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[the_unknown]

So I'm 17
Is having a girlfriend a sin? I think it is for it will surely you know cause some lust if you will.
Is having a social life a sin? I also think it is since it might distract and interfere with my relationship with God if I am engrossed with relationship with other people.
Is having hobbies a sin? I also think it is. I was once an otaku and it took over my life but I'm now over it. I'm now into MMA and it also seems to be wrong so what should I do?
Is having a dream a sin? Well to some degree I think it is. I'm studying to get a good future and gain income but this world is only temporary so yeah...
ANy Thoughts? Teenage years is supposed to be fun but I don't see anything fun about it.

 

[Jacob123]

Having a girlfriend isn't a sin, God put her in your life so you could have a companion. When you get lustful thoughts about her, then just remember that she is a daughter of God and God wouldn't want you thinking about his daughter like that.

Having a social life isn't a sin either, as you could have great social life with other strong Christians who draw you closer to God.

Hobbies aren't a problem unless they get in the way of you and God.

If your having inappropriate dream, then I recommend monitoring what you put into your head. If you still have a bad dream pop up every once in a while, then don't beat yourself as we can only control what we dream about to a certain degree.

 

[the_unknown]

Thanks for answering my questions...

So God knows that males will inevitably at some point in time lust towards a female so... I really don't get it why put a female in front of a male is it a test or what?

I mean dream as my goal in life. Everyone wants to be successful but does longing for this world's treasures (good life) a sin?

 

[Jacob123]

With your life goals, there is no problem with wanting to be successful . If it is all you can focus on, then yes it can be a problem.

Women aren't meant to be "tests", the reason we sometimes will indulge in lustful thoughts is because satan perverted our interests in women. God made us interested in women so that one day we would leave our parents, get married and start our own family. Satan knows men have a weak spot for women and he attacks that weak spot through things like playboy and porn.

 

[loverules]

you could say most worldly women also have a weak spot for men.
i knew a couple of girls from a school i went to and they used to talk about men ALL the time.
BOTH men and women have weak spots for the opposite gender
but if you have God on your side you can fight it and say NO.

x kirsty x

 

[skipbeat]

My thought

I have some thoughts on your post, but keep in mind this are just my thoughts. I hope the help you a bit.

There is no sin in something as long as you know in your heart that what your doing has a will that does not go against the will of God. Doing what you feel has a good purpose behind it.

There is no sin in having one that you care for. If you believe in yourself and your God, then surely you know Our God is a jealous God. Yet he does not condemn us into isolation. He tells us to love one another just as he loves us. There is no sin in being with people we care for. There is one thing that only we have that none other of the Lords creation has. We are made in his image and we have free will.

Yes the world as we know it now is corrupted but that does not mean our will is also. If we follow the will of God and know wrong from right then we will never swerve from the right road. Having a hobby is nice as long as it does not take over your responsibly as a follower of the Lord. There is no wrong in having a dream. We all have a purpose in this life even though this life is only temporary. Our dreams are a part of us and it justifies who we are and what matters to us. And there is no wrong in that as long as our dream is with a good purpose.

Teenage years are meant to be the year where you find yourself in the mist of many others, and your purpose in life as you grow toward adult hood, but in our circular world now it’s more then ever hard to do that. Yet we have places like this to help us and of course the bible, and if not youth groups.

I hope this helps :wink:

 

[romans116]

Is having a girlfriend a sin? No. but we are supposed to guard our hearts. when temptation comes, fight sin by prayer, and reading the word. it is real helpful
Is having a social life a sin? no. actually its probably a good thing. it brings fellowship. it is written that when two or more come in His name, He will be there with them. it can also help with witnessing.
Is having hobbies a sin? Yes if it comes before the Lord.
Is having a dream a sin? Eh, im not so sure about this one..looks like time for some research

 

[dannibear]

Having a girlfriend isn't a sin, God put her in your life so you could have a companion. When you get lustful thoughts about her, then just remember that she is a daughter of God and God wouldn't want you thinking about his daughter like that.

That is a great way to put it...this can apply to me to, since I have a boyfriend.
I can just switch daughter for son, and I am sure it is just as good.
That will help me a lot.

 

[dannibear]

you could say most worldly women also have a weak spot for men.
i knew a couple of girls from a school i went to and they used to talk about men ALL the time.
BOTH men and women have weak spots for the opposite gender
but if you have God on your side you can fight it and say NO.

x kirsty x

I have that problem, but not so much in that way.
If I planned on spending time with my boyfriend (we have been dating for
a year and 7 months now), and something happens where it gets cancelled and its out of our control, I get upset when I shouldn't. I love him and am always wanting to be with him, but instead of being a little baby about it when things happen (lol) then I should take that as extra time to spend with God instead.
I need to find someone to be accountable to though when I get cranky.

 

[Giggles4God]

Okay this is coming from a gal who's much older, but remembers being a teen very well :laugh:

These are just my thoughts on these things, okay?

I never dated when I was in high school. I had two boyfriends in college. One ended up being my husband. Why do people date? Some teens have so many boyfriends/girlfriends that I cringe to think what their married life will be like. Will they drop their spouse when things get rough like they did their bf/gf in high school? That's scary.

Maybe that is why I didn't date for just the sake of dating, but 'dated' because I was looking for my ever after guy who would love me when my hair turned white.

If you think that dating will cause you to lust or be tempted in some way, then you need to find ways to NOT be alone with your date. Group date. Pray to God about it with and without them. Or if dating is a sin to you, then don't do it. God will reveal your future wife to you in time.

You know most of these things are your convictions and not sins found in the Bible. Do a search for them in the Bible. If we were not to have a social life or hobbies or dreams, God would have told us so.

Also, anything we exalt above God, is an idol. So, I would pray about those and ask God to show you anything that is taking the place of God. I think that is the main issue here. And then work on putting God back on the throne of your life.