Just a friendly voice

[Sapphire]

I wasn't sure about putting this under the "Soulmate" thread, but it did seem appropriate for the Fellowship section. I'm not seeking anyone - I felt I should make that clear up front.

I usually have no problem with writing, but this seems to be a bit more difficult than I anticipated. I've recently gone thru a divorce. The whole situation has been very painful & it's been one I need to put behind me. The only thing is.....the emotions don't stop when the papers are signed. People tell you to begin to go out again & that's the very last thing I want to do. I would, however, find comfort in a friendly voice. And I know I'm going out on a limb here, but part of me wants it to be a male voice. From a distance.

I kept hearing from my friends how strong I am. I know better......I'm strong at times but there are other times I crumble at the slightest thing.

So, if you read this & God puts it on your heart to reply....thanks for listening. It won't matter so much what you say, just that you did.

 

[amadeus2]

I wasn't sure about putting this under the "Soulmate" thread, but it did seem appropriate for the Fellowship section. I'm not seeking anyone - I felt I should make that clear up front.

I usually have no problem with writing, but this seems to be a bit more difficult than I anticipated. I've recently gone thru a divorce. The whole situation has been very painful & it's been one I need to put behind me. The only thing is.....the emotions don't stop when the papers are signed. People tell you to begin to go out again & that's the very last thing I want to do. I would, however, find comfort in a friendly voice. And I know I'm going out on a limb here, but part of me wants it to be a male voice. From a distance.

I kept hearing from my friends how strong I am. I know better......I'm strong at times but there are other times I crumble at the slightest thing.

So, if you read this & God puts it on your heart to reply....thanks for listening. It won't matter so much what you say, just that you did.

Remember that you do not forget all of the pain and hurt that has gone before caused by the other person or by you. I have been happily married to the same woman for 41 years, but there was life before that. God won't let me forget the ones I hurt or the ones who hurt me. But... in order to please God, I must go forward growing with Him even though there is pain which doesn't go away for them and for me.

So what of my wife? She has her pain also and the Lord has given us each other to help us bear what must be born. We are given loads to bear, or we have taken on ourselves by our actions loads to bear, but while they may be painful, with God's help what load is too heavy? The end of the hard road is not yet, but in the interim...?

"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." Matt 11:28

 

[Sapphire]

I know I won't forget the pain - but I do look forward to the day it doesn't pierce so deeply. To be made to feel so insignificant, so belittled - it hurts. Words hurt. Just as words can heal. I tell myself I'm ready to move on & put all this behind me & a fresh wave of pain comes over me so strong that it physically stops me from doing anything but crying from deep within my soul.

I know women hurt men too but I can only speak from this perspective.

 

[amadeus2]

I know I won't forget the pain - but I do look forward to the day it doesn't pierce so deeply. To be made to feel so insignificant, so belittled - it hurts. Words hurt. Just as words can heal. I tell myself I'm ready to move on & put all this behind me & a fresh wave of pain comes over me so strong that it physically stops me from doing anything but crying from deep within my soul.

I know women hurt men too but I can only speak from this perspective.

I will keep praying for you, but you must also seek God yourself. If you come to Him openly and completely, He will help you through it. Now it is recent and the pain is acute. If you have a close friend or family member you trust, try to be with them and, if possible, to pray with them.

 

[Sapphire]

Thank you. I do appreciate your prayers. I am seeking God & I have had family members praying for me also. I do have friends I've shared this with & I'm sure they are praying. It's very difficult to explain.......thank you for your responses tho.