Need advise urgently!How to recover from a break-up

[precious77]

Dear all,

I have been dating this guy for 7 months,and we broke off 2 months back as he was not ready for committment.

First of all,he is dyslexia and he tends to show less affection.The final turn was when I realise he is more into himself then me,I felt I was giving more.I had the opportunity to grow really close to his family.

Moving on..

Thing is,we have agree to be friends,and I even visited him quite often at his house for family dinners even after we broke off ;hoping at the back of my mind that maybe we can get back together.Most of his family members,think we are still together as I was there quite often and we still laugh and giggle as we used to.

Well,at first things was fine,till last week that he ask me not to come as he sense I was not moving on.I visited him last week which he left the house without speaking to me.

The next day,I dropped by to pass some of his things back and to return some books his dad has borrowed me.
His mother was there to comfort me,and told me to let him go.She even said something that hurts me and told me he doesn't care for me much.

I left the house,and that night I drop him an sms saying I will see him 2 months later as I will take this time to recover and hopefully I can see him as a friend then.

I wish to be friends wish him still as I miss his family and would want to be friends with him still.So..

I desperately need some advise on
1)what to do within this 2 months to recover
2)should we still be friends
3)what should I say when i finally contact him after this 2 months

 

[Hea]

Hello, how how u doin?
I can understand how u feel because am kindof in d same situation myself but my case is a girl that i really want as a friend. I think for the 2 months u should really pray for God 2 help u forget him. And try to focus ur actions, thoughts and thinking pattern on someone or sometin else. Ask God to help u forget him totally, dont try and be friends with him because most of d times its pratically impossible 2 be JUST friends wit someone u love. And remember all tins work 2gether 4 gud 4 them that loves Him

 

[precious77]

Prayer

www dot ccel dot org slash ccel slash guyon slash prayer.txt

Peace be unto you

What God is putting on my heart concerning you is that God is trying to teach you multiple Spiritual Truths that can benefit you in life if you...
Let Go (or release all things into The Truly Merciful Arms of Jesus)...
and Let God...that is Let God order and arrange the events in your life...so that they will always be the MOST BENEFICIAL to your spirit...although not always pleasant to your flesh.

Right off the bat...God sees and knows every thing...but download the small book at the link above to truly KNOW God's Highest Will for your life...and stop wasting your time expecting mortal human beings to return your love...as ONLY GOD CAN DO.

First of all...God wants each of us...ONLY for Himself...to LOVE AND CHERISH AND LEAD AND GUIDE AND PROTECT and Care for FOREVER.

GOD OUR FATHER AND OUR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST TRULY PROVED HIS LOVE BY GLADLY...FREELY...JOYFULLY...AND WHOLEHEARTEDLY GIVING ALL HIS LOVE TO GOD FOR US.

GOD FORBID...if we evilly reserve the least bit of love for ourselves...when God Our Father and Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ Himself, Who truly dwells within our human spirits...truly DESERVES ALL OUR WHOLEHEARTED TRUST AND SEEKING AND WORSHIP AND LOVE ALONE FOREVER TRULY ONLY...then we accidently cause God and Jesus pain and hurt and sorrow...because we did not return God's Wholeheart

I'll give you an example that occurred when I was younger attending college. I had met a average cute girl named Carol...
bubbly personality...nice looking...and my heart went ga ga...we talked a few times...had fun together...but she was not exactly honest with me...about our fun relationship...cuz her heart was divided.

I was wanting more...but she was all out for self...receiving my love...but not giving back...she was a victim of her own covetousness.

So one day...I went up to her dorm room...to ask her out for a date...and BOOM...there she was with her boyfriend...who she had not told me about.

Talk about hurt...I was slightly devastated...and as I walked sadly back to my dorm room on the far side of the campus...God, in perfect love...silently spoke to my spirit these words...
"Now you know how I feel."

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Now picture Christ in your position and you in your friend's stead.

Christ Himself...The Only Truly Great King of Kings and Lord of Lords...desires YOU...YES YOU...to be ALL HIS ALONE FOREVER IN HOLY WEDDED SPIRITUAL MATRIMONY

But you...ingnorant of Christ's FANTASTIC PERFECT LOVE for you...are content to receive the GIFTS of God's tickles, caresses, outer GIFTS of His True Perfect Burning Eternal WHOLEHEARTED LOVE for you Within...but are not ready to COMMIT WHOLEHEARTEDLY TRULY AND FOREVER TO SIMPLY TRUSTING AND SEEKING AND LOVING GOD AND JESUS ALONE FOREVER inside your human spirit...in order to truly HAVE AND POSSESS GOD AND OUR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF ALONE FOREVER TRULY ONLY AS YOUR ONLY LOVE AND LORD AND SAVIOR AND GOD AND KING.

So God to help you understand how we accidently hurt Jesus with our divided hearts...allowed you to love someone...who loved himself more than you...so you could see how we have accidently hurt Jesus...by dividing our love that God and Jesus alone forever truly deserves...on our selfish evil self...and on our parents and our friends and other vanities of this world.

Now dont get me wrong...God does want us to love others...but God wants to give us His Perfect Love first...and then have us truly love others with His Perfect Unconditional Love

evil human self love says=I love you...IF you love me.
and evil human love is has been corrupted by the first Adam's sin.

So God has a truly better way...although to our human understanding it does not often times SEEMS so.

God wants us to FIRST give him all our trust and desire and heart and love into the Truly Merciful Arms of Jesus Himself, within the center of our human spirits, from now on and forever more...gladly cheerfully freely truly and forever...so that God can truly replace our selfish all, in giving our selfish all to Him, with God's Perfect Jesus Love...that is the best possible love to have forever.

Dear CrossSeeker,

I never thought of it that way,that I am half-heartedly loving God and fully loving my ex.But you are right.Thanks for showing the truth to me.It does hurt .

My pastors in church have advise to completely let go of him as well.It is easier to say than to do,and being the stubborn goat that I am it probably be hard.

I been praying to God every day and have a daily devotional time with Him.I been seeking for some comfort,which I believe He led me to this site for a purpose.

Thank you.

At the back of my mind,I still pray for God to reconcile this broken relationship or friendship.Please do not judge me for doing so.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

I been seeking for some comfort,which I believe He led me to this site for a purpose.

In the New Testament, comfort usually means preparation for battle. Are you willing to be prepared for battle?

SLE

 

[Crossseeker]

Let Go and Let God

Peace be unto you

God tells us to never judge any one's eternal soul.
That is God's business alone forever truly only.

So, by The Grace of God, I have learned that truly valuable lesson of never judging another person's soul,
especially since it is truly NONE of my business,
but Our Good Father God's Business,
alone forever truly only.
Matthew7:1,2

Remember, God never condemns, but only in truly Perfect Love convicts you of what He wants you (1Peter5:7) to truly let Him handle, before it ruins you and the lives of others.

God showed this one saint of old, that all of our trouble in life,
comes from our resistance to God,
and that all of our resistance comes from our evil selfish
attachment to the either the evil/good temporary gifts
that God has given to us to enjoy...NOT POSSESS :0
in this world...and even sometimes Christians get attached
to God's Spiritual Gifts...which after all truly BELONG to God alone forever truly only...like every thing else.

The trouble is that we have misunderstood our relationship with God and of our spiritual job that God wants us to do

Thank God, by Ephesians2:8,9, by God's Grace alone forever, through true faith in God and Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ alone forever, we are God's adopted spiritual children through faith in Christ Jesus. But what we don't realize is that we are in the wilderness of sin...still love the evil world that Christ has led us out of...our flesh does bmc we ***** moan and complain for all the creature comforts of this world that God is trying to free us from...because they keep us chained to this present evil world.

If God were to show you for one moment in Eternity the way He truly knows this evil world...to presently be...as God showed King David, in Psalms, "Free among the (spiritually) dead."
with billions of God's Eternally Sworn enemies...all around you, clothed in God's Good Looks and with God's Good Talents and with God's Grace OUTWARDLY...but inwardly AS JESUS TRULY SAID, FULL OF DEAD MEN'S BONES...continually tempting His Dear children, and God in Perfect Love truly defends us from our spiritual enemies and truly delivers us 1,000s of times a day from the attacks of the devil...
if we truly saw the spiritual danger that we were in 24-7 as God truly knows it to be...
1 - we would not resist Our Good Father God any more...
2 - nor run away from Our Dear Jesus any more...but
3 - Run WHOLEHEARTEDLY truly and forevermore INTO THE QUIET PROMISED LAND OF JESUS CHRIST HIMSELF within within within our human spirits...the very place that God Himself will surely lead us little by little...if we would only WHOLEHEARTED trust that God knows best...like God showed Joshua and Caleb the secret of WHOLEHEARTED TRUST in Jesus within us...
otherwise if we trust any one and/or anything other than Jesus and Jesus alone forever for Our Eternal Salvation and every other thing that concerns us, and/or worries us (1Peter5:7)
then we God forbid...return to the slavish chains of the evil serpent of self...and perish...because we CHOSE to trust our evil selfish self love more than Jesus Our Only True Lover

That is why King David prayed, in Psalms118, "Bind the sacrifice (King David) to THE ALTAR (JESUS WITHIN) even unto the Horns of The Altar (the 2 cheribums of faith in Jesus and abandonment into Jesus on top of the Ark of The Covenant of Everlasting Mercy...THE ONLY ETERNALLY SAFE AND SECURE PLACE TO BE IN ALL TIME AND IN ALL ETERNITY...THE SECRET PLACE OF THE MOST HIGH DESCRIBED IN PSLAMS91...with cords of Perfect Love...so that we cant accidently get away from The Safety Zone of Christ...when the flesh always freaks out during the trials and sufferings of this evil mortal life


1. Dying with Jesus,
by death reckoned mine;
Living with Jesus, a new life divine;
Looking to Jesus till glory doth shine,
Moment by moment,
O Lord, I am Thine.

Refrain.
Moment by moment
I’m kept in His love;
Moment by moment
I’ve life from above;
Looking to Jesus
till glory doth shine;
Moment by moment,
O Lord, I am Thine.


2. Never a trial that He is not there,
Never a burden that He doth not bear,
Never a sorrow that He doth not share,
Moment by moment,
I’m under His care.

Refrain.
Moment by moment
I’m kept in His love;
Moment by moment
I’ve life from above;
Looking to Jesus
till glory doth shine;
Moment by moment,
O Lord, I am Thine.


3. Never a heartache, and never a groan,
Never a teardrop and never a moan;
Never a danger but there on the throne,
Moment by moment
He thinks of His own.

Refrain.
Moment by moment
I’m kept in His love;
Moment by moment
I’ve life from above;
Looking to Jesus
till glory doth shine;
Moment by moment,
O Lord, I am Thine.


4. Never a weakness
that He doth not feel,
Never a sickness that He cannot heal;
Moment by moment,
in woe or in weal,
Jesus my Savior, abides with me still.

Refrain.
Moment by moment
I’m kept in His love;
Moment by moment
I’ve life from above;
Looking to Jesus
till glory doth shine;
Moment by moment,
O Lord, I am Thine.

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XIII. ON CONFIDENCE IN GOD.

The best rule we can ever adopt, is to receive equally, and with the
same submission, everything that God sends us during the day, both
within and without.

Without, there are things disagreeable that must be met with courage,
and things pleasant that must not be suffered to arrest our affections.
We resist the temptations of the former by accepting them at once, and
of the latter by refusing to admit them into our hearts. The same curse
is necessary in regard to the interior life; whatever is bitter serves
to crucify us, and works all its benefit in the soul, if we receive it
simply, with a willingness that knows no bounds, and a readiness that
seeks no alleviation.

Pleasant gifts, which are intended to support our weakness by giving us
a sensible consolation in our external acts, must be accepted with
equal satisfaction, but in a different way. They must be received,
because God sends them, and not because they are agreeable to our own
feelings; they are to be used, like any other medicine, without
self-complacency, without attachment to them, and without
appropriation. We must accept them, but not hold on to them; so that
when God sees fit to withdraw them, we may neither be dejected nor
discouraged.

The source presumption lies in attachment to these transitory and
sensible gifts. We imagine we have no regard to anything but the gift
of God, while we are really looking to self, appropriating his mercy
and mistaking it for Him. And thus we become discouraged whenever we
find that we have been deceived in ourselves; the soul, however, that
is sustained upon God, is not surprised at its own misery; it is
delighted to find new proof that it can do nothing of itself, and that
God must do everything. I am never in the least troubled at being poor,
when I know that my Father has infinite treasures which He will give
me. We shall soon become independent of trust in ourselves, if we
suffer our hearts to feed upon absolute confidence in God.

We must count less upon sensible delights and the measures of wisdom
which devise for our own perfection, than upon simplicity, lowliness,
renunciation of our own efforts, and perfect pliability to all the
designs of grace. Everything else tends to emblazon our virtues, and
thus inspire a secret reliance upon our own resources.

Let us pray God that he would root out of our hearts everything of our
own planting, and set out there, with his own hands, the tree of life,
bearing all manner of fruits.

 

[Crossseeker]

The trouble is that we have misunderstood
1 - our relationship with God and of
2 - our spiritual job that God wants us to do

1 - By God's Grace alone forever, through true faith in Christ Jesus alone forever, we are truly undeserving adopted sons and daughters of the Living Good Father God. Truly Thank you God for such an undeserved Truly Perfect Loving Desire for me and us on your part...Dear God

May we NEVER desire any thing less than that

2 - we are STEWARDS...every gift of (truly belonging to God forever) is LOANED TO US...ALL ONLY FOR GOD'S GLORY...
that means God's Grace, God's Beauty in girls, God's Handsomeness in boys, God's Talents in us...whether God's mental talents, God's physical talents, God's spritual gifts...
ALL TRULY AND FOREVER BELONG TO Our Truly Good and Truly Trustworthy Unchanging Merciful Good Father God.

3 - The Only thing that God gives us permission to truly HAVE AND TO HOLD TRULY WHOLEHEARTEDLY AND FOREVER IS GOD AND OUR LORD AND SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST, ALONE FOREVER TRULY ONLY...GOD'S VERY HEART OF ETERNAL LIFE.

4 - But we are so truly spiritually ignorant and spiritually blind...that we waste God's Time on worthless vain things...
even on God's Creatures...

5 - But God knows all this and little by little showers us with His Blessings and with His Afflictions (Blessings in Disguise) neither of which we deserve. We all truly deserve only death and hades if God's Truth be known.

6 - All Jesus wants to know is this...DO YOU TRULY AND FREELY GLADLY WILL to truly LOVE ME WITH ALL YOUR HEART AND WITH ALL YOUR SOUL AND WITH ALL YOUR MIND AND WITH ALL YOUR STRENGTH AS I HAVE TRULY AND FREELY AND WHOLEHEARTEDLY AND FOREVER LOVED YOU?

Don't worry...if you say yes...I will truly and totally Help you to LOVE ME little by little as you should love Me

For God says that, "God loves a cheerful giver."

YES, I TRULY SAY TO MY DEAR JESUS...WHO HAS WAITED MUCH TOO LONG FOR ME TO FINALLY ANSWER THAT ETERNAL QUESTION...May God give you The Same Grace and Mercy and Truth so that you will GLADLY say an Eternal Yes to Jesus Your Only True Husband truly WHOLEHEARTEDLY AND FOREVERMORE AND FOREVER

 

[Crossseeker]

XI. ON TEMPTATIONS - God's Spiritual Advice by Fenelon

XI. ON TEMPTATIONS.

I know of but two resources against temptations. One is, faithfully to
follow the interior light in sternly and immediately cutting off
everything we are at liberty to dismiss, and which may excite or
strengthen the temptation. I say everything which we are at liberty to
dismiss, because we are not always permitted to avoid the occasions of
evil. Such as are unavoidable connected with the particular position in
which Providence has placed us, are not considered to be within our
power.

The other expedient consists in turning towards God in every
temptation, without being disturbed or anxious to know if we have not
already yielded a sort of half consent, and without interrupting our
immediate recourse to God. By examining too closely whether we have not
been guilty of some unfaithfulness, we incur the risk of being again
entangled in the temptation. The shortest and surest way is to act like
a little child at the breast; when we show it a frightful monster, it
shrinks back and buries its face in its mother's bosom, that it may no
longer behold it.

The sovereign remedy is the habit of dwelling continually in the
presence of God. He sustains, consoles, and calms us.

We must never be astonished at temptations, be they never so
outrageous. On this earth all is temptation. Crosses tempt us by
irritating our pride, and prosperity by flattering it. Our life is a
continual combat, but one in which Jesus Christ fights for us. We must
pass on unmoved, while temptations rage around us, as the traveler,
overtaken by a storm, simply wraps his cloak more closely about him,
and pushes on more vigorously towards his destined home.

If the thought of former sins and wretchedness should be permitted to
come before us, we must remain confounded and abashed before God,
quietly enduring in his adorable presence all the shame and ignominy of
our transgressions. We must not, however, seek to entertain or to call
up so dangerous a recollection.

In conclusion, it may be said that in doing what God wills, there is
very little to be done by us; and yet there is a wonderful work to be
accomplished, no less than that of reserving nothing, and making no
resistance for a moment, to that jealous love, which searches
inexorably into the most secret recesses of the soul for the smallest
trace of self, for the slightest intimations of an affection of which
itself is not the author. So, on the other hand, true progress does not
consist in a multitude of views, nor in austerities, trouble and
strife; it is simply willing nothing and everything, without
reservation and without choice, cheerfully performing each day's
journey as Providence appoints it for us; seeking nothing, refusing
nothing; finding everything in the present moment, and suffering God,
who does everything, to do his pleasure in and by us, without the
slightest resistance. O how happy is he who has attained to this state!
and how full of good things is his soul, when it appears emptied of
everything!

Let us pray the Lord to open to us the whole infinitude of his paternal
heart, that our own may be there submerged and lost, so that it may
make but one with His! Such was the desire of Paul for the faithful,
when he longed for them in the bowels of Jesus Christ.

 

[Veracity]

short, sweet and to the point

I left the house,and that night I drop him an sms saying I will see him 2 months later as I will take this time to recover and hopefully I can see him as a friend then.

I wish to be friends wish him still as I miss his family and would want to be friends with him still.So..

I desperately need some advise on
1)what to do within this 2 months to recover
2)should we still be friends
3)what should I say when i finally contact him after this 2 months

When someone breaks up with you, do not contact them...period. Once you have been in these types of relationships, you just can't really be "Friends". You have feelings that will still want him to feel something he obviously does not feel. I don't want to hurt your feelings but, you can't make someone love you. This goes for anyone in a relationship...or out of one.

If this is the person God intended for you, do you think you would feel the way you do?

"Do not stir up nor awaken love; Until it pleases.." This is in the Song of Solomon several times...and lets say maybe this means pleases God.

If you are living for the Lord, in a true relationship with Him, He will surly bring someone into your life who will enhance the relationship you have with Christ.

I know how you feel, I am feeling for you....a year from now, don't let them make you feel foolish for wanting to continue in a relationship with his family, when they know he does not care for you.

And honestly, the best way to get over this, is to repent of the relationship, especially if it went to far, share how you feel about this person with the Lord, and then pray for him to be blessed and happy in his life with everything he does and does not deserve, and let him go.

Let Jesus be your first love always.

 

[precious77]

Thank you

Dear all,

Thank you for all the advise.I am slowly healing,taking 1 day at a time.

Dear Crossseeker,

I like what you have shared:

So, on the other hand, true progress does not
consist in a multitude of views, nor in austerities, trouble and
strife; it is simply willing nothing and everything,[HIGH-LIGHT] without
reservation and without choice, cheerfully performing each day's
journey as Providence appoints it for us;[/HIGH-LIGHT] seeking nothing, refusing
nothing; finding everything in the present moment, and suffering God,
who does everything, to do his pleasure in and by us, without the
slightest resistance.

I have store and save each one of your replies ,and I read it everytime I am down or when I need understanding.

Thanks all for helping to renew my mind,heart and soul.I believe The Lord has stir something in each and everyone's heart to take this time to help a spiritually weak sister.

Some testimonies I like to share:

I always believe that God helps those who help themselves.But I myself believe in practical ways to heal as well:

1.I have some news to share.I have joined a gym and even got myself a personal trainer to workout the depression ,at the same time boost my self-confidence.

2.God sent an angel to my life recently...a sister from a bible college who came into my life last week,and has been constantly encouraging my walk with the Lord,we talked about The Lord for hours till the wee mornings.We have a lot of similiarity,but what amaze me was she was about to comprehend my spirit,finish my sentences and somewhat know my inner thoughts are.She is going to pass me an online sermon from her bible college and she has a a desire to join my church.

I thank the Lord for sending me positive people,even all of you in this forum to speak life into my withered spirit.

Nevertheless,many have advise me not to stay friends.I understand everyone's concern to protect me from hurt.
I have prayed about it,and would wants be friends with him and family.Thing is I do not want to be separated from his family because it did not work between us.

Maybe you all can advise me some boundaries I should take if I were to be friends with him/family?

 

[SpiritLedEd]

I always believe that God helps those who help themselves.

"God helps those who help themselves" is not in the Bible and it is not Scriptural. That statement, penned by Benjamin Franklin, puts man always in the lead, with God following. In my profile I have a testimony that shows that God helps those who can't help themselves.

SLE

 

[rizen1]

The problem here is love.

In our modern world today we are told, move on let go and let God. But we forget one important thing Love.

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."
-- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

We forget about the meaning of love when we breakup with someone or get hurt. If he was worth loving when you first met what disqualifies him now. This verse describes what Love in general is, it should not be used only for marriage or boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. This love is for your enemies, your friends , those that hurt you and strangers .


" 'My true disciples produce much fruit. This brings great glory to my Father'" (John 15:8 NLT). Jesus also said, "'By their fruits you will know them'" (Matthew 7:20 NKJV).

What fruits are you producing right now, depression, down cast soul, anger, sadness, despair, loneliness, bitterness, recentment or betrayal ? I've been here done that, and let me tell you, another guy is going to show up, sweep you off your feet and none of this is going to matter. These tears and self seeking questions are not going to matter. You'll have a good laugh about this in the future.

We do not know what tomorrow or next year will bring. You both might get back together who knows.

37Jesus replied: " 'Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.' 38This is the first and greatest commandment. 39And the second is like it: 'Love your neighbor as yourself.' (Mat 22:37-39)

He is still your neighbor and deserves to be loved. And the only way for you to heal from this relationship you must.

1. Love God enough to trust him, allowing yourself to stop trying to control the situation ( what to do, what to do, what to do )
Love is patient, love always trust.

2. Love yourself...forgive youself for the choices you made. Remember you put yourself with him. Remind yourself of who you are in Christ and start producing positive fruits.

3.love your neighbor
you can not love your neighbor if you're concern about your feelings. Love is not self seeking. You can not love him or be his friend if you're holding things against. love keeps no record of wrongs His relationship with other females you can not get jealous, love does not envy. How you choose to handle the situation should not result in purposely causing harm to him or family. Love protects,Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

Hold on to the good memories and let go of the negative. The negative is what we carry around as baggage from relationship to relationship. If you can let go of the negative and love him as a friend I see no harm.

What lines you should draw ?...the lines of Honesty. Remember one thing how you handle this situation reflects on your character. This is how he and his family will see you and judge you as a person. If you are strong spiritually, and emotionally yes maintain this friendship..but only if it's been done in love. Your choice to be friends should not be for " what if reasons ", although there's nothing wrong with hoping. For love always hopes .

I've been hurt by a few guys, what brought me comfort at the end of the day was " I did right by all of them, was never rude or tried to get revenge ". I do not excuse my kindness for thats who I am, if they chose to take advantage of me, it's on them. I should not lose my joy because they did not know how to love. Important note, I never told everyone the details, so thats why no one fought me on wanting to stay friends with them. Always talk to those who truly know you.

I'm in a wonderful relationship right now, and that's the only reason I've distant myself from them. But over the years they've been able to call me, I've loan money a couple of times and I've made myself available if they need prayer. The healing process was hard but with God it's nothing, but on my own it's hell. They would always tell me or ask why ..." why were you still nice to me ," " why don't you hate me "...my response... it's who I am and this is what God would want.

I also live by this .."Do unto others as you would have them do to you". Luke 6:31

It was not easy seeing one particular guy with other girls...but if you truly love someone then their happiness should bring you joy. Thats how I began to look at things. Also for those who really hurt me, I showed them love, hoping they would change for the best for the next girl.

So to close this up...If you want to be friends be friends only........... if it crosses the line of friend with benefits, spiritually and emotionally it's not safe and availability toward each other should be reduced. Never be afraid to love someone that hurt you, even if the world says not to. If it's worth it to keep the friendship then do it.

For LOVE always Preserves.