encouragement for the lonely and dateless

[kezkez]

thanks - Im not alone

It was great to hear that you have got a girlfriend. I am 28 and from N. Ireland, and although I have been out with people before, I am now awaiting a PROPER, CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIP. I feel quite isolated and alone at times with no-one to love (in a way) but I'm determined to hang in there and wait and see what God has in store for me. Hopefully it wont take too long as I have a lot of love to give. Good luck Biggysmiles in your new relationship and God Bless both of you. Heres hoping Im next - LOL!!!

 

[SmileBig]

well KezKez, be patient and dont try and force the issue. It could be that God has a timing for you. Keep focussed on Him and the right person will come your way if you are meant to marry. If not, rejoice as God wants you to be devoted to Him

I am happy as TiaJenn and I are still going strong after nearly a year and even though we are in different countries we are hopeful of meeting soon. We are hopelessly and completely in love and she is the girl of my dreams. God blessed me as He did when Boaz met Ruth.

Smilly you may yet meet someone. Jenn had to pray 7 years for a future husband and I prayed for 16 years, so hang in there

God bless
David

 

[gracia]

Brother david ,,,,

thanks for ur posted ,,ur faith make a powerfull to the other and ur devoted , make a good impact in this arroud,

i do believe ,, Jesus,, care about us , include about our partner/ soul mate

as His word says " everything will be come true in the right time "

never late , and never old ,,,,, as still we have trust and faithfull in HIM ,,,,

yeah ,, some time ,, we have feel lonely ,, but this is normally as other feels too.

but one important thing to know " build our relation with God "

make us , comfort,,and confidanace ,,,,

god bless

with love in Christ ,,,,,,,,,,,
gracia ,,, indonesia ,,,,

 

[melreal]

Praise GOd for He answered your prayers and honoured the desires of your heart. Have a blessed future with Tiajen and let it be GOd centered relationship that will bring glory to HIS name.

melreal

 

[obum88]

this post scared me and actually alerted me to the fact of time

I might be waiting for someone to spend my life with only to get him at the very last second. I am trying not to sit around and wait but i really want someone not just anyone, but someone from God and i pray i can wait for him to come.

 

[Haynaru]

I feel the same way obum, I know I must wait, and be focud on Jesus.
But I still feel like I want someone who's from God for me right now.

I just ended a relationship, that only took me to destroy myself, and getting away from God.
I feel broken, alone, and empty. Even knowing that the only answer to all my questions is Jesus, my spiritual fight it's getting worse.

I know Jesus is my way, Jesus is the only one who can give me what this world of darkness can't. I just need to believe it, or have the conviction of it.
I really need God to make me realize of it, I need Him to open the eyes of my heart and let me understand, that there's no greater love than His.

We're just looking for inconditional love where there is not such kind of love. We're looking for that love in ourselves. We must focus on finding first the PERFECT love in Jesus Christ our Lord.

Blessings!!!

 

[joantine]

Haynaru,

Just hang in there.
I once experienced what you had when you broke up.
My world felt like its was torn apart and there's no hope for me to gain my strength back to face the world. Really awful feelings.
But when there is a will to be strong in God, He will gave us a way out. Just open your hart and surrender to His Grace, you will feel all the peace, strength, and fulfillment in Him, when you ask Him to relieve your pain.
Never give up, keep on praying. I am praying with you too..
Lord Jesus is with us all forever.

God bless!

 

[Haynaru]

than you joantine for your words.

I've been doing better about it. It's been a moth since i broke up with my ex boyfriend.
Gods working a lot with me, and I can see this will bring a lot of good things in my life.
I encourga you to keep praying and waiting in Jesus love for your perfect and sent by God husband.
I know our time will come soon, and right now, we must put our eyes upon Jesus and feel happy and full because we are loved, we are truly loved by Him. There's nothing else we can ask right now. The other things, husband, and everything else.. will come as consequence of the love of God.
I wanna let my God love me and show me all His glory in my life. I want Him to show me all His mercy and all the wonders hell make in my life.

Blessings!!!
Patty

 

[topzy]

Wao!!!!,

Am encouraged.Truly God loves you.

 

[thankful]

david
this is truly so. in speaking to God myself about dating he reminded me of that exacy scripture. thank you this post is further encouragement to me.

keep on seeking God. draw near to him and he wil draw near to you.

God bless

 

[MargoPego]

Hi I am David, 35 from England. I used to be really stressed about not having met anyone and I used to have low self confidence that I could not meet anyone, but it says in the bible to "seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things will be added to you" and to "trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not to your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your paths".
I used to go to pubs and clubs and looked in wrong areas to meet someone in the past but found that it was like my desires had trapped me and Jesus had to release me from the lust in my heart. Lust focusses you off Jesus and onto yourself and makes you unhappy.
I believe that there are many lonely people out there but few are truly genuine and you have to wait until you meet the right person for you.
As for me I have never dated and at the age of 35 that is a bit scary I guess but I want to be pure and holy for my Saviour and have accepted I may never meet someone.
My advice would be dont let your frustration and loneliness draw you from Jesus but let His love fill you and pray for your future partner in faith that they will be cleansed by Jesus.
God bless
David

David, thanks so much for your words! I'm 36 & have never really dated, either. I've had boyfriends, but they were never really from dating situations. I've never been into the bar scene & have kept myself pure to honour God. It has been frustrating & lonely at times, & I have been down because of my singleness, but I've come to realise lately that I have a huge support network around me of both single & married people. My family in particular have been really good to me. Yes, they'd love for me to be married & have a family, but they're not pressuring me. If they were, I know that I'd have a lot more frustration in my life. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for your encouragement. May God bless you & keep you! Keep looking up!

 

[mamorogwana]

Hi,

I’m 23 now and I don’t have a relationship now have been thinking to myself that I’m getting old and maybe will never get married but after reading your posts here I saw that it’s actually not late and will never be late and on yesterday pastor was talking about the lady who got married at 57 so I also think that my Mr right is on my way just have not to lose my hope…Wish you all the best David and Jenn :star: may God bless and be with u all the time …don’t forget to invite us to your wedding which will be soon

 

[SmileBig]

unfortunately, TiaJenn and I never met face to face and things did not work out the way we planned. We still are close friends on MSN but I still have peace about it all as God is first in my life.

Internet relationships can be hard but the way I look at it is that "the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the name of the Lord" as Job once said.

If you feel like a relationship died a death and there is no hope then be encouraged today as when you make Jesus the lover of your soul then your need is met until God brings along that special person.

God bless

 

[jculver]

In the spirit of this thread, I just want to say that smilebig you have it so right. I did not grow up a good Christian, and I was a fornicating infidel from 14 to 23, and let me tell you there is nothing I wish I could have changed in all my sinful life more then turning myself into that. 9 years of lonliness I would gladly take if I could somehow replace those times. The bible talks about sex sin being a sin against yourself. It is so 100% true. I am still suffering from bad choices I made in that area (not like a disease , but a complicated situation).

Your attitude Smilebig is exemplary and exactly what God wants. Paul talks about the gift of singleness in 1 Cor 7, and man if you have it then I am truly jealous of you. If you don't and you are waiting to fill the gap then I pray that God will bring you a proper mate. Our society is one that tends to treat singleness as a bad thing, but that is totally foreign to scripture! If you can handle it, and feel you are gifted in such a way then God Bless you. If not, again, I pray that God brings you a suitable companion.

I am sorry to hear that your relationship did maybe not work out exactly as planned, but your willingness to say "OK God, whatever you say" just cuts into me and makes me continue to realize my own weak faith. It illustrates a perfect picture of what real faith is.

 

[SpiritLedEd]

David, thanks so much for your words! I'm 36 & have never really dated, either. I've had boyfriends, but they were never really from dating situations. I've never been into the bar scene & have kept myself pure to honour God. It has been frustrating & lonely at times, & I have been down because of my singleness, but I've come to realise lately that I have a huge support network around me of both single & married people. My family in particular have been really good to me. Yes, they'd love for me to be married & have a family, but they're not pressuring me. If they were, I know that I'd have a lot more frustration in my life. Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for your encouragement. May God bless you & keep you! Keep looking up!

How sad it is when people believe that there is something wrong when romance doesn't come their way. The sexually pure single life is anointed by God. The Apostle Paul recommended the single life, believing that marriage brings distractions that interfere with relationship with the Lord Jesus.

SLE

 

[Judy]

God is faithful!

Hey,
I read through all these messages and have been encouraged. I trust that just as the Lord has come through for David, He will for everyone.

To God be the Glory always.

 

[SmileBig]

I suppose that if you try and date someone you need to ask yourself some questions....

1. does the person draw me to God or do they obscure God?
2. does the person have the same belief as I do?
3. can I see myself marrying and growing old with the person?
4. do we "gel" as people? (do I relate to this personality so that if looks go you will still have love?)
5. and finally is God speaking to me about this? (have I sought God about these things in His word and prayer).

God can change a person so don't worry if 1 to 4 havent all hapened...pray before getting involved for 1 to 4 to be in place. However, I believe point 5 is vital. I just feel that I have tried to rushed into things not always putting God first and as a result God has blocked my totally giving my heart.

I hope this helps someone. God bless
Biggie

 

[itua70]

thanks

thank u david for the post it reminds me of rather than worrying myself over my emotions i should fix my gaze on the only love that has been from inception of the world the LORD JESUS.
GOD bless u
itua70

 

[SmileBig]

God bless you too

 

[Truehearts]

amen to all of that. Well maybe Im young to having been hopeless in love, but maybe many will think that it is unusual for someone reaching my age and not experience dating or any romantic stuff. Well, its not abnormal too. And I believe God have great plans for me. I am truly happy being single until now, I cant imagine all the things God used me in, if I was inlove with someone then. My advice is that, dont feel lonely or left out, "sometimes God is keeping you because He is saving you for someone really special, other than that... maybe He wants you for Himself." (isn't that flattering)