What Do You Think?

[Admon Mikha'el]

The man was made head over the woman.... Is there ever a time when the woman handle the family finances?
Is there ever a time when the woman should be head of the house?
What do you think? When would it be scriptural?

 

[Jesus_is_LORD]

The man was made head over the woman.... Is there ever a time when the woman handle the family finances?
Is there ever a time when the woman should be head of the house?
What do you think? When would it be scriptural?

Great topic, I can tell this will bring good discussion.

 

[Jesus_is_LORD]

I did a video on this some time back. Take a look please. 13 minutes. It is a starting point.

 

[B-A-C]

For one thing, being in charge of finances, doesn't mean you're the head of everything.

The company I work for has a CEO, and President and a financial team. The financial team isn't the head of the company.
The church I go to has a head pastor, but they have a female secretary that handles most of the churches finances.
I'm the only one who has a job with income at my house, but my wife pays most of the bills.

Prov 31:10; An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels.
Prov 31:11; The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain.
Prov 31:12; She does him good and not evil All the days of her life.
Prov 31:13; She looks for wool and flax And works with her hands in delight.
Prov 31:14; She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar.
Prov 31:15; She rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens.
Prov 31:16; She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard.
Prov 31:17; She girds herself with strength And makes her arms strong.
Prov 31:18; She senses that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out at night.
Prov 31:19; She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle.
Prov 31:20; She extends her hand to the poor, And she stretches out her hands to the needy.
Prov 31:21; She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet.
Prov 31:22; She makes coverings for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
Prov 31:23; Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land.
Prov 31:24; She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies belts to the tradesmen.
Prov 31:25; Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future.
Prov 31:26; She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
Prov 31:27; She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness.
Prov 31:28; Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying:
Prov 31:29; "Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all."
Prov 31:30; Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
Prov 31:31; Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.

It may not be this way for every marriage, but this is what works for us.
Big financial decisions... a new house, a new car, an expensive vacation, is usually discussed between both of us.
Day to day financial decisions, groceries, gas, electric bills, .. my wife usually handles these.
I don't know if there's a magic number, but if I had to pick one. I would say $500.00 is about the limit either of us can spend
without discussing it with the other.

Mark 12:43; Calling His disciples to Him, He said to them, "Truly I say to you, this poor widow put in more than all the contributors to the treasury;
Mark 12:44; for they all put in out of their surplus, but she, out of her poverty, put in all she owned, all she had to live on."

 

[Admon Mikha'el]

I did a video on this some time back. Take a look please. 13 minutes. It is a starting point.

Not a bad clip at all...Now What circumstances might it be reversed?

 

[Jesus_is_LORD]

Not a bad clip at all...Now What circumstances might it be reversed?

So in thinking about your question, without really researching, what immediately comes to mind (on the surface)
would be for example a situation in which someone is unable to fulfill such duties.

(1) The husband is in the hospital and has a brain injury.
(2) The mother is a single mother and has to be head of household
(3) Husband has impairments, he is always drunk with alcohol and his judgment can't be trusted.
(4) The wife clearly has certain gifts in certain areas by God which it benefits the family by the husband allowing her to lead in that area.
For example as @B-A-C spoke of with finances. If a wife has a masters in business and the husband has barely a high school diploma.
I think it make sense for her to lead in that area because it is her strength. Even so, some woman are great with cars and can change the oil.
While it is traditional for men to do such duties (change the oil, do the heavy lifting), if a lady was physically strong and her husband weak,
it makes sense for her to use her gifts for the benefits of the marriage.

Obviously there is a difference between what you do and who is in charge, as @B-A-C said.
So just because parents might let their high school genius child do their taxes because the child is smart, doesn't mean the child is in control.

Overall my point of the video was that we are all called to submit. Submission is not to the person but to God.
This keeps us all humble.
The father is called to submit to the wife through servant leadership putting her needs first(as Christ did for the church)
and the wife is to submit and let him lead.

If he is a good leader he will value his wives input and make her a partner in the decision as the co-equal and joint heir with Christ
that she is. Overall the focus is unity. Oneness. However order is needed so that things run smoothly. It is smoother when there is a chain
of command, ask anyone in the military. The husband however, is called to be a servant leader, not a dictator as the world sees it.

A car has a steering wheel and an engine. A steering wheel is not more important than the engine just because it is leading the direction.
They both work as one. The steering wheel can point in a certain direction but if the engine doesn't give power, you won't get to the destination.
A car requires the steering wheel and the engine to work together. There is order but it is for the purpose of unity and oneness.

 

[Admon Mikha'el]

So in thinking about your question, without really researching, what immediately comes to mind (on the surface)
would be for example a situation in which someone is unable to fulfill such duties.

(1) The husband is in the hospital and has a brain injury.
(2) The mother is a single mother and has to be head of household
(3) Husband has impairments, he is always drunk with alcohol and his judgment can't be trusted.
(4) The wife clearly has certain gifts in certain areas by God which it benefits the family by the husband allowing her to lead in that area.
For example as @B-A-C spoke of with finances. If a wife has a masters in business and the husband has barely a high school diploma.
I think it make sense for her to lead in that area because it is her strength. Even so, some woman are great with cars and can change the oil.
While it is traditional for men to do such duties (change the oil, do the heavy lifting), if a lady was physically strong and her husband weak,
it makes sense for her to use her gifts for the benefits of the marriage.

Obviously there is a difference between what you do and who is in charge, as @B-A-C said.
So just because parents might let their high school genius child do their taxes because the child is smart, doesn't mean the child is in control.

Overall my point of the video was that we are all called to submit. Submission is not to the person but to God.
This keeps us all humble.
The father is called to submit to the wife through servant leadership putting her needs first(as Christ did for the church)
and the wife is to submit and let him lead.

If he is a good leader he will value his wives input and make her a partner in the decision as the co-equal and joint heir with Christ
that she is. Overall the focus is unity. Oneness. However order is needed so that things run smoothly. It is smoother when there is a chain
of command, ask anyone in the military. The husband however, is called to be a servant leader, not a dictator as the world sees it.

A car has a steering wheel and an engine. A steering wheel is not more important than the engine just because it is leading the direction.
They both work as one. The steering wheel can point in a certain direction but if the engine doesn't give power, you won't get to the destination.
A car requires the steering wheel and the engine to work together. There is order but it is for the purpose of unity and oneness.

LOL To be honest I've pu53:3-5t my wife as head of the house...and a couple hours ago I got curious about how the church in general would view that...Why did I put her into the position of head of the family. I'm no longer able as you pointed out...and here's the rub...1 Pete 2:24, Isa 53:3-5, Psalm 103, and many other scriptures say that I am healed....two thousand years ago, my healing was paid for...That means I have no right to be sick, and the dark one has no right to put it onto me...

 

[Jesus_is_LORD]

LOL To be honest I've pu53:3-5t my wife as head of the house...and a couple hours ago I got curious about how the church in general would view that...Why did I put her into the position of head of the family. I'm no longer able as you pointed out...and here's the rub...1 Pete 2:24, Isa 53:3-5, Psalm 103, and many other scriptures say that I am healed....two thousand years ago, my healing was paid for...That means I have no right to be sick, and the dark one has no right to put it onto me...

Keeping you in prayer @Admon Mikha'el .

Dear God please bless @Admon Mikha'el and grant him healing that was paid for on the cross.
Please give him the strength that he needs to be the husband you have called him to be.
And even in his weakness, remind him that your strength is made perfect in weakness.
So as he finds himself in this state, allow him to learn from this situation whatever it is
what you would have of him.

In Jesus name we pray,
Amen.

 

[Admon Mikha'el]

Keeping you in prayer @Admon Mikha'el .

Dear God please bless @Admon Mikha'el and grant him healing that was paid for on the cross.
Please give him the strength that he needs to be the husband you have called him to be.
And even in his weakness, remind him that your strength is made perfect in weakness.
So as he finds himself in this state, allow him to learn from this situation whatever it is
what you would have of him.

In Jesus name we pray,
Amen.

Thank you my friend....I'm at the stage though where I don't even know if I even want to be healed....It just seems to be a lot easier if I just went home...there is a negative side to that too though. Pros and cons to either decision.

 

[Jesus_is_LORD]

Thank you my friend....I'm at the stage though where I don't even know if I even want to be healed....It just seems to be a lot easier if I just went home...there is a negative side to that too though. Pros and cons to either decision.

May I ask, how old you are?

 

[Admon Mikha'el]

May I ask, how old you are?

72 I feel old, tired and worn out...etc....I'm talking about myself too much too. I never talk about myself.