I have been married to my 2nd husband for 7 years. Our courtship of 10 years was difficult because his children acknowledged, but wouldn't accept me.... and that's all I wanted, was their love and acceptance.
Holidays are the hardest, because my husband is torn between his kids who He loves dearly, and myself, knowing how ill at ease I am around his ex-wife and children, who are grown adults in their late 30's and 40's. At times the mood is good all round, but mostly I am tolerated and even ignored by one or two of them (including the ex wife who is remarried). My husband and his ex-wife divorced long before we met, so I was not the cause of their break-up. But to keep on the right side of his children, he leads them to believe that he still has feelings for their mother. I may sound naive, but I know that he doesn't.
I've even been sworn at by one of the kids when he was drunk one day. We had it out and I forgave him once he apologised.
It's been painful because my husband does not stand up for me. It's almost as though he tries to sweep their bad behaviour toward me under the carpet. When things are said in his presence, he pretends as though he never hears it. And then the fight begins between us.
Where is God in all of this I ask sometimes. These people have been born again....
Please, please pray that the Holy Spirit would show my husband that this is wrong. I'm also worried about the stand I've taken in all of this. I'm angry and am struggling to forgive. I've left it in God's hands. I can't do this anymore....
Holidays are the hardest, because my husband is torn between his kids who He loves dearly, and myself, knowing how ill at ease I am around his ex-wife and children, who are grown adults in their late 30's and 40's. At times the mood is good all round, but mostly I am tolerated and even ignored by one or two of them (including the ex wife who is remarried). My husband and his ex-wife divorced long before we met, so I was not the cause of their break-up. But to keep on the right side of his children, he leads them to believe that he still has feelings for their mother. I may sound naive, but I know that he doesn't.
I've even been sworn at by one of the kids when he was drunk one day. We had it out and I forgave him once he apologised.
It's been painful because my husband does not stand up for me. It's almost as though he tries to sweep their bad behaviour toward me under the carpet. When things are said in his presence, he pretends as though he never hears it. And then the fight begins between us.
Where is God in all of this I ask sometimes. These people have been born again....
Please, please pray that the Holy Spirit would show my husband that this is wrong. I'm also worried about the stand I've taken in all of this. I'm angry and am struggling to forgive. I've left it in God's hands. I can't do this anymore....
