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HOW DO YOU KNOW IF HE IS GOD'S WILL FOR YOU?
by Rev. Angelika R. Heimann, inStrengths Ministries
Are you in a relationship with the *right one* for the right reasons?
Or are you just in love with love?
Love is NOT enough!
We all want to be sure that the person we envisage to spend the rest of our lives with IS the right one.
There are so many reasons why we should want to be with the ‘right’ one! Am I implying that there is just *one* person *ever* earmarked by God, and should you miss ‘that’ specific one you’ve had it?? No, not at all!
God is gracious and merciful far more than we can imagine, and He’s always looking for ways to bless us with what He knows is best for us, and He directs our desires.
He also knows our paths and what’s ahead of us, He made us, after all. So He knows which people are best for us to be aligned with to be the best we’re created to be.
Many people stumble into relationships for whatever reasons, and then get married. Some manage to get to know each other after many hurdles, and come to love each other more. Others, despite obstacles, have heard His voice in their hearts, saying, ‘that’s the one I have for you’, and are growing, blossoming and thriving!
Unfortunately there are even more people who think they know that they are with the right one, only to find out much later they wound up in a heartbreak, pain, torment ... and divorce.
Too many times have I heard this scripture:
"So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." (Matthew 19:6 NKJV)
.... used by well meaning Christians as a shackle against those hurt and damaged seeking a divorce. Yes, God hates divorce, but a very high percentage of Christian marriages were never put together by Him. And if we had been diligent in paying attention, we would have come to know His warning signs.
Maybe you're with the right person, and you know it, but you're loving wrong. You and your partner may have poor communication habits. You may not know how to create real intimacy. Maybe you don't know how ask for what you want, and end up feeling resentful. Or, maybe you've been neglecting the relationship .....
Then again, you may be with the wrong person. Deep down in your heart you know. It might show up in various ways such as your love or life-style is incompatible with each other. Maybe you do not share enough common values and commitments. ...
How to get it right BEFORE the 'I do':
So, it would make sense seeking His will beforehand and making absolutely sure that it is God who does the joining, and not a myriad of other good sounding reasons, or pressure from family and church members.
A good starting point is to use the same prayer the apostles prayed when they sought for a replacement for Judas, and adapt it appropriately:
"And they prayed and said, "You, O Lord, who know the hearts of all, show which of these two You have chosen to take part in this ministry and apostleship from which Judas by transgression fell, that he might go to his own place." (Acts 1:24,25 NKJV)
..... "You, O Lord, who know the hearts of all, show who You have chosen" ......
The following are some tips and food for thought from one of my seminar/workshops* that will point you into the right direction.
by Rev. Angelika R. Heimann, inStrengths Ministries
Are you in a relationship with the *right one* for the right reasons?
Or are you just in love with love?
Love is NOT enough!
We all want to be sure that the person we envisage to spend the rest of our lives with IS the right one.
There are so many reasons why we should want to be with the ‘right’ one! Am I implying that there is just *one* person *ever* earmarked by God, and should you miss ‘that’ specific one you’ve had it?? No, not at all!
God is gracious and merciful far more than we can imagine, and He’s always looking for ways to bless us with what He knows is best for us, and He directs our desires.
He also knows our paths and what’s ahead of us, He made us, after all. So He knows which people are best for us to be aligned with to be the best we’re created to be.
Many people stumble into relationships for whatever reasons, and then get married. Some manage to get to know each other after many hurdles, and come to love each other more. Others, despite obstacles, have heard His voice in their hearts, saying, ‘that’s the one I have for you’, and are growing, blossoming and thriving!
Unfortunately there are even more people who think they know that they are with the right one, only to find out much later they wound up in a heartbreak, pain, torment ... and divorce.
Too many times have I heard this scripture:
"So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." (Matthew 19:6 NKJV)
.... used by well meaning Christians as a shackle against those hurt and damaged seeking a divorce. Yes, God hates divorce, but a very high percentage of Christian marriages were never put together by Him. And if we had been diligent in paying attention, we would have come to know His warning signs.
Maybe you're with the right person, and you know it, but you're loving wrong. You and your partner may have poor communication habits. You may not know how to create real intimacy. Maybe you don't know how ask for what you want, and end up feeling resentful. Or, maybe you've been neglecting the relationship .....
Then again, you may be with the wrong person. Deep down in your heart you know. It might show up in various ways such as your love or life-style is incompatible with each other. Maybe you do not share enough common values and commitments. ...
How to get it right BEFORE the 'I do':
So, it would make sense seeking His will beforehand and making absolutely sure that it is God who does the joining, and not a myriad of other good sounding reasons, or pressure from family and church members.
A good starting point is to use the same prayer the apostles prayed when they sought for a replacement for Judas, and adapt it appropriately:
"And they prayed and said, "You, O Lord, who know the hearts of all, show which of these two You have chosen to take part in this ministry and apostleship from which Judas by transgression fell, that he might go to his own place." (Acts 1:24,25 NKJV)
..... "You, O Lord, who know the hearts of all, show who You have chosen" ......
The following are some tips and food for thought from one of my seminar/workshops* that will point you into the right direction.