Hello Dear Sister,
Hope you've overcome now?
God gives grace to the humble... James 4:6
Admitting you made a mistake is a sign you're humbling yourself even right here in the forums. Receive God's grace sister, of which I believe others here had already extended unto you in the name of the Lord. That same Grace will give you strength to overcome yourself guilt/condemnation. God is FAITHFUL AND JUST TO FORGIVE US AND TO CLEANSE US FROM ALL OUR UNRIGHTEOUSNESS (1John 1:9). Amen
I remember the prayer of the Psalmist in Psalm 61
1Hear my cry, O God,
listen to my prayer;
2 from the end of the earth I call to you
when my heart is faint.
LEAD ME TO THE ROCK
THAT IS HIGHER THAN I
3 for you have been my refuge,
a strong tower against the enemy.
4 Let me dwell in your tent forever!
Let me take refuge under the shelter of your wings!
I highlighted verse 2, that Rock alone is no other than the Lord Jesus Christ. I myself make that Psalm a personal prayer of mine when I am being overwhelmed with anything, whether mistake, failure, giving in to weakness, wrong decision, whatever. Yet God is always faithful to answer when we come to Him with a humble heart. Amen
Let me share to you the following when a time I give in to that situation you shared about. That happened (not only once, a lot of times), when I handled for two years my four years old niece few years back, and twice already with the seven year old boy I am handling here in Hong Kong this past year.
1. Recognize the source of your anger. Why you get angry? (No need to answer here).
2. Present yourself to the Lord whether or not you have the valid reason of your anger. Ask forgiveness to God for giving in to anger that which led you to do the things you're regretting now, and hurt your family. Ask His grace and strength to enable you to approach them for apology or asking forgiveness, receive it by faith. Pray for them that the Lord will intervene and soften their heart to forgive you, and the distant feeling will disappear. Ask the Lord to heal all your hearts, and the memory of the mistake shall not be remembered anymore. Amen
3. Get up to your feet, and as one poster said here, ask / seek their forgiveness.
4. Entrust to the Lord the result, and move on.
I will be praying these things myself in your behalf, may the Lord help you lead you in what to do. Amen
In my case here, I dealt first with the kids, and after asking for forgiveness for hurting their feelings, and explaining to them why I get mad, I would lead them with a prayer of forgiveness and blessing especially with my niece before. After that, I hug them and ask if they are already alright.
Before giving her back to her parents, I confess to her parents all what I have done with their daughter, and seek their pardon also. I did that just so if ever my niece would ever come to remember anything, my brother and sis in law knows them already fresh from me. For God's glory, my niece is a teen age girl now, and every time I go home to see them, I asked her if she has any grudge against me for all that happened to us when she was still a child. She can still remember those beatings, but she understands it is for her good, the unreasonable ones, she can't remember them anymore (hehe). Praise God.
So with the boy (he is getting 9y/o) here I am handling right now, my relationship to him as his guardian has become better and stronger as time pass by with that method 1-4 I shared, and I just thank the Lord for the understanding of his parents (they are not Christians, most of the time the boy is with me) when we do have fights and the boy would confide, I just let him do since it is difficult for a two way communication with the parents (they can't understand and speak English, I can't also understand and speak Chinese :-D).I just keep trusting the Lord I won't get fired on my job, he is really naughty and they know that (hehe) but he is starting to mature now also. Amen.
May the Lord be glorified. Praying the Lord gives you encouragement and hope through this dear Sister.
Blessings.
I've made a terrible mistake.
I'm married and have a step son. A couple days ago I got really angry at them and said horrible rotten things to them that I can't take back. I feel as though I lost my family and now I'm alone.
I fell off the Christian wagon and I'm trying to get back on. I can't forgive myself and I'm trying to patch things up with my family but it's hard to stay motivated when they are upset and distant. I know it's My fault. I need prayer To keep going and to get back on the wagon. I'm desperate. I've lost everything and feel hopeless and I don't feel motivation to live.
