life changes

[Erica]

some back history: My grandma passed away last August, and then my grandpa (her husband) passed away in October. I am so extremely close to my family, and this broke my heart. As I'm typing this I'm crying just thinking about them. I miss them more than I've ever missed anything. They are the beginning to my faith in Jesus Christ. Through all the trials that they went through in life they still kept their faith, and raised my dad and uncles the same way. They were both so selfless and the love that they had for each other is like a fairytale.
I was with my boyfriend for 4 years, and I just kept waiting on that ring. After My grandparents passed I took a look at my life and realized how meaningless it was. It opened my eyes to my relationship with my boyfriend.... "no wonder he didn't want to marry me... like they say - Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". So, I told him that I wanted to recommit my life, and wait until marriage to have sex again. He broke up with me. After 4 years he won't even say "boo" to me. WE WORK AT THE SAME COMPANY (of only 23 people)!!!! It breaks my heart that he didn't love me enough to make that commitment to wait. I know that this is all in God's plan. He obviously isn't the man that God wants for me. I just feel like I've wasted so much time. Please pray for me.

 

[Chad]

Hi @Erica

Sorry to hear about the loss of your grandparents. I also lost my grandpa couple months back. As far as your boyfriend goes, it's heartbreaking but please hear me out. He's not worthy of your life and yourself. You did the right thing and nothing is greater than walking in the will of GOD. If a man doesn't lead you to Christ and put Christ first in his life, he's not worthy. GOD will bless you with the right one. Be at peace knowing this truth. I'm speaking from experience as well, I'm divorced from my ex wife and I'm trusting Him to match me up with a Proverbs 31 woman.

 

[kvnchrist]

I too am sorry for your loss of your grandparents. Grieve for them, not your quote/unquote, so-called relationship with this other person. I see no loss in not being around a person such as that.

BOYFRIEND? This term is puzzling. Why do you call this person who you had sex with a friend. I mean the boy part is obvious but the friend I can't see.

His actions remind me more of lust than love.. You don't use the person you love and he obviously used you, because as soon as the effort of the relation shifted to him, he vanished.

As far as wasting time, the time would have been wasted if you had not learned anything from the experience. You did and now you have the wisdom of your experience to share with others who may be going through similar situations.

You have dodged a bullet that could have very well disrupted your entire life, If sex was all he wanted you might haven't been able to satiate his lusts and he could have very well went out to find additional partners and bring something back to you that you really didn't want.

There is a reason that God made laws against such things and it is not just to serve him that we are to obey his laws. It is also to our best interest and to our physical, mental and morale well being as human beings. He knows us and knows the consequences of our actions. An uncommitted relationship is not a relationship it is an acquaintance with benefits.

I will prey for you, but I'm sure that you know what you must do. God will show you the path but it is up to you to walk it and away from things like this boy.

 

[mercy777]

My deepest condolences on your loss beloved. It's hard sometimes when loved ones are taken from us but we also know that some day we will see them again. "Because he lives, we live!". They have fought the good fight of faith and finished the race. Now they can rest awhile but you are not alone. praying for you...

 

[Brad Huber]

Sorry for your pain. Glad to pray for you. You may consider getting a new job to get away from him, otherwise your pain will turn into anger and worse. Now that you have rededicated your life to Christ, avoid new boyfriends for at least a year to avoid replacing one bad with another. Perhaps after that time and with a new job, you can begin praying God lead you to a good man for companionship and eventual marriage.

 

[rizen1]

Praying that you find peace and comfort. This song has always brought comfort in moments of confusion.
Just be Still.
Worth It All by Rita Springer - YouTube | Talk Jesus