Should I end this Friendship ?

[Kqt]

Hi so I’m new and I didn’t really know what thread to put this in so I just guessed.

But some backstory, I was a pretty devoted and good Christian when I was younger but after about the sixth grade and my dad passing away I had grown distant, still believing in God and Jesus but only that. But now I’ve decided to change and I want to be like how I was when I was younger and I’ve been doing better, to keep it short.
But recently I’ve been thinking more on the aspect of the people in my life. I’ve had a really close friend for about almost 4 years now and I had met her when I was struggling with my faith. We met in middle school and now we are going into our Junior year of high school. She is atheist and also apart of LGBT community which leads me to my main questions, is it wrong for me to be friends with her?
She’s sweet and we really get along. She knows I am a Christian but not of how I’ve decided to really make the effort to be a better one and change. We don’t talk about religion it’s mostly just about school and other things we are interested in. She’s never forced her views on me and I’ve never done that either because I want to be respectful. Even if I mention it she never really reacts badly to it. She supports me in anything I do and I really appreciate everything she has done for me and I know she feels the same towards me.

I’ve been doing some research on this topic and to my understanding it’s always vague or a completely different situation so I don’t really know what I should do. I know I shouldn’t surround myself with these kinds of things because it could lead to bad choices that are against God. If i do have to end our friendship what should I do? After everything she’s done for me I don’t know how I can just hurt her like that. I know God is a absolutely without a doubt 100% more important but my morals are the thing holding me back. I know she will be absolutely devastated because we are basically the only friends we have and I don’t want to hurt her like that but if I have to, I know God is more important.

How should I end our friendship if this is the case?

 

[Br. Bear]

Greetings,

She’s never forced her views on me and I’ve never done that either because I want to be respectful. Even if I mention it she never really reacts badly to it. She supports me in anything I do and I really appreciate everything she has done for me and I know she feels the same towards me.

the Good News of the Gospel is not a thing to be forced upon anyone. One of the 'hardest' things to do can be to simply be and do your faith, without words.
That does not mean, don't share and speak about things of God. Do, but remember that everything we say we need to be able to back up in who we are, how we live, how we react, etc, because people will read you more than your words.
Make sure you read the Bible. If you can, listen to the Bible [you can do this these days quite easily online or by downloading files, etc or even buy CD's and the like.]

If you are able to, get some fellowship into yourself with non pushy Christians. Those who are genuinely interested in fellowship and are genuinely interested in studying the Bible.

Perhaps if you can find a decent fellowship to attend, you might be able to invite you friend along?

Rather than cut off your friend, be a friend and pray for her, It may be that she is your 'mission field' and you have an opportunity to share Jesus like no one else might be able to.

BUT, you do have to get yourself established, also. Don't neglect that. However, as you serve, you grow. In other words, don't wait to grow before you serve but discover that as you serve, you are grown! {by the Lord}

Keep in touch and let us know from time to time how you are doing.


Bless you ....><>

 

[Hekuran]

Jesus said, Love the lord your God with all your heart, soul and strength. And love your nrighbour as yourself.

Love God first and let his love run through all your friendships.

 

[Jellani]

Hi @Kqt before when Jesus came here on earth, He was surrounded too with so many people who dont believe on Him but it was not the reason for Him to cut Himself off with them, infact there are instances that He went inside their houses right? That was the same example that ( i think ) God wanted us to do, to be His light for those who still didint know Him. Maybe not in our words alone but be a walking bible to them. Leaving her will all the more cause her to believed that Christians dont have Christ in their hearts.

But for you not to be deceived of the doubt of others regarding the existence of God, you have to be sure too of your personal relationship with Him and your identity being His child.

Amen to what our brother is suggesting, bring her to a group of people/ friends ( believers ) whom you know can also be of help (not by pushing our beliefs) but by showing her what the Love of God is.

 

[Christ4Ever]

First welcome to Talk Jesus Sister @Kqt
Always a joy to welcome a Sister in Christ Jesus to this online forum of Christian Believers.

On what you should do.....well you can ask God whose relationship you are trying to restart/mend. He will guide you in the way you should walk. Still what you have show is that you are rightly convicted/conflicted in what you should do. The first step is acknowledging that there is a question, and one that you don't know the answer to. And so here you are :smile:

In understanding that there could be a conflict, you come to understand that you are different from the those who are of the World. You are separate, or set apart by God to be a Holy people. This doesn't mean that you don't interact with others, but rather you comport yourself in a manner that reflects positively on our Lord and Savior, our God even when others don't. You may even by your actions convict people of their own behavior, which with your friend might not be a bad thing. Why? Because it will give you an opportunity to share the Gospel with them. Remember, them asking is not pushing. For regardless of the how or why. They may very well may drift apart from you, or wind up having issues with you because of how your life is starting to change to reflect your growth in His Word, and walk with Christ. So, I won't necessarily break off this friendship relationship. Just understand that there will be pitfalls in maintaining it, as truth be told, there is in any relationship one has.

Still, there can be instances where you might have to separate yourself for your own sake. Meaning, that in this friendship that you have, you might be doing things, non-sexual of course (The wrong of this speaks for itself.), that are not conducive to your walk with the Lord. It may be, going to clubs, or drinking, or smoking, etc. I'm sure you will see what these things are as you grow in the Word, if you don't already know all of them. Regardless of how close your friend is to you, it cannot impede your walk, even if it doesn't bother them. Temptation can come in many ways, and you'll need to be aware of this, because now that you've decided to walk right with the Lord, the Adversary will attempt to use every means at his disposal against you. Which of course includes your friends, family, strangers etc.

Don't let any of this that I've said, or others have said ever put a stumbling block to your continued desire and actions that will bring an increased closeness with the Lord. He should be your main priority, and everything else secondary to Him.

I hope this has helped you at least a little! You've come to a site that has Bible Believing, Christ Loving, Brothers & Sisters in Christ. Who will listen, pray for you as needed and as the Spirit of God moves them to.

Glad you have found us here at Talk Jesus.
With the Love of Christ Jesus. Once again be welcomed Sister!
YBIC
Nick
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Here are some verses for you.

Your word [is] a lamp to my feet And a light to my path. Psalm 119:105

You will show me the path of life; In Your presence [is] fullness of joy; At Your right hand [are] pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10

For we walk by faith, not by sight. 2 Corinthians 5:7

Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, "I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life." John 8:12

"For with God nothing will be impossible." Luke 1:37

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

 

[Br. Bear]

Jesus said, Love the lord your God with all your heart, soul and strength. And love your nrighbour as yourself.

Love God first and let his love run through all your friendships.

Hi @Kqt before when Jesus came here on earth, He was surrounded too with so many people who dont believe on Him but it was not the reason for Him to cut Himself off with them, infact there are instances that He went inside their houses right? That was the same example that ( i think ) God wanted us to do, to be His light for those who still didint know Him. Maybe not in our words alone but be a walking bible to them. Leaving her will all the more cause her to believed that Christians dont have Christ in their hearts.

But for you not to be deceived of the doubt of others regarding the existence of God, you have to be sure too of your personal relationship with Him and your identity being His child.

Amen to what our brother is suggesting, bring her to a group of people/ friends ( believers ) whom you know can also be of help (not by pushing our beliefs) but by showing her what the Love of God is.

First welcome to Talk Jesus Sister @Kqt
Always a joy to welcome a Sister in Christ Jesus to this online forum of Christian Believers.

On what you should do.....well you can ask God whose relationship you are trying to restart/mend. He will guide you in the way you should walk. Still what you have show is that you are rightly convicted/conflicted in what you should do. The first step is acknowledging that there is a question, and one that you don't know the answer to. And so here you are :smile:

In understanding that there could be a conflict, you come to understand that you are different from the those who are of the World. You are separate, or set apart by God to be a Holy people. This doesn't mean that you don't interact with others, but rather you comport yourself in a manner that reflects positively on our Lord and Savior, our God even when others don't. You may even by your actions convict people of their own behavior, which with your friend might not be a bad thing. Why? Because it will give you an opportunity to share the Gospel with them. Remember, them asking is not pushing. For regardless of the how or why. They may very well may drift apart from you, or wind up having issues with you because of how your life is starting to change to reflect your growth in His Word, and walk with Christ. So, I won't necessarily break off this friendship relationship. Just understand that there will be pitfalls in maintaining it, as truth be told, there is in any relationship one has.

Still, there can be instances where you might have to separate yourself for your own sake. Meaning, that in this friendship that you have, you might be doing things, non-sexual of course (The wrong of this speaks for itself.), that are not conducive to your walk with the Lord. It may be, going to clubs, or drinking, or smoking, etc. I'm sure you will see what these things are as you grow in the Word, if you don't already know all of them. Regardless of how close your friend is to you, it cannot impede your walk, even if it doesn't bother them. Temptation can come in many ways, and you'll need to be aware of this, because now that you've decided to walk right with the Lord, the Adversary will attempt to use every means at his disposal against you. Which of course includes your friends, family, strangers etc.

Don't let any of this that I've said, or others have said ever put a stumbling block to your continued desire and actions that will bring an increased closeness with the Lord. He should be your main priority, and everything else secondary to Him.

I hope this has helped you at least a little! You've come to a site that has Bible Believing, Christ Loving, Brothers & Sisters in Christ. Who will listen, pray for you as needed and as the Spirit of God moves them to.

Glad you have found us here at Talk Jesus.
With the Love of Christ Jesus. Once again be welcomed Sister!
YBIC
Nick
<><

Here are some verses for you.

Your word [is] a lamp to my feet And a light to my path. Psalm 119:105

You will show me the path of life; In Your presence [is] fullness of joy; At Your right hand [are] pleasures forevermore. Psalm 16:11

Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10

For we walk by faith, not by sight. 2 Corinthians 5:7

Then Jesus spoke to them again, saying, "I am the light of the world. He who follows Me shall not walk in darkness, but have the light of life." John 8:12

"For with God nothing will be impossible." Luke 1:37

For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. Jeremiah 29:11

YES YES YES !!!