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Looking for my better half

asemkakz

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Hello everyone
I decided to create this thread so that all who is single and want to find their Mr/Mrs Right can post some personal info here. I believe that it's possible to find your better half even overseas (who knows may be mine is really far away, but I'm sitting and doing nothing to help him find me, at least I could write this post). So brothers and sisters in Christ, let's get to know each other and help each other, because sitting and waiting when he/she comes from heaven is useless. In Russian language there is a saying " under lying stone, water doesn't flow" (no pains, no gains). So if we don't move, nothing will happen.
Let me introduce myself. I live in Almaty city,Kazakhstan, 26 y/o, single (never married), friendly, go to church since 1995 and still accept Christ as my Saviour and meaning of my life, work, live with parents e.t.c.
So U are welcome to write me and leave your comments here.

God be with u all the time ):heart-animated::heart-animated:
 
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What's wrong???

First of all, sorry for my English (it's not my native language). Secondly, I wonder: what's wrong in my letter?? there are lots of views, however no responses. what's the reason? please, give me a hint. I need it much ))
 
I believe that it's possible to find your better half even overseas (who knows may be mine is really far away, but I'm sitting and doing nothing to help him find me, at least I could write this post). there are lots of views, however no responses. what's the reason?

Hi,

Just wondering why you assume your potential mate should come from overseas? Can you not find a mate in your own country? And maybe the reason there have been no replies is because TJ isn't a dating site? And people could be naturally wary of solicitations for overseas romance.
 
Thx for interest

You are the first person to respond me, thank U :)) . Yes, it's difficult to find a mate in Kazakhstan, I mean Christian believer. I have lots of offers from muslim guys, but I'm strongly disagree to marry muslim. because I love Jesus and when I go on a date with unbeliever I start arguing with boys, because they think that Allah is only God. and they don't accept Jesus as Saviour, it annoys me. as a result I find it boring to listen about muslim culture and I can't have nay relationships with such men. but I really want to find my better-half. and majority of Christians are overseas )). again sorry for my English. I hope it's clear )
 
Hi, your English is not a problem, so no need to worry about that.
I can understand why you wouldn't want to date a Muslim guy, which I agree you shouldn't. Have you prayed for God to send a Christian guy to you from among your own countrymen? If God wants you to be married it will not be hard for Him to find someone for you. Seek His will and you'll not be disappointed.
 
Hello.Sure, I did pray )) and my mother wants my husband to be Kazakh, whereas I don't care about nationality. I just wonder if God loves us so much why there are so many unmarried girls in our country, who really want to be good wives and they deserve a good man. But they get older and older 30, 33 years old and still unmarried. I believe that God knows what's best to us (girls), but still He doesn't let us be loved by man. I know He has a plan for me, I know He controls my life, but what's the problem??? I really don't understand. I have friends who are devoted to Christ and they serve in a church and they want to have a husband very much (Christian only), but they sometimes even cry out to God, so nothing happens. As for me, I really want to find my soulmate with whom I can share Christ, Bible reading, dicussing ...but years pass and to be honest every wise girl wants to be married while she is young, later wrinkles appear on faces ))
 
Hi, I sent you a private message.

Try not to get all panicky about your situation and just trust in the Lord, He won't fail you. His ways are best and He knows what is best for you.

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Matthew 6:33 But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

 
Hello.Sure, I did pray )) and my mother wants my husband to be Kazakh, whereas I don't care about nationality. I just wonder if God loves us so much why there are so many unmarried girls in our country, who really want to be good wives and they deserve a good man. But they get older and older 30, 33 years old and still unmarried. I believe that God knows what's best to us (girls), but still He doesn't let us be loved by man. I know He has a plan for me, I know He controls my life, but what's the problem??? I really don't understand. I have friends who are devoted to Christ and they serve in a church and they want to have a husband very much (Christian only), but they sometimes even cry out to God, so nothing happens. As for me, I really want to find my soulmate with whom I can share Christ, Bible reading, dicussing ...but years pass and to be honest every wise girl wants to be married while she is young, later wrinkles appear on faces ))

If I wasn't married I would be on the next flight to your country with flowers.I am really sorry to hear about the situation you describe.
I pray that the Lord wakes up the men of your country to the grace and life of Jesus and fills your churches with godly men.In the name of Jesus I ask this that it may glorify the name of God to all.
I will remember you in prayer sister.
Peace
 
Thanks very muh for this tenderly said words. I'm really seeking for a man who would ran to meet me with flowers ,heheehe :)) I accept flowers from men but they are not believers, they are muslims (unfortuanately).At the same time I don wanna rush God with marriage. I just wanna have a real soulmate, and now I keep thinking that I'd better date with muslim having faith that he will come to Christ one day. and I really don't see any other way out.
 
Hi,

Please don't consider marrying a muslim man because you'll end up being unequally yoked. Maybe you can visit some churches in your area?

Take care now,
willem
 
--Hello everybody. I'm writing to say that I came to Los-Angeles, CA for the first time and I believe I will meet my future husband here. Los-Angeles is very beautiful and people are speaking English everywhere. It's great :-) but I feel homesick and wanna go back to Kazakhstan.
 
Here's a funny little story for you. When I was a teen all I could think about was finding "the one". Stars in my eyes and everything went from one relationship to another until I got totally burned out with the whole thing. That behavior actually left me with a huge problem of feminism and a mild hate of men in general.

Gave up on finding Mr Right and decided to live my life doing the best I could. Performed my job well, and started at the community college.

6 months after I met my husband. Was working at a restaurant that he went to work at as well for a 2nd job. Here is the irony about this..

We had both lived in the same small town our whole childhood clear through after high school. We are only 2 years apart and had never met until that specific time period when we both worked at the same place. Went to the same high school, and even had some of the same friends. But we never met. Never knew each other existed. Didn't know each others names. So, it seems when I gave up putting all my effort into something that was obviously not the right thing, or time...then a short time later is when that very thing seemed to drop right into my life.

Some things to consider. Do you think an American guy will want to move overseas? How about your kids. Will you want them to live in America or overseas? Grandparents can be, and usually do play an important role in the grandkid's life. It could get quite expensive making a trip back and forth all the time.

Maybe think this one over a little more before jumping into something you may end up regretting later?
 
Hi! I just came across your thread today and if I had seen earlier, I would have surely replied. I totally agree with bythe way and I believe in the same thing you do. I personally believe that being with any man who is not a Christian is simply unacceptable. Coming from an Islamic country who is now becoming drawn towards Islamic extremism, I also believe what my fate may perhaps be with someone who is not of my country. I'm no racist nor do I care at all about looks because what matters is one's heart.... That's what the Lord Jesus looks at in the end.
 
I am certainly not an expert on this subject of living in an Islamic country, but there is a question here. There are reports of the Christian church actually growing in many of these places, albeit in an underground way. It is hard to say what a person would do in your situation, but I think I may try praying about contacting the true Christians in the area and see what could be done for Christ. That may lead you right into who would be a good mate for you.

IMO, America is on the skids here as far as quality of people. If you do not know the culture, and sub cultures of the places you come to look for a decent match, then you could be settling for less than what God could be planning for you. God is a God of miracles and it is always best to leave the decisions up to Him. He can move heaven and earth for the person who is seeking after Him with all their heart, mind, and body. That could mean that the person who would be the best for you is actually in your own country and you just have not met them yet.

Please be careful when coming to the US looking for a pipe dream. There are as may exploiters here...especially in the big cities...as there are anywhere else. Women are sold as slaves of all kinds, and the junkies on the street bear witness to that. Make sure that what you are about to do that God actually is in it, and that you know you heard from Him before setting off on a fools journey.
 
thank you for concerns. Actually, I liked America and I'm praying God to help me stay here for long time.LA is awesome.and here are many churches.but in Kazakhstan Christians are chased,they can be arrested for gospel and my relatives Kazakhs of course judge me because I am Christian.that's why I feel happy here that I can walk freely,read Bible with no fear and listen to Christian music radio.it's great
 
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I hope to find my soulmate one day sometimes it can be very lonely and upsetting to be alone.I been divorced for about 10 years ago now,i got out of a bad marriage back then,hes living with his present girlfriend but I know he wasnt my soulmate, we have a beautiful teenager son together. I look back and wished I done it Gods way but there again I happy to have my son and hope that God gives me a second chance with a new love one day *my true soulmate * whoever he may be :) But he have to love Jesus and children and young people,I dont care what the guy will look like because I go for the inside of the person over the look.
 
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