Suffering from a Broken Heart

[RubyRedx04]

Hey, I don't mean to be a burden on you all... but would you mind praying for me this week? The guy I was dating for the last 6months just broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him. When we first started dating, he was a man so on fire for God and he kept telling me how much he loved me and that he wanted to marry me one day. Over the last couple weeks though, he started pressuring me for sex... saying that we were going to get married eventually, so we might as well. I would say no, and he would be ok, but then would keep asking every day. I loved him, and I truthfully felt like God had us together, so I persevered to keep God at the center of our relationship and so I kept turning him down. Well, two days ago, I decided that I wanted to cut ALL physical stuff out of our relationship (kissing, etc) and really focus on God. He said that I was the love of his life and so he would be ok waiting. Then two days later, he broke up with me, saying he felt like we had no emotional connection and that he didn't think he saw a future with us. I'm so heartbroken by it all... and I feel so betrayed. How could someone say they wanted to marry me one day, and then change their mind the next? He's removed all communication between the two of us and won't return my calls, even blocking me on facebook. It just hurts so much... especially since he knew my past. A couple years ago I was raped, and ever since have had a very hard time trusting men. He was the first one I ever really trusted, and I can't understand how he could betray me like that. Especially when he talked about how much he loved God. I know that God has a purpose for me... but I'm struggling so much to understand this. I could really use some words of encouragement

 

[TomMann]

No burden at all, my prayer is that you heal quickly from this hurt! I am many years older and have had not only my life experience, but those of many family. Despite your feelings you have made the right decision. Your description of a man "on fire for God" does not match his demands. I count you a very lucky young lady and pray that you will remain "on fire for God" in your future decisions.

 

[Peterorange]

Hey, I don't mean to be a burden on you all... but would you mind praying for me this week? The guy I was dating for the last 6months just broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him. When we first started dating, he was a man so on fire for God and he kept telling me how much he loved me and that he wanted to marry me one day. Over the last couple weeks though, he started pressuring me for sex... saying that we were going to get married eventually, so we might as well. I would say no, and he would be ok, but then would keep asking every day. I loved him, and I truthfully felt like God had us together, so I persevered to keep God at the center of our relationship and so I kept turning him down. Well, two days ago, I decided that I wanted to cut ALL physical stuff out of our relationship (kissing, etc) and really focus on God. He said that I was the love of his life and so he would be ok waiting. Then two days later, he broke up with me, saying he felt like we had no emotional connection and that he didn't think he saw a future with us. I'm so heartbroken by it all... and I feel so betrayed. How could someone say they wanted to marry me one day, and then change their mind the next? He's removed all communication between the two of us and won't return my calls, even blocking me on facebook. It just hurts so much... especially since he knew my past. A couple years ago I was raped, and ever since have had a very hard time trusting men. He was the first one I ever really trusted, and I can't understand how he could betray me like that. Especially when he talked about how much he loved God. I know that God has a purpose for me... but I'm struggling so much to understand this. I could really use some words of encouragement

I pray that you will know our Father close, comforting you, and know that he is suffering with you in this.

I pray that you will receive his grace to forgive this man through the Holy Spirit.

I also pray that He will open your boyfriend's eyes to his sin and the hurt he has caused you, and bring about his repentance and healing.

And I praise God for planting your feet firmly on the Rock that is him, your faith is inspiring and humbling.

 

[Quantum1982]

hope

Hi. I am Quantum1982. I suppose the only way I could relate to you is by saying that I tried to get close to a girl last year at my previous job, who giving me friendly signals. She speaks and acts like a christian, even allowing me to sometimes hug her. The only thing was, she was obsessed with money and wealth. She was even jealous about the fact that I was earning more than her. Ok I suppose I wouldn't have gone so far as to marry her, but it still hurt me on the inside. I haven't yet had the opportunity for close emotional intimacy with a woman yet, probably because of my personality and financial status.

You shouldn't rely on someone else for your happiness though. A true christian would have been more patient with you, and would have allowed you space and time to sort things out in your mind first, which was affected by past experiences. Maybe this just wasn't meant to be ?

You know this brings up another interesting topic from within the framework of christianity : where do you draw the line in a relationship ?

If he was asking for physical intimacy before marriage, he was purposefully breaking the law of God to suit his own selfishness. So basically you haven't done anything wrong. You have to remember that most men are pigs, and I can say that even though I am a man myself. This is just the way society has turned out. There are however, special groups scattered over the world, both male and female, that are close to God and do not take part in the Godless subculture that exists today. So just be patient.

I suggest at the moment you rather get closer to your relatives ( if you have any ) or at least your closest councilor. There is a time and place for everything. Look at it this way, are you confident about your destination after you die ? What happens if you die tomorrow ? I always look at things that way, and realize that this world only contains temporary happiness, pleasures and artificial realities. When you are in heaven, there is no longer a need to be part of something, or to be accepted.

Jesus loves you more than anyone else.
Cheers

 

[stephen]

Hey, I don't mean to be a burden on you all... but would you mind praying for me this week? The guy I was dating for the last 6months just broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him. When we first started dating, he was a man so on fire for God and he kept telling me how much he loved me and that he wanted to marry me one day. Over the last couple weeks though, he started pressuring me for sex... saying that we were going to get married eventually, so we might as well. I would say no, and he would be ok, but then would keep asking every day. I loved him, and I truthfully felt like God had us together, so I persevered to keep God at the center of our relationship and so I kept turning him down. Well, two days ago, I decided that I wanted to cut ALL physical stuff out of our relationship (kissing, etc) and really focus on God. He said that I was the love of his life and so he would be ok waiting. Then two days later, he broke up with me, saying he felt like we had no emotional connection and that he didn't think he saw a future with us. I'm so heartbroken by it all... and I feel so betrayed. How could someone say they wanted to marry me one day, and then change their mind the next? He's removed all communication between the two of us and won't return my calls, even blocking me on facebook. It just hurts so much... especially since he knew my past. A couple years ago I was raped, and ever since have had a very hard time trusting men. He was the first one I ever really trusted, and I can't understand how he could betray me like that. Especially when he talked about how much he loved God. I know that God has a purpose for me... but I'm struggling so much to understand this. I could really use some words of encouragement

Hey, I don't mean to be a burden on you all... but would you mind praying for me this week? The guy I was dating for the last 6months just broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him.


I admire you precious sister....you did the right thing tward God.....and God will honour you 100%.

"God is not a man that he should lie, neither the son of of man that he should change his mind.......He hath promised to bless and He will fulfill His word".....to you


He is the healer of broken hearts, He'll mend your shattered dreams.
He'll take up the threads of your broken life, and He'll weave them together again.
To your life He'll bring peace and joy, a Friend indeed is He,
He's the healer of broken hearts........this Jesus of Galilee....

Never failed yet........Jesus

In His Love

 

[JoyOfTheLord]

So Glad You Posted

I can feel the pain and sense of betrayal in reading your post. I'm so very sorry for what you went through. But it's really better that you found this out about him now and I'm glad you did not allow yourself into being rushed into marriage.

Relationships are difficult in general. It's especially hard when you feel love for someone and begin to allow trust to grow. The posts before mine say it all. He will heal your heart. That fellow does not seem like he is "going the distance" in his walk with the Lord. I do pray that he is convicted by the Holy Spirit and opens his eyes.

In the meantime, keep talking and sharing. Keep praying and seeking Him. I admire you so much - the Lord will honor your choice and someday when you look back, you will realize that He has someone so much better in store for you; someone that will truly place HIM at the center of your relationship and you will have a union that is one that can truly be blessed.

God's richest blessings to you now and always sweet sister in Christ.

 

[jadore]

He was just pretending to be a man on fire so he could date you and have sex with you. So many guys do that , glad you did not compromise your believes. If he had really cherish you and wanted to marry you as he said , he will be willing to wait for you until your wedding night. I will keep you in prayers, but remember that God has something better for you.

 

[Boanerges]

Hey, I don't mean to be a burden on you all... but would you mind praying for me this week? The guy I was dating for the last 6months just broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him. When we first started dating, he was a man so on fire for God and he kept telling me how much he loved me and that he wanted to marry me one day. Over the last couple weeks though, he started pressuring me for sex... saying that we were going to get married eventually, so we might as well. I would say no, and he would be ok, but then would keep asking every day. I loved him, and I truthfully felt like God had us together, so I persevered to keep God at the center of our relationship and so I kept turning him down. Well, two days ago, I decided that I wanted to cut ALL physical stuff out of our relationship (kissing, etc) and really focus on God. He said that I was the love of his life and so he would be ok waiting. Then two days later, he broke up with me, saying he felt like we had no emotional connection and that he didn't think he saw a future with us. I'm so heartbroken by it all... and I feel so betrayed. How could someone say they wanted to marry me one day, and then change their mind the next? He's removed all communication between the two of us and won't return my calls, even blocking me on facebook. It just hurts so much... especially since he knew my past. A couple years ago I was raped, and ever since have had a very hard time trusting men. He was the first one I ever really trusted, and I can't understand how he could betray me like that. Especially when he talked about how much he loved God. I know that God has a purpose for me... but I'm struggling so much to understand this. I could really use some words of encouragement

I am sorry for your pain and will keep you in my prayers. Our heavenly Father is a healer of broken hearts and He is the God of all comfort, continue drawing closer to Him.
Also as far as this young man- take some time to thank God that he revealed his true motivation and personality now as it would have been more difficult later. God truly works all things for our good.
Many blessings in His Name,
your brother Larry.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

RubyRedx04, Welcome to TalkJesus. I'm proud of you for holding on to your virginity. So many young women today don't treasure their virginity. While its hard to fathom now, this is a good experience for you. You've learned to beware of smooth talking wolves in sheep's clothing. As another member has said, God is weeping with you. The upside of this is that someday you'll be able to comfort young ladies who've had similar experiences and you'll know the awesome feeling that comes from that.

Spirit Led Ed (SLE)

 

[SpiritLedEd]

RubyRedx04, Welcome to TalkJesus. I'm proud of you for holding on to your virginity. So many young women today don't treasure their virginity. While its hard to fathom now, this is a good experience for you. You've learned to beware of smooth talking wolves in sheep's clothing. As another member has said, God is weeping with you. The upside of this is that someday you'll be able to comfort young ladies who've had similar experiences and you'll know the awesome feeling that comes from that.

Spirit Led Ed (SLE)

 

[daison]

Hey, I don't mean to be a burden on you all... but would you mind praying for me this week? The guy I was dating for the last 6months just broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him. When we first started dating, he was a man so on fire for God and he kept telling me how much he loved me and that he wanted to marry me one day. Over the last couple weeks though, he started pressuring me for sex... saying that we were going to get married eventually, so we might as well. I would say no, and he would be ok, but then would keep asking every day. I loved him, and I truthfully felt like God had us together, so I persevered to keep God at the center of our relationship and so I kept turning him down. Well, two days ago, I decided that I wanted to cut ALL physical stuff out of our relationship (kissing, etc) and really focus on God. He said that I was the love of his life and so he would be ok waiting. Then two days later, he broke up with me, saying he felt like we had no emotional connection and that he didn't think he saw a future with us. I'm so heartbroken by it all... and I feel so betrayed. How could someone say they wanted to marry me one day, and then change their mind the next? He's removed all communication between the two of us and won't return my calls, even blocking me on facebook. It just hurts so much... especially since he knew my past. A couple years ago I was raped, and ever since have had a very hard time trusting men. He was the first one I ever really trusted, and I can't understand how he could betray me like that. Especially when he talked about how much he loved God. I know that God has a purpose for me... but I'm struggling so much to understand this. I could really use some words of encouragement

Hi greetings, different godly people comforted you and strengthened you in Jesus ‘name. Though I am a person just learning what life is…….. I am able to tell you that Jesus is such a loving father who cares for His children more than anyone in this world. See…we are not tested by things which we are not able to bear. He …our Good Lord is there with you to strengthen you. He will not let your feet slip. He has something more good for you..believe it. Show your love for Jesus with a strong heart. People are different. We cannot always assess things in the right way. What really inside that man is not known to others. So forgive him with your whole heart just as our Father forgave our many sins. May God make you HAPPIER THAN BEFORE.MAY YOU FIND MORE PEACE AND COMFORT WITH HIM….Bye…

 

[dchildress]

Coming from a guy!

Well from my point of view "Coming from a guy" this is what we do to get our way. We like to hide behind something like "God" and other things to pressure girls into having sex. We promise them the moon, stars and even heaven itself to get our selfish way. If he truly loved you he would wait until marriage...even if he truly loved God he would wait to get married. Didn't God tells us in his commandments that "if you love me you will KEEP my commandments? So I know your heart is broke in two but prayer by you and all brothers/sisters in Christ will heal your heart. This is my prayer for you that God would heal your heart and that you will rely on him to send someone (really) Goddly into your life. This may take some time on your knees but he if faithful and just to answer you in his own timing. God Bless...be strong and of good courage...for he will never leave thee nor forsake thee in your hour of trouble. Brother, David.