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how do I raise a Godly daughter?

belovedbride

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Hi Everyone, Let's start with a little background info. My husband and I weren't raised in Christian homes...well it depends on who you talk to in the family...heaven on Sunday, hell the rest of the week was the motto of my family. Ok, so we've been BACs for 4 years now and need advice on how we can raise a woman of God. Our daughter is 4. We'd appreciate any resources you could also recommend. I'm also going to ask the women from our church for help on this one too. Thanks.

By the way, recources or advice on raising a Godly son, he'll be 2 in March, would also be appreciated.
 
Hi there sister

I just found this online for you. Hope it will help you to bring up children in a Godly way and also we need to live by example. Children copy their parents.
Children are on loan to us. God lends them to us.

Question: "What does the Bible say about being a Christian mother?"

Answer: Being a mother is a very important role that the Lord chooses to give many women. Mothers are told to love their children in Titus 2:4-5 which says, “Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” In Isaiah 49:15a the Bible says, “Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne?” When does motherhood begin?

Children are a gift from the Lord (Psalm 127:3-5). In Titus 2:4, the Greek word “phileoteknos” appears. This word represents a special kind of “mother-love”. The idea that flows out of this word is that of “preferring” our children, “caring” for them, “nurturing” them, “affectionately embracing” them, “meeting their needs,” “tenderly befriending” each one as unique from the hand of God. We are commanded in the Scripture to see “mother-love,” as our responsibility. Both mothers and fathers are commanded to do several things in the Word:

Availability – morning, noon, and night (Deuteronomy 6:6-7)

Involvement – interacting, discussing, thinking and processing life together (Ephesians 6:4)

Teaching – the Scriptures, a biblical world-view (Psalm 78:5-6, Deuteronomy 4:10, Ephesians 6:4)

Training – helping a child develop skills and discover his strengths (Proverbs 22:6)

Discipline – teaching the fear of the Lord, drawing the line consistently, lovingly, firmly (Ephesians 6:4, Hebrews 12:5-11, Proverbs 13:24, 19:18, 22:15, 23:13-14, 29:15-17)

Nurture – providing an environment of constant verbal support, freedom to fail, acceptance, affection, unconditional love, (Titus 2:4, 2 Timothy 1:7, Ephesians 4:29-32, 5:1-2, Galatians 5:22, 1 Peter 3:8-9)

Modeling with Integrity – living what you say, being a model by which a child can learn by “catching” the essence of godly living (Deuteronomy 4:9, 15, 23; Proverbs 10:9, 11:3; Psalm 37:18, 37).

The Bible never commands that every woman should be a mother. However, it does say that those whom the Lord blesses to be mothers should take the responsibility seriously. Mothers have a unique and crucially important role in the lives of their children. Motherhood is not a chore or unpleasant task. Just as a mother bears a child during pregnancy, and just as a mother feeds and cares for a child during infancy – so mothers also play an ongoing role in the lives of their children, teenagers, young adults, and even fully-grown children. While the role of motherhood must change and develop – the love, care, nurture, and encouragement a mother gives should never cease.

Recommended Resource: What's in the Bible for Mothers? by Judy Bodmer.

God bless you. :love: :rainbow: :rose:
 
Hi beloved bride,

My simple advice is that remember that to small children, their parents are the role models. If you want to raise a GODLY daughter then you have to be the examples of what GODLY is. She will see it in you and learn. So you have to be constantly conscious of what you say and how you act around her. She must not get conflicting signals from you as to how to be GODLY.
 
Something you should remember is that children wants discipline. They want those boundaries so that they can test themselves on how strong you are in holding that boundaries. As my fellow brother said above, live a Godly life and they will follow. Discipline them when needed. Be firm but just and I can see that your life will be filled with two wonderful children.

Despite so many of life's traditional standards and guidelines being removed in today's fast-paced society, the most important keys to parenting today are the same as they have been for millenniums:

love
your own good example
discipline and training (a clear standard of right and wrong)
acceptance of each child for who he or she is
faith in each child for what he or she can become
prayer
a lot of help from God
more love
From beginning to end, the most important key is LOVE. Learning to be a good parent is a process that takes time and involves a lot of understanding, experience, fun, tears, prayer, patience, and a great deal of love. Children need to know that you love them, that you will always love them and be there for them. And they need to know that God loves them and is always ready to forgive their mistakes and sins. With this foundation of love--confidence in God's love and your love--your kids can be strong enough to handle the many things that come across their paths.


Always ask God for guidance He will always help.
 
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Hi beloved bride! Boy, have I wondered the same things... We're in a similar situation, where my DH and I weren't really raised Christian - we also don't have many Christians around us, and certainly not parents of young children. Two books that have really helped me are "Captivating" by John and Stasi Eldredge and "Wild at Heart" by Jon Eldredge. They really have not much to do with parenting in PARTICULAR, but rather address each gender generally and what their needs are, with God, individually, and then in marriage. I found a lot out about myself, and it totally changed the way I looked at other women (and men) and what I was teaching my daughters... Fabulous books, both of them. I can't recommend them enough.
 
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