Right or Wrong?

[skipbeat]

I have a" friend" i call him a friend because frankly i have no idea what we are. We use to be more then friends but that didn't work out too well because his a nonbeliever and i'm Catholic but he puts as because he can't come see me (his in Germany). It's not that his a bad guy his actually a really nice guy and i actually think it would be really amazing if he decided to learn of the Christian faith and became Christian but i don't have the nerve to tell him that. Were "friends" now but i still feel like his "the one" and i feel like if i keep trying i can reach him because i know all that his going through and i just feel like if he can only believe he'll have a lot less stress in his life and he'll stop wondering and asking why. I feel like if it weren't for him i wouldn't have found out so much about myself and i feel like we met for a reason. I feel like we both know how we feel about each other but were kind of going in circles. I don't know if i should give up and stop trying to reach him or if i should keep going and if i do keep going and he doesn't want my help. I want to know if what i'm doing would be considered right or wrong?

 

[01redeemed]

Not right or wrong

It is not really about right or wrong. It is about Gods will for your life as far as any relationship in your life. God will bring people in and remove people. But here is the troubling thing to me. How many times did you say the word "feel" in your statements above? We are not to be led by our feelings but by the Holy Spirit. My advice would be to be still and listen for God to speak. Draw closer to Him and come to know Him more.

Romans 12:1-2 1I APPEAL to you therefore, brethren, and beg of you in view of [all] the mercies of God, to make a decisive dedication of your bodies [presenting all your members and faculties] as a living sacrifice, holy (devoted, consecrated) and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable (rational, intelligent) service and spiritual worship.
2Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].

I pray that this is a blessing to you and that it would serve to draw you closer to the Lord.

 

[sunshineaaks]

I have a" friend" i call him a friend because frankly i have no idea what we are. We use to be more then friends but that didn't work out too well because his a nonbeliever and i'm Catholic but he puts as because he can't come see me (his in Germany). It's not that his a bad guy his actually a really nice guy and i actually think it would be really amazing if he decided to learn of the Christian faith and became Christian but i don't have the nerve to tell him that. Were "friends" now but i still feel like his "the one" and i feel like if i keep trying i can reach him because i know all that his going through and i just feel like if he can only believe he'll have a lot less stress in his life and he'll stop wondering and asking why. I feel like if it weren't for him i wouldn't have found out so much about myself and i feel like we met for a reason. I feel like we both know how we feel about each other but were kind of going in circles. I don't know if i should give up and stop trying to reach him or if i should keep going and if i do keep going and he doesn't want my help. I want to know if what i'm doing would be considered right or wrong?

1 Corinthians 6:14 is pretty clear about marriage to an unbeliever. I have nonbeliever friends and some who waver between belief and unbelief. My prayer is that they come to Christ and that in some way they see Him in my actions and words. Even though they are all nice guys, I would not marry any of them.

This could be a test to see if you will be totally obedient to God or to the world. If this guy is the one God has intended for you, he will come to Christ but only God knows when a person will accept or reject Him.

If this isn't the guy for you, constant pursuit of an unbeliever might blind you to the believer waiting on the side.

 

[swsavedbygrace]

It is not really about right or wrong. It is about Gods will for your life as far as any relationship in your life. God will bring people in and remove people. But here is the troubling thing to me. How many times did you say the word "feel" in your statements above? We are not to be led by our feelings but by the Holy Spirit. My advice would be to be still and listen for God to speak. Draw closer to Him and come to know Him more.

Romans 12:1-2 1I APPEAL to you therefore, brethren, and beg of you in view of [all] the mercies of God, to make a decisive dedication of your bodies [presenting all your members and faculties] as a living sacrifice, holy (devoted, consecrated) and well pleasing to God, which is your reasonable (rational, intelligent) service and spiritual worship.
2Do not be conformed to this world (this age), [fashioned after and adapted to its external, superficial customs], but be transformed (changed) by the [entire] renewal of your mind [by its new ideals and its new attitude], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what is the good and acceptable and perfect will of God, even the thing which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His sight for you].

I pray that this is a blessing to you and that it would serve to draw you closer to the Lord.

I would have to agree with this poster.

 

[sharen]

'what fellowship has light with darkness'.

Don't sell God out for the world. Because it's second rate love compared to who God is, no matter how great this guy might be.

A man is a man.

God is God.

There's really no comparison although following the right one can require an enormous amount of sacrifice at times. Including what might look like our only chance at being truly loved in this life.

It sucks. But we don't really have a choice. Gods way or the highway. He doesn't really give us any other option. (And if he wasn't righteous we'd be right to ignore it. But he is.)