Eloping?

[strawberry]

I am thinking about eloping but only because my family won't tell me when to set dress try out dates and flower stuff. I also am facing some treatments that are pretty nasty so i probably wouldn't be very pretty or feeling well for my date. this would mean the wedding had to be a year later or happen before July. Another thing is the fact that my fiancé already pays for my schooling, gas, doctors visits, etc so it's not fair we pay for everything but can not live together. I love with all of my heart and I am ready to just have to answer to him rather than my parents also. It's a complicated situation.

I suggest you work on your attitude before doing anything at this point. The things you are taking into consideration are all very petty in the grander scheme of things. No matter how nasty people treat you, you are not a victim. Cast the nasty attacks to the pit, put a smile on your face, and press on. If there are issues that need to be worked out with family & friends, then simply pull them aside, communicate how you feel, and work through the issues together. That's how relationships work!

Furthermore, I'm guessing your family loves you very much and would be hurt by your eloping under these circumstances. Eloping on a whim is one thing, but eloping half way through the planning of a wedding that others are now emotionally invested in, is not okay.

 

[Alice.]

I think depends on the person.
Would you guys be against a Christian doing a destination wedding? Family isn't always present for those.

 

[strawberry]

I think depends on the person.
Would you guys be against a Christian doing a destination wedding? Family isn't always present for those.

What's a "destination wedding"?

 

[Alice.]

Destination weddings,plannig a wedding to Europe, Mexico..Disney.. Vegas. Some couples send "save the dates" for the wedding and then have a family reception when they get home, some include bringing close friends/family but not always.

 

[strawberry]

Destination weddings,plannig a wedding to Europe, Mexico..Disney.. Vegas. Some couples send "save the dates" for the wedding and then have a family reception when they get home, some include bringing close friends/family but not always.

Okay. I've never heard the phrase "destination wedding" before. From what you described, it's different from eloping in that it's not a secret, there's planning involved, and it may get expensive.

Eloping is where couples runaway secretly to get married without friends, family or parents knowing about it. It might start out as a road trip with no predetermined destination and end at the local courthouse.

I've never heard of "save the dates" either, so I don't know what you mean by that. I'm not a planner or a wedding expert, which is probably why eloping sounds so good to me.

 

[David777]

Dear Strawberry.

My sister's daughter had a destination wedding in Las Vegas. My sister was not impressed, she rang the husband's mother. What happened, she had to have a second marriage at home of course.

Do not ask me to explain this, as i will never understand.

 

[Alice.]

I hope her mother paid for the second wedding.


When I get married it's going to be our day. Not my families day, not his families day. Done to our liking without a care if they like the decorations, my dress, the ceremony, it's not a time to please your family, it's your day to shine.