Lonely Christian

[Jim25]

Hi .. I know I'm not supposed to feel lonely as a Christian. but sometimes I do. I have been single for almost five years. waiting on God for five hears. I believed and still believe that God has someone for me. Or am I missing something here?

 

[Sherlena]

Hi Jim psalm 37:4 says delight yourself in the lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. I also suggest you pray to Jesus as Matt 7.7 states ask and it will be given seek and you will find:knock and it will be opened for you.

God bless you
My brother

 

[Brother-Paul]

Greetings @Jim25

Lay your heart felt concerns at the feet of Jesus, I am sure you do. But when you lay them there, give them to Him so that He can intercede them with the Father in Heaven, let go of them and walk away. Leave them with Him don't walk away still holding onto them.

You are a young man Jim, relax, Trust in the Lord with all your heart, lean not on your own understanding, lean on God's understanding.

If it is God's will for you to have a wife, He will provide a nice lady for you, the right lady for you. The lady He has planned for you may not be old enough, may not be in your area yet, just pray through Jesus and Trust in the Lord. He knows best, He knows peoples hearts, His timing will be right.

Meanwhile be strong and of good faith Jim.

Bless you

 

[Headcasey669]

Here mate you will be just fine... someone will come along just give it time... The lord he will refine .. And then you will recline... into the lords grace amen
E

 

[Chad]

Welcome to TJ, hope you find encouragement here.

 

[Jim25]

@Chad I did. Thank you everyone. God bless you all

 

[Jelly]

@Chad I did. Thank you everyone. God bless you all

I have been alone for 5 years also. I do believe God is refining me. I am at peace being alone but I do yearn to find true believers to fellowship with.
I pray that you have peace in your heart while you are alone.
Glad you joined us
Jen

 

[The Rescued Sarah]

Hi .. I know I'm not supposed to feel lonely as a Christian. but sometimes I do. I have been single for almost five years. waiting on God for five hears. I believed and still believe that God has someone for me. Or am I missing something here?

I am feeling the same way. How do you deal with it?

 

[Hekuran]

Hi .. I know I'm not supposed to feel lonely as a Christian. but sometimes I do. I have been single for almost five years. waiting on God for five hears. I believed and still believe that God has someone for me. Or am I missing something here?

The idea that Christians should be unaffected by loneliness strikes me as very odd. Look at the pattern in the opening chapter of Genesis when God creates the heavens and the earth.

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It's part of his plan for creation that we are together. He put Adam and Eve in the garden together, and our hope is in Jesus returning and the people of the world together in a massive city.

So if you are pained by loneliness, it's probably not because your desire for human contact is wrong; it's more likely that your God-given desire for human connection is not satisfied. I don't think it's anything to be ashamed of in the sight of God, and I can't recall any story in the Bible where a person is rebuked for feeling lonely.

Invest in deep friendships, especially with Christians. Build up trust, pray together, be open and share each others struggles and joys. James counsels us to confess our sins to one another. It is good to pursue these things and it helps us mature in the body of Christ.

As for romance commitment and marriage, trust in God for his will and his timing.

 

[PloughBoy]

I will not speak on my own, but “New Testament” reality you’re longing is for “ pure fellowship” with God, for that is why you were created. And this has been revealed in “Christ Jesus”.
Marriage or another will not fill that spot. But we all must remember concerning the longing of our “desperately wicked” heart. I am not talking against marriage. That is a person choice. We are to seek GOD not things. Marriage does not produce happiness that is not it it’s goal. It is to produce children and “Sanctification” a Holy Life and not a selfish one. To learn how to deny yourself. And to engage in Spiritual warfare. That the word of God is not blasphemy. There will be many wounds and scars. Because your faith will be tried. There are many who have fallen and coward on this battlefield and turn and ran with fear and refused to fight until the death. But have abandon their Lord as Peter did, by the enemies fire, with the words “I know not the man” by fearing death.
I speak the truth so did Paul in the Book of Corinthians concerning marriage, I say read the Bible and listen to it, and not man. For many have not the view of a Christian marriage but the view of “ Cinderella” and Prince Charming” on “Sir Galahad’s horse”. Read Corinthians and study it, Fall in Love with GOD. So if you marry you can love others even if they don’t love you back like they should and you still can rejoice and love even when their love grows cold. Looking for none in return. “For love seeks not its own”. [satisfaction]

 

[Rabimir]

Hi Jim! I just want to share with you my testimony. I've been lonely till the age of 30. I wasn't really looking for somebody cause i've been busy with solving a lot of other problems in my life and in the life of my family. Like earning money to help my family and finding money to treat them from different diseases stuff like this. So I thought that dating someone would have caused much more problems like catching some disease so i didn't date anyone in serious way like i didn't sleep with anyone. By the age of thirty i was so exhausted with all this problems that i just start to pray God that He send me a husband and that he separate me from my family. And then i met my husband and he was a virgin and i was a virgin too and now we are living happily together. My point is just keep yourself pure, help others and keep praying God to send you a wife no matter what happens don't stop believing it. He will answer you when the time comes.

 

[PloughBoy]

And always remember God sometimes says No. He is not a " genie, that you rub him with prayers three times" Some think when God gives you what you want He has answered your prayers" and when He don't, He has not answered you" beware when people say pray and believe and you shall receive and never tells you to read and study your Bible and learn to Love God with all of your mind and strength and let Him be your cheif joy!!! In this world you are going to suffer and you need the Holy Spirit to endure rhe path that is brfore you! Read your Bible!

 

[amberrf55]

Hi .. I know I'm not supposed to feel lonely as a Christian. but sometimes I do. I have been single for almost five years. waiting on God for five hears. I believed and still believe that God has someone for me. Or am I missing something here?

You know honey, I used to feel the same way. I am 37 years old never been married and don't have any kids. when I stopped waiting around for things and started focusing all my Love for God, that is when I stopped being lonely. I decided I'm never going to get married and never going to have kids because I would rather give my whole self to God. Believe it or not, I am actually very satisfied with it and happier than I've ever been. I actually feel less lonely now then when I used to have boyfriends or have someone in my life. I hope this helps you. God bless you and I will be praying for you.

 

[amberrf55]

And always remember God sometimes says No. He is not a " genie, that you rub him with prayers three times" Some think when God gives you what you want He has answered your prayers" and when He don't, He has not answered you" beware when people say pray and believe and you shall receive and never tells you to read and study your Bible and learn to Love God with all of your mind and strength and let Him be your cheif joy!!! In this world you are going to suffer and you need the Holy Spirit to endure rhe path that is brfore you! Read your Bible!

Amen. You completely understand, God bless you.