i have moved to a new place for the sake of my new wife and our first unborn child. as time has passed, i have yet to acclimate to my new surroundings. during this time we have been blessed with another child. and although i am eternally grateful, i can't shake the feeling that i don't belong here. we have tremendous support but i feel as though my wife and i are falling further apart, emotionally and spiritually, as the days pass. i have tried time and time again to turn to God but have encountered internal struggles with the fact that although we are both Christians, we are of different denomination; herself going to church on saturdays while i go on sundays. Is this something to worry about? I worry for my children at times because i never encountered this as a child and do not know how to handle the situation at times, especially with the in-laws. All i can do for now is pray. and keep my head up. God bless.
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I will be praying for your situation my freind. I had a saying I used to say denominations divide, Jesus unites. Once I focused on my relationship with Jesus and studied his word for my self I got out of the denomination religion I was in and found a bible teaching church. Not saying that is the answer for you but I thought about that when I read your post. I know most of the best marriages I see always put Jesus first in there marriage they read the bible together they pray together they worship together. I would suggest fasting on this and bring it to God.
You would change cities, but not days of worship?
Where did Jesus say you can only worship one day a week?
I know there may be a dozen other differences between your two "churches", but if you never visit each others' places of worship, you will always, in effect, be saying..."You are wrong!"... to each other.
Too bad you didn't heed the bible exhortations about being unequally yoked before you started dating.
You will be in my prayers.
thats great advice! thank you for your time! God bless
We have and do at times attend each others church's and have nothing to complain about per se. I should have mentioned it earlier but I have had a sour taste in my mouth ever since the pastor at her church would not marry us unless i was baptized in her church. Being already baptized i had trouble coming to grips with that. I am extremely grateful for yours, and all other replies, and thank God that I have found a site where I can voice my problems in regards to Christ online. I look forward to continuing my journey to better myself and hope to help guide others as the few are trying with me. God bless.
My wife is a very supportive wife. I am extremely blessed to have her in my life. As for your thoughts, i don't believe she has the same thoughts as i do although we do have opposing views at times. as stated with another reply i made to a fellow supporter, i have not come to acceptance per se for the fact that her pastor was not willing to marry us unless i was baptized in her church. I thank you for your time for your post and i look forward to growing with everyone here on this lovely website. God bless.
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Greetings,
Perhaps you and your wife could get serious about this and ....
First together Repent of the strife and Be Willing to be Willing to go where He says no matter what.
Putting aside both of your desires.
Second together find Scriptures about how you hear His Voice and He leads you and gives you wisdom etc.
Pray these scriptures over your situation and Expect Him to answer and direct your steps.
Then take communion over it together and settle it done. Then don't get out of agreement .
If the two of you join together in Christ you can run satan out of this situation. After all it is will for division in your lives.
Believe me, this works. Tried true and Successful .
Blessings to you
Greetings,
I can see that you are in a sticky situation BUT, commit your ways to God.
Let us pray that you both will have (or get and have and keep) the Lord Jesus Christ at the centre of your lives. That you can meet together in Him. That Jesus Christ is the fulcrum of your marriage. Not your version verses your wife's version of Jesus Christ, for there is only One, as you may well appreciate.
Regarding, "i have not come to acceptance per se for the fact that her pastor was not willing to marry us unless i was baptized in her church", may I suggest that you let that go? Accept it in that it has happened and you can not change it. The enemy will nag you about it as a way to divide you both. Besides that, is that what you wanted anyway? To be married in the place you don't belong to? It is a bit of a silly position and the best way to get past it is to put it behind you and to look forward to the Lord's blessings on you and your wife in your marriage.
Don't limit the blessings of the Lord by looking at things that are not right. We are encouraged to look at things that are of good report, to think on these things. I see a good report that you can be blessed with by dwelling on it some more, from your own words, "My wife is a very supportive wife". Value that, really value that. Many there be that can not honestly say that.
Build your future on the Love of God, not on any differences of the past. Look to the Lord, Who alone is your strength and confidence, and wait upon Him, with thanksgiving and praise. Love your wife and then love her some more and see if the way does not open up for you both to enter a most beautiful place, together, BUT, wait first and foremost upon the Lord without doing so for what you can get out of Him. He loves you and be assured that He wants you to know it!
Bless you both ....><>
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
I can see that you are in a sticky situation BUT, commit your ways to God.
Let us pray that you both will have (or get and have and keep) the Lord Jesus Christ at the centre of your lives. That you can meet together in Him. That Jesus Christ is the fulcrum of your marriage. Not your version verses your wife's version of Jesus Christ, for there is only One, as you may well appreciate.
Regarding, "i have not come to acceptance per se for the fact that her pastor was not willing to marry us unless i was baptized in her church", may I suggest that you let that go? Accept it in that it has happened and you can not change it. The enemy will nag you about it as a way to divide you both. Besides that, is that what you wanted anyway? To be married in the place you don't belong to? It is a bit of a silly position and the best way to get past it is to put it behind you and to look forward to the Lord's blessings on you and your wife in your marriage.
Don't limit the blessings of the Lord by looking at things that are not right. We are encouraged to look at things that are of good report, to think on these things. I see a good report that you can be blessed with by dwelling on it some more, from your own words, "My wife is a very supportive wife". Value that, really value that. Many there be that can not honestly say that.
Build your future on the Love of God, not on any differences of the past. Look to the Lord, Who alone is your strength and confidence, and wait upon Him, with thanksgiving and praise. Love your wife and then love her some more and see if the way does not open up for you both to enter a most beautiful place, together, BUT, wait first and foremost upon the Lord without doing so for what you can get out of Him. He loves you and be assured that He wants you to know it!
Bless you both ....><>
Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. Philippians 4:8
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@Br. Bear ...Beautiful. Thank you for your kind words and for the encouragement! it was very much what i needed to hear. God Bless.
@amadeus2 thank you so much for your prayers! God bless!
@Wired 4 Fishen you are absolutely correct. we MUST join together to run satan out! Thank you for the advice! God bless!
Greetings again OLJ,
How are you two doing? And your little one?
Have you shared Wired 4 Fishen's advice with your wife yet? If not, please do and together in prayer, follow it through.
Remember, two things, the devil wants you to let Jesus down by division which the devil spills out like oil and marbles under everyone's feet AND remember it's not only you two... but that precious little one who you no doubt both love.
Keep the faith and look up,
{A Song of degrees.} I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help.
My help cometh from the LORD, Which made heaven and earth.
He will not suffer thy foot to be moved: He that keepeth thee will not slumber.
Psalm 121:1-3
Bless you ....><>
@Br. Bear We are doing okay. We are striving to become better Christians overall. For the time being, whether i am blinded or not, it does not seem to be affecting the little one. Thank you so much for the reminder! especially after being away from this helpful website for some time. God bless!
Greetings and thank you for getting back to me.
What you make of your marriage now will make a difference to your little one as well as to yourselves and to all you mix with. By that i mean first and foremost, the foundation of your marriage, what you make of that. ALWAYS put Jesus first.
Bless you ....><>
What you make of your marriage now will make a difference to your little one as well as to yourselves and to all you mix with. By that i mean first and foremost, the foundation of your marriage, what you make of that. ALWAYS put Jesus first.
Bless you ....><>
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Sorry you are questioning your relationship, I had a similar issue with a beloved friend. Religious beliefs destroyed a 12 year friendship, we used to debate over the littlest doctrines. After years of that I left the friendship, but now I wouldn't care so much. That's because I don't hold any preconceived notions about God, and am happy to trash any notions I do have for better ones.
