my parents say that good christians accept when they have done wrong and accept punishment, i am being punished, do i deserve it ? advice please ?

[Twistie]

my essays have to be of a high standardm, my parents said my essays will be marked and i will be given a score out of 10 , if i fall below a score of 8 i will be punished ?

They know what ya are capable of just write from the heart..

Ya must be pretty smart..ya parents must think so too.. that's quite awesome..

Try n focus on one essay at a time..

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[tanya1234]

They know what ya are capable of just write from the heart..

Ya must be pretty smart..ya parents must think so too.. that's quite awesome..

Try n focus on one essay at a time..

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yes i am expected to get good results in my exams, thats another reason set me so much homework to do while locked up, it wasnt just for punishment ?

 

[Twistie]

yes i am expected to get good results in my exams, thats another reason set me so much homework to do while locked up, it wasnt just for punishment ?

To keep your mind busy..I presume..

I'm not sure cause I don't know them or you..
I never seen y'all interact or how y'all are ya know?

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[Christ4Ever]

we live in an old victorian house in england all the doors have locks on them that can only be locked or unlocked with a key, to answer your other question i am not really claustrophobic, but i HATED being locked in my room , the thought of not being able to get out was a misreable punishment, as for safety, the key was allways in the lock ( ON THE OUTSIDE ) of the door, i even tried to push the key out the lock with a pen , so it would fall onto a piece of paper which i could then retrive back under my door allowing me to get out, ive seen it in the movies but it didnt work for me ? as for fire safety there was always my parents plus my 2 sisters near by in case of an emergency, plus if ever i needed the bathroom i would knock loudly on my bedroom door and i would then be let out for the bathroom, being escorted to the bathroom then back to my room then hearing my bedroom door SLAM shut then hearing the key turn in the lock CLICK i DONT like this form of punishment it hurts BIG TIME ?

First welcome to Talk Jesus, an online community of Jesus Christ believers.

With that being said, I wonder after reading your opening post of what you did, your punishment and then reading the above, that if it had been a worst-case scenario that your sister did not have just you, nor your parents nearby to help when something like what you described as an emergency did happen; how to apologize to your sister for something that could not be changed or saved from?

What happened wasn’t exactly an emergency in your eyes, but thankfully it didn’t turn out worse, and your sister made it through, though a bit shaken, I’m sure. If she had not survived the experience, you'd be carrying a weekend punishment as a memory and hopefully a never to do that again experience, but minus one sister as only a memory forever more and never being able to hear from you how sorry you were for what you did. Which I'm sure you've apologized to her for, right? With a really contrite heart for the pain and anguish you caused her...

Put yourself in her shoes meaning that in someone else’s shoes requires us to step outside of our own experiences and genuinely connect with the feelings and struggles of those around us. So, in truth it is less about your punishment, then it is about connecting to your sister, who I'm sure loves you, cares for you, as only another sibling can or would and yet suffered for something you did to her, if unintentionally. Your focus should not be what you feel is the injustice of your punishment, but rather a thankfulness that it did not end up worse still, for not just her, but all of you, and parents too.

Being young comes with plenty to learn, and this experience seems to have taught a valuable lesson about the consequences of our choices. Hopefully, it will be the biggest mistake ever made, but it’s important to remember that God is always present, along with brothers and sisters in Christ who are ready to pray and walk alongside you through life’s toughest challenges. Keep the faith, little sister. \o/

With the Love of Christ Jesus, again be welcomed.
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[tanya1234]

First welcome to Talk Jesus, an online community of Jesus Christ believers.

With that being said, I wonder after reading your opening post of what you did, your punishment and then reading the above, that if it had been a worst-case scenario that your sister did not have just you, nor your parents nearby to help when something like what you described as an emergency did happen; how to apologize to your sister for something that could not be changed or saved from?

What happened wasn’t exactly an emergency in your eyes, but thankfully it didn’t turn out worse, and your sister made it through, though a bit shaken, I’m sure. If she had not survived the experience, you'd be carrying a weekend punishment as a memory and hopefully a never to do that again experience, but minus one sister as only a memory forever more and never being able to hear from you how sorry you were for what you did. Which I'm sure you've apologized to her for, right? With a really contrite heart for the pain and anguish you caused her...

Put yourself in her shoes meaning that in someone else’s shoes requires us to step outside of our own experiences and genuinely connect with the feelings and struggles of those around us. So, in truth it is less about your punishment, then it is about connecting to your sister, who I'm sure loves you, cares for you, as only another sibling can or would and yet suffered for something you did to her, if unintentionally. Your focus should not be what you feel is the injustice of your punishment, but rather a thankfulness that it did not end up worse still, for not just her, but all of you, and parents too.

Being young comes with plenty to learn, and this experience seems to have taught a valuable lesson about the consequences of our choices. Hopefully, it will be the biggest mistake ever made, but it’s important to remember that God is always present, along with brothers and sisters in Christ who are ready to pray and walk alongside you through life’s toughest challenges. Keep the faith, little sister. \o/

With the Love of Christ Jesus, again be welcomed.
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i did say sorry to my sister and she forgave me, but dont forget i was punished harshley, when i returned home from school on the friday evening i was escorted to my bedroom, then i had to hand over my phone , pc and tv, my parents then took the key from inside my bedroom door and LOCKED ME IN , i was instructed to finish any homework, at 9pm i was instructed to get into bed, lights out at 9pm, the next morning my parents woke me up at 7am, they told me i was on prison conditions, after a shower i was locked back in my room for the rest of the day, i was NOT allowed to sleep during the day, i was set tons and tons of schoolwork to do including maths, english geography, french biology, and science , i was also set two 4 page punishment essays to write, both on the saturday and sunday , all my meals were served in my room, if i needed the toilet i had to knock on my bedroom door, then either one of my parents or older sister would unlock me and escort me to the bathroom, then straight back and locked up again, i know i done wrong but i dont think i deserved a punishment as server as this do you ?

 

[Christ4Ever]

i did say sorry to my sister and she forgave me, but dont forget i was punished harshley, when i returned home from school on the friday evening i was escorted to my bedroom, then i had to hand over my phone , pc and tv, my parents then took the key from inside my bedroom door and LOCKED ME IN , i was instructed to finish any homework, at 9pm i was instructed to get into bed, lights out at 9pm, the next morning my parents woke me up at 7am, they told me i was on prison conditions, after a shower i was locked back in my room for the rest of the day, i was NOT allowed to sleep during the day, i was set tons and tons of schoolwork to do including maths, english geography, french biology, and science , i was also set two 4 page punishment essays to write, both on the saturday and sunday , all my meals were served in my room, if i needed the toilet i had to knock on my bedroom door, then either one of my parents or older sister would unlock me and escort me to the bathroom, then straight back and locked up again, i know i done wrong but i dont think i deserved a punishment as server as this do you ?

Severe?
I guess it depends on the generation you grow up in, and what you're accustomed to having available to you that you consider the consequences of your actions as being such. The things you mention as phone, pc, and tv are things that I and most children in the generation I grew up in didn't have! TV eventually, but even that was in B&W, and limited to 3 channels and went off the air at about 9:00pm and wouldn't come back on the air until I think it was 6:00am! lol I'm sure to you that must be unimaginable and a horror story all by itself!

Telephone was on a desk that the whole family used, and when you picked it up other families could be heard talking. It was called a Party Line. If you heard others talking you would hang up, unless of course it was an emergency, and then you would let those speaking know this, and they would hang up and then you could make your call. Otherwise, you'd hang up and check in now and again, to see if they had finished their call, and nobody else was using it before you! By the way I had to do that to get an ambulance to save my dad who was having a stroke. He did not survive it, but at least a phone was available, which I was grateful for, because a few years before we didn't even have one.

I guess the hardest part would have been locked up in a room and having to study. Being that I was a child of the outdoors. Oh, not countryside, grew up in NYC but just being out of the house doing whatever came to my mind, until it got dark at which time I had to be home was my existence. Now the study part, I would assume that you are an intelligent young lady, and that in of itself as an assigned task might seem excessive (amount), but not something that you could not get through and get benefit from doing. For what were you going to do anyway? Sleep, exercise maybe. How about, if they set you to your room to do nothing, and just contemplate the mistakes you made might have been better and more torturous?

You don't mention about them feeding you, but I figure they did. For nothing that you have mentioned except to you and others of your generation it might appear to be cruel and unusual punishment, but to many others from other generations, not so much. Especially considering as you yourself know, it could have turned rather badly for your sister. Having to do a 1 or 2 in a flowerpot, in and of itself, when I'm sure she held from going for as long as she could before going, is worth the lack of thought on your part when you decided to leave and go be with your friends, unknowingly that the future held for you a weekend in "hell" as a consequence! That she forgave you, is admirable on her part and shows the love she has for you. Truly a blessing there little sister. Hold tightly to that, because few have even that.

However, don't use her largess as a way out of getting or mitigating the punishment assigned to you from your parents for what happened. Their responsibility and methods to teach and grow their children, as best as they see fit, goes beyond just the here and now, but the future for which they very well may not be around to see you live as well. They want you to succeed and be a model for your own children should you be blessed to have any to raise. Learn from them as best you can and be thankful, they love you so much to punish you in the first place.

Anyway, think of it this way, that you have learned your lesson, and that I'm pretty sure you're not going to do that again, and will think more carefully of your own actions which can affect others. As I said before your parents must really love you too. Not too many in this generation are willing to do the hard parts of parenting.

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
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[tanya1234]

Severe?
I guess it depends on the generation you grow up in, and what you're accustomed to having available to you that you consider the consequences of your actions as being such. The things you mention as phone, pc, and tv are things that I and most children in the generation I grew up in didn't have! TV eventually, but even that was in B&W, and limited to 3 channels and went off the air at about 9:00pm and wouldn't come back on the air until I think it was 6:00am! lol I'm sure to you that must be unimaginable and a horror story all by itself!

Telephone was on a desk that the whole family used, and when you picked it up other families could be heard talking. It was called a Party Line. If you heard others talking you would hang up, unless of course it was an emergency, and then you would let those speaking know this, and they would hang up and then you could make your call. Otherwise, you'd hang up and check in now and again, to see if they had finished their call, and nobody else was using it before you! By the way I had to do that to get an ambulance to save my dad who was having a stroke. He did not survive it, but at least a phone was available, which I was grateful for, because a few years before we didn't even have one.

I guess the hardest part would have been locked up in a room and having to study. Being that I was a child of the outdoors. Oh, not countryside, grew up in NYC but just being out of the house doing whatever came to my mind, until it got dark at which time I had to be home was my existence. Now the study part, I would assume that you are an intelligent young lady, and that in of itself as an assigned task might seem excessive (amount), but not something that you could not get through and get benefit from doing. For what were you going to do anyway? Sleep, exercise maybe. How about, if they set you to your room to do nothing, and just contemplate the mistakes you made might have been better and more torturous?

You don't mention about them feeding you, but I figure they did. For nothing that you have mentioned except to you and others of your generation it might appear to be cruel and unusual punishment, but to many others from other generations, not so much. Especially considering as you yourself know, it could have turned rather badly for your sister. Having to do a 1 or 2 in a flowerpot, in and of itself, when I'm sure she held from going for as long as she could before going, is worth the lack of thought on your part when you decided to leave and go be with your friends, unknowingly that the future held for you a weekend in "hell" as a consequence! That she forgave you, is admirable on her part and shows the love she has for you. Truly a blessing there little sister. Hold tightly to that, because few have even that.

However, don't use her largess as a way out of getting or mitigating the punishment assigned to you from your parents for what happened. Their responsibility and methods to teach and grow their children, as best as they see fit, goes beyond just the here and now, but the future for which they very well may not be around to see you live as well. They want you to succeed and be a model for your own children should you be blessed to have any to raise. Learn from them as best you can and be thankful, they love you so much to punish you in the first place.

Anyway, think of it this way, that you have learned your lesson, and that I'm pretty sure you're not going to do that again, and will think more carefully of your own actions which can affect others. As I said before your parents must really love you too. Not too many in this generation are willing to do the hard parts of parenting.

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
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Nick
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yes i did get fed but i had to eat all my meals in my room, i HATED being locked up i just didnt like the thought of not being able to go out when i want, i did tell my parents how hard i found being shut in all the time they just said its a PUNISHMENT its meant to be as hard as possible so i learn my lesson, now that my parents know how much i hate being locked in my room, they said when i misbehave in future that will be my punishment , to spend a weekend locked up , is this fair ?

 

[tanya1234]

yes i did get fed but i had to eat all my meals in my room, i HATED being locked up i just didnt like the thought of not being able to go out when i want, i did tell my parents how hard i found being shut in all the time they just said its a PUNISHMENT its meant to be as hard as possible so i learn my lesson, now that my parents know how much i hate being locked in my room, they said when i misbehave in future that will be my punishment , to spend a weekend locked up , is this fair ?

i forgot to mention my parents said they were very keen on rehabiltiation they said its a very important part of punishment, as i said i had to write four 4 page punishment essays, my parents said this was to make me think about what i had done wrong and had i learned my lesson, after i had served my lockdown punishment , i was set a final 4 page punishment essay, i had to write about how i feelt while locked in my room, what had i learned from being punished, was i likely to offend again, would the fear of punishment make me behave in the future, WHY DOES PUNISHMENT HAVE TO BE SO HARD ?

 

[Christ4Ever]

yes i did get fed but i had to eat all my meals in my room, i HATED being locked up i just didnt like the thought of not being able to go out when i want, i did tell my parents how hard i found being shut in all the time they just said its a PUNISHMENT its meant to be as hard as possible so i learn my lesson, now that my parents know how much i hate being locked in my room, they said when i misbehave in future that will be my punishment , to spend a weekend locked up , is this fair ?

lol - girl your parents seem to have found the one thing you don't like to happen to you, and it appears they'll be using it as leverage to get you to do what is right/follow the rules in the future!
For you now, it's not just about following the rules, but to find a way, at least in your own mind, to find being stuck in your room as not being a bad thing, and not necessarily a good thing, but something that you'll be able to tolerate! Practice that maybe, on rainy days, or dreary days when the inside is better than being outside, and friends are all busy. I was stationed in the UK for 2 years, and I know how "moist" should I say, the weather can be over there!
Life is full of learning experiences, and this is definitely one you’ll take something from and remember for a long time. At least I hope you do. Don't take it as a negative, but a positive, because in truth there is nothing you can do about it, and changing the past/time travel is not something we can do.

Maybe, even reading the Bible, and looking at the other ladies in it, that can guide you in how they were able to overcome difficult times in their own lives. You might even ask some ladies here on Talk Jesus how they deal with it. Using the Women's Forum might be best for this. Otherwise, you end up with men like me, who have no idea what it’s like to grow up as a girl and transition into womanhood, making comments that aren’t all that helpful! lol

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
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[tanya1234]

lol - girl your parents seem to have found the one thing you don't like to happen to you, and it appears they'll be using it as leverage to get you to do what is right/follow the rules in the future!
For you now, it's not just about following the rules, but to find a way, at least in your own mind, to find being stuck in your room as not being a bad thing, and not necessarily a good thing, but something that you'll be able to tolerate! Practice that maybe, on rainy days, or dreary days when the inside is better than being outside, and friends are all busy. I was stationed in the UK for 2 years, and I know how "moist" should I say, the weather can be over there!
Life is full of learning experiences, and this is definitely one you’ll take something from and remember for a long time. At least I hope you do. Don't take it as a negative, but a positive, because in truth there is nothing you can do about it, and changing the past/time travel is not something we can do.

Maybe, even reading the Bible, and looking at the other ladies in it, that can guide you in how they were able to overcome difficult times in their own lives. You might even ask some ladies here on Talk Jesus how they deal with it. Using the Women's Forum might be best for this. Otherwise, you end up with men like me, who have no idea what it’s like to grow up as a girl and transition into womanhood, making comments that aren’t all that helpful! lol

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
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Nick
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my parents said that punishment MUST be hard so that i learn my lesson and will behave and follow the rules in the future, my parents now know i fear spending another weekend locked in my room as a punishment, so they said this should deter me from bad behavour and rule breaking, what do they mean by deter ?

 

[Christ4Ever]

my parents said that punishment MUST be hard so that i learn my lesson and will behave and follow the rules in the future, my parents now know i fear spending another weekend locked in my room as a punishment, so they said this should deter me from bad behavour and rule breaking, what do they mean by deter ?

So, if you thought about breaking the rules, you would not do it because of the punishment that would happen to you if you did.
Another way of putting it would be, they hope it will make you think twice before breaking any rules knowing the punishment that awaits you.

 

[Brad Huber]

I think you are a bit self absorbed, and have an ego problem. If I was your parent, I would have done what your parents done AND paddled you. And if you had complained about it to them as much as you have here, I would have extended your time out 3 xtra days for everytime you complained "after" I told you to stop complaining. And yes, accepting your punishment for sinful actions is a good thing. Scripture is filled with stories of people who are considered a bit more righteous for acknowledging their sin, and accepting any punishment as the judges deem appropriate (your parents in this case).

 

[KingJ]

Last thursday i had a row with my sister who is 18, because my sister is clastrophobic and hates confined spaces i locked her in her room, i enjoyed her kicking and screaming to be let out, then my friend rang me, i got distracted, forgot about my sister and went out, 6 hours later my mum came home and found my sister locked up, she was crying, she had 2 or 3 panic attacks, missed her driving lesson and a date with her boyfriend, she even had to go to the toilet in a flower pot, my parents went mad and said the punishment must fit the crime, they said i would be spending a whole weekend locked in my room ( last weekend ) when i returned from school friday evening i was escorted to my room, i lost my tv, phone pc etc, after dinner i was locked in for the night, the next morning i was woken at 7am ( part of my punishment ) after a shower and breakfast i was locked in for the rest of the day, as i have exams this year i was set tons of schoolwork to do including, maths, english , french , georgraphy, biology , and science, i was also set three 4 page punishment essays to write one on UNACEPTABLE BEHAVOUR AND PUNISHMENTS, another on THE PURPOSE OF HARSH PUNISHMENT and another on WHY ITS IMPORTANT TO SHOW RESPECT TO OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS , i had to eat in my room and was only allowed out to use the bathroom, my parents said what i done to my sister was TOTALLY unacceptable that why a harsh punishment was required, what do you think ? did i deserve to be punished ADVICE PLEASE ? and please be honest ?

Yes, you deserved to be punished, but No, you cannot punish evil with evil.

Whilst punishment must match the crime, no good person should punish evil with evil. Being confined to a room is torturous. It results in panic attacks as your sister had. If you are not claustrophobic you can become it with this punishment.

You deserve a harsher than normal punishment. Your actions fall under the header of torture. The greatest evils imaginable fall under that header.

Isolating you in a room for such a long time is evil and should not be your punishment. I would take your phone from you and make you serve your sister like a 'helper' (nanny in my country) for a full month. Make her bed, serve her coffee etc etc.

 

[tanya1234]

So, if you thought about breaking the rules, you would not do it because of the punishment that would happen to you if you did.
Another way of putting it would be, they hope it will make you think twice before breaking any rules knowing the punishment that awaits you.

i see , i dont think i could spend another weekend shut in, i spent friday night locked in , all day saturday locked up , satuday night locked up, all day sunday locked up and sunday night locked up, my parents said that the fact i hate the punishment so much is the point to make me behave, they said for what i done to my sister i DESERVED to be punished is this fair ?

 

[tanya1234]

I think you are a bit self absorbed, and have an ego problem. If I was your parent, I would have done what your parents done AND paddled you. And if you had complained about it to them as much as you have here, I would have extended your time out 3 xtra days for everytime you complained "after" I told you to stop complaining. And yes, accepting your punishment for sinful actions is a good thing. Scripture is filled with stories of people who are considered a bit more righteous for acknowledging their sin, and accepting any punishment as the judges deem appropriate (your parents in this case).

the punishment was VERY painful i hated every minute it, i was so bored, its horrible being shut in a room all weekend ?

 

[tanya1234]

Yes, you deserved to be punished, but No, you cannot punish evil with evil.

Whilst punishment must match the crime, no good person should punish evil with evil. Being confined to a room is torturous. It results in panic attacks as your sister had. If you are not claustrophobic you can become it with this punishment.

You deserve a harsher than normal punishment. Your actions fall under the header of torture. The greatest evils imaginable fall under that header.

Isolating you in a room for such a long time is evil and should not be your punishment. I would take your phone from you and make you serve your sister like a 'helper' (nanny in my country) for a full month. Make her bed, serve her coffee etc etc.

my parents said they wanted me to experaiance what my sister went through as well as to punish me, although i dont suffer from claustrophibia, i found being locked in my room a VERY dull and misreable punishment, i dont think it was torture i was given meals in my room and i could use the bathroom whenever i wanted, i just think it was a harsh punishment, my sister who forgave me said i deserved to be punished,and being locked in my room all weekend was was the punishment i deserved , what do you think ?

 

[Christ4Ever]

i see , i dont think i could spend another weekend shut in, i spent friday night locked in , all day saturday locked up , satuday night locked up, all day sunday locked up and sunday night locked up, my parents said that the fact i hate the punishment so much is the point to make me behave, they said for what i done to my sister i DESERVED to be punished is this fair ?

Dear Little Sister,
It's not about fair. Did it accomplish what punishment is supposed to do as a parent to a child? Apparently, it has.

For me to equate fairness to something I know only from what you have described, and attributing my own perspectives to, would not do justice to you or the question you are asking. It is like humanity, all of us, attempting to put that very same question to God, concerning the death of His Son Jesus on the Cross. He did nothing wrong, committed no sin, and yet the Father gave Him up to die on the Cross for something we have done. We then blame God, for the very reason it was necessary with the very next breath.

Fairness in truth involves both aspects. No, it wasn’t fair, but it also wasn’t fair for Jesus, as part of the Godhead, to have created the very perpetrators of the sin that made His death necessary as part of creating us. Yet, because of Him/Obedience it was able to cancel out the very debt that had to be paid for such a transgression by us through Adam. So, fairness or justice is relative to those who set the punishment and not to those who pay the costs for said transgressions.

Sadly, if you are to equate unfairness to anything, it must be that you did not know what the punishment was going to be prior to your transgressing their rules and incurring a debt that needed to be paid. Oh, you knew you would be punished for what you did, because I can see you are not arguing that fact. As an afterthought, through your own words on the punishment, I can see that if you had known what it was going to be, you'd have not done it. Then again, you might have, because you had never experienced that punishment before, and so could not gauge the cost of breaking said rules and having to go through that punishment. Selah

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
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P.S. It might be a little deep, but if you pray and contemplate on it, understanding might come to you. The last verse encapsulates it, and whether fair or not you'll see is not the concern to be considered, but it does address all concerns which is just. Read Colossians 2:9-14 K

 

[tanya1234]

Dear Little Sister,
It's not about fair. Did it accomplish what punishment is supposed to do as a parent to a child? Apparently, it has.

For me to equate fairness to something I know only from what you have described, and attributing my own perspectives to, would not do justice to you or the question you are asking. It is like humanity, all of us, attempting to put that very same question to God, concerning the death of His Son Jesus on the Cross. He did nothing wrong, committed no sin, and yet the Father gave Him up to die on the Cross for something we have done. We then blame God, for the very reason it was necessary with the very next breath.

Fairness in truth involves both aspects. No, it wasn’t fair, but it also wasn’t fair for Jesus, as part of the Godhead, to have created the very perpetrators of the sin that made His death necessary as part of creating us. Yet, because of Him/Obedience it was able to cancel out the very debt that had to be paid for such a transgression by us through Adam. So, fairness or justice is relative to those who set the punishment and not to those who pay the costs for said transgressions.

Sadly, if you are to equate unfairness to anything, it must be that you did not know what the punishment was going to be prior to your transgressing their rules and incurring a debt that needed to be paid. Oh, you knew you would be punished for what you did, because I can see you are not arguing that fact. As an afterthought, through your own words on the punishment, I can see that if you had known what it was going to be, you'd have not done it. Then again, you might have, because you had never experienced that punishment before, and so could not gauge the cost of breaking said rules and having to go through that punishment. Selah

With the Love of Christ Jesus.
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Nick
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P.S. It might be a little deep, but if you pray and contemplate on it, understanding might come to you. The last verse encapsulates it, and whether fair or not you'll see is not the concern to be considered, but it does address all concerns which is just. Read Colossians 2:9-14 K

yes i see what you mean, if i am honest i think if i knew i would be locked up for 4 nights and 2 days i would not have done what i done, but then again i dont think i would have believed that my parents would have followed through, with such a harsh punishment, and i would have called their bluff, of course my parents punished me with TOTAL lockdown, my parents said i had to pay a debt to my sister and punishment was my way of paying, now my parents know how much i HATE being locked in my room, they have warned me that if i misbehave in the future i now know what punishment awaits, they said that only by suffering a punishment will i learn my lesson and follow rules in the future, i DONT want to be punished again opinions please ?

 

[Christ4Ever]

yes i see what you mean, if i am honest i think if i knew i would be locked up for 4 nights and 2 days i would not have done what i done, but then again i dont think i would have believed that my parents would have followed through, with such a harsh punishment, and i would have called their bluff, of course my parents punished me with TOTAL lockdown, my parents said i had to pay a debt to my sister and punishment was my way of paying, now my parents know how much i HATE being locked in my room, they have warned me that if i misbehave in the future i now know what punishment awaits, they said that only by suffering a punishment will i learn my lesson and follow rules in the future, i DONT want to be punished again opinions please ?

Dear Little Sister,
None of us want that either, for you to be punished or ourselves for that matter. It is difficult, but as in Christ Jesus, know that your parents are faithful and true, loving you still regardless of what you have done. Knowing you are not perfect and will fail again in following all the rules/dictates they have set. You need to make sure you go to them before anything like what you have shared here happens.

In conversation, and with all humility and respect to them as your parents set before them how you feel and see the punishment as not something that is acceptable in all situations. Not that your intent is to break any of their rules, because you love them, and want to always do what they say. However, you are not perfect, even in Christ Jesus; yet. and desire to never disappoint them in how you comport yourself, but you desire never to, but know you will fail for the spirit might be willing, but the flesh is weak.

Acknowledging, that even in the bible there are different types of sins, from the more serious moral ones to venial ones of a less serious nature. See, if they are willing to define/breakdown the punishment for each, or see if they believe that they all deserve the same punishment, or to allow for different levels of punishment and to help you understand them as well.

After all, in your case, they are the law givers and dictate the consequences of breaking them as they determine is right to do. Also, see if repentance will mitigate the punishment as well or an ability on your part to make amends for a wrong done. Would you be able to do something else, yet not as restrictive, in place of the more restrictive punishments while still making amends. Meaning, again, all the while still being punished and acknowledging the wrong you have done.

The best understanding between you and your parents is the ability to talk to each other. As a teenager, it is sometimes hard to do this, but try you must. That you are willing, you will find, that just the effort will be appreciated by them. Of course, this is before anything goes wrong!!! lol

I truly hope that the little I have communicated with you, has been able to help. I'm not sure there is much more I can say to guide you in the way that is righteous and true. That is why I have pointed you to see about reading the stories about women in the bible. They offer you good examples for how to deal with some of the more difficult situations that life can toss at you. After all that's another reason why God gave them to us! To learn and help us in this life and most especially to guide us to Him.

God bless.
With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC/Moderator
Nick
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[tanya1234]

Dear Little Sister,
None of us want that either, for you to be punished or ourselves for that matter. It is difficult, but as in Christ Jesus, know that your parents are faithful and true, loving you still regardless of what you have done. Knowing you are not perfect and will fail again in following all the rules/dictates they have set. You need to make sure you go to them before anything like what you have shared here happens.

In conversation, and with all humility and respect to them as your parents set before them how you feel and see the punishment as not something that is acceptable in all situations. Not that your intent is to break any of their rules, because you love them, and want to always do what they say. However, you are not perfect, even in Christ Jesus; yet. and desire to never disappoint them in how you comport yourself, but you desire never to, but know you will fail for the spirit might be willing, but the flesh is weak.

Acknowledging, that even in the bible there are different types of sins, from the more serious moral ones to venial ones of a less serious nature. See, if they are willing to define/breakdown the punishment for each, or see if they believe that they all deserve the same punishment, or to allow for different levels of punishment and to help you understand them as well.

After all, in your case, they are the law givers and dictate the consequences of breaking them as they determine is right to do. Also, see if repentance will mitigate the punishment as well or an ability on your part to make amends for a wrong done. Would you be able to do something else, yet not as restrictive, in place of the more restrictive punishments while still making amends. Meaning, again, all the while still being punished and acknowledging the wrong you have done.

The best understanding between you and your parents is the ability to talk to each other. As a teenager, it is sometimes hard to do this, but try you must. That you are willing, you will find, that just the effort will be appreciated by them. Of course, this is before anything goes wrong!!! lol

I truly hope that the little I have communicated with you, has been able to help. I'm not sure there is much more I can say to guide you in the way that is righteous and true. That is why I have pointed you to see about reading the stories about women in the bible. They offer you good examples for how to deal with some of the more difficult situations that life can toss at you. After all that's another reason why God gave them to us! To learn and help us in this life and most especially to guide us to Him.

God bless.
With the Love of Christ Jesus.
YBIC/Moderator
Nick
\o/
<><

i now have a new problem , my parents told me last night that i havent shown enough remorse, and asked me to write a letter of apology to my sister, i got a bit angry and refused and had a argument with my parents, now my parents have said that my disobidence is NOT acceptable and they are going to punish me again this coming weekend, they have said i will be locked back into my room all day saturday and sunday, more schoolwork and more punishment essays , this coming weekend is my cousins 16th birthday party me and my 2 other sisters are invited, i wont be able to go as i will be on punishment, my parents said i was warned well in advance if i didnt show remorse and write a letter of apology , i would be put back into lockdown and punished is this fair ?