My evil job!

[the new justin]

For the last three years I have been working for a major magazine distributer as a forklift driver. My job is OK and so are the people I work with. The problem im having is that Im tempted non stop by the girls I work with and the porn magazines we put out.
When I first started the job I thought it was great because Its evening shift (4pm-12:30am), its walking distance from my house, and most of the people that work on my shift are around my age (20s-30s) including my supervisor who looks like beyonce or tyra banks (HOT:kiss: ). Not to mention the rest of the girls that work on the line, who are far above average looking.
At first this was great even though I had a girlfriend, it didn't matter to me because back then I was living for myself and had not yet accepted jesus in my life.
Now that Im trying to live for God and have learned the truth, Im having problems trying not to be the old me, who would go out drinking with all the girls, flirt, look at every porn, think perverted thoughts, and many more things that shouldnt be mentioned (explicit).
Everybody at my work still thinks im the old me, who had a mouth full of cuss words, and a party animal mentality that drank alot and just didnt care about anything but having a good time. Now I try to avoid these things but I just cant do it all at once. Its a matter of my flesh needs, being sourrounded by my weaknesess (my kriptonite) and having porns being thrown in my face all the time. Its unavoidable.
I have been trying to get a new job but Im having a hard time finding one that suits me or meets my pay. I just cant leave for anything. I ask God almost every night to help me and guide me with this problem. For me and my girl of seven years who I live with.
What should I do? It seems that its only a matter of time before I slip. Im open to any suggestions!
Peace and bless out.

 

[Chad]

We all struggle in the flesh. GOD is faithful and merciful. Your strength must be in Christ Jesus 100% only. Not your own, not anyone else.

Ephesians 4:20-24

20 But you have not so learned Christ, 21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: 22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.

Romans 6:5-7

5 For if we have been united together in the likeness of His death, certainly we also shall be in the likeness of His resurrection, 6 knowing this, that our old man was crucified with Him, that the body of sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves of sin. 7 For he who has died has been freed from sin.

THE ARMOUR OF GOD

Ephesians 6:10-18

The Whole Armor of God

10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age,[a] against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints—

 

[cuprunsovr]

this is going to be long Justin but you have hit a cord...

Justin first and fore most I really do appreciate your honesty because in your description I see much of myself not that long ago, and can absolutely relate. don't know about you but as I tried (still try daily) some thoughts that lingered were / are:

- ....but I'm giving up all the "fun" stuff....which draws out what I think is Satan's really subtle double punch because not only were the things you did sinful for there own sake at the time, but now as you crave to turn away the memories, sensations, etc. draw you back in like a moth to fire.

- ....I always thought I was a mentally balanced guy, but maybe I really am a perv. for not being able to cold turkey turn away from these desires, I mean the more I think I have it whipped the more vulnerable it seems I am it doesn't take much more than a beer commercial with a "really hot chick" to set my desires off and next thing you know voila I am on Google looking at porn, at which point my ship is sunk, and the guilt sets in....

I could go on and on but at any rate these were thoughts that reoccured when I was in a place that sounds VERY similar to yours. Looking for a new job seems absolutely logical, and you have my admiration for this because thats not easy, more over make no doubt God knows how big that is because it shows your desire for truth and righteosness. Having walked (still walking) that path further advice would be:

- PRAY ON IT DEEPLY - in the description above you see how my mind thought in terms of "how I" changed the situation, or "how I" couldn't resist....after falling out of that bed a few hundred times I realized I fighting this alone was destined to fail, and oh look then the devil gains the luxury of my guilt for failing. Simply ask and ask and ask again for the Spirit to take up arms with your temptations and fight on your behalf. As Chad showed Eph 6 is the arsenal you will need, without it you are bringing a knife to a missle fight.

Apply the computer term GIGO (Garbage in Garbage out) - this is supported by scripture that if you fill yourself with lust it will conceive sin, but if you fill yourself with good you will produce righteosness. Again with experieince as an aid I know for me it didn't take much garbage in to gain a foothold and produce alot of garbage out - be diligent in this.

A book that helped me is "When the Enemy Strikes" by Charles Stanley - I highly recommend for further ammunition. will send you my copy if you like.

Last another thing that helped me was (is) carrying a small notebook with specific scripture I wrote in it that speaks to my struggles. Thought process being there is so much to learn / know, but to narrow it all down here is the handful of weapons I call on quickly. Therefore literally out of my own playbook here are a few you may want to writedown / memorize as well:

- Lust / Temptaion: James 1:14-15, 1 John 2:15-17, 1 Cor 10:12-13, Mathew 5:28
- Hate: 1 John 4:20-21
- Body (I use it for smoking temptation, but applies for how you act sexually) - 1 Cor 6:19-20

I hope this has helped. I offer these suggestions becuse they are fresh in my mind and search as well, NOT because I have it whipped therefore I will pray for you and ask that you pray for me in the same way.

 

[rlowe]

Would you pm me your e-mail addr. so that I can send you some questions?
I just tried to do so here & it timed me out & deleted the ?s that I had typed.
:-(

 

[Mapalo]

For the last three years I have been working for a major magazine distributer as a forklift driver. My job is OK and so are the people I work with. The problem im having is that Im tempted non stop by the girls I work with and the porn magazines we put out.
When I first started the job I thought it was great because Its evening shift (4pm-12:30am), its walking distance from my house, and most of the people that work on my shift are around my age (20s-30s) including my supervisor who looks like beyonce or tyra banks (HOT:kiss: ). Not to mention the rest of the girls that work on the line, who are far above average looking.
At first this was great even though I had a girlfriend, it didn't matter to me because back then I was living for myself and had not yet accepted jesus in my life.
Now that Im trying to live for God and have learned the truth, Im having problems trying not to be the old me, who would go out drinking with all the girls, flirt, look at every porn, think perverted thoughts, and many more things that shouldnt be mentioned (explicit).
Everybody at my work still thinks im the old me, who had a mouth full of cuss words, and a party animal mentality that drank alot and just didnt care about anything but having a good time. Now I try to avoid these things but I just cant do it all at once. Its a matter of my flesh needs, being sourrounded by my weaknesess (my kriptonite) and having porns being thrown in my face all the time. Its unavoidable.
I have been trying to get a new job but Im having a hard time finding one that suits me or meets my pay. I just cant leave for anything. I ask God almost every night to help me and guide me with this problem. For me and my girl of seven years who I live with.
What should I do? It seems that its only a matter of time before I slip. Im open to any suggestions!
Peace and bless out.

Hey Justin welcome to the family of God. I can not understand the extent of your problem, but Jesus does:
Hebrews 4:14-16:

14Therefore, since we have a great high priest who has gone through the heavens,Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to the faith we profess. 15For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are—yet was without sin. 16Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need.

Don't worry about loosing your job for when you seek God first he has promised to provide:

Matthew 6:25-33:
25"Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life[a]?

28"And why do you worry about clothes? See how the lilies of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you, O you of little faith? 31So do not worry, saying, 'What shall we eat?' or 'What shall we drink?' or 'What shall we wear?' 32For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.

You've complained that your workmates still think of you as the old person. What have you done to let them know that you're different now? If you change and put on the new man that you are in Christ Jesus, they will act differently towards you.Infact you might become very unpopular, but losing all for Christ is what our faith is all about:
Luke 9:23-26
23Then he said to them all: "If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me. 24For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will save it. 25What good is it for a man to gain the whole world, and yet lose or forfeit his very self? 26If anyone is ashamed of me and my words, the Son of Man will be ashamed of him when he comes in his glory and in the glory of the Father and of the holy angels.
So be encouraged and know that God is with you in all this. I am praying for you, God bless you.

 

[Fellowservant]

Hi: you need to trust Christ here...even if it means leaving that Job, we are told to resist the Devil.... James 4:7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. -temptation and so on. If i was a pool man for Hue Hefner i dont think this christian thing would work to good.

I know when i was first saved i had to make a lot of seemingly hard choices. But that is all they are...seemingly hard, if we sow to the flesh we reap corruption... in we sow to the spirit we reap life everlasting.

All depends on your faith and how much you want everlasting life. We can say we have recieved Jesus as lord and savior but without the power of this new man creation, we are only asking for trouble. So my advice is to repent, and ask the lord to give you power to overcome the flesh. Then there is basicly no temptation, as the flesh is crucified with Christ.

Your gonna need to pray hard for the holy spirit on this one, and have faith that God will help you. This is way to much for any man to take on by himself, but this is not impossible with God, he is able to give you another Job, if you seek to please him...follow his voice he will guide you.

Will be praying for you...God bless

 

[Allen]

The word says to flee youthful lusts... 2Tim2:22, and if your eye offend thee pluck if out and cast it from thee...Mark9:43-45.

Read Psalms 107 call on the name of the Lord and HE will show up and show out on you behalf. It may not be quite the way you would have planned it. but this is where we must trust Him, and know that He LOVES us, and will not leave us nor forsake us. Hebrews13:5.
And if we seem to lose something that is important to us it is only so He can bring something bigger and better and hotter into our lives. Eph3:20, Jer.29:11, Jer33:3.

 

[p8ntballer5420]

justin, one thing that i can say is when god closes one door he opens another. Satan will attack you with these things when you’re about to receive your blessing. here is something from the bible that might give you a little motivation to saty on a righteous path.

Be still in the presence of the LORD.and wait patiently for him to act.
Psalms 37.7

 

[rlowe]

To: Justin & Cuprunsovr

You have both made the first step, as G.I. JOE said, "knowing is half the battle".
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The 2 most important things to recognize about the other half of the battle are:
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You can't do it alone & God has already won the victory & is waiting for you to ask Him for it.

 

[rlowe]

To: Justin & Cuprunsovr

If want help keeping away from porn websites there are child protection softwares available that may be helpful.

 

[rlowe]

To Justin:

Justin, you said, "I have been trying to get a new job but Im having a hard time finding one that suits me or meets my pay."

Can you give me a better idea where you are & what you want in a job?
I would like to try to help.

 

[the new justin]

I just want to thank all of you for your thoughts, opinions, and scriptures.
It is very comforting that I can turn to such good, spiritual people, that I have never even met, about my problems and struggles.
I have read all of your responses and none have been overlooked. It gives me great confidence and reasurance to know that I am not alone in my faith and times of need. Your words are gold.
I am going to pray more about my situation and really try to what God would have me do. This might be a big sacrafice for me but I know it will be well worth it in the end.
I know I have a long way to go but the road will be much safer with guides like all of you on the same path. I just hope that I may be of some help to all of you one day. Thank you, peace, and bless out.

 

[the new justin]

Rlowe, I have applied for many jobs in Toronto and the (GTA) Greater Toronto Area that suite me. With help from my girl and family members. About 6 places in total, plus on monster.ca. All of them mainly consist of working for the city (parks and rec, constuction, ect) where, hopefully, I will be working with old fat guys named billy bob and bubba, so that I will not have the same problem. Im just waiting for responses.
Thank you for your concern in willing to help me. If all else fails I just might take you up on your offer to help.
Bless out Rlowe.

 

[the new justin]

Rlowe, my email address is do_itsa@hotmail.com but your probably better to just reach me on my pesonal messages on this site. I dont check my emails to offten and when I do its usally full of crap.

 

[the new justin]

Thank you P8ntballer, Allen, Fellow servant, Chad, Mapalo, and cuprunsovr for Gods advice.
Bless out.