Please pray for me

[jmellis09]

Well I don't really know how to start this. I am in need of prayers. I am at a point in my life where I feel as though everything around me is crumbling. I am needing prayers for many things. I guess the best place to start is at the beginning. A few years ago, I lost my grandfather just before Christmas. The very next year, I lost my great grandmother one week before Christmas. Christmas was always my favorite holiday so needless to say it quickly became a very tough time of year for me. This passed year was no different. This passed year, my sister married a man who was more than twice her age. Just before Christmas, a young girl showed up on my sister and her new husband's doorstep claiming to be his child. At the time I was dating a girl that I just knew was my soul mate. Me being the kind of person to be open and honest, immediately told my now ex about the situation. Immediately I was accused of cheating and sleeping with this girl. This caused many arguments between me and my now ex. Shortly after she dumped me. We had been dating for over 2 years and I thought for sure that I was going to marry this girl. I said some extremely hurtful and stupid things out of hurt. I regret saying them now. There were times that I wondered if she was cheating on me, but I am a very trusting person and never gave it much thought. Last week I found out that my sister has told her husband that she wants a divorce. The other day she hopped onto a plane to another state to be with someone that she claims to love. Her divorce is not finalized, but has now moved in with this other person. I have gotten to the point where I have basically disowned her. Today I found out that my ex is now dating the person with whom I suspected she may have been cheating on me. I feel like the harder I try to draw closer to God the further he seems to be from me. I have prayed and prayed and it seems to do no good. I feel like I am dying inside. The pain is overbearing at times. I am at wits end. I don't know what to do anymore. Please pray for me and if you have any advice, it would be greatly appreciated. I feel like my heart has been ripped out of my chest.

 

[amadeus2]

"And it was so, when Elijah heard it that he wrapped his face in his mantle, and went out, and stood in the entering in of the cave. And, behold, there came a voice unto him, and said, What doest thou here, Elijah?

And he said, I have been very jealous for the LORD God of hosts: because the children of Israel have forsaken thy covenant, thrown down thine altars, and slain thy prophets with the sword; and I, even I only, am left; and they seek my life, to take it away." I Kings 19:13-14

Think about what you are doing here @ jmellis 09: Not especially on this forum, but in this carnal world of men, in the little world of jmellis09. Has not every man suffered pain and anguish very often undeserved for the things that they can see and understand?

Consider the suffering of Job who was according to Job 1:1 was "perfect and upright".

Then consider the prayer of the one man who had never done anything deserving of punishment:

"...O my Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me: nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt." Matt 26:39

The cup was not removed and Jesus went to the cross. He resigned himself to his Father's will. Did we not benefit because Jesus went to the cross?

Your pain and suffering is real and perhaps for the things you suffer there is no blame to found in you. God can alleviate the suffering, but if it is not done, what will be your response?

I am praying that God help you in all of your difficulties, either to remove them, or to enable you able to bear them. God's will be done.

 

[Brad Huber]

When you say "Now ex", does that mean you spoke to your wife or girlfriend at that time and told her that some gal you met was your soulmate? And then she got angry at you and dumped you? Just trying to clarify.

 

[Hebron]

Giving counsel to a fellow believer facing numerous troublesome circumstances is not something to rush into neither are certain verses that might be appropriate always what we want to hear. One such verse is 1Thess 5:18 but it is hard to swallow and even harder to practice Whilst reading your post the following verses were quickened to my spirit.

(i) Job 5:7-8 Yet man is born unto trouble, as the sparks fly upward. I would seek unto God, and unto God would I commit my cause:
(ii) Rom 8:28. And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

NB Take note it does not say all things that happen are good but -if your life is resigned to and delight to do the will of God, He has promised to give you the desires of your heart. Ps. 37:4. Not that this implies He will give you everything you long for but He will plant the desires in your heart that He knows are best for you as you seek to serve Him.

Just as some medicines are very unpalatable to the taste but are of great benefit, so some scriptures that best serve our need are not immediately appreciated but if we obey them we are assured of great peace. Ps 3:3 is one such verse; But thou, O LORD, art a shield for me; my glory, and the lifter up of mine head.
Ps 32:7-8 Thou art my hiding place; thou shalt preserve me from trouble; thou shalt compass me about with songs of deliverance. Selah. I will instruct thee and teach thee in the way which thou shalt go: I will guide thee with mine eye.

It is understandable that the choices made by your sister and the ensuing outcome are of great concern to you but I would suggest you concentrate on your own wellbeing and relationship to God because if you are not - first and foremost - at peace with Him you will be unable to cope with anxieties from without. Please note however my dear brother in Christ, if you are to know true lasting peace, there may be some things you need to do before God.
I Jn 3:21-22 Beloved, if our heart condemn us not, then have we confidence toward God. And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.
Ps 119:165 Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.

This is not the platform to bear your soul but if there is a divorce in the equation God may require some response from you so I think you could do no better than confide in a mature pastor / brother in Christ with a view to deep healing. Hebron.