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Sex outside marriage

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Is there a guy who knows and believe about this? Seem that I can't find a good christian guy who still practices this... :(
 
Is there a guy who knows and believe about this? Seem that I can't find a good christian guy who still practices this... :(

Yes yes, there are still guys who follow this law, it is just a matter of finding them. Or better yet, waiting for God to bring him to you.
 
Yes indeed, there are still men who follow this law. Like Audrey said, you need to allow God to guide you to 'the one.'
 
I would just like to concur with the other replies here. Though I do find the irony a little amusing, that the only posts here are from women and the question is are there any men that feel that way. Well I'm going to tell you from a guy's perspective there are. Unfortunately I fear not as many as women would like to believe, and even fewer that would admit it proudly like myself. My girlfriend and I are so happy and proud to admit that we're waiting until marriage to become one-flesh.
 
Yes, there are some that I do believe are holding out for marriage....I do agree that you have to let God have control over this. Sex is a beautiful thing when shared between a husband and wife. Pray about it and wait for God's timing.
I wish that I had did this in my own life, but I didn't I am so glad that Jesus has forgiven me for my sins.

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There has to be some out there. However, don't hold sin against a guy if he has repented and his sins were washed away by Jesus blood! His blood makes us clean and we all have sin.
 
I am a man and still saving myself for marriage. Within a Godly marriage, physical relations encourage bonding and intimacy. I do not want to waste it with thoughtless promiscuity. If it is God's will, I shall gladly wait for a bride of moral quality. If not, I am prepared to resign myself to a life of singlehood.
 
Having any form of sexual contact is outright sin to God and will defile and destroy your body and send you to hell.

So sex outside of marriage is not even to be considered by a Christian.
 
This seems like a very simple quesion, the answer is simple as well. You don't go to GoodWill looking for a Mink Coat. You don't go to Macys looking for $2. Flip Flops.
Good husband type of men are not found in strip bars. A real man is involved in Sunday School and Church, and yes, Wed. service too.

One test if a man's salvation is genuine, He will not even suggest recreational sex. He openly beleives sexual purity is a mutial responsibility, both man and woman are to be a vrgin when married.

There is no such a thing a shopping for a husband or wife. We pray for the Lord Jesus Christ to direct to the mate he has for you. You should pray for the person we will someday marry.

Read Psalm 139. The Lord knows about your life before there was yet one day. How awesome!

Put your Love for the Lord in first place and be your self, keep your eyes open, and ask the Lord direct your path.

But remember satan knows what will tempt you and will bring up a great almost as good as person to bring you down into a sin that will hurt you very deep.

I know all I have said is true, my bride and I have been married 43 years on Sept. 5th.
What I have said also comes with pain as well, as human we do sin and have hurt one another. But the important thing is how we resolve our issues, not that we shoved them under the carpet. God bless.
 
Holding out will make you far more valuable than rubies and pearls. A godly woman is to be praised.
 
I believe there are men out there that do believe in "no sex outside marriage". They are just scarce, even women with such values are becoming increasingly hard to find. This in my opinion is because of how everything is highly sexualised these days and casual sex being a norm in society as well as culturally acceptable.
 
Sex between a husband and wife is a beautiful expression of love. God designed it just for a husband and wife to enjoy and of course for reproduction too. Sex between a married couple is not dirty, or nasty. I messed up in life and did not wait until marriage. I have been forgiven for it. I want my son to understand how special it is to wait for marriage and enjoy it the way God planned.
 
Yes I believe so but I have yet to encounter this type of man. I agree with the other posts. We must follow from the HIS word how a Godly woman should uphold herself. Single or not. Pray and God will provide in his timing.
 
I am a guy who wants to wait until marriage before making love. I haven't done it before, and my desire is to wait until the wedding night/honeymoon. But I definitely understand what you are saying, ChristianJeenn. I may be the only voice who actually wants to honor God in marriage. It seems like there are just so few people that do, even with girls. So to answer your question, yes there are. It seems to be a rare thing, though.
 
Hate to hijack the thread like this, but I also have questions as a guy who wants to wait. How do you deal with being the only one who is waiting until marriage basically? I don't even like to say "Waiting until marriage" because that takes away from the real purpose. Purpose is to serve God alone and reach the lost souls. Perhaps it would be better to say that I am serving God today, tomorrow, and hopefully for the rest of my life, and if that's the desire, a Godly woman & I could be a team serving God together.

I am basically the only guy I know who is a virgin whose desire is to serve God alone and wants to only have sex within God's beautiful design. But how do you be a Godly virgin single in this world basically? Sometimes there can be so many discouraging things about it. The world is truly against people wanting to live Godly (2 Timothy 3:12). People think you're a freak if you haven't had sex before, and they laugh at staying a virgin as an adult. It's basically insulting and mockery. How do you withstand the mockery and derision that the world says about virgins? I want to stand against the world, but I guess I need help. My desire if I get married is to have a Godly marriage described in Ephesians 5 and Genesis 2. How can you have that in a world so polluted?
 
Having any form of sexual contact is outright sin to God and will defile and destroy your body and send you to hell.

So sex outside of marriage is not even to be considered by a Christian.

I can agree here. I have been sexually active a while now. And sin is sin. In my opinion though, it's not about the sin at all when you call on Jesus, because Jesus forgives us of those things because he loves us. You can make improvements here and there, for example - I don't cuss any more, I don't do drugs any more, It's not all about building up a wall of money for myself, etc. and so forth. However, just for making certain improvements doesn't have to mean you are cleansed or sin free. I'm sure there are pastors and teachers out there still experiencing some degree of fornicating in their heart, if only mildly, begging the lord for answer as they become rittled with guilt. Temptation can really be a burden. Every man hath sin, and all fall short of the glory before the lord and savior Jesus Christ. Back to my own opinion here - love is the degree of fellowship we must attain so that we ordain our freedom. If your spouse, future spouse, boyfriend, can't forgive you of sin, then there is something wrong with their heart, they are troubled, sorry. The troubles of this heart - they are TOUGH. I'm a guy and I'm going through a crisis over this very issue and many more. But at the end of the day, we are there for each other (my fiancé that is). And true love is not to gaze at one another, but true love is both looking together in the same direction. God wants you to have this love, even if it does mean sex outside of marriage, if your person calls for the substance. I know my sin, and don't let the face of evil tempt your ego. This is a cruel world we live in, and God is great! He is an island in our lives. He gives us power to take command over anything. He said he is forever faithful, and this mountain is yours. Claim it. Be. I AM. You can do this, call on him to save you, call on him to move you past this struggle, and he will do it by your faith in him. I can't be in the right mind to answer your question about men, because I would be a hypocrite if I said I was true to him with sex. But we both know what we are doing. And it brings us closer. To God. To our light. Only God is between the two of you, no other person is allowed for that to become visible in their eyes, unless you show it before the congregation. THAT is love. Sex is a gift. Use it wisely. If it doesn't make sense what I have said, I am just young, confused, and starting out. I was saved 3 years ago and I'm still trying to find my former glory and redeemer, and I will pray on the subject. I will pray that God show you your MAN, and make it clearly obvious the way he did for my fiancé!
 
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And true love is not to gaze at one another, but true love is both looking together in the same direction. God wants you to have this love, even if it does mean sex outside of marriage,

Nonsense and babble on in absolute nonsense...

when are you going to get serious with GOD and stop playing around fooling within yourself and get on the narrow way as you dwell in confusion break out of it in Jesus Name!

your soul is at stake you have your responsibility:

Repent and believe The Gospel (which is not your own creative see as it fits you yourself kind of cote dawgs gospel which does not save anyone not even yourself)

Believe upon The Lord Jesus Christ and Repent and follow Him!
 
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