Waiting for my prince... (when will he come?) =/

[PrincessofJesus]

First off.. I would like to introduce myself. My name is Alex and I am nineteen years old. This is actually my very first post on this site. I have a feeling many more will soon come =)

So, I've never had a boyfriend. I have been kissed once, but that is as far as I have gone. Never been given flowers, roses, never been told I'm beautiful by the member of the opposite sex (you know those sweet nothings that make any girl swoon? yeah..)

But despite all this, I have remained strong in my faith. I have never questioned God when I've seen my other girlfriends get boyfriends while I remain chronically single. I always felt very happy for them, really, from the bottom of my heart. I was always too busy for boys anyway. Plus, my passion for Jesus was and is greater than chasing after boys!

I used to be ashamed of this fact, you know being a virgin at this age, i guess for many it might seem young still, but keep in mind that I am from Miami, where the average person has had multiple partners by the time they are my age.

Anyway... ever since I was 16 I've been praying for my future husband. I was not raised a Christian, and sexual purity was never pushed down my throat (as a matter of fact, my mom WAS a firm believer in test driving a man before marrying him to see if he had the goods...otherwise you'll be doomed for life *rolleyes* lol). I simply allowed the Holy Spirit to teach me what a biblical marriage/courtship was all about, and He instinctively led me to make a covenant with Him to remain pure until my wedding day. The holy ghost is the best teacher, hands down. =)

Now more than ever I have been seriously pondering about my future spouse. I long to have a beautiful Christ-honoring marriage and raise our kids together. I know that our purposes will be fulfilled together and I absolutely cannot wait until God reveals me who this wonderful man of God he has destined for me in His divine time. =D As I continue waiting for my husband, I will continue consuming myself with the holy spirit and digging deeper into worship and communion with God.

For those of you all who are in the same boat as I am in, just keep praying and do not jump into any relationship until you hear the voice of God. It is SO important to know this, and live it! God bless you all.

 

[esthy09]

hi

Keep it up! It is good you have kept yourself pure and holy for your future God-ordained husband and my prayer for you is that God will bring the right man to you in Jesus name. I pray that God will prepare the man for you and prepare you for him also in Jesus name. I pray that the Lord will continue to strengthen you, uphold you and help you continue to do his will in Jesus name. God bless you my sister

 

[Truehearts]

me too... I'm waiting!!! hehe

Its fun to wait, just make the most out of it, serving God, you'll actually realize that its worth the time you know... besides you are really young.. I mean im 23... 24 in two months.

Never had a boyfriend or been given flowers or been on a date or a first kiss (hey, you beat me there! LOL)

Well, on a serious note, I am so thrilled to know that you'd like to wait for that man too, and we're in the same boat 100%.

I'd rather wait 23 more years than have 23 failed relationships... Praying is really vital.
Patience is its twin.

I'd like to know you more, do drop by in the welcome forum. You'll meet great people.

 

[sunshineaaks]

First off.. I would like to introduce myself. My name is Alex and I am nineteen years old. This is actually my very first post on this site. I have a feeling many more will soon come =)

So, I've never had a boyfriend. I have been kissed once, but that is as far as I have gone. Never been given flowers, roses, never been told I'm beautiful by the member of the opposite sex (you know those sweet nothings that make any girl swoon? yeah..)

But despite all this, I have remained strong in my faith. I have never questioned God when I've seen my other girlfriends get boyfriends while I remain chronically single. I always felt very happy for them, really, from the bottom of my heart. I was always too busy for boys anyway. Plus, my passion for Jesus was and is greater than chasing after boys!

I used to be ashamed of this fact, you know being a virgin at this age, i guess for many it might seem young still, but keep in mind that I am from Miami, where the average person has had multiple partners by the time they are my age.

Anyway... ever since I was 16 I've been praying for my future husband. I was not raised a Christian, and sexual purity was never pushed down my throat (as a matter of fact, my mom WAS a firm believer in test driving a man before marrying him to see if he had the goods...otherwise you'll be doomed for life *rolleyes* lol). I simply allowed the Holy Spirit to teach me what a biblical marriage/courtship was all about, and He instinctively led me to make a covenant with Him to remain pure until my wedding day. The holy ghost is the best teacher, hands down. =)

Now more than ever I have been seriously pondering about my future spouse. I long to have a beautiful Christ-honoring marriage and raise our kids together. I know that our purposes will be fulfilled together and I absolutely cannot wait until God reveals me who this wonderful man of God he has destined for me in His divine time. =D As I continue waiting for my husband, I will continue consuming myself with the holy spirit and digging deeper into worship and communion with God.

For those of you all who are in the same boat as I am in, just keep praying and do not jump into any relationship until you hear the voice of God. It is SO important to know this, and live it! God bless you all.

This is wonderful to hear!! I'm finding that there are more and more 'kids' not following in the world's way of thinking and are saving themselves for marriage. There are even some 'old folks' in my age group who reject the world's way of thinking also.

To those who are being teased for being virgins in their teens and twenties, maybe a question back might help in that area. A thoughtful question to those doing the teasing might be: Would it be more advantageous to enter a marriage clean or to enter marriage with some incurable STD? Put in question form, generally they don't see it as condemnation or judgment against them but rather a thought provoking question as to which they would prefer entering marriage.

You are young so don't worry about 'when' you will marry, just think of this time as His molding you into the kind of wife HE wants for your husband and also His molding your future husband into the kind of husband HE wants for you

 

[PrincessofJesus]

Thank you everyone for your kind responses and prayers. Believe me when I say that they mean so much! I am also thrilled that we are pretty much all on the same boat when it comes to dating/marriage, I think that's great. Love you all in Christ!

 

[Giggles4God]

Can a married girl give some advice and encouragement? :-D

My husband and I will be married for seven years on July 24th. It has not been all ups, but some downs, too. We met online when I was 21 and married when I was 23.

It is a good thing to NOT rush into something. I remember my 'doubts' of what was happening when we were courting, etc. Things went pretty quickly for us, but I think it helped that we prayed together and once when we prayed we both felt that God was saying 'yes' to our 'are we the ones for each other?' And I can tell you that praying is a must because marriage is a LIFE LONG commitment!

My roommate at college told me that she was writing letters to her future husband and I started to do that. It was neat to be able to tell him what I was feeling and going through at that point.

Wouldn't it be great for your future guy to write letters to you, too?

I remember feeling like I was missing out on something because so many in high school were dating. I came to realize that why would I want to be in so many relationships and give part of me away?

When I was in college, the one Phys. Ed teacher came to my dorm hall and talked about waiting until marriage for not just sex, but kissing, too. She said she pictured that it wasn't just her husband-to-be that she was marrying, but all those guys she gave herself to, no matter how small the part.

I think it is better to court than to date. To know that you are going to marry the person and not just 'taste' them.

I think there is something about how Rebecca came to Isaac that is beautiful. And it is sad to see that society deems dating and marriage so poorly when God made them to be pure and holy and precious, and special. And that BOTH the man and woman should be pure, not just one of them.

 

[mavafire]

Can a married girl give some advice and encouragement? :-D

My husband and I will be married for seven years on July 24th. It has not been all ups, but some downs, too. We met online when I was 21 and married when I was 23.

It is a good thing to NOT rush into something. I remember my 'doubts' of what was happening when we were courting, etc. Things went pretty quickly for us, but I think it helped that we prayed together and once when we prayed we both felt that God was saying 'yes' to our 'are we the ones for each other?' And I can tell you that praying is a must because marriage is a LIFE LONG commitment!

My roommate at college told me that she was writing letters to her future husband and I started to do that. It was neat to be able to tell him what I was feeling and going through at that point.

Wouldn't it be great for your future guy to write letters to you, too?

I remember feeling like I was missing out on something because so many in high school were dating. I came to realize that why would I want to be in so many relationships and give part of me away?

When I was in college, the one Phys. Ed teacher came to my dorm hall and talked about waiting until marriage for not just sex, but kissing, too. She said she pictured that it wasn't just her husband-to-be that she was marrying, but all those guys she gave herself to, no matter how small the part.

I think it is better to court than to date. To know that you are going to marry the person and not just 'taste' them.

I think there is something about how Rebecca came to Isaac that is beautiful. And it is sad to see that society deems dating and marriage so poorly when God made them to be pure and holy and precious, and special. And that BOTH the man and woman should be pure, not just one of them.

This is amazing! Recently i've confided in one of my good friends about having worries and doubts about finding my future husband. She said to pray for Him and write letters to Him. Its amazing how similar your advice is to yours.

And I am in the same exact boat as you are in. It's frustrating most of the time. But when I pray for my future husband I become extremely comforted.

-angelina

 

[AudreyNicole]

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[anglomatch]

Its amazing that many youngsters are not falling it the madness of the world and looking at God to guide and show them the way to righteousness and understanding,God knows who the right person is for each and every one of us even before we where born, be patient and pray he will show you the " perfect prince you have been waiting for" ...
I am too waiting for that princess

 

[The Robster]

The ole test drive is hard to resist. LOL That aside, I admire the youngesters that keep their virginity these days. Its quite a challenge that's for sure. If you've asked the Lord for a mate though...it could take a few years though. He knows when you are ready to handle it and is always working to put you in the right place and time to meet. So be prepared to WAIT.

 

[hollandgirl_15]

Hey!

I just wanted to tell you something of my own..

I totally have the same attitude as you. I have been bullied for years by boys in school who told me I was all bad and all ugly. I never got valentine's cards, roses, or love confessions, anything. Only from a little 5 year old boy I met on a party of the boy I used to tutor (1,5 years ago, I am 18, lol).

I moved later, so the bullying stopped. I never fit in though. I tried, but I never fit in. I started showing interest in boys. I wanted to receive love from them, I ACHED for it. I did. I always dreamed of marriage, prayed for my husband since I was like.. 10 years old. And yeah, I have been writing letters to my future husband.

Later on, when I was around 15, after I moved, I met an unbeliever who was not a virgin anymore. I fell in love, he fell in love. But after quite some time he let his desires take him over. I couldn't do anything, I tried to say no, and kept on doing it. But he pushed me into doing stuff I didn't want. I was desperate, I decided to let him do what he wanted, to be secured of not losing him. I was so insecure and desperate for love! I grew up in a loving family, but I still ached for love of another kind. I didn't want a public relationship though, so my boyfriend decided to take other girls as public girlfriends, and sometimes see me. I agreed (how stupid) to see him everytime, and everytime I got hurt more, I was crying every time I left him. I saw pictures of him and his girlfriends, and he didn't have the guts to just be pleased with me.

And then he went too far. He wanted to really rob my virginity. And that was my real border (thank God!). I finally opened my eyes and realized I was worth more. I stopped our relationship, desperate for love still. I seemed to look at guys all the time, wondering who would look back. I liked guys of ten years older than me, just because they were in reach.

I finally decided to stop it though. I read 'wait for me' by Rebecca St James (who is now gonna marry?), and around Christmas 2009 I asked my parents for a wedding ring for God and me. My dad put it on my finger. I just didn't want to have anything to do with guys anymore.. And guess what? Two days later, december 27th 2009, I met my boyfriend.

He is a friend of my sisters, she studies in the States(NC). He flew in at the airport, we came to pick him up. I totally freaked out. He was the most amazing guy I had ever seen. I made the choice though, to try to not like him. And that was hard. I told God I wanted him to take the feelings away (as he did before) if James wasn't the one. Surprisingly God didn't.

James started talking about it himself. I didn't want to tell him I liked him. I thought he liked my sister. But he seemed not. He told me he liked me. My parents told me that I couldn't get into a relationship before I turned 18, I was sixteen around that time. I told him that, and he just said: OK then I will wait. (he is so honest around me, so weird)

James' sister dreamed, before he left for the NL, that he'd go home for a break with his Dutch wife. I already told him I hoped it was me, even though he didn't know anything about me when that happened.

When he left we decided to see what God told us. And then got confirmed, like 2 weeks later, that he was the one for me. James' dad saw a vision of me several times, my sister and mom both joked about us being together. After James left he read two things in the bible. 1: whatever you will ask for in my name I will give it to you. and 2: whoever finds a good wife, finds what is good, and receives favor from the Lord. WOW!
My parents already met him before me, my mom told me that he liked me at seeing my picture. That also made them convinced about our relationship. If it would have been someone else our relationship would be with a lot less freedom and really different. My parents trust him because he gave them an impression of who he really is without ANYTHING that looks like a relationship involved.

And now we're together since january 25th 2010. And I know he will be my husband and life partner, which I so look forward to.

I have to say.. love comes when you don't expect it. God makes the best matches. "A woman's heart should be so lost in God that a man must seek Him in order to find her" has been my quote for the past few years, and THAT WORKS. Stop searching for it. God will give it to you at the time you need it. Just focus on God totally. Surrender. I know what pain love can give you. God will take it away if it didn't come from him! Have faith, and patience. That is hard though!!

Let me know if I can do anything else for you.