2Pe 3:9 The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.
This scripture declares God's heart towards the lost. It is His perfect will for mankind but not all will come.
That verse does not say anything about the call of God nor does it speak of all of humanity. It speaks of the Purpose of God.
The word used for the “wishing” is boulomai
The word most often used for the Call of God is kaleo
Boulomai is most often used when referring to the purposeful Will of God (Lk 22:42).
Luke 22:42 said:
saying, "Father, if You are willing, remove this cup from Me; yet not My will, but Yours be done."
It is not used to speak of general wants, desires or wishes. It is used to speak of decrees with purpose! Even more, we must look at the verse and not just focus on the one word.
2 Peter 1:1 said:
Simon Peter, a bond-servant and apostle of Jesus Christ, To those who have received a faith of the same kind as ours, by the righteousness of our God and Savior, Jesus Christ:
Peter wrote this letter to the Church. What do we see in the verse shown above? I'll show it again:
2 Peter 3:9 said:
The Lord is not slow about His promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish but for all to come to repentance.
This verse is directed toward believers. It is encouragement for believers everywhere. It is reaffirming God's love toward us, the Elect, whom He chose before the foundation of the world just as a potter forms clay. None of the Elect from Romans 9 will perish as we covered a few weeks back in our series on Calvinism.
Since we know the word boulomai is used to refer to God's purposeful Will, we can safely believe it is
not saying God purposefully Wills that all will be saved and none go to Hell. Since the Greek here does not refer to the Call of God, we can safely believe it is not saying “all men are called but only certain ones are saved” as is a common belief of today. It says God purposefully Wills that none will perish. How can this be if we know people will in fact perish? It is because Peter was not speaking of the entire world. He was speaking of and to believers. No believer will perish so be encouraged and have faith in the Truth. Peter is reassuring us, as believers, that God will not let us perish. We will not have to face His wrath.
Christ died for the sins of the whole world not just a "chosen few". Only those who will come can be saved.
Red emphasis mine:
1Jn 2:2 And he is the propitiation for our sins: and not for ours only, but also for the sins of the whole world.
Rev 3:20 Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and he with me.
This is another misinterpretation of the word "world." We know world can sometimes refer to physical creation. Other time we see it used to describe humanity as a whole. Other times we see it used to describe every person in humanity individually. In the case above, it is humanity as a whole in a broad sense. If Christ was the propitiation for ever person individually, nobody would go to Hell because all would be forgiven. All would be justified. All would be considered innocent. This is a heresy that I do not think you are teaching. I just think you are one of the many thousands who do not properly understand what it means by the "world." I've explained why it cannot be everybody individually. It also cannot be the Earth. This only leaves one meaning and it means all of the Elect within the world. It is not just for Jews and not just for Gentiles but for everybody whom God has chosen before the foundation of the world regardless of heritage.
However, as I explained in my last post, there will be a day when all things will be reconciled to God in judgment.
Predestination is according to foreknowledge. God does call, God does choose but does that according to foreknowledge of our choice.
Rom 8:29 For whom he did foreknow, he also did predestinate to be conformed to the image of his Son, that he might be the firstborn among many brethren.
Rom 8:30 Moreover whom he did predestinate, them he also called: and whom he called, them he also justified: and whom he justified, them he also glorified.
1Pe 1:2 Elect according to the foreknowledge of God the Father, through sanctification of the Spirit, unto obedience and sprinkling of the blood of Jesus Christ: Grace unto you, and peace, be multiplied.
Read the first line very carefully and see how well that aligns with your view. Does it say He foreknew all but only some will come? Not at all. Read it carefully. It says, "For those whom He foreknew, He also predestined...." In other words, everybody He foreknew, He predestined. Everybody. Period. This is all His doing. There was nothing in us. It was all in accordance with the foreknowledge of God but it was not God's knowledge of who would choose Him. He knew it because He ordained it to be so. God foreknew who would come to Him because He ordained it to be so before the foundation of the world.
How can I be so bold to say that nobody would come to Him if left to our own desires? It's because of John 8:44.
John 8:44a said:
You are of your father the devil, and you want to do the desires of your father
Nobody chooses God of their own will. They gladly serve Satan. The only reason we are with God today is because He first called us and brought us into the fold. His doing, not mine. My thanks, His glory.