So heart broken and confused..

[Praise The Lord]

Around 3 years ago I was intoduced to an extremely good-looking work colleague who is a devoted christian. But despite his good looks I felt nothing for him. We didn't really talk, mainly work related.

One day he walked past me and, it's hard to explain, but I felt a voice deep down saying "he's the one". My response was "No God please, anyone but him!" I really wasn't attracted to him. I eventually came to my senses and trusted God for he knows what he's doing. I gradually developed feelings for him (which I had asked God for).

I haven't seen or heard from him for two years now, since we both moved on work wise. But I trusted God that in the right season he would bring us together.

Besides praying for him, I didn't really think about him all that much. That is up until around a month ago where he's been on my mind alot. It's gotten to the point where my heart aches everytime I think of him.

Today I had this sudden thought to look him up on a social networking site (I had looked him up on this site before but had no luck). I found him this time 'round only to see a photo of him and a girl (they are not related).

I thought he was 'the one'... I don't know where to go from here. I can't begin to express how confused and heart broken I am right now.

 

[::PreciousinChrist::]

Dear Praise the Lord,

Thank you for posting in.

If you think that the voice you heard was from the LORD, then God would have led you into His Word concerning that guy. Remember that the LORD leads and guides us through the Word.

So, I encourage you that you would ask the Father for verses that would authenticate/confirm His guidance concerning this guy.
Though it may be hard - You need to "cast all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7) and be free.

Draw close to the LORD

See also:

2 Cor 10:5
Exodus 20:3

...( You may have to do these scriptures written above over and over again till you overcome the pain).


God bless you
PRE

 

[Praise The Lord]

Thank you PreciousinChrist

A while back I had this huge crush on a guy, for many years. In my mind, I was going to marry him. After many years of torturing myself over this guy, the same voice told me that he wasn't the one. I was devastated, but I knew that God had someone special in store for me. He ended up leaving the country and is now married with a child.

I know that I haven't been seeking God and reading the bible as often as I should lately. Maybe this is just what I need to put me back into place and to seek and spend time in his word.

Thank you for your quick response and your wise words.

 

[Brother Mike]

He is the One..

I thought he was 'the one'... I don't know where to go from here. I can't begin to express how confused and heart broken I am right now.

Don't be upset of confused by this.. You allowed your feelings to override what you knew was right.. You waited to long, and missed God..

However, because you (MIGHT) have missed God, you now have to go under presumption that he was the one for life as a Husband....When In reality you have no real idea what "He is the one" really meant.

When Hearing the Spirit of God, Never, Never, Never add to it, so that the blanks are filled in, and never consider emotion.. Just do as your told to do.... Check it out!!!

God is Smart, and knows you.
God also knows that when he tells us something, how we will respond to it, the time takes us to get our emotion out of the way, and any other misconceptions that God has to fix... God will never tell you to do something that you can't do, or understand... Like telling someone that believes Laying hands on the sick today is past away.. God will not bother that person to heal someone as God knows they would not receive it..
So, trust in God's timing, and trust that God knew exactly how you would respond.

He could have been the one to be a lifetime ministry partner, Could have been the one that knows your actual Husband, could have been the one that led you to financial freedom... could have been anything..

Now you assume that just because he has a girl with pictures, that You messed up...

Contact him!!! If God said he is the one, then there is something connected with him and your future, and it does not have to mean a Husband.. We need to grow up in Spiritual things... find out!!!

If it was not God that said "He is the One" then you need to get this off your conscience right away... If you heard God correctly, then you will know once you start talking to him again..

Never Rush!!
If it was God today, then it will be God saying the same thing Tomorrow.

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Giggles4God]

I'm with Brother Mike about finding out about him and this girl. For all you know she might be just a friend.

If you believe God told you he was the one, then you need to step. Obey Him. Pray and ask Him what to do next.

 

[AudreyNicole]

He ended up leaving the country and is now married with a child.

If he is married and has a child you definitely need to stay away from trying to get close to him in any way. I think the best thing for you to do now is stop focusing on him and start focusing on your life. I know it will be hard, but you need to "forget him", the good thing is God can help you move on if you ask.

This guy obviously is not your guy... that just means God has someone better in mind for you. All those dreams you made around this guy you will have with another guy. So no worries there. I think you should go back to God and start focusing on your relationship with Him. Read the Bible, fellowship, worship, go to church, join Bible groups, go out and serve, pray... do all these things. Start focusing all your energy and all your life on God and He will most definitely bring you your guy. As you are focusing on Him, He will be working in this situation.

I know this will be a trial for you, but it is a great opportunity to re-focus on God and find out what His plans for you really are!

God Bless!

 

[TheWidowsOffering]

Don't be upset of confused by this.. You allowed your feelings to override what you knew was right.. You waited to long, and missed God..

However, because you (MIGHT) have missed God, you now have to go under presumption that he was the one for life as a Husband....When In reality you have no real idea what "He is the one" really meant.

When Hearing the Spirit of God, Never, Never, Never add to it, so that the blanks are filled in, and never consider emotion.. Just do as your told to do.... Check it out!!!

God is Smart, and knows you.
God also knows that when he tells us something, how we will respond to it, the time takes us to get our emotion out of the way, and any other misconceptions that God has to fix... God will never tell you to do something that you can't do, or understand... Like telling someone that believes Laying hands on the sick today is past away.. God will not bother that person to heal someone as God knows they would not receive it..
So, trust in God's timing, and trust that God knew exactly how you would respond.

He could have been the one to be a lifetime ministry partner, Could have been the one that knows your actual Husband, could have been the one that led you to financial freedom... could have been anything..

Now you assume that just because he has a girl with pictures, that You messed up...

Contact him!!! If God said he is the one, then there is something connected with him and your future, and it does not have to mean a Husband.. We need to grow up in Spiritual things... find out!!!

If it was not God that said "He is the One" then you need to get this off your conscience right away... If you heard God correctly, then you will know once you start talking to him again..

Never Rush!!
If it was God today, then it will be God saying the same thing Tomorrow.

Jesus Is Lord.

Rightly correct!!! Agreed 100x bro. mike..

There's only one thing i may add to consider too... If this is really from the Lord, will not the Lord confirm the same word to the other guy?

We have the same few cases here in us, where this happened, the girl? or the guy? believed they heard from the Lord.. but the sad thing is, it was never confirmed to the other party... I have two friends came from this... Believing they heard it right, they told the guy about it for prayer and confirmation?? (awwww...) the response was not good and this disgraced them a lot...

LOL...the funny thing is.. this happened once also to me.... Learning from others, I kept quiet.. hehehe... And waited for the word to be fulfilled.. LOL...

It took me two years to get out of it...hmmmm. it's really hard 'cause i found out, not only me??? but still other two ladies heard the same voice???.. LOL.. and they are my close associates.. awww... Now who's who is the guy? LOL

So, i really have to pray hard to set free myself and the guy as well.. hehe... THANK GOD for the freedom... Amen

Now, I just remembered Abraham's servant finding a wife for Isaac (Genesis 24)... The servant prayed and asked a sign, then the prayer was answered and the servant told everything to Rebecca and his family about his journey and his prayer.. the girl and her relatives accepted the testimony and they released the girl confidently. The beautiful part is, when Isaac saw Rebecca, he took her and married her, and he loved her??? Wow!! that's cool enough... Amen

Both, Isaac and Rebecca accepted the testimony of the servant... Amen.. And i think they were blessed.. LOL

Keep in touch here sis.. The Lord helped me a lot through in here...Amen

Praying, the Lord will help you and guide you as well.

Blessingssss in the Lord Jesus Christ!!!!



TheWidowsOffering

 

[Property Of God]

So many times that voice isn't from God, might be the devil or your heart, trying to deceive you and make you fall for an unavailable man, that would later lead you into desperation and heartache. If he was the one, he'd pursue you or try to meet you. It wouldn't just be you.

 

[Brother Mike]

He is the one...

There's only one thing i may add to consider too... If this is really from the Lord, will not the Lord confirm the same word to the other guy?

We have the same few cases here in us, where this happened, the girl? or the guy? believed they heard from the Lord.. but the sad thing is, it was never confirmed to the other party... I have two friends came from this... Believing they heard it right, they told the guy about it for prayer and confirmation?? (awwww...) the response was not good and this disgraced them a lot...

LOL...the funny thing is.. this happened once also to me.... Learning from others, I kept quiet.. hehehe... And waited for the word to be fulfilled.. LOL...

It took me two years to get out of it...hmmmm. it's really hard 'cause i found out, not only me??? but still other two ladies heard the same voice???.. LOL.. and they are my close associates.. awww... Now who's who is the guy? LOL

So, i really have to pray hard to set free myself and the guy as well.. hehe... THANK GOD for the freedom... Amen

Now, I just remembered Abraham's servant finding a wife for Isaac (Genesis 24)... The servant prayed and asked a sign, then the prayer was answered and the servant told everything to Rebecca and his family about his journey and his prayer.. the girl and her relatives accepted the testimony and they released the girl confidently. The beautiful part is, when Isaac saw Rebecca, he took her and married her, and he loved her??? Wow!! that's cool enough... Amen

Both, Isaac and Rebecca accepted the testimony of the servant... Amen.. And i think they were blessed.. LOL

Keep in touch here sis.. The Lord helped me a lot through in here...Amen

Praying, the Lord will help you and guide you as well.

Blessingssss in the Lord Jesus Christ!!!!



TheWidowsOffering

Keep in mind.. when the Lord speaks.. He is very specific If all the Lord said.. is "He is the one" then lets get our minds out of the gutter, and find out what exactly "He is" We can do this without any romantic intentions, and we should never add or take away what the Lord said... "He is the One" can mean anything, and don't go by how you felt it meant when you heard it... Check it out.

If anyone is use to Hearing God, you know exactly what I am talking about.... don't fill in the blanks for God!!!! never!!!

Jesus Is Lord.

 

[Brighthouse]

Dear Praise the Lord. I am a little older now,I do not know how wise I am though.For the very first time in my life,I share your pain. You know,sometimes we have to look at our own heart,even as hurtful as this may sometimes be to do.

We Love Jesus,and we also want and believe we need another to comfort us as well,someone who we can see touch,and be with face to face. When we believe we have found such a person,and then look DEEP within ourselves,we know what we want to hear,we also now how we would like things to turn out with this person!

So we fast, we pray,we hold onto that which we so believe we both want, and need for ourselves.And then come to find out,that what we wished to have for ourselves,is not to come to pass.

It hurts a lot, I know. Many may say, fear not,God will have something even better for you!! Easy to say this when you are not the person who is going through all this! After much prayer,I have come to find out something I hope will help you!! In the beginning of our life,who did we have? And at the end of our life who will we have?

Through my own sorrow,I have found an answer to such a question. Jesus. JUST JESUS. This comfort is that no matter how we feel,or what things appear to look like,we know one fact for certain,we always have him to love us! Rest in this my sister.

In this fact,we have freedom,we have all truth,and Bless the Lord,we have all love! God will make a way through the sorrow,we just must keep our eyes focused on him,and not on the narrow road we travel with him.

Even a narrow road can have holes in it,by looking for them with our eyes,we cannot see them,(2Cor 7-18!!)But looking unto Jesus,we can avoid them.( Hebrews 12:1-3) Therefore we strengthen the hands that are weak,and the knees which are feeble, we make straight paths for our feet,so that the limb which is lame may not be put out of joint but rather be healed. ( hebrews 12:12-13)

And so we pray for ourselves as well as others for we can be sure we have a good conscience,desiring to conduct ourselves honorably in all things. AND!! I urge you, and me all the more to do this,so that I may BE RESTORED to you the sooner!!(hebrews 12:18-19) what needs to be restored is sometimes what we have forgotton about. Jesus and his DEEP love for each,and everyone of us!! Let us go and be restored in, and BY HIM!! amen!! Blessing to you!!