Please Don't ban me for this need help

[Rickeo]

Ok

Use are all probably going to hate me for this or condem me to hell but I need to come clean am fed up of lieing about it.

Basically I used to be a Christian but then found it hard to go on with my Christian faith because of many reasons.

I couldnt believe God was male and males were kinda seen as more important than females it just didnt make sense to me it was more like equality that I believed in.

I couldnt believe that people who were brought up muslim would go to hell because they didnt follow christianity because if ur brought up to believe something your going to believe it forever right??

I also cant believe that gay people are going to go to hell because they cant help who they fall in love with it is the way they are.

I also find it so hard to follow the faith its so difficult all the rules and when I sin it makes me feel so guilty.

The thing is I have this huge calling back to god a huge calling but I cant go back I got involved with pagan beliefes and I have a pagan gf now and we have been together forever and well we started having sex and I like it and dont want to stop and if I became a christian again I would be kidding myself saying I would stop.

Am so sorry for offending you all and everything I really am and please dont ban me I need help I have a calling back but there things I dont want to stop I cudnt ever split up with my gf or anything and I cudnt stop having sex also I cudnt believe everything in the bible I cudnt in my heart of hearts.

So if I cud never possibley believe it in my heart of hearts why is god calling me back coz he knows I will never be able to believe everything whole hertdly never and it frustrates me I have this calling back but it doesnt fit me.

Please dont tell me am going to hell because I already know that.

Again I am sorry if I offended you all.

Rick

 

[maciek]

You are welcome brother...

Dearest brother Richard...God is beyond any human imaginations...You just go beyond all human language...human languages are not enough to express God and God's love...so man has to use limited language...so you need not worry...Yes you are teen aged boy and you have your own struggles..I pray and hope you will soon come out of all your doubts, fears and anxieties...hearty welcome to you...No one is perfect to judge or condemn any one...so trust in God's mercy...

 

[Faithful Son]

Do you know what happens brother Rick? You are trying to take on the whole world and it's problems by yourself.

If you believe in Jesus you are a Christian,

John 3:16
16"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.

When you become a Christian, Jesus changes you, He makes you a new man. Why do you want to do all these changes by yourself? Why do you say to the Lord Almighty that I won't believe in you or allow you change me?

Brother, pray to Jesus, believe He is the living God, all will be well

 

[Faithin1]

Amen, brother teraside! Brother Rickeo, I might add also that the mere fact that you are being convicted by the Holy Spirit is evidence that God is working on you. Don't be so hard on yourself. God knows that you are struggling with this. We all struggle with one thing or another, but that does not negate our Christianity. Continue to believe and have faith in the loving power of Jesus. You can't make it on your own, but know that Jesus is here to help you. Whatever you do, don't give up on Jesus, He will never give up on you. We are here at TalkJesus to help one another, not to pass judgement or condemnation. May God bless you!

Matthew 11:28-30

"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest."

"Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls."

"For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."

1 Cor 10:13

"There hath no temptatation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it."

 

[snowcatwnc1]

Jesus never gives up on you

Once you have been baptized and accept Jesus as your savior he will never give up on you no matter what you do. I accepted Christ when I was 25. Years later I drifted away and gave in to a sinful life, thinking only of what was pleasurable. Was I happy? No!!!!!! All the time Christ kept calling me back. Finally, I started praying several times a day for his help through the Holy Spirit. Then, one day, sinfull things no longer had any appeal to me. I was free of the devil and all of his evil influences. Was this just me changing my will? No way! I would be much too weak to change 180 degrees. This was God helping me by filling me with the spirit.

So in answer to your question, get on your knees and pray for Jesus to turn you away from temptation with the Holy Ghost. Will it happen immediatley? Probably not; I prayed and prayed until it did. Once it happens though, you will be completely free. Still thanking God for salvation....

 

[Rickeo]

Thank you so much everyone am still fidning it hard am still abit upset about stuff I lvoe God I do I lve Jesus and I dont want to go to hell and I know its worng u might hate me for it and I know am going to hell for it but the thing is:

To stop sinning you have to want to I know its wrong and stuff but I dont want to.

Well I want to stop with certain stuff but I don't want to stop having sex with my gf.

Am sorry sorry if I offend you all use are all to nice to me thank you for your kindness and not condeming me.

Thank you

Rick

 

[Stylez4Christ]

Thank you so much everyone am still fidning it hard am still abit upset about stuff I lvoe God I do I lve Jesus and I dont want to go to hell and I know its worng u might hate me for it and I know am going to hell for it but the thing is:

To stop sinning you have to want to I know its wrong and stuff but I dont want to.

Well I want to stop with certain stuff but I don't want to stop having sex with my gf.

Am sorry sorry if I offend you all use are all to nice to me thank you for your kindness and not condeming me.

Thank you

Rick

:lightbulb You said you love GOD but you sin but how you love GOD when you sin on porpuse???????:embarasse

 

[Chad]

Please read about: http://www.talkjesus.com/scriptural-answers/206-fornication.html

This is not an option. You either follow Jesus or you do not. You cannot continue in sin just because you want to continue committing fornication with your girlfriend. GOD sets rules for a reason because He knows best and when we are obedient, we live the better life. The life that GOD intended for us: purity and happiness beyond comprehension. The kind of happiness that no sex (outside GOD's will) could ever offer you. Lust is a never-ending seeking to fulfill yourself, therefore, its useless and vain.

 

[maciek]

Love Jesus peronally and passionately

I understand brother your struggles...In order to love Jesus personally and passionately you need to reject satan and his ways...So love Jesus personally and passionately..call on the name of Jesus and you will be saved...

 

[Eve]

Hi Rick,

You have mentioned many points, I will just try to address one at the moment if that is ok.

I do not doubt that there are men out there that try to make the bible say what they want to feel superior to women because of their own lack of self esteem but they do not truly know Jesus. I discern for myself which men I should trust and which ones I should not take heed of.

I used to be an atheist before I became a Christian. I became a slave to sexual sin and men from a very young age. I was used and misused countless times by worldly men, who I thought loved me but in reality they only lusted after me, they did not respect me. I had no sense of worth. I felt that the only use I had was to stand around looking pretty like a trophy!

Since becoming a Christian I have found so much more respect for myself and the men around me and realise all men are not the same, there are genuine men who I call true brothers, who do not see me as a toy or a piece of meat to be used.

Take lust for each other out of the equation for a moment. Rick are you truly respecting your girlfriend by having sex with her before you are married? Do you want to get to know her on a deeper level as a person? When I was a 'pagan' I always worried that the only reason my boyfriend was with me was because of what I could offer him sexually, that even though he professed his love for me, without sex he would leave me. That he did not love me for who I was just what I could give him. This doubt grew and led to us splitting up.)

'Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.'(1 cor 11:3)

Please do not think that God teaches us that women are not important because that is not true. Just because the head of Christ is God does not mean we devalue Christ. Just because the head of a woman is man does not mean that we devalue women.

Our most wonderful God felt the need to create woman as a helper for man. Not a slave or servant or someone to say yes, without thought (that is not what being a helper means). We are equal in importance, our precious Lord values both men and women.

Women are God's children also, my body is the temple of the holy spirit, it is a great insult to almighty God to disrespect that.

For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from God.(1 cor 11:12)

God Bless

Eve

 

[sunshine307]

Rickeo,

There is some good advice given here. Please listen to what people are saying - especially Eve, with regard to your girlfriend. Your decision will affect your eternal destiny. God doesn't want to send anyone to hell, but He will honour your choice. The bible says in John 15 that we are to abide in Christ. You either love God or you don't. You cannot love God and keep on deliberately sinning. When you ask God for forgiveness, you repent from your sins. That means turning away from your sin and turning to God. As long as you trust Him He will give you the strength to live for Him, to turn away from sin, but you've got to take that leap of faith.

Just one more thing, remember this - God's Spirit will not always strive with man - Genesis 6:3.

PS Eve you said "Women are God's children also, my body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, it is a great insult to almighty God to disrespect that." Amen to that.

 

[calluna]

Thank you so much everyone am still fidning it hard am still abit upset about stuff I lvoe God I do I lve Jesus and I dont want to go to hell and I know its worng u might hate me for it and I know am going to hell for it but the thing is:

To stop sinning you have to want to I know its wrong and stuff but I dont want to.

Well I want to stop with certain stuff but I don't want to stop having sex with my gf.

Am sorry sorry if I offend you all use are all to nice to me thank you for your kindness and not condeming me.

Thank you

Rick

Rick, now you know we don't hate you, that wouldn't be the Christian way.:shade: I don't think any of us are offended by what you say either. I am not shocked and I respect your honesty.

The reason why we are all urging you to make a change and replying to your post is because we love you and care about you in Christ Jesus. We as disciples of Christ are trying to steer you in the right direction, showing you that it is wrong for you to continue down this path of blatantly sinning against God. Maybe you are in bondage over the sexual stuff and you need prayer and the Power of the Holy Spirit to break you free from this. Sex has a very strong pull, You are not alone, many struggle with this sin.
It is a plan of satan's to seduce us and destroy us and you my brother are playing into his sneaky hands.

God gave us the ten commandments, they are the standard law to live by and for very good reason, many are there to protect us and keep us from harm.

Look at adultery, it says in
Mathew 5:28 " But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery".

So we all have probably broken this commandment. Why do you think God tells us not to do this? It's for our protection. It brings disaster and trouble into our lives. Unwanted pregnancies, STD's , broken marriages, broken hearts. Look at David and all the trouble he went through, because of his affair with Bethsheba. But dispite David's rebellion God had mercy on him and saw David's humble heart.

I urge you please come to the Lord with a humble heart, seek Him for His forgiveness.
1John 1:9 "If we confess our sin He is faithful and Just and will forgive us our sins and purifies us from all unrightesouness".

Isaiah 66:2 "....This is the one I esteem, he who is humble and contrite in spirit, and trembles at my word"

Consider the consequences of your actions. Take God's Word seriously. We all at TJ are trying to help you.
We cannot fight our fleshly desires on our own, it is impossible to overcome sin and obey the ten commandments without the power of the Holy Spirit. Ask the Lord for His help.

I am going to pray for you.

Calluna

 

[Jonah2005bt]

All I can say is never give up totally!

Rick, I can't speek for everyone, but what can say is, you didn't offend me.

If you have any questions unanswered ask GOD & don't stop until your sure of HIS answer to you. Never stop comunicating with HIM, for this tells HIM that your interrested & that you care!

And Bible STUDY!!! Even if it's solo. It can be done as long as you go to HIM in prayer everytime before you start your STUDY. You will see, HE"LL answer your questions, the things you feel in life to day to be unfair, the things that you just don't understand - if you are really interested - your questions will be answered.

Sounds like to me your going through some trials right now.

If you believe that you have a calling, then know this, GOD is putting HIS trust in you, and believes you can handle it.

GOD would not allow you to go through any test that Satan throws your way, except the ones GOD knows you can handle.

There is always going to be things happening in this world that we do not always understand or have the answers for.

Maybe right now you feel that you are not ready yet, to give your all to The Almighty GOD & follow your Beloved Savior, Christ Jesus.

And perhaps GOD realizes this & HIS calling for you now is just the begining of something really big, but you may not be ready for it for sometime now or even realize it.

All I can say is never give up totally!

I was once like you, felt the same way you do about gays, race & other religions as well. To me prejudice is prejudice, and prejudice never ever made any sense to me. People are people & we all have feelings right?

Anyways, though life was tough for me, some how (with luck) I seen it through. And I do believe that my luck was GOD & Jesus some how was leading the way with out me even realizing it.

And I think that might be happening to you.

If you LOVE GOD and HIS Son Christ Jesus tell HM. Even when you're sinning.
Let HIM know how you feel. But always be respectable to HIM.

Also, remember GOD has a name, though we hadly ever hear it. HIS NAME is Jehovah & I called out HIS name many times & HE saved my life many times from death itself, before I even realized that I was going to be called.

 

[Jonah2005bt]

The Almighty God has spoken out with HIS love for you.

Ezekiel 33:11
Say unto them, As I live, saith the Lord Jehovah, I have no pleasure
in the death of the wicked; but that the wicked turn from his way and
live: turn ye, turn ye from your evil ways; for why will ye die, O
house of Israel? (American Standard-Holy Bible)

The Almighty God has spoken out with HIS love for you.

He loves you no matter if you are good or bad.
But of coarse HE wants you to live a good, healthy & happy life.

That is why HE insist that we live according to the ways that HE has chosen for us all to live. And HE wants you to be happy & trouble free. And why HE said that "HE takes no delight in the death of the wicked but longs for them to turn from their (wicked) ways & live."

The wicked ways are filled with selfishness, trouble, hate & even murder. A life that most deffinitely is filled with a troubled mind & troubled heart which
equals out be unhappiness.

The Almighty God new what HE was saying when HE also said;

My son, should sinners entice you, and say, "Come along with us!"
My son, walk not in the way with them, hold back your foot from their path!
[For their feet run to evil, they hasten to shed blood.] It is in
vain that a net is spread before the eyes of any bird - These men lie
in wait for their own blood, they set a trap for their own lives.
This is the fate of everyone greedy of loot: unlawful gain takes away
the life of him who acquires it.(Proverbs 1"10-11 & 15-19)

But if you already feel that you have sinned badly & think that The
Almighty God is out to punish you good; think again!

He is telling you right now that HE forgives you & is giving you the chance to turn from your wicked {or wrongful} ways & to live a forever lasting life of true happiness.

HE also knows that once you die there is no turning back to turn from your wicked ways; therefore you will be sitting on the judgment seet waiting to be judged for the wickedness you did.

So, do go to HIM, & say to HIM: "Our Father Who's Heaven, Hallow be THY Name. It's YOUR Kingdom I long to see & what YOU want done hear on earth as it is in Heaven."

And if you feel you can, give HIM thanksgiving first & pray for others. Then tell HIM how you feel, let HIS presence come to you & guide you, ask HIM to pour out HIS Holy Spirit upon you & do ask all this in the name of HIS beloved Son, Jesus Christ, ending with a Amen.

I tell you this, because I believe this is the best way for you to find the anwsers you are looking for. And always keep your bible handy, because sometimes that's where GOD gives HIS best answers.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Rickeo: I used to live next door to a young man (in his early 30s) who is not married, but keeps a live-in girl friend (he's had three of them to date). Those live-in arrangements sound good, but, since your union is not legally established by marriage, what's to keep her from walking away if she meets another man and is attracted to him? She could just walk away and you couldn't do anything about it because she hasn't made any legally binding commitment to the relationship.

One of my former neighbor's girl friends wanted them to get married. He refused and put her out on the street. You may be setting yourself up to be dumped. On the whole, people who are not willing to enter into legally binding
marriages are not trustworthy. They are like bees flitting from flower to flower; they linger only for a while, then they are off to find new nectar.

SLE

 

[Jonah2005bt]

Did you ever really try Bible Studying?

In order to even care about GOD's Rules & Regulations, we need to learn them first, what they are & what they mean to us.
So therefore we need to Study. {John 14:21 & 23-24}

In order to understand The Almighty GOD {YHWH, Jehovah} and/or HIS Son Christ Jesus, we must learn of them, first.
Who they are, why GOD made man-kind & why things go on in this world the way they do.

In order for people to truly say they LOVE The Almighty GOD & HIS Son Christ Jesus, they need to learn all about them, first. {John 14:21 & 23-24}

And in order to remember everything we learn we need to keep on Bible Studying, to keep our minds refreshed of HIS Rules & Regulations, keeping them intact
Writing them upon the tablets of our hearts, {Proverbs 3:1-3} otherwise we might be allowing HIS Word fade, therefore forget what we've been taught,
finding ourselves getting weeker,in stead of getting stonger. Giving more into man's ways instead of GOD'S.

We, being imperfict need to refresh our minds, if not everyday, then at least once a week or when ever is most posible.

Plus, it's a wonderful feeling!
For not only are we learning more & more of GOD & HIS Son Christ Jesus. We are also comunicating with HIM.
Providing the fact ,we go straight into prayer first, inviting HIM & ask HIM to join us in this study, to guide us as we Study.

It's incredable feeling when you feel HIS Presance. Because out of the blue, knowledge comes to you. Knowledge that you know you have learned, but don't
always have the ability to expain it, but for some reason,{in the Study} now you can expain it. Knowledge to answers to questions you did not understand
before.

I know this to be true! I know because GOD has comunicated with me this way. And I truly do believe that GOD wants us all to Bible Study,
solo or with others. And with a starting prayer, from our hearts & with high hopes that HE will guide us through it, too. {Proverbs 4:2}
Studying is like a gentle dicipline to the soul & mind. {Proverbs 1:2-7}

Which is the key to living with GOD, believing in HIM & walking with HIM.

Also if or when you get the chance you might want to read the Posting - Procrastination in this same group - 'Get Saved Now.' By calluna, she makes alot of sense.*genesis

 

[SmileBig]

There is hope for you Rick as all have sinned, made mistakes in God's eyes and fallen short of the glory of God (even those that seem to be perfect Christians) but Jesus said also I am the way the truth and the life, no man comes to the Father but by me.

If you feel convicted about your lifestyle the this is because the wages of sin is death BUT the gift of God is eternal life and areas of your life where you know you have slipped up need to be handed over to God for His gift of forgiveness.

Therefore if we confess our mistakes Jesus is faithful and just to forgive us our mistakes and we can be a new person BUT we need to stop doing things from the past and leave these things that hold us back behind us.

God bless you.

 

[Rickeo]

Thank you

How do I stop it so hard am sorry God

Rick

 

[Jonah2005bt]

Thank you

How do I stop it so hard am sorry God

Rick

For one, always {try to} put HIM first. Trust in The Almighty GOD & in HIS Son, Christ Jesus.

As for God, his way is perfect; the word of the Lord is tried: he is a buckler to all them that trust in him. {2 Samuel 22:31}

And Love HIM with all your heart soul & mind. {Matthew 22:37}

By putting all your Heart & Soul into GOD. Using all the Food of Knowledge that The Almighty GOD has given you.

And by using all your might, not letting anything or anyone, stand in your way between you Jesus Christ & The Almighty GOD. And this means doing the very,very best you can.

And never, ever stop praying to HIM

And always be serious with HIM because HE is serious.

 

[mymakersdaughter]

Ricko, I'd suggest that you get your head into a Bible asap as you hide God's word in your heart you will no longer desire to sin against Him. Paul talks about the problems with sin in Romans.