Some Wisdom
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Some Other Thoughts
After settling the faith question, here are some other factors to consider:
Does he listen you you?
Does he value your opinions?
Does he have an opinion or is he wishy-washy?
Is he honest?
Is he dependable? Does he have a steady job, good credit, and some savings?
Does the think things though or is he impulsive?
How well does he get along with his mother, or with other women for that matter? What is his history with relationships?
If you don't get along with his mother, does he have the backbone to defend you or will you be left to fend for yourself?
Emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually, has he grown up?
Has he survived hardships in his life, or has everything been handed to him on a silver platter?
Does he know how to work though life's inevitable difficulties?
Can he make you laugh at those inevitable awkward moments in life?
What is your inner voice saying about him? God gave you that gift for a reason.
There is no Mr. Perfect out there. Consequently, no one will ever meet all of your expectations. Nor, quite likely will you meet all of his. Life is simply not like that. Instead, marriage requires commitment - a willingness to work things through no matter what. For example, something like 8 out of 10 parents get a divorce after the death or serious illness/injury of a child. Yet, these tragedies are survivable. So are other of life's difficulties.
Finally, don't panic. Don't feel pressured to get into something if you're not ready. If he really wants you, he'll wait. That's the story of Jacob's love for Rachel.
As a 25 year old female who been looking for a partner who truly follows Jesus.....
After settling the faith question, here are some other factors to consider:
Does he listen you you?
Does he value your opinions?
Does he have an opinion or is he wishy-washy?
Is he honest?
Is he dependable? Does he have a steady job, good credit, and some savings?
Does the think things though or is he impulsive?
How well does he get along with his mother, or with other women for that matter? What is his history with relationships?
If you don't get along with his mother, does he have the backbone to defend you or will you be left to fend for yourself?
Emotionally, psychologically, and spiritually, has he grown up?
Has he survived hardships in his life, or has everything been handed to him on a silver platter?
Does he know how to work though life's inevitable difficulties?
Can he make you laugh at those inevitable awkward moments in life?
What is your inner voice saying about him? God gave you that gift for a reason.
There is no Mr. Perfect out there. Consequently, no one will ever meet all of your expectations. Nor, quite likely will you meet all of his. Life is simply not like that. Instead, marriage requires commitment - a willingness to work things through no matter what. For example, something like 8 out of 10 parents get a divorce after the death or serious illness/injury of a child. Yet, these tragedies are survivable. So are other of life's difficulties.
Finally, don't panic. Don't feel pressured to get into something if you're not ready. If he really wants you, he'll wait. That's the story of Jacob's love for Rachel.