Understanding

[Man_of_Faith2]

“Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:24-32‬ ‭

I’m married and I strive to live by this, I’m far from perfect, though I do my best to live this way. My struggle is that I cannot get beyond the actions of my wife and the mother of our children.
How does one follow this while my wife is cheating, bringing our children around the people she is cheating with, leaving my children with people as often as possible and a verity of many other items. I’m breaking down inside and do not understand how I can live by this and I’m breaking apart inside.

 

[Christ4Ever]

“Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:24-32‬ ‭

I’m married and I strive to live by this, I’m far from perfect, though I do my best to live this way. My struggle is that I cannot get beyond the actions of my wife and the mother of our children.
How does one follow this while my wife is cheating, bringing our children around the people she is cheating with, leaving my children with people as often as possible and a verity of many other items. I’m breaking down inside and do not understand how I can live by this and I’m breaking apart inside.

Dear Brother,
First welcome to Talk Jesus this online Community of Christian Believers.
I truly hope you will find fellowship, growth in God's Word, and help in coming to an understanding in how to deal with what is happening in the life of you and your family.

Second is have you gone to God in prayer, and if so what has he laid on your heart to do?

Third, how is your walk with the Lord going? Making time for prayer, and talking with Him? Are you the Spiritual Leader of the Home? Are you going to church, taking the children, and asking the wife to also go, even if she says no?

I know its probably hard, because you are working, and it takes up most of your time, and you'd like to think you can depend on the wife to help, but it looks like that at this time that's not happening in a way that is helpful to you, the marriage, or the family.

To give a short on my own experiences. Years ago, my wife was saying, and doing things that were pushing me away. In tears I went to my knees and prayed. Asking God to help me change her. Well, God said you need to change yourself first, and I'll take care of her. Guess what? I listened, and did what He laid upon my heart to do, not that it was the advice I thought I'd get, but I listen and do it I did! In a week it will be 37 years of marriage for us! Has it been easy? NO, but trusting in God, who created this Covenant called marriage is what I found is the most important thing. Going to Him first, before others, and knowing that my own life I had to deal with was even more important than trying to change my wife's! Like He said to me, He'll take care of her, just get myself on the right road!

You are a man, and like men, you want to be part of the fix! Well, I don't know how long you've been married, but one thing I can tell you after 36 years, is that only God is going to change that woman's heart, mind, and spirit! So, go to the Source which is God, and seek His guidance, and then start doing the things that you as the Spiritual Leader of that Home is supposed to do. Also, no matter how hard it may be always shower those around you, including your cheating wife, with the Love of Christ.

Well, I've added what I could to try to help you brother. Including praying for you!
So, with the Love of Christ Jesus, once again be welcomed to Talk Jesus!
YBIC
Nick
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[Brad Huber]

This age, women are taught to put themselves on a pedastal of beauty and worldly wisdom. They for the most part dont follow scriptures that teach man is the head of the woman. They are no more evil or more good than the general man, but more free than ever before to decide for themselves whats right and wrong, and act on that assumption. She if following a path currently according to your words, that are leading herself and the children she loves to like another man that she prefers over you. Either she plans to divorce you soon, or is simply ignoring her marriage vows and hoping to stay married for material support until she finds another source of income to make up for the possible loss of yours.

I would agree with Nick, you need to pray that God help your heart get right with the matter. No doubt you have something to contribute to her current attitude toward you. Perhaps its not to late to repair your marriage with God's help, but you will have to forgive her completely for all she has done, or your attitude will continue to drive her away. Its either that, or expect what I said in the first paragraph.

 

[Gregoryp]

As an aside, this is a lesson to the single people. wait on the Lord for your blessing, IE your betrothed. Man choosing his spouse rarely ends well.

 

[Brad Huber]

As an aside, this is a lesson to the single people. wait on the Lord for your blessing, IE your betrothed. Man choosing his spouse rarely ends well.

Hindsight is usually 20/20, rarely that good prior when emotions are involved.

 

[FullArmorofGod]

“Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:24-32‬ ‭

I’m married and I strive to live by this, I’m far from perfect, though I do my best to live this way. My struggle is that I cannot get beyond the actions of my wife and the mother of our children.
How does one follow this while my wife is cheating, bringing our children around the people she is cheating with, leaving my children with people as often as possible and a verity of many other items. I’m breaking down inside and do not understand how I can live by this and I’m breaking apart inside.

Herein lies why majority of western women are unmarriageable. They don't submit to their husbands. They fight them, cut them off from sex, and divorce.

Why marry a *****? You aren't supposed to. In many places in the world stoning still exists. Christ shower a different way but you are tolerating cuckoldry. This doesn't give her the tingles. It's absolutely pathetic and cowardice. Divorce her and record the child abuse. Be warned that the courts are man hating and quick to extract your resources.


Marriage is dead in the west and women killed it. Meeting s9 called Christian but bpd or woman with the crazies doesn't excuse her behaviour. Leave. Find a far hotter younger woman. And quickly end being cucked. Her behaviour is disgusting but your being a we5 noodle and a wimpy beta is provoking her to visit her bull.

 

[FullArmorofGod]

As an aside, this is a lesson to the single people. wait on the Lord for your blessing, IE your betrothed. Man choosing his spouse rarely ends well.

Well waiting is about as bad as accepting cuckoldry. The emphasis on a virgin bride goes back to virtue and lineage. How do you know these are his biological kids? My buddy took a gun out of his mouth last summer finding out his son was not his. Its disgusting. I understand why stoning existed.

 

[FullArmorofGod]

You can be a good Christian man and God fearing. It doesn't mean marrying hookers and escorts while watching a bull plow your wife. Champion forgiveness and be furniture. Its pathetic and why Christian men are mocked. A lot should look at testosterone replacement therapy.

Forgiveness is one thing. Cuckoldry is another. Submit to your husband. Not submit to your wife's bull. This is insanity.

The first sign of a red flag, she should have been kicked out. Number deleted. All contact blocked. Comply or goodbye.

There's far too much girl power, pandering, and simping in the churches in 2020. Christ wasn't prancing around limp wrist and flailing all over the place. He got angry. He flipped tables. He called out evil and shilling in the house of God as I am sure he would call out open cuckoldry promoted in churches across America.


Christian men need to grow a pair and man up. Enough is enough. This is not the type of woman you Netflix and chill never mind marrying or having children with. Far too often, you have parasites like this on church roping up dumb naive Christian men when at thirty and playboy isn't coming over anymore.

Thread starter, read the rational male and kick her out yesterday. For fellas here ITT, next time you contemplate marrying a western woman, read the thread here and have a look at the divorce stats by gender.

My being a Christian man doesn't mean dork who marries a Hooker pushing forty in the danger zone.

 

[Andyindauk]

“Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church.”
‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:24-32‬ ‭

I’m married and I strive to live by this, I’m far from perfect, though I do my best to live this way. My struggle is that I cannot get beyond the actions of my wife and the mother of our children.
How does one follow this while my wife is cheating, bringing our children around the people she is cheating with, leaving my children with people as often as possible and a verity of many other items. I’m breaking down inside and do not understand how I can live by this and I’m breaking apart inside.

Hi MoF,

Really sorry to hear about your situation, must be awful.

The answer is in the passage you quote, 'Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy,' If I told you how I've treated Jesus after I'd given Him my commitment and the things I've done since, Chad would chuck me out of this forum, and yet Jesus kept calling me back. That's why my favourite parable by a country mile is the Prodigal Son. It speaks to me volumes about God's forgiveness and the true depth of His love. Jesus didn't mention in Luke 15 that there was a sequel, the Prodigal Son 2. It's pretty much the same as the original, the son goes off on another bender, falls flat on his face and returns back to his dad and gets forgiven, again. God's love of and forgiveness knows no end. So what has that got to do with marriage? Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy,

You made a commitment to your wife, you've got kids together, God hates divorce, kids hate divorce. Four good reasons not to give up on your marriage. Over the next day or two have a really good think about your marriage, go over it, what went wrong? What contribution did you make to it going downhill? Why did she wander? Talk to her and tell her you want her back and see if she wants the same thing. If she does, go to counselling together. You'll need to learn total forgiveness that means forgetting the past and moving on. You need to rebuild, avoiding past mistakes and and sharing closeness and intimacy, talking and communicating. In short you need to re-seduce her, drawing closely together again as a family.

Equally important is prayer. Pray for the Holy Spirit's wisdom and insight in dealing with your wife. You think you know her, God knows her even more. pray for guidance and for him to lead you through this process.

God bless you, your kids, and through you, your wife.

 

[PloughBoy]

I think a lot of us miss this, It came to me one day, in this fashion, She is not rejecting you, she is rejecting me. This thing is not about submitting to you, This is not about the earthy, This is about 'Heaven or Hell"! She is dis obeying GOD and not you!! His word is sound! It is not what you feel, so make sure you work out your own salvation. Like my uncle use to say: "every Tub is going to have to sit on it's own bottom"! There is No respect of person with GOD! Just because a person is a female does not mean they get by lightly! They go to Hell too! She is in Hot danger. Give her to GOD. For it written. Just don't you fall into danger! and whosoever touches HER is in danger of HELL fire too! Keep yourself pure and HOLY and continue to grow in your Sanctification. Read about "Hosea", Read about "Samson", read about King Davids wife MIcah, Read about king Solomon wives, read about God's wife "Israel" and her sister "Judah"! That why they are in there! by reading these stories you will get more closer to God and feel His pain. Give her to GOD, he knows what to do with wayward women who are disobedient to His word. When the time comes, you are going to be standing before the judge, and what made you do something ain't going fly! but He's going to say , BUT What did I tell you? those buts ain't going to get it! Give her to GOD and Keep it moving. You are not to have no other GOD's before HIM"! God's love is, you do what is right and not the LOVE how you feel! Real love is not a feeling but doing what is right.
To many people when they have gotten married have given their heart to their spouse and their hand to GOD, when should have given their hand to their spouse and their heart to GOD! He will guard it and keep it safe, another will step on it when they are displease with it. Dive into the Old Testament and anoint your heart with GOD's Word it will heal it. Get closer to GOD in His Word.

 

[FullArmorofGod]

Its threads like this that have many western women in the churches at 40 with Tyrones children looking for a Beta Christian male. Being Christian doesn't mean spineless.

 

[Andyindauk]

Its threads like this that have many western women in the churches at 40 with Tyrones children looking for a Beta Christian male. Being Christian doesn't mean spineless.

I really take issue at this remark. This guy, a Christian brother, has a marriage in crisis and he's devastated. The world's view is similar to yours, spouses are like cars, they break down, get rid, trade in, get an upgrade even better. There's too much of that, marriage should not be viewed as disposable, unless you're an A grade celebrity. A marriage should be worked at, there's dozens of verses in the Bible exhorting husbands and wives to love each other. There's none advocating divorce, just a few in God's law making adultery a capital offence. But we live in a period of grace where we forgive, unless you've never sinned, in which case throw that first stone!

This is not about Alpha males or growing balls, this is about a family in crisis. If MoF takes control, goes to his wife, gets to the bottom of the problem, sorts out a recovery plan and so keeps the family together, the outcome will be so much better than him giving her a good hiding, packing her bags and chucking her out. It's possible that he's a part of the problem and he needs to make drastic changes in his life to repair their marriage and get it back on the rails. It may well be that she doesn't have any feelings of love for him and wants out and they do divorce, at least he won't be kicking himself in years to come, wishing he'd tried harder. That taking control of the situation and getting it sorted takes big balls, which is why he needs the working of the Holy Spirit, as we all do.

 

[Hekuran]

Your marriage is in crisis. I think the only way to deal with this is to confront that crisis directly with your wife.

Your marriage cannot continue if your wife continues to cheat on you. She must make a commitment to be faithful to you or prepare to leave.

If she is ready to give up cheating on you, then that will mean that you both have a lot of work to do to repair the damage done, to work through the failings and sins that have led you to this place. It is likely to be very demanding and painful, and a long process, but worth it.

Otherwise she must accept the consequence of the way she has behaved.

Yes, God hates divorce, but he also allows legitimate grounds for divorce, and it may be the least harmful outcome for you and your family.

And God is also the God of restoration miracles.

If it is possible for you and your wife to pray together daily, that would be a very strong step in the right direction. Also you can't walk this path alone. Find someone in your neighbourhood who will commit to praying with you regularly (weekly) while you are in this situation.

 

[Man_of_Faith2]

Thank you for all the replies to my post. I do make prayer a priority as well as attending church. Our children attend a christen school which is the same as our church. Though I am currently deployed, my wife continues to stray from church, the foundation in which we have developed and continues down her own path. I have learned that I have not been a priority to her at any point, as I have learned she has cheated on my since before we were married. she is back to always being under the influence. She has become a pathological lier and our children are noticing it too. This has become extremely stressful and I am unsure I can repair what has happened. I know God does know more than I and knows each of us, however I am extremely hurt, and i see how much she is hurting our children.

 

[PloughBoy]

And things would change a bit, if Christians and churches would believe and proclaim a lot more, "Adultery" and living in "Adultery" and Fornication is a "Abomination' to God and HE will send you to HELL and Then "The Lake of FIRE" where you die NOt! from all eternity! and there are No excuses!

Leviticus 18:20
You must not have sexual relations with your neighbor's wife and thus defile yourself with her. [when you defile yourself, you become blinded and poluted]

Deuteronomy 22:22
If a man is found lying with another man's wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. [such things are evil"] the people are evil and wicked.
.
1 Corinthians 6:9
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who submit to or perform homosexual acts,

1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a man can commit is outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.

A whole lot of People are going to HELL and the "Lake of FIRE" dying a eternal death!

divorcing and remarrying, it is not worth taking the risk! You been warn Walking around trying to find a church and Pastor that will agree with you and give you what you want! "that DOG ain;t going to Fly"! "Do not play "Russian Roulette" with your SOUL! When in doubt! don't jump off the cliff!

"Keep your Legs Close" "Keep your Zipper up" it will keep your Conscious clear. and there will be no "Lingering Guilt" and No "Safari" in justifing your actions. "give no place to the devil" that he may attack you in such matters.

New American Standard Bible
Therefore, do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward.

A Adulterous christian will not teach against Adultery with power, A fornicating christian will not teach with power against Fornicating. and most of the time will not bring it up! A divorce and remarried christian, will always give a clause to escape and remarrying is ok, A Christian that likes to "LORD over The flock", does not preach with power about The Way of "Holiness" and Sanctification". "Adultery and fornicating" is 'ABOMINATION" TO GOD!

They will explain this away too!

26I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you. 29But this I say, brethren, the time has been shortened, so that from now on those who have wives should be as though they had none;

[ Now trouble has arise in your marriage like the Word of God has told you, now you ready to jump ship] "The Hosea's and Gomer's"!

Now listen to The Parables.

13And he saith unto them, Know ye not this parable? and how shall ye know all the parables? 14The sower soweth the word. 15And these are they by the way side, where the word is sown; and when they have heard, straightway cometh Satan, and taketh away the word which hath been sown in them. 16And these in like manner are they that are sown upon the rocky places , who, when they have heard the word, straightway receive it with joy; 17and they have no root in themselves, but endure for a while; then, when tribulation or persecution ariseth because of the word, straightway they stumble. [ they get a divorce] or commit sex crimes Abominations" poluting themselves with demons of lust].
18And others are they that are sown among the thorns; these are they that have heard the word, 19and the cares of the world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful. 20And those are they that were sown upon the good ground; such as hear the word, and accept it, and bear fruit, thirtyfold, and sixtyfold, and a hundredfold.

( 2 Peter 2: 21-22).
…21It would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness than to have known it and then to turn away from the holy commandment passed on to them. 22Of them the proverbs are true: “A dog returns to its vomit,” and, “A sow that is washed goes back to her wallowing in the mud.

Tell them the Truth! what thus saidth The LORD! It will save their souls! and turn many away from their sins! "For the Word of GOD is quick and Powerful and Sharper than a two edge Sword" and It will cut! {but it depends on the ones who knows how to use it] "righty handles the truth"

You are not trying to be nice to them, you are trying to warn them, that they have become a Abomination in the sight of GOD and playing with Fire and GOD will not be Mock, who practices such things! And they have a way out! and Antinomianism is not The Door! "Most do not know they are evil! because you haven't told them." So why would they need a Savior? [yes you must be gentle face to face and when asked] personal approach is alway different than the addressing the crowds! The Bigger the crowds, more etc.....! Now a few people or one person there is no fight to get the message across, And it depends on who is in the crowd. For I do know many of Christians do not understand all the forces that we have to engage in public speaking, "spiritual forces' and what it consist of and how to engage the different types of hosts, in which there is a 'mutitude of hosts'.

For God Himself has design Each Brick for the Task before us and each brick is totally different and is fitted rightly in place.



Man_of_Faith2
So sir keep yourself clean, and ask God to have mercy on your wife! Because she is the one and those who plays with her is a great Danger of Hell fire! For GOD is watching.

Go No where near her HOUSE!

3For the lips of an adulteress drip honey
And smoother than oil is her speech;

4But in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
Sharp as a two-edged sword.

5Her feet go down to death,
Her steps take hold of Sheol.

6She does not ponder the path of life;
Her ways are unstable, she does not know it.

7Now then, my sons, listen to me
And do not depart from the words of my mouth.

8Keep your way far from her
And do not go near the door of her house,

9Or you will give your vigor to others
And your years to the cruel one;


{if you do, go her way, you will pay this price!].

What you sow you will reap! "The New Testament" Marry her will not give you a pardon!
Mock God if you want too!

(Galatian 6)
7Do not be deceived:God is not to be mocked. Whatever a man sows,he will reap in return. 8The one who sows to please his flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; but the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.…

If a man has slept with your wife or is sleeping with her. You do not have to take revenge, GOD will!

(Romans 12:19)
New American Standard Bible
"Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY," says the Lord."

[You better pray for them and ask GOD to give them mercy! Just because you asking GOD to give them mercy does not mean HE WILL] When He gets threw with them, they will wish they was in Hell to hide! The Father is No joke!

Jesus said:
New American Standard 1977
“But I will warn you whom to fear: fear the One who after He has killed has authority to cast into hell; yes, I tell you, fear Him!

Jesus has warn you! God is to be obeyed.

I do hope i have help someone and pull them away from the Fire and some out of the Fire!

(Jude 1).
…22And indeed, have mercy on those who doubt; 23 save others by snatching them from the fire; and to still others show mercy tempered with fear, hating even the clothing stained by the flesh.

In the form of Agape

 

[Hekuran]

Thank you for all the replies to my post. I do make prayer a priority as well as attending church. Our children attend a christen school which is the same as our church. Though I am currently deployed, my wife continues to stray from church, the foundation in which we have developed and continues down her own path. I have learned that I have not been a priority to her at any point, as I have learned she has cheated on my since before we were married. she is back to always being under the influence. She has become a pathological lier and our children are noticing it too. This has become extremely stressful and I am unsure I can repair what has happened. I know God does know more than I and knows each of us, however I am extremely hurt, and i see how much she is hurting our children.

I'll be praying that God gives you grace and wisdom and strength and peace.

 

[FullArmorofGod]

I really take issue at this remark. This guy, a Christian brother, has a marriage in crisis and he's devastated. The world's view is similar to yours, spouses are like cars, they break down, get rid, trade in, get an upgrade even better. There's too much of that, marriage should not be viewed as disposable, unless you're an A grade celebrity. A marriage should be worked at, there's dozens of verses in the Bible exhorting husbands and wives to love each other. There's none advocating divorce, just a few in God's law making adultery a capital offence. But we live in a period of grace where we forgive, unless you've never sinned, in which case throw that first stone!

This is not about Alpha males or growing balls, this is about a family in crisis. If MoF takes control, goes to his wife, gets to the bottom of the problem, sorts out a recovery plan and so keeps the family together, the outcome will be so much better than him giving her a good hiding, packing her bags and chucking her out. It's possible that he's a part of the problem and he needs to make drastic changes in his life to repair their marriage and get it back on the rails. It may well be that she doesn't have any feelings of love for him and wants out and they do divorce, at least he won't be kicking himself in years to come, wishing he'd tried harder. That taking control of the situation and getting it sorted takes big balls, which is why he needs the working of the Holy Spirit, as we all do.

Being a Christian man is not the calling card for cowardice and spineless.

Jesus got pissed. He flipped tables. He screamed up shills and deceit in the house of God. The same way he would have called out the crap pushed in modern marriages.

The Bible is red pill. It's warned about spineless and being limp wristed.


Many people champion Bible verses. Know nothing about it. Just parrot it.

Paul wrote about the metric of a wife. It read virtuous. Not cucks her husband. This is modern women be it the church or the club. Most are unmarriageable.

I believe in Christ and God but that doesn't mean that I tolerate certain things cuckoldry. There's no coming back from this. Hot girls keep turning 18. Comply or goodbye.

 

[FullArmorofGod]

And things would change a bit, if Christians and churches would believe and proclaim a lot more, "Adultery" and living in "Adultery" and Fornication is a "Abomination' to God and HE will send you to HELL and Then "The Lake of FIRE" where you die NOt! from all eternity! and there are No excuses!

Leviticus 18:20
You must not have sexual relations with your neighbor's wife and thus defile yourself with her. [when you defile yourself, you become blinded and poluted]

Deuteronomy 22:22
If a man is found lying with another man's wife, both the man who slept with her and the woman must die. You must purge the evil from Israel. [such things are evil"] the people are evil and wicked.
.
1 Corinthians 6:9
Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who submit to or perform homosexual acts,

1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a man can commit is outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body.

A whole lot of People are going to HELL and the "Lake of FIRE" dying a eternal death!

divorcing and remarrying, it is not worth taking the risk! You been warn Walking around trying to find a church and Pastor that will agree with you and give you what you want! "that DOG ain;t going to Fly"! "Do not play "Russian Roulette" with your SOUL! When in doubt! don't jump off the cliff!

"Keep your Legs Close" "Keep your Zipper up" it will keep your Conscious clear. and there will be no "Lingering Guilt" and No "Safari" in justifing your actions. "give no place to the devil" that he may attack you in such matters.

New American Standard Bible
Therefore, do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward.

A Adulterous christian will not teach against Adultery with power, A fornicating christian will not teach with power against Fornicating. and most of the time will not bring it up! A divorce and remarried christian, will always give a clause to escape and remarrying is ok, A Christian that likes to "LORD over The flock", does not preach with power about The Way of "Holiness" and Sanctification". "Adultery and fornicating" is 'ABOMINATION" TO GOD!

They will explain this away too!

26I think then that this is good in view of the present distress, that it is good for a man to remain as he is. 27Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife. 28But if you marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. Yet such will have trouble in this life, and I am trying to spare you. 29But this I say, brethren, the time has been shortened, so that from now on those who have wives should be as though they had none;

[ Now trouble has arise in your marriage like the Word of God has told you, now you ready to jump ship] "The Hosea's and Gomer's"!

Now listen to The Parables.

13And he saith unto them, Know ye not this parable? and how shall ye know all the parables? 14The sower soweth the word. 15And these are they by the way side, where the word is sown; and when they have heard, straightway cometh Satan, and taketh away the word which hath been sown in them. 16And these in like manner are they that are sown upon the rocky places , who, when they have heard the word, straightway receive it with joy; 17and they have no root in themselves, but endure for a while; then, when tribulation or persecution ariseth because of the word, straightway they stumble. [ they get a divorce] or commit sex crimes Abominations" poluting themselves with demons of lust].
18And others are they that are sown among the thorns; these are they that have heard the word, 19and the cares of the world, and the deceitfulness of riches, and the lusts of other things entering in, choke the word, and it becometh unfruitful. 20And those are they that were sown upon the good ground; such as hear the word, and accept it, and bear fruit, thirtyfold, and sixtyfold, and a hundredfold.

( 2 Peter 2: 21-22).
…21It would have been better for them not to have known the way of righteousness than to have known it and then to turn away from the holy commandment passed on to them. 22Of them the proverbs are true: “A dog returns to its vomit,” and, “A sow that is washed goes back to her wallowing in the mud.

Tell them the Truth! what thus saidth The LORD! It will save their souls! and turn many away from their sins! "For the Word of GOD is quick and Powerful and Sharper than a two edge Sword" and It will cut! {but it depends on the ones who knows how to use it] "righty handles the truth"

You are not trying to be nice to them, you are trying to warn them, that they have become a Abomination in the sight of GOD and playing with Fire and GOD will not be Mock, who practices such things! And they have a way out! and Antinomianism is not The Door! "Most do not know they are evil! because you haven't told them." So why would they need a Savior? [yes you must be gentle face to face and when asked] personal approach is alway different than the addressing the crowds! The Bigger the crowds, more etc.....! Now a few people or one person there is no fight to get the message across, And it depends on who is in the crowd. For I do know many of Christians do not understand all the forces that we have to engage in public speaking, "spiritual forces' and what it consist of and how to engage the different types of hosts, in which there is a 'mutitude of hosts'.

For God Himself has design Each Brick for the Task before us and each brick is totally different and is fitted rightly in place.



Man_of_Faith2
So sir keep yourself clean, and ask God to have mercy on your wife! Because she is the one and those who plays with her is a great Danger of Hell fire! For GOD is watching.

Go No where near her HOUSE!

3For the lips of an adulteress drip honey
And smoother than oil is her speech;

4But in the end she is bitter as wormwood,
Sharp as a two-edged sword.

5Her feet go down to death,
Her steps take hold of Sheol.

6She does not ponder the path of life;
Her ways are unstable, she does not know it.

7Now then, my sons, listen to me
And do not depart from the words of my mouth.

8Keep your way far from her
And do not go near the door of her house,

9Or you will give your vigor to others
And your years to the cruel one;


{if you do, go her way, you will pay this price!].

What you sow you will reap! "The New Testament" Marry her will not give you a pardon!
Mock God if you want too!

(Galatian 6)
7Do not be deceived:God is not to be mocked. Whatever a man sows,he will reap in return. 8The one who sows to please his flesh, from the flesh will reap destruction; but the one who sows to please the Spirit, from the Spirit will reap eternal life.…

If a man has slept with your wife or is sleeping with her. You do not have to take revenge, GOD will!

(Romans 12:19)
New American Standard Bible
"Never take your own revenge, beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "VENGEANCE IS MINE, I WILL REPAY," says the Lord."

[You better pray for them and ask GOD to give them mercy! Just because you asking GOD to give them mercy does not mean HE WILL] When He gets threw with them, they will wish they was in Hell to hide! The Father is No joke!

Jesus said:
New American Standard 1977
“But I will warn you whom to fear: fear the One who after He has killed has authority to cast into hell; yes, I tell you, fear Him!

Jesus has warn you! God is to be obeyed.

I do hope i have help someone and pull them away from the Fire and some out of the Fire!

(Jude 1).
…22And indeed, have mercy on those who doubt; 23 save others by snatching them from the fire; and to still others show mercy tempered with fear, hating even the clothing stained by the flesh.

In the form of Agape

But but feminism. Proud single moms at church at forty and you better man up and raise chads kids.

This herein lies the problem with most American churches today. Far worse, most men are marks in the church for women just off the carousel and conveniently want to get right with God. It's called FOREVER 21. not 41. Not 401.

The churches are hijacked and it's not shocking men are fleeing in droves. While I prefer to meet a Christian VIRTOUS WOMAN, I have and its the same old **** be it tinder or the club.

Not in the mood for a Christian husband who then resorts to Internet porn or cheats. It's cherry picked quotes and verses that pander to the self serving narratives.

 

[PloughBoy]

Jesus is at the Door and men better concentrate on Christ and forget about these women! And give their life solely To Christ, They will be a lot more happier!!
For the Bible has perclaim thisTruth"! "If the are loose from a wife seek No Wife"! They are better off, Dec;ares the Word of GOD!

 

[Andyindauk]

Thank you for all the replies to my post. I do make prayer a priority as well as attending church. Our children attend a christen school which is the same as our church. Though I am currently deployed, my wife continues to stray from church, the foundation in which we have developed and continues down her own path. I have learned that I have not been a priority to her at any point, as I have learned she has cheated on my since before we were married. she is back to always being under the influence. She has become a pathological lier and our children are noticing it too. This has become extremely stressful and I am unsure I can repair what has happened. I know God does know more than I and knows each of us, however I am extremely hurt, and i see how much she is hurting our children.

Hi MoF,

How's everything going? Have you managed to have 'the chat? I'm hoping and praying for you both that she wakes up to what she's about to lose, the offence, the hurt, upset and stress from her kids, wider family and friends, and worse than all of that, from God. If you have had a long heart to heart, how'd it go? Is the marriage fixable? Is she prepared to recommit? Does she see value in counselling?

If you haven't, these questions need asking and answering, you really can't try to maintain the status quo, it will tear you up. It may be that that she wants status quo, called cake and eat it, or maybe she's planning an exit. You need to know, so you need to ask and then you can take decisions and make plans.

I do pray for you all that it is the former and you can repair and rejuvenate your marriage. God bless you all.