In need of prayers and advice for consequence of Fornication

[Daniel22]

I’ve recently experienced the full effect of the devil and the result of sinful ways, but I’m afraid I’m in too deep. Years ago I met a girl through another friend and started seeing her. I was raised by Christian parents so I know what’s right from wrong so I’m not making excuses but I found it difficult to meet a woman that I believe was the right one for me, a lot of this is based on the world and life I was exposed myself to.
When I first met the girl something felt off about her. She was confident and very interested in me in an odd way. I’ve been the shy type of guy for most of my life and she was able to get me to open up to her. as time has gone on I drifted away into the world and even though I pray everyday, sinning slowly became the norm for me. The woman I met was slowly able to get into my head and slowly as she did, I began to fall for her charm and slowly she had a hold over me, I remember having intercourse with her for the first time and crying after it because i felt wrong in my spirit. But this wasn’t the end, over a few years I kept seeing her on and off and I honestly don’t know how it’s happened when I look back at it. I feel as though I was under some kinda spell, then I’d wake up from the spell but then I go through depression quite a lot, and it would be in these dark times that I would be drawn back into her web, the same patterned carried on for a few years. I’d delete her number and then I’d say I’m never seeing her again but then I’d somehow end up seeing her then I’d stay away for another 6 months. It wasn’t till recently I decided that I’ve met someone I believe is right for me by God, even though I’d known this person for a while I wasn’t quite sure as time has gone on I’ve started to see that she is meant for me.
I finally decided to cut my ties from this other girl who’s web I was in and then she tells me she’s pregnant. It almost felt like a dream because unlike the other times when I decided it was time to stop seeing her, I was fully committed to removing her from my life and settling down and getting married with the one I love. And it almost felt as though she knew I was gone for good so she sees this as a means of developing a hold on her. Now I know I’ve sinned, I know the word of God well enough to know I shouldn’t have been fornicating in the first place, but I also feel as though she had an unexplainable demonic kinda hold over me which I find hard to explain but when you feel it you feel it. I’ve been to church a few times and have had some deliverance prayers to cut of soul ties and unwanted bonds and things along these lines, and everyday I pray about this situation but I really just wanted some advice.
as far as the physical goes the bond is completely broken. theirs not a thing in the world that would take me back there again. I’ve woken up and realised what it is for what it is. But this girl is not someone I feel I’m mentally strong enough to cope with for the rest of my life if she is indeed to have my child If indeed it does happen to be mine. I might sound foolish but im really not as foolish as I sound, which is what makes this harder to beat, its like knowing a trap, seeing it but not being able to control yourself from walking into it, and then now your in it you’re asking yourself how could you be so daft, it’s unthinkable, if somebody else was to tell me this happend to them looking at the facts involved I’d call them an idiot. depression is just a terrible thing and can take you to places that when you look back you question how you could scoop so low. I protected myself most times I did see her and she said she Assured me she was On contraception. an accident happened in one of the times I last saw her which is why her claim could be true. She is a girl that gets around quite a lot and could also be lying but she also might be telling the truth. I’ve prayed to God for forgiveness and it’s a sin I’d never find myself committing again and in a way this has brought me close to God again in a way I’ve never been for a long time. But I just wanted to know if it’s wrong to pray to God to not make her the mother of my child, but at the same time I don’t want to feel like im sinning with prayer and make things worst. This girl really is a big problem and theirs more to her than I can say on here without being negative but she’s not great news all round, and I’m certain she saw a prey and pounced and now even her tone and how she speaks has completely changed. Like a person that’s had a mission all along and now they’ve hit their target. A child is for life, am I wrong as a Christian in praying against any bonds with her or praying against her pregnancy if it is indeed mine, Not saying I’m trying to escape the consequence of my sin but I just feel this will be a complete nightmare with the character I am. Haven’t been able to get a good night sleep in weeks, just been praying a lot and fasting but I once heard a message saying pray that you don’t pray when it’s too late and i feel as though the signals from God was there for me to listen too but I turned a blind eye to it and now I’m on the verge of hell. I know they say theirs always a positive but with this one here ive really bitten of more than I can chew. I look back and think what spirit could possess a man with wisdom to make such daft decisions. Thank you looking foward to feedback. God bless

 

[Andyindauk]

Hi Daniel,

Oh bro, life is really wonderful and our God is really, really wonderful. Why? Because it teaches you as you go along and because God was with you throughout and still despite all of your wrong mad choices He loves you no less than He did before you met this Girl A.

You mentioned that you've now met Girl B and that you're hopeful that she's part of your future. Can I ask,does she know about this possible pregnancy and was there any overlap where you were seeing both girls at the same time? If the answers are no and yes, you need to fess up! It's not fair to her to be building a future together hiding a secret like that, and if Girl B decides to move on then you need to respect that and take it on the chin, and you move on.

With regards to Girl A, you need to make absolutely sure that there's not a single romantic feeling towards her in your head, absolutely none. Really, that shouldn't be that hard if you've got an ounce of of self-respect given that this girl readily sleeps around so that you're not even convinced that you're her baby's father. If there is, you need to pray about that. God is a fantastic amazing father, your father, and like any father of a son who's been a bit of a clown and come back with his tail between his legs, love and forgiveness is something that comes naturally to Him.

Hopefully soon you can get to a place where you feel happy and confident that you have the support of your father God and that He is leading you. You need to pray for bucketfuls of wisdom because there could be serious situations and decisions to make. Are you going to anti natal classes? I would suggest not. Are you going to be present at the birth? I would suggest you ask, you should be there when your son is born but maybe she won't want that.

When the child is born, if you still have doubts that you're the father ask for a paternity test, the CSA will arrange that. Assuming he/she is you need to step up to your responsibilities and make sure you get either joint custody or regular visiting rights Ephesians 6:4 and make sure that you pay good levels of maintenance. 1 Timothy 5:8.

I can't say that you need God more now than you've ever done, that dependence was total the day you were born, it's just that you decided you'd go off road and found the ride very bumpy. You're back on road now, just make sure you stay on it without any further deviation.

Got two reads for you. John 10:1-21, the parable of the good shepherd. Make sure you stay with your father and don't go off wandering again. I urge you to read Pilgrim's Progress by John Bunyan available on Kindle or Amazon, it's written 400 years ago so it's language is a bit Shakespearean. It's an allegory story of a guy called Christian whose journey takes him on all sorts of problems, encounters and issues, very very enlightening.

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Dear Lord God,

My poor dear little brother Daniel has got himself way out of his depth here. Fortunately God he's not out of your reach, rather he's back in the fold, a rescued sheep looking to Jesus as his Good Shepherd. Lord God, it's amazing to read that at in heaven when we stray and return, there's actually a party! Well now that that party's winding down, there's a windy road ahead that needs you Lord to navigate.

I pray Lord that through your Holy Spirit working in his life, you can give my little brother the confidence to to take control of the situation in your name. I pray that he won't be swayed and buffeted around by Girl A or events, rather, I pray that he will stick doggedly to your teachings in the Bible and your will as given to him through your Spirit working in him.

I pray to Lord God that this situation will have had the benefit of increasing his realisation of his dependency upon you and so strengthen his appreciation and realisation of your wonderful love and the absolute power of your forgiveness.

Amen.

 

[Daniel22]

Hi Daniel,

Oh bro, life is really wonderful and our God is really, really wonderful. Why? Because it teaches you as you go along and because God was with you throughout and still despite all of your wrong mad choices He loves you no less than He did before you met this Girl A.

You mentioned that you've now met Girl B and that you're hopeful that she's part of your future. Can I ask,does she know about this possible pregnancy and was there any overlap where you were seeing both girls at the same time? If the answers are no and yes, you need to fess up! It's not fair to her to be building a future together hiding a secret like that, and if Girl B decides to move on then you need to respect that and take it on the chin, and you move on.

With regards to Girl A, you need to make absolutely sure that there's not a single romantic feeling towards her in your head, absolutely none. Really, that shouldn't be that hard if you've got an ounce of of self-respect given that this girl readily sleeps around so that you're not even convinced that you're her baby's father. If there is, you need to pray about that. God is a fantastic amazing father, your father, and like any father of a son who's been a bit of a clown and come back with his tail between his legs, love and forgiveness is something that comes naturally to Him.

Hopefully soon you can get to a place where you feel happy and confident that you have the support of your father God and that He is leading you. You need to pray for bucketfuls of wisdom because there could be serious situations and decisions to make. Are you going to anti natal classes? I would suggest not. Are you going to be present at the birth? I would suggest you ask, you should be there when your son is born but maybe she won't want that.

When the child is born, if you still have doubts that you're the father ask for a paternity test, the CSA will arrange that. Assuming he/she is you need to step up to your responsibilities and make sure you get either joint custody or regular visiting rights Ephesians 6:4 and make sure that you pay good levels of maintenance. 1 Timothy 5:8.

I can't say that you need God more now than you've ever done, that dependence was total the day you were born, it's just that you decided you'd go off road and found the ride very bumpy. You're back on road now, just make sure you stay on it without any further deviation.

Got two reads for you. John 10:1-21, the parable of the good shepherd. Make sure you stay with your father and don't go off wandering again. I urge you to read Pilgrim's Progress by John Bunyan available on Kindle or Amazon, it's written 400 years ago so it's language is a bit Shakespearean. It's an allegory story of a guy called Christian whose journey takes him on all sorts of problems, encounters and issues, very very enlightening.

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Dear Lord God,

My poor dear little brother Daniel has got himself way out of his depth here. Fortunately God he's not out of your reach, rather he's back in the fold, a rescued sheep looking to Jesus as his Good Shepherd. Lord God, it's amazing to read that at in heaven when we stray and return, there's actually a party! Well now that that party's winding down, there's a windy road ahead that needs you Lord to navigate.

I pray Lord that through your Holy Spirit working in his life, you can give my little brother the confidence to to take control of the situation in your name. I pray that he won't be swayed and buffeted around by Girl A or events, rather, I pray that he will stick doggedly to your teachings in the Bible and your will as given to him through your Spirit working in him.

I pray to Lord God that this situation will have had the benefit of increasing his realisation of his dependency upon you and so strengthen his appreciation and realisation of your wonderful love and the absolute power of your forgiveness.

Amen.

Thanks for your words brother, the advice and also the prayers. I’ve stopped seeing anybody altogether until at least this is concluded. I’ll then decide where to go from there with the guidance of God. Thanks for the prayers much appreciated. God bless you

 

[Wnl]

Hi Daniel,
Pray for the girl and her unborn child, instead of looking to escape
your responsibilities in your selfishness.
She has obviously got problems just like you, bless her.
You must face up to your responsibilities if the innocent child is yours.
Are we not supposed to love The whosoever

With Love, Wnl

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Greetings @Daniel22

Praying for your situation brother....knowing that the Lord can untangle the biggest mess and make good out of seemingly bad circumstances.

I believe it is a wise decision not to see anyone right now in a "relationship".....focus on the Lord and dig deep into the Bible. Wait for His leading and guidance.

Repent of all your worldly ways and thank and praise the Lord that He has forgiven you......and be wary of the devil who will try to rob you of the Lord's peace and whisper guilt into your ears.

Without going into my stuff......I would just like to say I know what it is like to be trapped. I was once ensnared into a trap laced with honey and mesmerized by sweet talk and false love. It took 9 years for me to get out, despite our Lord's tender pleas. The end was dramatic and the wounds deep......

But that's history and the Lord has done all things well.....He is all that matters in your life.

Blessings and peace to you.

Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
Psalm 119:10

 

[Daniel22]

Hi Daniel,
Pray for the girl and her unborn child, instead of looking to escape
your responsibilities in your selfishness.
She has obviously got problems just like you, bless her.
You must face up to your responsibilities if the innocent child is yours.
Are we not supposed to love The whosoever

With Love, Wnl

Thanks a lot.
id never avoid a responsibility, in very aware of the value of life and even though I’m nt ready I’m happy to father a child, I’m happy to help them grow and nurture them In the right way, I’ve made a lot of poor decisions in my life and my life long aim would be to prevent my kids from doing the same, I’d feel accomplished if I’m able to do that. With that being said this individual in question played me, theirs numerous factors that hasn’t been mentioned here but she saw a nice guy and the nice guy fell for her trick and now she believes she’s got me where she wants. She waited 11 weeks to tell me she was pregnant, she lied about being on contraception and numerous times gave of the impression she wouldn’t entertain the idea of having a child. I’m probably sounding foolish to you but when your in with someone you know when you’ve been played. Im
Not without guilt in any sense because I’m not a kid and I know what comes with sex and the potential risks involved but at the same time when someone assured you they are against something then all of a sudden tell you their pregnant, 11 whole weeks, claim they was on contra but didn’t realise it then they try to manipulate your mind by making you see their vision of you them and a child. It becomes clear you’ve been played. And if she did play me you’d imagine she would be thinking this child will make me and her closer or become an item but I’m sure I’d be dead in a grave before I ever go anywhere sexually with her again. But to her it’s a game, I could be wrong and just in my head but that’s the feeling I get and like I said I can’t exactly paint the whole picture clearly enough. She might try using the child to control me. The law will always favour her and everything about it will favour her. I’m already fragile mentally having been through depression before which is why this is a big issue for me.

 

[Daniel22]

Greetings @Daniel22

Praying for your situation brother....knowing that the Lord can untangle the biggest mess and make good out of seemingly bad circumstances.

I believe it is a wise decision not to see anyone right now in a "relationship".....focus on the Lord and dig deep into the Bible. Wait for His leading and guidance.

Repent of all your worldly ways and thank and praise the Lord that He has forgiven you......and be wary of the devil who will try to rob you of the Lord's peace and whisper guilt into your ears.

Without going into my stuff......I would just like to say I know what it is like to be trapped. I was once ensnared into a trap laced with honey and mesmerized by sweet talk and false love. It took 9 years for me to get out, despite our Lord's tender pleas. The end was dramatic and the wounds deep......

But that's history and the Lord has done all things well.....He is all that matters in your life.

Blessings and peace to you.

Thy word is a lamp unto my feet, and a light unto my path.
Psalm 119:10

thanks for your response.
I've stopped seeing anyone altogether, even someone I have serious feelings for and want to settle with, need to get a closure on this first before I go any further.And just been doing a lot of praying because I feel under some form of control sometimes that leads me to making destructive decisions and then I regret it later. That’s why it hurts more when you know better and look back and think how could I do such a thing. How could I even put myself at risk in such a way, the trouble I’m facing cant even measure up in any way to the tiny bit of pleasure I recieved from this individual and I always gave her a treat of some sort cos I don’t believe I taking without giving from anyone in life. I’m sure Gods will will be done with every matter in my life. He knows I know I’m guilty and he knows what im guilty off. I’ve confessed my sins and changed my ways. I’ll keep praying because this is for life and I’m against it for numerous reasons but I can’t be naive at the same time to the facts that’s what’s happened has happened. But if God is up there paying attention to me i won’t stop praying. A child is for life, I’m nt gona stop praying to him to change this situation but I’m also ready to accept the response either way.
Looking back I think I was just too nice towards her, she saw a chance and she took it, and it’s just shocking to see lies rolling of her tongue, she thinks she’s smart, a manipulator but it’s a shame it took long for me to realise her game. But I’m not guilt free because fornication is a sin so either way im
Guilty so I have to deal based on that and forget my personal feelings.
I’ll do what I can if indeed the lord says she will have my child. God bless you abundantly and may all your hearts desires be granted.

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Greetings @Daniel22

The Lord knows your heart.
He knows how much you regret things that have happened in your life.
You can't turn back time....but you can move forward in the Lord's strength and with His blessing if you keep your focus on Him.

He will lead you.

Keep us updated.

Blessings and Christian love.

 

[Daniel22]

Greetings @Daniel22

The Lord knows your heart.
He knows how much you regret things that have happened in your life.
You can't turn back time....but you can move forward in the Lord's strength and with His blessing if you keep your focus on Him.

He will lead you.

Keep us updated.

Blessings and Christian love.

Thank you will do. God bless you

 

[Andyindauk]

Hi Daniel, it's me again.

I'm wondering whether or not you are being a little bit harsh towards your ex, even bitter and resentful? I'm seeing precious little love towards her (I'm talking Jesus type love here Matthew 5:44 (BTW she's not your enemy) as opposed to erotic love). I'm not sure how you feel she's wronged you? From what I can see, you're saying that she was a good time girl and you gave her a good time, she must have fancied and made a move on you and you succumbed. You failed to heed the advice of the world and practice safe sex. OK maybe she was careless with birth control, but so were you. In any case birth control isn't 100%.

You seem quite callous and judgemental of her, but like I say I'm not sure what she's done wrong. You seem to be looking down upon her as some sort of a **** that seduced poor innocent you and now you're kicking yourself for getting involved with her. She's not to blame, you are. You knew that falling into her bed was against all advice in the Bible, but disregarding that, you jumped in.

She may have had her reasons for delaying telling you about the pregnancy, perhaps miscarriage, perhaps she might have feared you'd nag her to get an abortion.

Really you need to show her more love and respect. She'll be the mother of your son or daughter, you need to pray for her and show her love and support. Be there for her. Try to slip in references to your faith as a subtle witness, avoiding a preaching rant. I'm pleased that you're not seeking to duck your responsibilities but an improvement in your attitude towards her would be appropriate. Following the birth you need to try and see the baby as much as possible as he/she grows up.

Please mate, I'm not telling you off and I'm certainly not judging you. I've been there myself fortunately without the pregnancy angle so I'm in no position to do anything other than advise.

My advice to you is, you are where you are, you've confessed your sin to God and repented, now forgive yourself, get a grip, move on and stop beating yourself up. You need to not man up, but God up. Pray for guidance and wisdom from the Holy Spirit and take charge by working with your ex. I might modify my earlier advice about antenatal classes if you are 100% sure you won't again succumb and get back with her.

If this other girl is a believer and is prepared to support you, I don't see a problem there. Again ask for God's will with that.

Please do keep us posted with updates.

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Lord God, we all of us have sinned and fallen short of your glory. We each of us ask you for your help and intervention in dealing with the consequences of our sins and rebellious disregard of your holy will. Some God would think what a cheek, but not you dear God, such is the extent of your love that that's an entirely reasonable request, you love us so dearly you're happy to either deal with or help us to deal with the consequences of our sins.

It's in this spirit we ask of our dear brother Daniel to rebuild his confidence in you, to accept and believe in your forgiveness and you help and assistance in dealing with the situation he finds himself in. Lord through your Holy Spirit working in his life, please give him wisdom and confidence.

Lord, you allowed this to happen to bring glory to your name. I pray Lord for his ex, I pray for her soul that she will see a glimpse of you in Daniel and want some of you.

Amen.

 

[Daniel22]

Hi Daniel, it's me again.

I'm wondering whether or not you are being a little bit harsh towards your ex, even bitter and resentful? I'm seeing precious little love towards her (I'm talking Jesus type love here Matthew 5:44 (BTW she's not your enemy) as opposed to erotic love). I'm not sure how you feel she's wronged you? From what I can see, you're saying that she was a good time girl and you gave her a good time, she must have fancied and made a move on you and you succumbed. You failed to heed the advice of the world and practice safe sex. OK maybe she was careless with birth control, but so were you. In any case birth control isn't 100%.

You seem quite callous and judgemental of her, but like I say I'm not sure what she's done wrong. You seem to be looking down upon her as some sort of a **** that seduced poor innocent you and now you're kicking yourself for getting involved with her. She's not to blame, you are. You knew that falling into her bed was against all advice in the Bible, but disregarding that, you jumped in.

She may have had her reasons for delaying telling you about the pregnancy, perhaps miscarriage, perhaps she might have feared you'd nag her to get an abortion.

Really you need to show her more love and respect. She'll be the mother of your son or daughter, you need to pray for her and show her love and support. Be there for her. Try to slip in references to your faith as a subtle witness, avoiding a preaching rant. I'm pleased that you're not seeking to duck your responsibilities but an improvement in your attitude towards her would be appropriate. Following the birth you need to try and see the baby as much as possible as he/she grows up.

Please mate, I'm not telling you off and I'm certainly not judging you. I've been there myself fortunately without the pregnancy angle so I'm in no position to do anything other than advise.

My advice to you is, you are where you are, you've confessed your sin to God and repented, now forgive yourself, get a grip, move on and stop beating yourself up. You need to not man up, but God up. Pray for guidance and wisdom from the Holy Spirit and take charge by working with your ex. I might modify my earlier advice about antenatal classes if you are 100% sure you won't again succumb and get back with her.

If this other girl is a believer and is prepared to support you, I don't see a problem there. Again ask for God's will with that.

Please do keep us posted with updates.

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Lord God, we all of us have sinned and fallen short of your glory. We each of us ask you for your help and intervention in dealing with the consequences of our sins and rebellious disregard of your holy will. Some God would think what a cheek, but not you dear God, such is the extent of your love that that's an entirely reasonable request, you love us so dearly you're happy to either deal with or help us to deal with the consequences of our sins.

It's in this spirit we ask of our dear brother Daniel to rebuild his confidence in you, to accept and believe in your forgiveness and you help and assistance in dealing with the situation he finds himself in. Lord through your Holy Spirit working in his life, please give him wisdom and confidence.

Lord, you allowed this to happen to bring glory to your name. I pray Lord for his ex, I pray for her soul that she will see a glimpse of you in Daniel and want some of you.

Amen.

I’m with you brother. Perhaps I was going off on her a little bit. Guess I just genuinely feel let down. But your right I know what I did wrong I’ll try to develop some real love for her as God has done towards me. So far my comminunication with her has been civil and polite and I do pray for her when I talk to God about it. Perhaps maybe he himself wants me to learn a life lesson from all this and I’m sure things will happen according to his will irrespective of how I feel about her and I’m sure I’ll grow to love her and respect her for who she is in my life as time goes on if it does happen that it’s mine. Guess it just takes a while to accept things when you didn’t anticipate it happening but your right. Thanks again bro. God bless

 

[BlessedBeyondBelief]

Get a paternity test.
If its yours, marry her and do your best.
(Not a fan of this, but if you made a life, best thing you can do for it is provide a stable home)
If not, move on and sin no more.

 

[Enxu]

Daniel, your sin brought to mind the sin King David committed with Bathsheba in the OT. I believe you should mimic David’s repentance and humble acceptance of the consequences that came along with his sin of adultery and murder. David’s sin brought about the death of his child and also brought the sword upon his family. You can read the OT as to how King David humbly accepted all these consequences. There will be an earthly consequence as well to your sin (which only God knows what it will be), just be willing to accept it when it comes.

Repentance means a complete turning away from the sin that was committed. There will be temptations that draw you back again and again, pray therefore to Jesus to give you the strength to overcome sin and flee from temptations. Fleeing means avoiding all associations with the wrong people and from setting your eyes on any source of temptations (including TV, internet etc) Devout men of God had a practise of not even looking at virgins in order not to be tempted by them, this is written in the Scriptures and you can practise that as well to avoid falling into sin.

 

[Enxu]

Get a paternity test.
If its yours, marry her and do your best.
(Not a fan of this, but if you made a life, best thing you can do for it is provide a stable home)
If not, move on and sin no more.

I am sorry but I have to object the part about marrying that woman. If the woman is an unbeliever, which I firmly believe so, then the OP cannot be unequally yoked with her. Besides, if she is of the devil, marrying her could mean leading the OP into graver sin and turning away from God. This happened many times to wicked kings of Israel such as Ahab who was led astray by the wicked woman Jezebel.

I do agree that the OP needs to be the financial support of any child that comes along, but much wisdom is needed in how to do this, WITHOUT maintaining any more unholy associations with the woman who enticed him into fornication.

 

[Daniel22]

I am sorry but I have to object the part about marrying that woman. If the woman is an unbeliever, which I firmly believe so, then the OP cannot be unequally yoked with her. Besides, if she is of the devil, marrying her could mean leading the OP into graver sin and turning away from God. This happened many times to wicked kings of Israel such as Ahab who was led astray by the wicked woman Jezebel.

I do agree that the OP needs to be the financial support of any child that comes along, but much wisdom is needed in how to do this, WITHOUT maintaining any more unholy associations with the woman who enticed him into fornication.

Have to agree with you. Marriage is not even an option with her in the slightest of ways. I’ll wait to see how it goes and do my duties as a father if it’s mine and will move one with my life find a good woman and get married and do my best to father the child. God really sees my heart in all this and if it’s his will for me the circumstances around it will favour me and the child as well and the girl herself also. Thanks for your input it’s much appreciated.

 

[Jellani]

I’ve recently experienced the full effect of the devil and the result of sinful ways, but I’m afraid I’m in too deep. Years ago I met a girl through another friend and started seeing her. I was raised by Christian parents so I know what’s right from wrong so I’m not making excuses but I found it difficult to meet a woman that I believe was the right one for me, a lot of this is based on the world and life I was exposed myself to.
When I first met the girl something felt off about her. She was confident and very interested in me in an odd way. I’ve been the shy type of guy for most of my life and she was able to get me to open up to her. as time has gone on I drifted away into the world and even though I pray everyday, sinning slowly became the norm for me. The woman I met was slowly able to get into my head and slowly as she did, I began to fall for her charm and slowly she had a hold over me, I remember having intercourse with her for the first time and crying after it because i felt wrong in my spirit. But this wasn’t the end, over a few years I kept seeing her on and off and I honestly don’t know how it’s happened when I look back at it. I feel as though I was under some kinda spell, then I’d wake up from the spell but then I go through depression quite a lot, and it would be in these dark times that I would be drawn back into her web, the same patterned carried on for a few years. I’d delete her number and then I’d say I’m never seeing her again but then I’d somehow end up seeing her then I’d stay away for another 6 months. It wasn’t till recently I decided that I’ve met someone I believe is right for me by God, even though I’d known this person for a while I wasn’t quite sure as time has gone on I’ve started to see that she is meant for me.
I finally decided to cut my ties from this other girl who’s web I was in and then she tells me she’s pregnant. It almost felt like a dream because unlike the other times when I decided it was time to stop seeing her, I was fully committed to removing her from my life and settling down and getting married with the one I love. And it almost felt as though she knew I was gone for good so she sees this as a means of developing a hold on her. Now I know I’ve sinned, I know the word of God well enough to know I shouldn’t have been fornicating in the first place, but I also feel as though she had an unexplainable demonic kinda hold over me which I find hard to explain but when you feel it you feel it. I’ve been to church a few times and have had some deliverance prayers to cut of soul ties and unwanted bonds and things along these lines, and everyday I pray about this situation but I really just wanted some advice.
as far as the physical goes the bond is completely broken. theirs not a thing in the world that would take me back there again. I’ve woken up and realised what it is for what it is. But this girl is not someone I feel I’m mentally strong enough to cope with for the rest of my life if she is indeed to have my child If indeed it does happen to be mine. I might sound foolish but im really not as foolish as I sound, which is what makes this harder to beat, its like knowing a trap, seeing it but not being able to control yourself from walking into it, and then now your in it you’re asking yourself how could you be so daft, it’s unthinkable, if somebody else was to tell me this happend to them looking at the facts involved I’d call them an idiot. depression is just a terrible thing and can take you to places that when you look back you question how you could scoop so low. I protected myself most times I did see her and she said she Assured me she was On contraception. an accident happened in one of the times I last saw her which is why her claim could be true. She is a girl that gets around quite a lot and could also be lying but she also might be telling the truth. I’ve prayed to God for forgiveness and it’s a sin I’d never find myself committing again and in a way this has brought me close to God again in a way I’ve never been for a long time. But I just wanted to know if it’s wrong to pray to God to not make her the mother of my child, but at the same time I don’t want to feel like im sinning with prayer and make things worst. This girl really is a big problem and theirs more to her than I can say on here without being negative but she’s not great news all round, and I’m certain she saw a prey and pounced and now even her tone and how she speaks has completely changed. Like a person that’s had a mission all along and now they’ve hit their target. A child is for life, am I wrong as a Christian in praying against any bonds with her or praying against her pregnancy if it is indeed mine, Not saying I’m trying to escape the consequence of my sin but I just feel this will be a complete nightmare with the character I am. Haven’t been able to get a good night sleep in weeks, just been praying a lot and fasting but I once heard a message saying pray that you don’t pray when it’s too late and i feel as though the signals from God was there for me to listen too but I turned a blind eye to it and now I’m on the verge of hell. I know they say theirs always a positive but with this one here ive really bitten of more than I can chew. I look back and think what spirit could possess a man with wisdom to make such daft decisions. Thank you looking foward to feedback. God bless

Greetings Brother,
I will apologized for being so straight on my point here and i think you can take up solid food since you’ve said your a long time Christian. As I was reading your message i felt you’re putting a lot of blame to that girl as if you don’t know what you are doing on that time. Please be man up enough. Im sorry to say that. One of the brother are right please do pray for her instead of pointing fingers on her.

God sometimes put people in our lives to use us to be the light for them. But if we show hatred instead of love ( sisterly love ) and forgivenesses we can never show what real love of Jesus is. Try also to assess yourself and your heart regarding this matter and dont make that lady felt that she’s someone that is not worth of anybody’s love and respect.

Shalom. Bless you

 

[Jellani]

I’m with you brother. Perhaps I was going off on her a little bit. Guess I just genuinely feel let down. But your right I know what I did wrong I’ll try to develop some real love for her as God has done towards me. So far my comminunication with her has been civil and polite and I do pray for her when I talk to God about it. Perhaps maybe he himself wants me to learn a life lesson from all this and I’m sure things will happen according to his will irrespective of how I feel about her and I’m sure I’ll grow to love her and respect her for who she is in my life as time goes on if it does happen that it’s mine. Guess it just takes a while to accept things when you didn’t anticipate it happening but your right. Thanks again bro. God bless

Missed reading this, but thank God He works in mysterious ways into our heart.
We are indeed working in progress, like David its not how we fall, but how we get up.

Shalom! God be with us always.

P.S forgive me for being a bit harsh with my words. I just felt bad for the poor lady.
My Pastor used to tell me when someone did wrong to you, don’t hate the person hate the evil spirit on that person because he/she are victim too of that spirit.