not worrying about being single

[SmileBig]

This is how I have dealt with loneliness in my heart recently. I have tried to be honest so that you can relate to it and I hope that what is said helps you today.

I have come to the conclusion that you cannot make anyone love you but to let yourself be loved and when you meet someone it will be in God's time not yours.

I used to be sooooooooo desperate for a young lady to be in my life that it used to frustrate me so that I got tongue tied and lose my self confidence. Whenever someone paid me any attention I used to give my heart away but lately after crashing and burning I am coming to realise that God must come first to meet the need....

These thoughts from the bible come to mind as i talk (I have paraphrased them before anyone tells me )

Seek first God's Kingdom
The prayers of a righteous (wo)man matter
They that sow in tears shall reap in joy
God gives and takes away, bless Him \O/
Trust in God with all your heart and lean not to what you know. As you acknowledge Him He will show you where to go.
We ARE more than conquerors in Christ
Who shall separate us from Jesus' love?

The key I guess is my perspective and focus. Circumstances have changed but I am no longer bothered about trying to please other people to have a girlfriend but am more concerned with giving the need to God and pleasing God.

I pray what I have said helps someone who is dateless and depressed.

Finally......DON't GIVE UP, YOU'RE ON THE BRINK OF A MIRACLE

God bless
Biggie

 

[chinagurl]

I'm a missionary to restricted country, & i've experienced that kind of feeling before..pressures from friends, family to have a girlfriend/boyfriend makes you freak out & can make you ask "what's wrong with me?" but instead of asking that question why not ask God "what i have in me that i can glorify God?" when i choose to look at the things that i have in order to glorify God i stop worrying of being single, i enjoyed serving Him & i trust that he will provide my every needs including the need of a lifetime partner..
Truly, the hardest part of life is waiting but He perfectly knows the right timing, He knows when we need it.. He was able to provide our greatest need, that's saving us from the wrath of sin, surely He can provide our lesser needs!

 

[ax d-slayer]

hey there brother Smile God Bless You bro even I had the same problem and God spoke to me ( I am 17 and WAS DESPERATE ) and i understood God is the first

God Bless You ( BooHoo.... jus Kiddin )
lots Of Love
Ax

 

[monkeys]

I'm really happy that you realized that God comes first brother! It is so hard in today's world. When you are lonely and looking for love, it seems as if everyone around you is dating or married.

When you focus on your relationship with God, you will be surprised when love comes knocking on your door! God will surely bless you with a beautiful woman of God!

Blessings,
monkeys

 

[SmileBig]

thank you for your advice, help and support. Thing is that putting God first is continual and we are told by Paul so if you think you're standing firm be careful you dont fall so it is like a wake up call to me.

God bless

 

[AbbysAunt]

Amen! I've learned that in being single to be content with where I am and to enjoy my life. right now im single and yes I would like to date again but in the Lord's timing not mine. I once was told by a friend of mine the reason I don't have a boyfriend is because I wasnt serious enough when I prayed about it. She told me that she cried and sobbed when she prayed to God to bring her the right one and yes she is happily married now, but I don't think it was right of her to tell me i wasnt serious enough about praying for a signifigant other. I believe we all handle things differently and that includes how we pray.

The relationships I've had in the past weren't great because first off i was unequally yoked and secondly I was tryin so hard to find love and not giving it over to God. But, now I want God to handle every aspect of my life including my love life. I know in His timing He will bring me the right one. I will Keep God first always because I know without Him I would be nothing.

 

[SmileBig]

great advice from all of you, especially Abbys' Aunt. I am coming to the conclusion that it needs more prayers to God and leaving it with Him and just developing friends around you first if God bless you with friends.

God bless you

 

[SmileBig]

i have focussed on getting more involved at church and into God's word and as a result the lustful desires of my heart fade. Also people and things that I used to desire I no longer am worried about as my confidence is in my God and Saviour.

God bless