Yelling at your children

[JesusLoves]

This is what I learned when I have a big mouth toward my children. Sometimes you have to bit your tongue and really think about what you are going to say before you say it.

Speaking Loudly
Prov. 15:1 A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Prov. 25:15 By long forbearing (to keep back, withhold) is a prince persuaded, and a soft tongue breaketh the bone.

- Anger is removed by a gentle response, but a heated response fuels the flame
- Patience is ultimately persuasive, and a gentle answer gets a desired response

Prov. 15:18 Wrathful man stirath up strife: but he that is slow to anger appeaseth (to bring to a state of peace) strife (contention).

Prov. 15:28 The righteous studieth to answer or thinks before he speaks, but the wicked blurts out whatever is on his mind.

 

[Fragrant Grace]

Set a watch, O LORD, before my mouth; keep the door of my lips.
Psalm 141:3


Yes I agree totally JesusLoves.....I ask the Lord to guard my tongue so that only His love is shown when I feel angry or when discipline is needed.

I still slip up and sometimes shout but through it learn that it achieves nothing....apart from teaching my daughters to yell.

May our voices only speak that which is glorifying to the Lord



Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye
Colossians 3:12-13

 

[JesusLoves]

Yes I do believe the same on it teaching your young ones to learn to yell just the same when they become adults.

 

[jiggyfly]

Yes indeed there is no need to yell, give them clear boundaries and rules. I f they fracture them then discipline them consistently. If the discipline is to be effective in correcting their behavior, then the punishment must not fit the crime the punishment must be extreme. Not much is learned from a little tap on the patties. John Rosemond has many good books and resources on parenting.

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

i have to admit ive made that mistake with my children ..but God has been dealing with me for somnetime now about how he deals with me ...LONG SUFFERING and Patient...quick to reward and loving to the touch ....open and ready to encourage ..my family and i are better for it ..thank God im not to old to go to school...rev

 

[Rev T.S.Perkins]

just wanted to add something ...My God loves to hear us read His word ..ive added this to my parenting skills...My son dailey reads Gods word to me one chapter at a time .my new love is to hear My son read Gods word outloud .....no better sound to my ears than to hear his voice speaking Gods word ...it has made a difference so far and im looking forward to what rises up in my son from it..Praise the Lord for creative ideas ...Rev

 

[Fragrant Grace]

just wanted to add something ...My God loves to hear us read His word ..ive added this to my parenting skills...My son dailey reads Gods word to me one chapter at a time .my new love is to hear My son read Gods word outloud .....no better sound to my ears than to hear his voice speaking Gods word ...it has made a difference so far and im looking forward to what rises up in my son from it..Praise the Lord for creative ideas ...Rev

Thats lovely to hear brother.....gently tending your flock and keeping them in the Word of God

Beautiful learning and instruction.......much better than yelling and frustration

May you and your family be richly blessed sharing the Word of the Lord with your son this way.



Julia



He shall feed His flock like a shepherd: He shall gather the lambs with His arm, and carry them in His bosom, and shall gently lead those that are with young.
Isaiah 40:11