Little Help Please?

[lnrobar]

Hey you guys, I am sorry I haven't posted in a while, I've just been sitting back and listening!
Any who, I need some advice and prayers.
I moved out from my mother's house due to my step-brother, then I move out to my aunts house. Things were rocky so I moved in with my dad. Who I haven't lived with all my life. And I am not 18 yet, and they are wanting me to pay some bills now that I have a job. It really hurts my feelings that they are going to make me do this. I mean, I have what? 3 months untill I am 18, responsible for my own actions, responsible for my own bills. But I do not think it is right for them to make me pay when I am not even 18, and they did not make my other sisters or brother pay when they weren't supposed to. I mean, I have no where to go! I can't go back to mom, and I am not moving back with my aunt, and I have no where to go! I just wish I could leave them, and get out on my own. It would be better. It's not that I dont want to pay that's the problem, The problem is that they want me to, when I am not 18. His own daughter! You get my point? I do not know what to do!
If there is anyone who has any advice for me, I will recieve it with gladness!
I was laying in my room crying to God, and I turned on some music, and a song came on talking about all God has done, and to give your problems to Him, and I know this. And I tought to myself "Quit thinking about what is wrong in your life, and what you dont have and what you are going through. Think about what is right in your life, and what you have and what you have been through with God."
It's amazing what it will do when you feel like throwing in the towel! :shade:

 

[TDS52]

Maybe it is to teach you responsibility for when you are on your own..reminding you of what your money should be spent on and not careless, selfish spending. I do not know all the details and I'm sure you think it unfair, but think of it as a lesson to be learned. I'm sure that GOD will show you the purpose behind it, as you seek HIS understanding.It might help you budget your money and see if you will be able to make it on your own...probably for your own good. May GOD bless you!!!

 

[lnrobar]

Maybe it is to teach you responsibility for when you are on your own..reminding you of what your money should be spent on and not careless, selfish spending. I do not know all the details and I'm sure you think it unfair, but think of it as a lesson to be learned. I'm sure that GOD will show you the purpose behind it, as you seek HIS understanding.It might help you budget your money and see if you will be able to make it on your own...probably for your own good. May GOD bless you!!!

Honest? I do see this as unfair. I'm not going to sugar coat this and say its all ok. It is not fair. All my life, I have lived with my mom. My dad and step-mom have lived with her three kids. You know, they have helped them out in their times of need, but not me. My dad told me that when I got my license he would help me get a car cause he helped my brothers and sister get a car. Who got me a car? My mom and step-dad. Well really my step-dad. When my brother and his wife need help with money or something, they loan them some, and they do their best to help them all they can. But where I have not been able to live with them, they do not treat me as an equal, but as an opportunity to control and better my life to what they think. They never did this to my other siblings, and if you had a child and they were the youngest child and the last one to move out of the home, would you make them pay you to live there with you? No! I wouldn't anyways. I mean gosh! I would want them to save all the money they can!


I just keep trying and trying, and no matter how much I give it all to the Lord, the devil still fights with me. He wont let me rest for a while. Just a little bit. But I have been told that when the devil fights you, you got to be doing something right. When he leaves you alone is when you have to worry.
But its hard you know? When no one understands and you have no one to go to, and no one is there when you need them.
You guys are all I have besides God and that is why I need your help. I don't know what to do!

 

[Chad]

You guys are all I have besides God and that is why I need your help. I don't know what to do!

And GOD is all anyone can ask for in the end :thumbs_up

I will pray for you sister. Be faithful and smile because after all like you said, you have GOD

 

[Mike]

I will pray and be a friend in your time of struggle . You are not alone . :boy_hug: Mike

 

[lnrobar]

It does not bother me at all to save my money. And if I was 18, then I would feel bad if I didn't pay them anything. But I'm not! That's the whole point. I don't want to seem selfish, but I should not have to pay my own father money to live with him, and me not even 18.
He didn't do it with the rest of the children, why me?
I am prepared to pay him when he asks for it. I'm not going to rebell against him then him tell me to get out, but I hope he gets something out of it besides the water bill or whatever he wants it for.
If not, then oh well.
But I just need prayer.

I do go to church, wouldn't miss it for the world. I have girlfriends I can turn to, but they have lives too, and I don't want to disrupt anything going for them. You know?

God Bless you all, and thank you for the kind words, but I will get through this if it means I have pay 100 dollars a week to live here untill I'm 18. Which by the way is in 82 days 2 hours and 49 minutes!
Yup, I have a count down on my cell, and it's funny to make my friends think I spent all my time counting days.! He he. Of course b 4 I got my phone I did! :shade:

 

[Jesuslovesu]

Inobar I am not telling you this to put false hope in you but, my friend had a very similar situation and do you know what happened? Every penny she gave her parent was given to her when she moved out on her own. also there might be other reasons for your lesson (which your other siblings didnt have to face) You are loved and I will pray for you . Joyfully~ Jlu

 

[sparky]

Just read this thread inrobar and i say this in all kindness but you need to grow up.I started paying my own way shortly before i was 16,i even had to pay a retainer if i went away on vacation.Sure i moaned about it at the time but my parents were instilling in me a sense of responsibility and helping me appreciate the things i could afford.There no such thing as a"free meal", see this experience as a valuable lesson in life.

 

[vagabond]

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.
Render therefore unto Caesar the things which are Caesar's; and unto God the things that are God's.
And whosoever shall compel thee to go a mile, go with him twain.

Give to him that asketh thee, and from him that would borrow of thee turn not thou away.

But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal:
For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.
Take therefore no thought for the morrow: for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself. Sufficient unto the day is the evil thereof.
HE REIGNS

 

[lnrobar]

YOU KNOW WHAT SPARKY?

That was the answer I was looking for. In the last couple of days this has been tumbling in my head over and over and I still couldnt understand why I should have to pay my dad.
Like the saying goes, "Be careful what you ask for." In one of my threads I was asking for prayers that I could be more responsible with my money, because I want to be independant, and be able to spend my money on things I need not things I want.
Thank you for this spiritual slap in the face.

I want to apologize to everyone who has and will lay eyes on this thread. I have acted kind of childish, and very self-centered. I complained, and wined, and I want to apologize. I pray that you will forgive such a childish motive, I never realized this before. I am sorry.

 

[sparky]

Thats very humble of you to admit that sister.God bless you.