I know you want to be active about finding a future spouse. There are many different ways to find a spouse. Each way has its own consequences. I suggest following the Lord's will and being obedient. Serve in the church and among the needy.
Those working the field that Ruth gleaned from noticed her, then Boaz noticed her while she was gathering food for her mother in law. He inquired about her and the women of the field had great things to say about her.
I think that is a pretty good example for a woman to find a spouse and a note to males is that they should be serving and looking for women serving.
Ruth 2
8 Then said Boaz unto Ruth, Hearest thou not, my daughter? Go not to glean in another field, neither go from hence, but abide here fast by my maidens:
9 Let thine eyes be on the field that they do reap, and go thou after them: have I not charged the young men that they shall not touch thee? and when thou art athirst, go unto the vessels, and drink of that which the young men have drawn.
10 Then she fell on her face, and bowed herself to the ground, and said unto him, Why have I found grace in thine eyes, that thou shouldest take knowledge of me, seeing I am a stranger?
11 And Boaz answered and said unto her, It hath fully been shewed me, all that thou hast done unto thy mother in law since the death of thine husband: and how thou hast left thy father and thy mother, and the land of thy nativity, and art come unto a people which thou knewest not heretofore.
12 The Lord recompense thy work, and a full reward be given thee of the Lord God of Israel, under whose wings thou art come to trust.
