i hurt someone..

[jingster]

i have an online friend who i've been talking to. i've been carrying a lot of guilt inside me because i was angry the other day and i took it out on him who did not deserve my harsh words. i wrote him a few times telling him i'm sorry, but he hasn't wrote back. if i was him, i would need space too. even though i know God has forgiven me for what i've done, i still feel a lot of guilt. God is teaching me that there's nothing i can do now but to pray and keep trusting that God will restore our friendship. it has been hard knowing i can't do anything. sometimes i just want to keep telling him i'm sorry - but that would be annoying. our friendship is really important to me, i have been worrying too much and can't focus on school. i've destroyed a lot of friendships because of my anger. please pray that God will provide peace and security in my life. pray that he will forgive me and our friendship will be restored. (he's a Christian, so hopefully, he's practicing forgiveness) thanks!

 

[Word of Life]

Just hang in there jingster and keep praying that your friendship will be restored.

I have just been through a similar situation as this. I didn't say anything out of anger, but I did promise to do something and I let that person down. It's not what I wanted to do, but I couldn't please everyone. They didn't understand and refused to communicate with me for 3 months. So I took it to God and prayed and we have now re-kindled that friendship again. Of course the trust has been broken and it's going to take a long time for it too be as it was before. But I put all my trust in God to sort it out and spoke to Him about it, even though it hurt me terribly during those 3 months, I still stuck with it and trusted God to have that relationship back and He did.

He will forgive you, I am sure of it, but it may just take a bit of time. When people are hurt we all tend to stay away from places/people that will remind us of certain situations in life that have hurt us. Just keep praying and be strong.

God Bless you.

 

[mounty]

hang in there friend
I too have a temper and although it takes alot for me to lose it ,watch out when i do
I have hurt people during my ranting ,but allow them some space and let them know how sorry you are , also show you mean it by openly working on controling your temper
Im sure your friend will come around ,it is a hard lesson for all of us when we have to live with our mistakes
But it teaches us the damage angrey words can do
You are in my prayers
God Bless xxxxxxxxxx

 

[Dreamer]

I heartily agree with what Word of Life and mounty said. They are right, and along with them, I will pray for you, jingster. My temper is not as bad as it used to be, Praise God. (My husband also praises God for this, lol)

In the past, if a friend did me wrong, I had a very tart mouth and had the ability to chase them away for good. However, when I did that....I burned all those bridges, and couldn't get back across the bridge to the friendships!

Sometimes it seems easier to reject a friend instead of letting time pass and the friendship to strengthen. Does that make sense? But "easy" in this case, is wrong. Easy does not make it right. Sometimes I used to reject people before they got a chance to reject me, because I'd been rejected so many times. Of course, this was years and years ago, and I've completely matured by now. Yeah, right! :embarasse

Well, truthfully, I have matured a lot. It sounds like you are maturing, too, jingster. You have true remorse. You don't want this fellow to be hurting over what you said. It sounds like you have truly repented. Please just keep praying for him; I feel quite sure he will still want to be friends with you!

 

[jingster]

hi all.. thanks for praying for me. he and i have started emailing again, and he's been so sweet. i knew i over-reacted but it has taught me a great lesson about being careful with what i say. i just hope now that more great things can happen for us!