Damned

[TheSilentHero]

I always wonder if maybe my soul mate died from abortion or something and never existed in the first place. You see people, that is why it is wise to be cautious and mindful of your decisions! You could be the deciding factor of a soul mate's existence or non- existence for someone ELSE! lol. Sheesh! Then again, I hope if that's the case, maybe God has made me compatible with someone else. I'm so unique with a lot of things though. Like the way I see life, the way I think... sometimes I wonder if someone could really be compatible with me.. I mean... I am kinda picky! lol. I don't know. I'm really just ranting to relate to your pain. Someone just fast and pray for all of us please! In fact, get several people in a group to do so. Fasting and prayer are very effective! Especially when it's several people. :shade:

 

[TheSilentHero]

Woah I didn't look at the second page. :shock:eheheh... er...

 

[eddieb]

I always wonder if maybe my soul mate died from abortion or something and never existed in the first place. You see people, that is why it is wise to be cautious and mindful of your decisions! You could be the deciding factor of a soul mate's existence or non- existence for someone ELSE! lol. Sheesh! Then again, I hope if that's the case, maybe God has made me compatible with someone else. I'm so unique with a lot of things though. Like the way I see life, the way I think... sometimes I wonder if someone could really be compatible with me.. I mean... I am kinda picky! lol. I don't know. I'm really just ranting to relate to your pain. Someone just fast and pray for all of us please! In fact, get several people in a group to do so. Fasting and prayer are very effective! Especially when it's several people. :shade:

God knows everything. man is in control of nothing. except thinking he is.

 

[TheSilentHero]

God knows everything. man is in control of nothing. except thinking he is.

Yeah Good point. Thank you

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Please explain because that sounds like an opinion. Thank you brother.

"I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man isconcerned about the Lord's affairs - how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world - how he can please his wife - and his interests are divided." (1 Cor 7:32-34a)

Paul encourages people to remain single - if their sex drives can be controlled - so they can serve God full time (with undivided attention).

SLE

 

[TheSilentHero]

It is normal to want a companion though right? I mean God intended for us to go forth and reproduce. Wouldn't marrying someone of equal yolk play an importance in your walk with God too? Cause God also wants us to enjoy our life. Not sinfully of course. But someone of an equal yolk can also help you stay on track with your walk with God and it isn't bad to take pleasure in your spouse because that is what you are suppose to do. I mean, I guess we shouldn't get wrapped around it so much that we think it's the end of the world if we don't find someone, but still, it is a normal feeling. God gave us friends and family, why not give us a spouse as well? And God wants us to have children and have a family. God can use those children to do great things. We are suppose to want someone in our lives to love unconditionally. I mean, wouldn't that make friends a distraction too? Or even family? Aren't we suppose to fellowship with others? Yeah use discretion in what you get involved in. Try to be with other people who stay out of trouble and don't pull you down into their drama. But God uses that to help us learn from it anyway. I'm not sure I entirely understand what you mean SpiritLed. Sorry to bombard you with questions. I guess, I find myself somewhat curious. lol. I apologize.:embarasse

 

[TheSilentHero]

God knows everything. man is in control of nothing. except thinking he is.

Then again, I wonder. I know God is always in control. But I wonder if he has to step back and allow the effects of the consequences that come into effect when we make a decision come into play. We have free will. Therefore, with freewill, we would also have to experience the consequenses of our decisions. Not only that, but consequences don't only effect us, they can effect others. Like, someone who has drank too much alchohol, and is driving, experiences the consequence of not only being drunk and wrecking (in alot of cases) but also the consequences of his decision effects others too. Like the person he crashed into, and the family of that person, and the friends of that family and so on and so forth. Therefore, because of the law of freewill, even though God IS in control, God can also use the things that don't go according to his plan toward his plan and prepare someone else's heart. Right? Because if he actually CONTROLLED everything that happened, we wouldn't have to witness to anyone because his will would overide our own and no one would have a choice. It is both a blessing and a curse.

 

[seekingchrist]

God must realize that we can only take so much, and that being a male of my age and forever single is extremely difficult to cope with.
We are not God; we are of mankind, and possess limitations.

No offence Slich but this is just hilarious, I mean what kind of statement is that? Everytime I feel down I come to TJ to read something comforting but for some days now I come to read this thing that I've quoted.

I shall take the easy way. I shall hire a woman (if you get me)
..and there is nothing YOU can do about it.

Yeah I understand what you mean, Hope you understand this is why you aren't getting into marriage, marriage is not about sex
Praying for you
God Bless

 

[shipwrecksoul]

Ecc 11:4 He that observeth the wind shall not sow; and he that regardeth the clouds shall not reap.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

Ecc 11:4 He that observeth the wind shall not sow; and he that regardeth the clouds shall not reap.

Slich: While Shipwrecksoul didn't explain the verse he cited, I think the message is that when we focus on the problem, the problem remains. To get victory, we need to find the solution to the problem.

SLE

 

[shipwrecksoul]

Alright, do not find this comical or laugh, but I am 33 and have never dated.

Never had anyone. Yes, I go out, have joined several dating agencies (SCAMS), numerous social groups (yes, including Christian groups), frequented many nightspots, personal ads, have spent most my life socialising. Prayer does not assist in this nature.

But to no avail.
God must realize that we can only take so much, and that being a male of my age and forever single is extremely difficult to cope with.
We are not God; we are of mankind, and possess limitations.

I must also mention that I do not want to live my life listening to false encouragements such as "There is someone for everyone"..because there is not. This theory is scientifically, mathematically and theoretically incorrect. I doscourage building false hope.

it appears that God desires me to become of a hermetic state.

Hello Slich,
First thing is your not alone. My one friend who was exactly in your situation was 61 when he got married. He never fooled around or went past the line by his confession. That was two years ago. I have numerous friends over 50 who in their confession of being celibate are still wanting Gods best for the anxiety of not having a mate.
Do not look at your dire situation slich. Sow as the Lord commanded you in any given situation, in friendships as well..
God will rewarded you with many times more blessings that if you had sown in times of when the moment was good to sow, dont focus on your need but focus on giving. God always rewards obedience and seed sowed in faith this counts for being with groups of believers that may have a special person who is single and of opposite sexx who you are led to out of righteousness for the moment of a seed of understanding between you both to cultivate a love that you and her would maybe one day down the road get married.


Ecc 11:4 He that observeth the wind shall not sow; and he that regardeth the clouds shall not reap.

May God bless spiritleded on his advice as well.

 

[Property Of God]

Ever read the story of Ruth and Boaz?

I'll tell you the bottom line on this one, look for the women God puts in your way!
Go to church, look around you, and choose.