Sister

[IloveJesus92]

My little sister is 14, and this boy is obsessed with her, he's 18.
He won't leave her alone, and she's obsessed with him, too.
They aren't 'dating' but they might as well be, they kiss.
I know this guy, he has a bad reputation and he has slept with a few girls. I try to talk to her but she ignores me, and starts fights.
She's hanging out with all the bad kids, they try to convince her that God isn't real. She doesn't listen to me when I want to help. She only gets me in trouble. She also said that if God doesn't forgive her than he's a 'jerk'.
I'm fed up, and this is breaking my relationship with her..
Advice?

 

[Sapphire Spirit]

I think you should just try and let your sister know that you are there for her, whenever she wants to talk to you. I know you probably want to just stop her from seeing this boy in the first place, but if you keep arguing with her and trying to force her to listen to you, she will just do the things you don't want her to do out of spite. Try to keep and eye on her whenever you can and always try to be nice to her, so she doesn't start more fights. Ask her about this boy and why she likes him, and try not to condemn the relationship in front of her, that won't work. Listen to her. Be kind.

Eventually she will start to respond in kind to you. And the closer you get to her, the more she will finally start to actually listen to you, and you can then try and give her some advise about this boy again, but gently. And you will be able to talk to her about God more as well, trying to undo whatever harm her so-called friends are doing. Intercede if things become too serious though. Other than that you'll just have to be very patient.

You'll be in my prayers.

 

[Giggles4God]

Does she go to youth group? Or do you have someone you could talk to there in person?

Sometimes you have to get other people involved no matter what might happen. Maybe right now, just so you can talk about it without them talking to her, until it goes to far.

Sometimes teens have to experience their own things first.

Does this guy even know 14 year olds are under age? Most states girls have to be 16 or older to consent. :-S Just a thought.

If you have an older brother or close guy friend that you could have talk to this guy, that might help, too. Just so that it isn't just your sister being talked to.

If I was your mother, I would not allow this. I would talk to her and tell her what could happen. No matter what she said or tried to do. Sure she'd be angry. lol. But really...it's scary when teens don't even listen to their older siblings who know things.

*sigh*

 

[IloveJesus92]

Thank you Sapphire and Giggles.
I will keep your advice in mind. I'll always be there for her.
My mother is trying to let her figure things out on her own, but she doesn't allow her to spend time alone with him. Despite that, I'm still worried.
However this isn't her first 'older' love interest, so it's confusing.
Yes, the age of consent is 16 here, but obviously he doesn't care.
Thanks again, and God Bless!