Me and my mother and my sister

[WantToKnowHim]

Good day everyone..


I have a very, VERY, serious problem in terms of my relations to my parents, especially to my mother and also my sister.



Note:I am here to point things my mother and my sister usually do to me. I absolutely has a bad side of the story, but I just want to elaborate my problems, so here it is.

They basically treat me as the most stupid person in our house. It is not that I am angry that I emphasized this. But it was what I could think they are thinking about me because of their treatment,and their painful words towards me.

My mother, since my childhood,was far away from me in terms of relations. My father was my favorite ( unfortunately I have favorites) because he never ceased to ignore nor scold me for my childish fears and problems. This favoritism of mine sparked more when I had panic attacks related to my childhood abuse. When I was having these irregular breathing my mother shouted things like telling me I was crazy and even asked me in a not-so-good way what my problem was. This leads me not to say things that she didn't know happened when she and my father is at work, and thus ruining more our relationship.


From that day I ignored her, and sometimes answered her back even I knew on some things that I was wrong. I can't control it anymore; it was like a habit. I knew that disrespecting your parents is a punishable deed and it almost require a capital punishment, but I really don't know how to end this.


And my sister also plays something in the part. Whenever I do things wrong, my sister will laugh so hard or scold me with a very loud voice (even in public) . I am 18 and I know I can make mistakes; but being publicly humiliated and being called an idiot in front of them is very painful. My mother also do things the same way, where on one incident that I was late on riding a public vehicle she reprimanded me so loud that all the people in the jeepney were laughing and looking at me.


Up to this day, somehow I knew my anger towards them is sleeping inside me, waiting for another bad moments with them. How can I tolerate them?


Any help?

 

[philosopher]

Hi there. I also know the struggles of family life, as I've grown up in a pretty dysfunctional family myself. Sometimes we can't control our reactions with our own strength, and need to give this completely over into Jesus' hands to help. Ask the Lord to give you more patience when communicating with your parents, and get into the word of God as much as you can.

May God, who gives this patience and encouragement, help you live in complete harmony with each other, as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus. - Romans 15:5 (NLT)

God bless you

 

[WantToKnowHim]

Thank you philosopher..

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

Hello WantToKnowHim

The title alone of your thread catch my attention and I believe the Lord wants me to share this to you.

Resentment, bitterness, hatred, yes even just a little grudge we hold to another person, these can destroy us if not dealt by us in the Lord. I believe so, you are brought here so you can be found by our Jesus - because I; like you have been lost once (and hoped not to be lost again..hehe), but already been found by the Lord. Amen

Since you asked for help in this matter about your mother and sister, of which the same hole I have been sis, I felt led to tell you how I have been set free. I prayed that the Lord will enable you and help you as He did to me. Amen

The very key that I used is the word FOR-GIVENESS... Every harsh word they uttered to me, every maltreatment so to speak, disrespect on part of my younger sis since childhood 'till we finish college and even in the work place... (and i credited that to my mother. LOL) name it,, all...i held all those things in me and against them, and dreamed for the day they will soon realize their wrongdoing and would ask forgiveness from me (LOL) which never happened 'till this day.. hahahaha... It is because of all what they have done that I aimed very high in my life, high enough not to care to know about God... so one day, these family members of mine could be very proud of me.. and can no longer put me down...LOL It is better to you, you got that desire to know Him, while me, I never sought the Lord in my life before, I even ridicule those who would share the Gospel to me.

But the Lord has been gracious, Isaiah 65:1 became true in my life, when a Senior Student in college invited me to attend their Bible Study which she facilitates herself... I admire that student very much because she is a bright person of our time (hehe) so I went after refusing her three times. And on that day, I have known the Lord's love, and found that He love me and had accepted me whoever I am... Love, acceptance, approval, belongingness, the deepest need of every person is all found in the Lord... Since that day, I no longer crave for my mother's attention (LOL), or approval... I have found the Lord's love and approval.. hehe.. and been filled with His love... but in spite of that, I'm still hurting every time I remember the things they did to me... I still hate my sister because of her attitude towards me.... We grew up like a dog and cat.. (LOL) We still quarrel.. lol ... she quarrels with me in her mouth and i quarrel with her in my mind (LOL)... in the outside she is a roaring lion, and in the inside, I am a serial killer to her (LOL).. 1John 3:15

But one day, the Lord had shown me what He did on the cross for me and taught me how to forgive my mother and other siblings (for they all wrong me except my father - lol) - as He had forgiven me... "Forgive as the Lord forgave you"... But before I was able to do it, I must first receive the Lord's forgiveness and His great love... I must admit that I also sinned and have to repent all the bitterness and grudges, hatred and resentment that I hold against them all. I have to confess that I hated them and ask the Lord to cleanse me from all of my unrighteousness. And He did. Amen

Then after that is healing upon healing for the Lord came to set the captives free Sis... to heal the brokenhearted and to bind up our wounds, to release us from darkness into His marvelous light... I receive His healing, I receive his favor, I receive freedom... I receive all the benefits of the cross... You can have it too Sis. Isaiah 61:1-3; Luke 4:18-20

It is my prayer, that as you come here and seek the Lord in here, may you come to find what you're looking for (the Lord Jesus Himself)... and yes you can seek Him and find Him if you will seek Him with all of your heart ( Jeremiah 29:11-13 )

I say these to you with all of the Lord's love in me, for we love you here as the Lord had loved us... It is my prayer that you will find and receive that love yourself as we have received Him. Amen

I believe that this is the very testimony I have with the Lord... Now, I can serve my family members already with Love and compassion, without grudging... without resentment, without hatred though I'm not saying that they are no longer hurting me... they are still capable - LOL - but that cannot stay a year, or a month, or a week in me anymore... maybe a day.. LOL... but I don't want to have weights anymore... I need to exercise Love daily and forgiveness as it is needed. Amen

I pray that you will be able to use the same key Sis for the key is also made available to you by the Lord. Receive and used it, and you will be amazed how His love and forgiveness will come upon you, and will flow in you and through you...


God bless you and to God everlasting be all honor, glory and power. In Jesus name. Amen


Sister in Jesus,


TheWidowsOffering

 

[WantToKnowHim]

thanks TheWidowsOffering..