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To All My Sisters Who Are Praying For A Husband!

MsAmby

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Hello TalkJesus, I got this wonderful message from another board.
I hope you women will be encouraged by this!

To All My Sisters Who Are Praying For A Husband.
I want to encourage you to stop.
Hear me out...
The Bible tells us that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor with the Lord. Proverbs 18:22. That says a whole lot more than we give it credit for.

This verse in Proverbs speaks volumes about the order of things in God's kingdom.
Genesis Chapter 1 tells the story of God deciding to make the earth and everything on it.
He then makes man and has man proceed to set everything up, get everything in order and lock it down.
He blesses everything that Adam does and in Chapter 2, God lays down the rules regarding the tree of life for Adam, in other words, He gives Adam the vision. Notice that Eve wasn't even there yet. We'll get back to that.

Once man has done all his preparing and organizing and gotten the vision from God
(learns what it is that God wants him to do), then God says that its not good for him to be alone, lets make him a help meet.
That's when woman is taken out of what was already made and created to be a second half.

Why did I mention all of this?

Because ladies, I'd like to present to you the idea that its time to stop praying for your husband to appear, but instead, its time to pray and thank God for your marriages, and pray for yourself as a wife. Faith is an interesting thing, I tell you.

There are two types of women. The first type is simply that, a woman. She was made to be a woman and without the grace and mercy of God has no business being anybody's wife.
Y'all know what I'm talking about, you see them and hear about them all the time.
They have no desire to be anybody's team mate or help meet or anything else for that matter. It's all about them and what they want and when they want it.
And you can't fault them because they're just living out their nature.
But there's even hope for the woman because with prayer, supplication, study and sacrifice, she too can be a Godly wife. God's grace is sufficient for ALL of us

The second type is what is referred to in Proverbs 31 as the virtuous woman.This is a woman who was created to be a wife. God has instilled within her the desire to be married, to be submitted, to be loved and cared for and to reverence her husband, to care for the people in her life and children if they are her heart's desire, to be a servant to the people who she loves because she's confident in the love she has for herself.

Some of us feel like we are are just born to do it, and we are born to do it because God makes us that way. Some of us are born to be a wife. And what we do, we do it well.
Yeah, we don't always get it right, we stumble and make mistakes
, but what we are at our very core, is a woman who knows how to be a wife.
If you're reading this post, that's probably the call that God has placed on you.
Knowing that you were created to be a wife that will cause your thinking to change.

If you were created to be a wife then that means your husband was made to be your husband. In other words, you don't have to pray him into existence because he already exists. Here's where it gets good ladies. I tell you, God thinks of everything. Ain't He awesome?!

Eve didn't get there before Adam
, Adam was already in position and he had already gotten the vision from God. Adam didn't even know he needed help, but God knew, and God created what he needed. This tells me that before I knew I was supposed to be somebody's wife, my husband had already been chosen by God and everything that man needed was put inside of me. As a matter of fact, after we got married my husband would always say that God gave him more than what he wanted, He gave him what he needed when He gave him me. And I'm so thankful that He did!

But see, that's God's order of things.
That's why God says its the man who finds a wife, not a wife who prays for a husband.

See, God loves His women a great deal, and He sees us as the gift that he gives to man.
He is our protector, our Ultimate Daddy. Knowing this, He set up the order of things for the man to find, nurture and cherish the woman he is given. All you have to do is be found. That's it.
We don't have to make it happen because its already been done.
You just sit pretty and be ready to be found.

I encourage you to change your prayers. Stop praying for a husband.
If you're a wife, that means you've already got one. Just sit pretty and wait for him to find you.
And when the time is right, he will find you.
But to be found, you have to be ready to be pulled out of where you are and fashioned into something new.
The only way to do this is to focus on God and what He is saying to you.

When you believe God's going to do something for you, you prepare yourself for it.
I encourage you to devote yourself to learning about how to be a Godly wife so that when your day comes, you'll have some virtue to bring honor to your husband and glory to God.

Waiting does not consist of dating. Waiting consists of being selective and very protective of who you give your time and attention to. One of the reasons why the man is supposed to have to look for you is because you're supposed to be so hidden in God, so wrapped up in Him (and yourself) that he has to literally make you notice him, make you see him.
He's supposed to work for it not get it handed to him on a silver platter.

Come on ladies, we have to keep it real. I guarantee you that if you stop looking you'll get found.
It may not happen over night because of the facts of life, but God's word is always yes and amen. He says in Isaiah that His Word will NOT return to Him void.
It will ALWAYS accomplish that which He sent it to do. Isaiah 55:11. Stand on that.

Get all the knuckleheads and fools out of your life. They're taking up valuable space and making it harder for your husband to find you. Be selective about yours, get into the Word and find out how much you're worth. If anyone needs help with this, let's encourage each other in the Lord. If you're struggling in this area, say so, and allow your sisters in God to lift you up in prayer, hold you accountable and keep you reminded of what the Word says. I wish there was less judgment in the church and more love and encouragement. We all gotta start from somewhere.

Be encouraged!
-----pmrannie
 
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Waiting does not consist of dating. Waiting consists of being selective and very protective of who you give your time and attention to. One of the reasons why the man is supposed to have to look for you is because you're supposed to be so hidden in God, so wrapped up in Him (and yourself) that he has to literally make you notice him, make you see him. He's supposed to work for it not get it handed to him on a silver platter. Come on ladies, we have to keep it real. I guarantee you that if you stop looking you'll get found.

God's word is always yes and amen. He says in Isaiah that His word will NOT return to Him void. It will ALWAYS accomplish that which He sent it to do. Isaiah 55:11. Stand on that.

I like what you said here Sister

I think this will apply for mens too, we all forgot to trust God totally and completely and try to engage ourselves in a relationship, which a lot of time is not God’s will.

What a joy for the devil! … for him to get our weak side and have his ground on our life. I think this is why we need to be very protective on this issue and hide ourselves in God.
 
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"One of the reasons why the man is supposed to have to look for you is because you're supposed to be so hidden in God, so wrapped up in Him (and yourself) that he has to literally make you notice him, make you see him. "

Amen Ms Amby. That`s so true, my wife has to be hidden in the word of God. Shielded and protected from the sudden attacks during the day and evil at night.Covered from the worldly winds, because we are in the world but not of this world. I wouldn`t want to be unequally yoked so in all things I look for Jesus in the heart of a woman that I believe God has already ordained for me.He wants my marriage to be a reflection of Christ and the church a sanctified marriage.
 
Amen!

... That`s so true, my wife has to be hidden in the word of God. Shielded and protected from the sudden attacks during the day and evil at night.Covered from the worldly winds, because we are in the world but not of this world. I wouldn`t want to be unequally yoked so in all things I look for Jesus in the heart of a woman that I believe God has already ordained for me.He wants my marriage to be a reflection of Christ and the church a sanctified marriage.


Dearest Beloved,

I agree with you Shingie when saying the marriage reflects the glory of our Lord GOD through Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

And paul wrote that a woman has beed created for the man's glory. 1 Corinthians 11:7-9. However, it does not mean that a wife is her husband's slave in the way of abusing of her, no.

Shalom!
 
faithful

thank you for that it was amazing!! it lifted me up! JESUS loves his daughters! thank you sister
 
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MsAmby,,

Hi,,, really going through this make me relief..... i was wandering where is my soulmate when i will find him.. but your word make me so relief.

We sometime moved away from God and we always fight with our thoughts and in the end most of time devil (thought) win.

Thank you MsAmby... it make realize tht wht i was missing in life and that is Word of God that i left it somewhere coz of my evil thoughts.

Love you
 
wonderful post !!!

(((((((((((MSAMBY))))))))

Who would NOT be encouraged by this beauitful post you have shared here with such wisdom and sound advice and direction!!! I think it is well said indeed.

In my own experience when it comes to relationships ,whether it is a husband,wife,brother,sister, friend, aunt,uncle etc. Most of what I have learned in association with others is my relationship with God and His Son Jesus Christ first...With what I have learned through the word, and talking and praying and praising God, my own inner self has grown considerably and is still growing, mistakes and all I might add :)

I think the more we can build our relationship with Jesus, on a daily basis the more we will know how to think, how to act, and how to behave , when Mr Right comes laong..I think also if we leave the choice with Heavenly Father, when it is time we shall see the Glorious hand of God in our lives and relationships...

I hope everyone will read MSAMBYS post here who is seeking a mate, and pray about what is shared, it is with great value and a loving heart I can see she shares these pearls of wisdom.;)

Love in Christ
Mama Joyce


Hello TalkJesus, I got this wonderful message from another board.
I hope you women will be encouraged by this!

To All My Sisters Who Are Praying For A Husband.
I want to encourage you to stop.
Hear me out...
The Bible tells us that when a man finds a wife, he finds a good thing and obtains favor with the Lord. Proverbs 18:22. That says a whole lot more than we give it credit for.

This verse in Proverbs speaks volumes about the order of things in God's kingdom.
Genesis Chapter 1 tells the story of God deciding to make the earth and everything on it.
He then makes man and has man proceed to set everything up, get everything in order and lock it down.
He blesses everything that Adam does and in Chapter 2, God lays down the rules regarding the tree of life for Adam, in other words, He gives Adam the vision. Notice that Eve wasn't even there yet. We'll get back to that.

Once man has done all his preparing and organizing and gotten the vision from God
(learns what it is that God wants him to do), then God says that its not good for him to be alone, lets make him a help meet.
That's when woman is taken out of what was already made and created to be a second half.

Why did I mention all of this?

Because ladies, I'd like to present to you the idea that its time to stop praying for your husband to appear, but instead, its time to pray and thank God for your marriages, and pray for yourself as a wife. Faith is an interesting thing, I tell you.

There are two types of women. The first type is simply that, a woman. She was made to be a woman and without the grace and mercy of God has no business being anybody's wife.
Y'all know what I'm talking about, you see them and hear about them all the time.
They have no desire to be anybody's team mate or help meet or anything else for that matter. It's all about them and what they want and when they want it.
And you can't fault them because they're just living out their nature.
But there's even hope for the woman because with prayer, supplication, study and sacrifice, she too can be a Godly wife. God's grace is sufficient for ALL of us

The second type is what is referred to in Proverbs 31 as the virtuous woman.This is a woman who was created to be a wife. God has instilled within her the desire to be married, to be submitted, to be loved and cared for and to reverence her husband, to care for the people in her life and children if they are her heart's desire, to be a servant to the people who she loves because she's confident in the love she has for herself.

Some of us feel like we are are just born to do it, and we are born to do it because God makes us that way. Some of us are born to be a wife. And what we do, we do it well.
Yeah, we don't always get it right, we stumble and make mistakes
, but what we are at our very core, is a woman who knows how to be a wife.
If you're reading this post, that's probably the call that God has placed on you.
Knowing that you were created to be a wife that will cause your thinking to change.

If you were created to be a wife then that means your husband was made to be your husband. In other words, you don't have to pray him into existence because he already exists. Here's where it gets good ladies. I tell you, God thinks of everything. Ain't He awesome?!

Eve didn't get there before Adam
, Adam was already in position and he had already gotten the vision from God. Adam didn't even know he needed help, but God knew, and God created what he needed. This tells me that before I knew I was supposed to be somebody's wife, my husband had already been chosen by God and everything that man needed was put inside of me. As a matter of fact, after we got married my husband would always say that God gave him more than what he wanted, He gave him what he needed when He gave him me. And I'm so thankful that He did!

But see, that's God's order of things.
That's why God says its the man who finds a wife, not a wife who prays for a husband.

See, God loves His women a great deal, and He sees us as the gift that he gives to man.
He is our protector, our Ultimate Daddy. Knowing this, He set up the order of things for the man to find, nurture and cherish the woman he is given. All you have to do is be found. That's it.
We don't have to make it happen because its already been done.
You just sit pretty and be ready to be found.

I encourage you to change your prayers. Stop praying for a husband.
If you're a wife, that means you've already got one. Just sit pretty and wait for him to find you.
And when the time is right, he will find you.
But to be found, you have to be ready to be pulled out of where you are and fashioned into something new.
The only way to do this is to focus on God and what He is saying to you.

When you believe God's going to do something for you, you prepare yourself for it.
I encourage you to devote yourself to learning about how to be a Godly wife so that when your day comes, you'll have some virtue to bring honor to your husband and glory to God.

Waiting does not consist of dating. Waiting consists of being selective and very protective of who you give your time and attention to. One of the reasons why the man is supposed to have to look for you is because you're supposed to be so hidden in God, so wrapped up in Him (and yourself) that he has to literally make you notice him, make you see him.
He's supposed to work for it not get it handed to him on a silver platter.

Come on ladies, we have to keep it real. I guarantee you that if you stop looking you'll get found.
It may not happen over night because of the facts of life, but God's word is always yes and amen. He says in Isaiah that His Word will NOT return to Him void.
It will ALWAYS accomplish that which He sent it to do. Isaiah 55:11. Stand on that.

Get all the knuckleheads and fools out of your life. They're taking up valuable space and making it harder for your husband to find you. Be selective about yours, get into the Word and find out how much you're worth. If anyone needs help with this, let's encourage each other in the Lord. If you're struggling in this area, say so, and allow your sisters in God to lift you up in prayer, hold you accountable and keep you reminded of what the Word says. I wish there was less judgment in the church and more love and encouragement. We all gotta start from somewhere.

Be encouraged!
-----pmrannie
 
Hey you all

:embarasse Hey all, I don't want to take credit for this post.

Hello TalkJesus, I got this wonderful message from another board.
I hope you women will be encouraged by this!

Be encouraged!
-----pmrannie


I got it from another board I visit.
I thought it was wonderful and encouraging as well!
Well, just wanted to get that out of the way! lol
Jesus bless ya'll!
 
Finding Husbands and Wives

You must apart from praying, do practical things as well. My family introduced two lovely people to each other making two couples of four. One each from Australia one each from mainland China.

The Chinese (like me) were very sceptical and curious about worship as they were in their 40's. They could not believe people believed in something they could not see.

One of the two the lady (of course) began reading a Chinese bible I lent her. She became so immersed in it she was always at the others house (15 kms away) having great discussions with the man (Chinese) there about Christ.

Today they are both worshippers at a Melbourne congregation. They are unstoppable. The woman though wants to taake it to China but we are a bit reluctant to encourage her right now because of the clamp down on religious activities in her state.

It is always to have faith because that it what marriage is about. find someone, cultiivaate them and savee their souls. They will build love and overcome your lonliness forever.

Magdalene
 
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:Sings: I'M ENCOURAGED.... I'M ENCOURAGED!!!! Man sista girl sista girl I thank God so much for what you have shown me. I am guilty of tryin to find a man cause I get so lonely at times an need that male companionship. But I feel like God is speakin to me about this even my friends keep tellin me to just let those men go and wait on God. But its hard. Please pray for me I need God to really show me what to do in this time of waitin.. That was such a blessing to me an has encouraged me to just want to focus on God. I have really fallen down and my relationship with God is in question. I need to get back on track so God can really bless me and send me my husband. That touched me got me cryin I am convicted lol:crying:
 
The second type is what is referred to in Proverbs 31 as the virtuous woman.This is a woman who was created to be a wife. God has instilled within her the desire to be married, to be submitted, to be loved and cared for and to reverence her husband, to care for the people in her life and children if they are her heart's desire, to be a servant to the people who she loves because she's confident in the love she has for herself.

Some of us feel like we are are just born to do it, and we are born to do it because God makes us that way. Some of us are born to be a wife. And what we do, we do it well.

Wow! it is like you are speaking just to me!


I tell you, God thinks of everything.

AMEN SISTER!!!

That's why God says its the man who finds a wife, not a wife who prays for a husband.

That is actually very sensible. I am surprised I never heard anyone talk like this before. You see the marriage minded guys lining up their stuff, organizing their lives, making sure they are ready for the woman to come in and be their wife. They know what they are looking for.


Get all the knuckleheads and fools out of your life They're taking up valuable space and making it harder for your husband to find you.

Now aint that the truth! No better reason than this to wait upon the Lord becuz where He is is where my husband should be looking for me!

Be encouraged!

Well I am now!!:wink:
 
Thank you for being obedient...

I really really really (did I say really? LOL) needed to hear this. It has inspired me and made me put alot into perspective... thanks.
 
Did you know that statistically, the divorce rate is actually higher among christians then non-christians.

I appreciate this post, but I think it can still have a misleading flavour regarding christian marriages.

Like as in, 'we're christian, so God will make our marriages work if we're patient'.

That's simply not true.
 
*sigh* Easier said..........

Seriously though I liked what you said. Empowering :) But.. I'm starting to think though that I wasn't meant to have a mate. Does anyone think that God doesn't mean for everyone to be married?
 
Did you know that statistically, the divorce rate is actually higher among christians then non-christians.

I appreciate this post, but I think it can still have a misleading flavour regarding christian marriages.

Like as in, 'we're christian, so God will make our marriages work if we're patient'.

That's simply not true.

I see where you are coming from Sharen.

The post is great, don't get me wrong, but girls we're supposed to pray. if you apply the same logic, you can say, 'i'm a child of God, i won't pray about this job interview, i'll just prepare, show up and like white on rice its mine.'

when you pray about a husband, you aren't just praying for God to send him via nextday delivery post. you are praying that God helps you recognize the man, that you are not too distracted by the world to see that this is the man for you. you pray for patience to wait for God's timing. its not just sit there and pray for God to send a man, anyman, to us.

so i think prayer is required, just prayer with a purpose. this is just my humble opinion..
 
If you were created to be a wife then that means your husband was made to be your husband. In other words, you don't have to pray him into existence because he already exists. Here's where it gets good ladies. I tell you, God thinks of everything. Ain't He awesome?!

Eve didn't get there before Adam
, Adam was already in position and he had already gotten the vision from God. Adam didn't even know he needed help, but God knew, and God created what he needed. This tells me that before I knew I was supposed to be somebody's wife, my husband had already been chosen by God and everything that man needed was put inside of me. As a matter of fact, after we got married my husband would always say that God gave him more than what he wanted, He gave him what he needed when He gave him me. And I'm so thankful that He did! <---------------------- This makes sense... :) Awesome post... This helps me today... I sometimes get tired of men of just fooling me on the net, but I never stop praying God and hoping that one day, a good husband will come my way...
 
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