Single Forever

[anayawa]

Matthew 19:11-12 Jesus answered, "This teaching does not apply to everyone, but only to those to whom God has given it. For there are different reasons why men cannot marry: some, because they were born that way; others, because men made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Let him who can accept this teaching do so."


When I was younger I always used to dream about meeting prince charming. My family moved quite a bit so I never actually stayed in one place long enough to really get to know someone. I went to an all girl Catholic secondary school. I met one guy from another school but he left me because I wouldn't give him my virginity. I admit I am a bit commitment phobic.

Now I'm 25 and I've never had a serious relationship. I'm at University as a foreign student and it’s interesting that most of my course mates are female. Only one guy is studying Public Health. I go to a Baptist Church and I just don't think its right to go to church with the main goal of looking for a mate. I do go out; I have my group meetings, little trips and things. I'm improving my life. I feel like love is something I cannot control, it just happens like a by the way kind of thing. But, since this year I have absolutely given up.

I'm afraid that I may regret being single. I'm afraid that I have pushed away prince charming. I'm afraid that I may be like my aunties who have not married and do not seem really happy about it.

So its things like this have got me thinking, how do you know if you are meant to be single forever? I guess if I knew for sure that mine is the gift of singleness then it would be easier to accept.

 

[shipwreck]

Hey Anayawa, Well first of all you're are only 25 years old you still have many years ahead of you to meet mr. right. I also understand where you are coming from sometimes i feel as though the Lord ment for me to be single but I don't know for sure. I believe the most important thing is that we rely on God for happieness and not to depend on a relationship for it and yes it is good to be in a relationship and to desire to be in one but the Lord will bring you true peace whether it be in singleness or with a mate the Lord knows your heart and if He feels that it is best for you to be with someone He will put the right man in your life Godbless you sister love in Christ.

 

[Boanerges]

Anayawa God has many blessings in store for your life. If you pray He will hear. Ask Him to send the right person into your life and then wait expectantly upon Him. He gives wonderful things to those His kids.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

how do you know if you are meant to be single forever? I guess if I knew for sure that mine is the gift of singleness then it would be easier to accept.

I've been married for 42 years, but I have two men friends (both Christians) - one 40 yrs old and divorced, the other 41 yrs old and never married - who've sought my advice on this very issue.

My counsel to them and to you is to live life one day at a time.While being concerned about the future is important, I believe that God wants us to stay in the day. I advise you to study Mt 6:25-34 NIV.

Spirit Led Ed (SLE)

 

[anayawa]

Hi, thanks for all the words of encouragement. I will try not to lose faith.

 

[Lion_of_Judah]

I'm afraid that I may be like my aunties who have not married and do not seem really happy about it.

So its things like this have got me thinking, how do you know if you are meant to be single forever? I guess if I knew for sure that mine is the gift of singleness then it would be easier to accept.

Hi anayawa,

If this lifestyle was meant for you, you probably wouldn't feel as you do ; )

Recognize your own desire, exercise patience, trust God, don't get caught up
in the culture world ..of emotions you see around you.

Make yourself a list of what your heart desires in a mate. Then commit it to God to bring him into your life.
No really
I did this myself at the suggestion of a pastors wife. A few years later I met her. We became freinds. A year and a half later our relationship took the next step into romantic love and we started dating. Fourteen months after that we were married. And she told me one of the strongest reason she wanted to marry me, was because we did not cross the line over into a sexual relationship. This was also for each of us, our second marriage. We finally got it right.
He's out there ..and no doubt looking for you! Trust God to bring it about if you really want the best for your life,
rather than settling for a frog in princes' clothing :wink:

All the best and God bless you, Marco

 

[stephen]

Matthew 19:11-12 Jesus answered, "This teaching does not apply to everyone, but only to those to whom God has given it. For there are different reasons why men cannot marry: some, because they were born that way; others, because men made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Let him who can accept this teaching do so."


When I was younger I always used to dream about meeting prince charming. My family moved quite a bit so I never actually stayed in one place long enough to really get to know someone. I went to an all girl Catholic secondary school. I met one guy from another school but he left me because I wouldn't give him my virginity. I admit I am a bit commitment phobic.

Now I'm 25 and I've never had a serious relationship. I'm at University as a foreign student and it’s interesting that most of my course mates are female. Only one guy is studying Public Health. I go to a Baptist Church and I just don't think its right to go to church with the main goal of looking for a mate. I do go out; I have my group meetings, little trips and things. I'm improving my life. I feel like love is something I cannot control, it just happens like a by the way kind of thing. But, since this year I have absolutely given up.

I'm afraid that I may regret being single. I'm afraid that I have pushed away prince charming. I'm afraid that I may be like my aunties who have not married and do not seem really happy about it.

So its things like this have got me thinking, how do you know if you are meant to be single forever? I guess if I knew for sure that mine is the gift of singleness then it would be easier to accept.

Matthew 19:11-12 Jesus answered, "This teaching does not apply to everyone, but only to those to whom God has given it. For there are different reasons why men cannot marry: some, because they were born that way; others, because men made them that way; and others do not marry for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven. Let him who can accept this teaching do so."

This passage of the scriptures does not include you. At 25 years of age, it does not apply to you

When I was younger I always used to dream about meeting prince charming. My family moved quite a bit so I never actually stayed in one place long enough to really get to know someone. I went to an all girl Catholic secondary school. I met one guy from another school but he left me because I wouldn't give him my virginity. I admit I am a bit commitment phobic.

You did the right thing......Continue your dream. Here at 'talkjesus' we believe in dreams. Particularly as with you and your protection of yourself and your desire for better......Amen.

Now I'm 25 and I've never had a serious relationship. I'm at University as a foreign student and it’s interesting that most of my course mates are female. Only one guy is studying Public Health. I go to a Baptist Church and I just don't think its right to go to church with the main goal of looking for a mate. I do go out; I have my group meetings, little trips and things. I'm improving my life. I feel like love is something I cannot control, it just happens like a by the way kind of thing. But, since this year I have absolutely given up.

You have not had a serious relationship at 25? I was 26 before I had a serious relationship.........she became my wife.

I feel like love is something I cannot control,

True......You will be aware when it hits you dear.......wait for that.

I'm afraid that I may regret being single. I'm afraid that I have pushed away prince charming. I'm afraid that I may be like my aunties who have not married and do not seem really happy about it.

Pushed away Prince charming? Surely not,,,,reading your heart

So its things like this have got me thinking, how do you know if you are meant to be single forever? I guess if I knew for sure that mine is the gift of singleness then it would be easier to accept.

You are not meant to be single forever....as you suggest....Indeed not.

You will be blessed with a happy love and marriage as you continue following the true path....in Jesus

 

[wannabesurfa]

hi

I think that if you want to meet someone then God will give you someone when the time is right. because God wants his children to be happy and he will usually if not almost always give you what you ask for. the key is to not look for someone to love. just live your life and love God and someone will come. and if they dont then while you're living you're life you'll learn to love being by yourself. either way God wants you to be happy so whichever way it turns out you will be happy. So they key is to pray for Gods will and it doesn't hurt to ask him if he can put mr. right in his will for you because God says you can do that.

 

[Truehearts]

Haha, I wonder why I cant help but browse on threads about being single... I understand where you're coming from, I used to asked God, "Please, just let me know if you want me to stay single forever, so I wouldn't hope anymore. It'll be easier to accept." (sounds bitter huh')

Well, I myself have not had any boyfriend or suitor or dated anyone ever. Im 22 btw. Considering all of my closest friends are in the stages of being with the right one. Its a little hurtful for me. But then, I remeber that whenever I pray to God, I dont want Him to give to me, just because I ask(so badly) or that I just feel 'left out'... I pray He give it to me at the perfect and right time. I pray for a first and last love, not a 'let's-see-if-it-will-work' love.

It could be quite lonesome at times(especially when my friends brags about their guys) but anyway, what I do is... I let the loneliness sink-in, cry a little, listen to sad lovesongs... and after some moment (when I have recovered) I get back up and say "alright, thats enough." I continue my daily schedules, do something fun and not let the 'self-pity' drown me in. Afterall Im way young, and so are you.

Drop the 'I have absolutely given-up' line. Be busy with your relationship with God and serving Him. Prioritize your relationship with God, consider it as the preparation when God gives you the 'one'.

 

[Giggles4God]

I believe that if a guy says you have to have sex to be his girl then he isn't worth it. Why? Sex isn't to be forced for one thing. Withholding sex from a guy, isn't wrong. You don't have a problem committing because you said 'No!' Some guys need to get with it!

I never had a 'date' until I was 21. The first one...and it wasn't a great relationship. There were things that went wrong. He broke it off. Then, I met my husband We married when I was 23.

My main advice is...focus on God. Let Him be your everything. There are guys out there who will find you and see that you are following God. After all, God is to be first before anyone or anything else. God and THEN your spouse and THEN your children...etc.

So yeah...

 

[abraham]

hey

Anayawa Do not be to egarely to find a relationship. Be patient and god will find you a soulmate. Roman 8:25(But if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently.)

 

[Jei]

but you're only 25! i'm 30 and single... waiting in God's time. in the meantime, i'm enjoying and loving life as it is. so cheer up! you're not alone.

 

[MelechYisrael]

I always thought I would get married; settle down - never happened. I'm now 45 and still single. I'm at the point now where I believe single is better - for me. I enjoy life. I enjoy being on my own. I have decided that if He wants me to marry, then it will happen. If not, I am more than content with life as it is.

 

[lonely_soul]

Too many afraid's, gosh sounds like me, lol.

Other than that, remain single and no further comment, so I don't get in trouble, lol, (as usual) yeah, as usual.