How can we know

[ATP]

If we are to be equally yoked, how do we know the person we want to be with is truly born again. Can we really know?

 

[Brad Huber]

If we are to be equally yoked, how do we know the person we want to be with is truly born again. Can we really know?

A tree is known by its fruit. Seek the fruit of the Spirit, and the tree will be good.

 

[RJ]

If we are to be equally yoked, how do we know the person we want to be with is truly born again. Can we really know?

If you are "Born Again", you will know!

 

[Fragrant Grace]

If we are to be equally yoked, how do we know the person we want to be with is truly born again. Can we really know?

@ATP

A couple who are both truly born again will want the Lord to be the centre of their relationship and proposed marriage.
Together they will seek the Lord's will in all things through prayer and the word of God.
The relationship will be beautiful because Jesus and His lovely love are the central focus

If you have doubts about a prospective husband or wife being truly saved you must ask yourself..... why am I in a relationship with this person?
Take it to the Lord in prayer, ask Him to reveal the truth and lead you in His way. (And His way will not be to have you in a relationship with someone who is not saved)

Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.
Be not wise in thine own eyes:
Proverbs 3:5-7

 

[Brighthouse]

Brother ATP A few years ago there was a brother in our Church, he was about 27 years of age, and the lovely girl he was going with was 24,they had been going together for about 3 months when he came to our pastor while i was there,speaking with him,and like you,he spoke of her not being a believer,and he was really thinking this was the one for him.

The pastor took him to the back of the church to speak with him further on this,there was a very large hill,where the children would play, with swings and such,the pastor instructed the man to go to the very top of the hill,the pastor stood a few feet below him,then asked the man to pull him to where he was at,the sloop was so steep,and the man pulled him as hard as he could but could not bring our pastor to where he was!

Then the pastor said give me your hand,and very lightly pulled him down to where he was! That said the pastor is what will happen to the believer if they hang with an unbeliever,for in most cases the women you care so much about will become your idol,and you will fall, and great will be your fall.( 1 Kings 11:1-13) You see ATP being a believer your mindset is already changing towards the Lord,you my good brother are learning that a christian,becomes accountable! For as you see from the example i gave you,even the wisest man in the World can fall.I am, good brother not telling you at all what to do! I am only giving you something to consider.Blessing to you!

 

[just-a-servant]

There are any number of ways to be unequally yoked; democrat:republican, Catholic:Baptist, Kansan:Oklahoman, just to mention a few. The dating process is to discover things about a person and delve into what they think and how they act. If after a period of time (longer is better than shorter) you find things just don't seem to click, the relationship comes to an end and the participants go their separate ways. The issue facing most couples in the dating scene is that while this discovery process is going on, and things are becoming more serious, they don't take time to seriously discuss important matters, such as children, politics, money, and religion to come to an understanding of each other.
I realize this is a broad generalization and your question is more directed at religious beliefs and more importantly being a "born again believer," but discussing beforehand each of these topics will give you a good idea of how the relationship will go if the other is the right one. If there are doubts, retreat and re-assess. Don't ever make the mistake of thinking you will be able to change anything about your partner after the "I do" has happened.
The comments by others in this thread are trustworthy as well. Absolutely knowing whether another person is "born again" is impossible to know. The decision another makes in this regard is personal and only known to themselves and God. Look at the fruit, examine the evidence, then make your best guess based on what you know. Just don't miss the forest because of the trees.

IMHO
just-a-servant

 

[AbbysAunt]

If we are to be equally yoked, how do we know the person we want to be with is truly born again. Can we really know?

Being in a relationship Jesus must be the foundation and that means both must be Christians. I was in a relationship once with an unbeliever and it got really hard because
he didn't want me talking about Jesus. That was only one part but it was big enough to make me reconsider the relationship and move on. A person who knows and loves
Jesus will know how to not only love you but respect and take care of you just as Jesus does His church. God wants the best for each of us and we shouldn't settle for any
thing less especially when it comes to who we will spend the rest of our lives with.
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[ehaile98]

If we are to be equally yoked, how do we know the person we want to be with is truly born again. Can we really know?

We must be patient and wait on him.

 

[RJ]

We must be patient and wait on him.

I don't think ATP is with us any longer.