in with a concern.

If you aren't sure if you are pregnant...then you should definitely go see a doctor and ask him to feel the baby/listen with a doppler.

 

[RPAB]

They don't let people have an U/S without testing possitive.
Ya, my abdamon is bigger, and taht's what gets me... The psych ward, I showed the top of my hips to the nurse, and nothing... Still said i was dellusonal... They really, don't care. One of my room mates said she was having an allergec reaction to the meds, and they did nothing...
And even about me, they said, that if I was preg, iId have a misscarrage. (Why? The h place feeds people good.)
As in the other thread, We are going somewehre Tuesday.